November 2014: The one that needs baby-proofing!

[ladydolly]

And maybe ends with 1st birthdays!!

Haven't we eat around 5.45/6 on work nights usually a pre cooked dinner from batch cooking like casserole, spag bol, curry etc etc or some left over roast meat with veggies n baby has something on high chair like pasta n meat or some crackers and more often than not has few (loads) spoonfuls of my dinner despite having had tea at 3.30pm at nursery and a bf at 5.15/5.30.

He then has bath at 6.15/6.30 n bedtime feed for 30mins at 6.45/7pm so all about 30mins later than normal on work days but goes ok.

I make dd a pack up (which is bigger than my lunch) which she snacks on all day. I get home at 5 and we eat for about 5.45/6, she'll have what we're having or some beans on toast or a sandwich depending on what she had for lunch. Bath at 6.15, breastfeed and bed about 6.45/7. I used to bf at 5 when we got in but then she doesn't eat dinner so I'm dropping it.

I'm in logitical hell. The builders are back tomorrow and thurs so no hot water. Then painters in thurs/fri. Friday we're going oop north for an early christmas (don't ask). I have no idea where all the xmas presents are. Dp has flu, proper flu, he can't eat, move, get up, nothing. He also has no car until new job starts on Monday. So, I'm on my own to sort dd. Also need to get house ready for builders and painters. Pack for all 3 of us to stay at my mums til thurs. Find and wrap presents for weekend. Pack for all of us for weekend. Drive dp to mums. Drive dd to childminder. Work full time. Pander to dd who was awake for 3 hours last night from 1am onwards and got so angry she slapped me in the face. At least at the weekend she's the only baby to a house full of doting family so I can hopefully escape for a nap at some point.

Woe is me.

lady your logistical nightmare sounds horrible. Hopefully your DH gets better soon and your family give you a rest at the weekend to keep you going until then.

Thanks. I realise this is very little to moan about compared to what some of you have been through but I'm struggling.

Dd os refusing to sleep. The last 3 nights she's thrown 3 hour tantrums, screaming and thrashing around, I just don't know what to do. This started again an hour ago and I just couldn't take it so put the light on and now she's happily crawling around her room, pulling out toys and anything else she can reach while I sit in the rocking chair like a zombie. Whyyyyy is she doing this? How can I stop it?

Oh ladydolly it's shit isn't it? . We had that (wanting to play / having loads of energy / screaming when put down) about 3 weeks ago - it lasted for about a week, then tailed off into taking ages (3 hrs) to get to sleep, and then that gradually reduced back to the normal protest cry before going straight to sleep. But it's taken a while and felt like years. ... However, it did stop!

Thanks to you and eastmids for the feeding advice

havent sounds like we have a similar situation at nursery - DD gets a lunch at 11:45 and "tea" at 4 (there's a snack in betweeen too). Yesterday it was vegetable curry and rice for lunch and chicken wrap for tea. I usually pick her up at 5:30 and she doesn't get another meal, I may sit her in the high chair and give her some fairly clean snacks like rice cakes, cheerios, fruit maybe just to keep her occupied while I make her bottle and do anything else that I need to do without a whinging baby clinging to my legs. Then we have a little play for 15 mins or so and then boob, bath, book, bottle, bed. I don't notice a difference in how much of her bottle she has on nursery days compared to home days where she eats her (big) dinner at 5.

I've had mixed success with introducing cows milk in a sippy cup. She will happy drink quite a lot of it with her dinner and then in the period before bed; but then she doesn't want BF which leaves my boobs full and eventually sore. After her bath she has a bottle and seems to need it to wind down - even if only 1oz of it. She won't have the sippy cup instead of the bottle; but she will have cows milk in the bottle. Can't decide where to go from here; put cows milk in the bottle to save some £ and fight the bottle battle later, or keep going with formula, or try formula in a sippy cup... Have been thinking about when to stop BF but I think I want to carry on for a bit longer yet as she only has it first and last thing.

ladydolly that sounds like a nightmare... any friends who can come over and play with DD while you do a bit of packing or searching?

lady

I do feel your pain on all of this logistical stuff to do with the new house/baby combination! If it helps at all the onslaught of people in doing work has slowed down a bit here of late. TF. Is there any way you could all just Not Go to this Christmas up north business. If your DH has flu he's going to feel like death anyway. If it will mean a bit of a break for you (in terms of people to look after DD) then that's one thing but all that driving and organisation...could you just cancel?

now as to these babies and what the utter fuck they are up to at night with these 3 hour stretches of awakeness...I'm losing the will here too. Is it teeth? IS IT? WHAT IS IT?! DD was at it last night too, slept like a newborn except more awake. Since I'd had some success with co-sleeping the previous night tried it again last night. She just divebombed DH and sang in his ear the second she got a chance. Unfortunately she has been doing this on and off for about 2 months.

The worst part of it is how knackered she is in the morning going off to nursery. I hate sending her in so exhausted, she's cried a lot at the handover the last few days. I know it doesn't last, but it's just grim. I constantly feel like I'm doing the wrong thing.

moggle if DD will drink cow's milk from the bottle then I'd go with that for sure. Reading your post makes me think I need to fill DD up with more milk during the day. Her breastfeeds are really short now and maybe she just needs more milk.

for everyone. Isn't it mad to think how long we've been moaning on on these threads - since early pregnancy for some of us!

You're right halfstar! Moanfest! (I do somehow feel like I should have an 'easy' baby since pregnancy was so hard!)

Dp has at least managed to get up and out of bed. We're over at my mums now. All packed for these 2 days. I think I'm going to take the day off on Friday and I've told dp to find the presents tomorrow, he's going back to the house tonight. He's actually doing my effing head in now he's on the mend, he's been asleep for days so now want's to do 4 days of talking. He's also not letting me take control of everything but can't do it himself so it's not getting done. (more moaning for you there).

So yes, dd was up every 90 minutes on top of the 3 hours in the middle of the night. haven't I really hope you're right and it passes, I just can't cope with this for much longer. She's also then knackered during the day and takes too longer naps at the cm. Vicious circle!

Since we introduced the daytime beaker last week DS has dramatically reduced his daytime formula. He just doesn't bother with it much and we get the feeling that putting water in it would be much the same in terms of how much he drinks.

So we're really encouraging food to compensate and he's eating TONS. He ate a full childs portion of lamb curry for dinner last night. We were amazed!

He still drains a bottle at 6.15am when he gets up for the day (sobs), and has a good bit going to sleep (though we dilute that one a bit) but only sips really during the day.

Occasionally we worry he's eating too much but since he doesn't have that many calories from formula anymore and he's going through a stretch of brilliant sleep, I darent give him less!

Ds eats absolutely loads! Some dinners would be an adult portion then fruit then porridge sometimes.
He has 3 bfs plus 3 meals plus a beaker of cow milk plus a snack before morning nap. Sometimes I save the beaker and let him finish it after dinner before bath.

Another "healthy eater" here - DD is on 2 BFs a day; large breakfast (big bowl of cereal / porridge / yoghurt a followed by a slice of raisin toast and sometimes fruit); big hot lunch (either fish or meat concoction with loads of veg and she follows this down with pudding and fruit); another hot meal for tea and then she has bits of our dinner when we eat....I do wonder if we're over-feeding her sometimes, but then remind myself from past experience that when she doesn't want anymore, she's very good at letting me know

Oh, meant to say, over the next week or 2 have decided we'll introduce a beaker of cows milk instead of one of the BFs (probably 1st one of the day)...as far as I can work out, now the milk is required as a source of calcium rather than anything else, so if she doesn't really take to it I'm not going to stress as figure she eats enough yoghurt / cheese / broccoli etc to get her calcium intake. If I've got this wrong, can someone let me know!

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ark you're needed here!

Ooh thanks MrsA !

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Well baby is now properly crawling every weekend he has learnt something new ready for nursery the following Tue. He is also pulling up on furniture but just to knees as too lazy to use legs.

Can't believe two weeks today he will be 1!!

This morning DS woke at 5.30. DH told me to stay in bed so I got up at 8.15 to a very stressed DH. DS had a pooey nappy first thing (normal but crap at that hour) then gobbled the bottle too quickly and puked it all over DH. Then realised he was too tired so DH spent half an hour at 6.30 trying to get him back to sleep for a bit but only succeeded in getting his ears twisted off by DS. And DS has been crying non-stop since.

So I got up and took over - poor DS has to travel an hour and a half for a jb now! And to my horror, DS is so knackered he's has just fallen asleep. No waking him at all.

The rest of the day is going to be a nightmare isn't it?

These early starts are killing us. There's no ryhme or reason to why they'rw happening - yesterday for instance he napped from 10.15 to 12.15 so a really decent mid-morning one and we were able to keep him up till almost 7 last night (miracle). He ate loads yesterday too.

But then this morning he wakes at 5.30? WTF?

And whats worse is that tonight was going to be a date night type thingy. We were going to actually go out to a pub! Just the two of us!

But DH already said when leaving this morning that he's waaaay too knackered and besides having a few pints and then having to get up at 5.30 tomorrow morning is a bad idea. And we have Water Babies tomorrow too.....Basically date night is cancelled.

I'm annoyed though its completely logical. Surely I should be having a social life by now though? He'll be one this week!

Yet another grim night here too. It's teeth, it's got to be. Awake 2 hours after going to bed and didn't go back to sleep for another 2.5 hours. So exhausted. DH took her for a drive which did fuck all. A drive at night at 1 year old!

I'm with you Anna one date night at least would be nice by now! DH and I are going to spend the night in a hotel over Christmas while family takes care of the DC. I can't wait. We might even go out for dinner and all!

Anna if you pounced on DS the second he stirs at 5.30 and gave him the bottle is there any hope he'd go back to sleep for another hour? Neither of mine have been very early risers (too busy getting up all night) and are prone to sleeping in if they've had a bad night. But my sister used to do this with her early rising DC (get to them fast with milk) and they'd go back to sleep until a slightly more decent hour.

We've briefly discussed that but were worried it might set a precedent and lead us back to mid-sleep bottles.

But we may try it out of desperation.

He's just woken up. Almost 2 hrs but too early! So now....to force an afternoon nap that he'll fight? Or just power grimly through the afternoon?

Also another complicating factor is that often he has a pooey nappy upon waking so we have to get him up. Sometimes you can smell it as soon as you open the door! Don't think there's a solution to that, sadly.