November 2014: The one that needs baby-proofing!

[ladydolly]

And maybe ends with 1st birthdays!!

Afternoon

Is it odd that I feel really proud that my DD has received her first party invitation for a little girl's 1st birthday?

Can't believe my DD will be one next month...eek! At 10.5 months she's basically down to 2 BFs a day now...am wondering if I need to give her formula to ensure she's getting enough as I can feel that my supply is rapidly decreasing now and I can easily go the 12 hours between the 2 feeds...

I'd give cow's milk rather than formula. Formula is expensive and you don't want to give her a taste for it when she'd only 'need' it for 6 weeks.

2 bf is fine as long as she is getting calcium from other sources. Milk in food, yogurts, broccoli, 50/50 best both breads are fortified with calcium (2slices is full adult amount calcium for a day).

Just made dairy free veg curry pin wheels made too much curry so boiled some rice mixed it in and 3 pots dinner now in freezer for baby at another time... dinner tonight is dairy free toad in hole used water instead milk for batter n added an egg lets see how it goes!!

Thanks MrsA and eastmids - must admit, I am loathed to go down the formula route and I am plying her with yoghurt and adding cheese to dinners wherever I can! Didn't realise broccoli was a good source of calcium...good job she likes chomping on it - another thing to add to the regular menu

Haven't I have a huge list of calcium content of food from dietician due to being dairy free.

So baby has had a cough for nearly 6weeks worse at night and sometimes wheeze so gp prescribed an inhaler today so will use if wheezy ds1 has had one since 15mths old and rarely uses it now. Both husband n I have asthma husband since child me diagnosed at 18 but I have had since teens just not seen by gp (I use to do long distance running and wheeze like mad but never told my parents and told running coach doc said I was fine)

Well the curry pinwheel I thought were ok, both boys hated them. Dairy free toad in hole was ok we rarely had it before so ok for the once or twice a year times we do.

So after some great nights of waking once between 7+6 and going back down for another hr (n once slept from 7-6) we have been up every 2hrs Sun night and up twice so far tonight (10.30+12.30) left for 15mins and didn't settle so calpol n feeding. Stupid bloody cough wakes him.

DD has the "daddy the best" era, I think she is well and truly bored of being with me all the time. Whenever she can she will chose DH over me. It's quite nice to see how big her affection is for her dad. She even cried once when I took her over to hold while DH went to loo.

Also she struggles with eating cereals and porridge. Just wouldn't have any of it, I even bought the baby muesli in a hope - nada. So ended up baking oat biscuits from it yesterday, she did nibble something, but not overjoyed.

Last week nursery told DH how impressed they were at DD doing baby signing. According to them, she had signed milk when she wanted some, but she has never been taught baby signing and I don't even know the sign for milk!

I am well and truly in the zombie club today. She didn't sleep for a whole hour at any point last night. This might be because MIL looked after her yesterday and didn't give her any milk all day from when she woke up until 5.30pm. When DH asked her about this she said she "didn't know she was supposed to." She has bought up 4 children and been involved with 5 other grandchildren. How can she not know that a less than 1yr old should have milk at some point in the day? Why does she think I showed her the bottles and formula last time she looked after DD? (that time was just a couple of hours so I wasn't surprised that she didn't give DD a bottle). DD drinks very little water in a cup with meals, preferring to pour it over the floor or appear to drink it then spit it out, so would have been very thirsty by the time I fed her.
I had just enjoyed a couple of nights with over 6hrs sleep and only one fairly brief wake up in that time so had just started to feel a bit more human, especially after last week when 4 broken hours of sleep became the norm. 13hrs at work after less than 4 broken hours of sleep nearly broke me. I'm not back at work until Thursday now, so am desperately hoping last night was a one-off rather than a new trend.

DS has been a little ray of sunshine the last couple of days, so he has been really helping.

I think he's gotten used to being down to one nap and is less cranky, also I am getting more canny about the mornings i.e. I've started putting him in the pram in the back garden for 10 mins whilst I get dressed/put laundry on/wash up etc. so he's not dragging on me.

I put him under the clothes line and he grabs the pole and makes the pegs shake!

And bringing him out in the afternoons is essential. Yesterday I brought him for a walk and I have never walked so slowly as I'm not able for much - but crucially he didn't mind as long as we were moving.

There also is a definite silver lining to going down to one nap - he is now conking out on the bottle again at 6.30 and sleeping for 12 hrs straight. He is exhausted. That is a massive massive MASSIVE help to me.

We are trying to move the nap later - we got to 10.20 one day - but its hit and miss. It was 9.30 this morning. Maybe it'll happen naturally, who knows.

By the way, the JOjomamanbebe packaway waterproof dungerees just came - they're great! Now he can crawl around on the lawn to his hearts content.

This is size 18-24M as I heard they came up small. I discovered the stirrups were so adjustable I was actually able to button the elastics together at the bottom! So don't even need shoes. Result!

They look a great buy Anna - will have to investigate....

Got a very poorly DD here - temperature of 39C so have dosed her up with Calpol and am hoping that she has a good nap...she was absolutely roasting when I put her to bed 30 mins ago . Have checked out the NHS website and which says if their 3-6 months and have a temp of 39+ to see a GP immediately, so at 10.5 months I guess we wait it out and see what happens over the next 24 hours.....

Anna we use puddlesuits similar thing but have arms too but hunt out the 18-24one we have although it's huge.

haven't hope DD is better? They're so sad when they have a temperature aren't they :(

well last night was frankly ridiculous. I'm glad I can come on here and moan about it, it feels like every baby in RL has been a 7-7 sleeper since 6 weeks or something. I was into her countless times last night.

happy hope last night was better for you, and you too MrsA and everyone else struggling! Anna glad to hear that DS is being good for you, hope you're OK.

greenstone last night was ridiculous here too, totally ridiculous. When DH asked how many times I had gone in to DD I didn't even know the answer.

She failed the HV assessment today because she doesn't pull herself up or walk along the furniture. I'm not worried, because she is doing better than DD1 was at this age, but the HV said it requires a referral and we have to go back in a month. I wasn't going to mention the terrible sleeping because I don't want any 'advice' on what we are doing wrong, but She basically said I look terrible and asked if DD sleeps through the night. Her advice is not to ever give her milk at night again, only offer water, and she will sleep through then. But when I am at work at night DH doesn't feed her every time she wakes up and she doesn't sleep through then.

havent hope your DD is getting better.

oh happy - you have it much worse than me with those 13 hour shifts.
We have a session with a sleep consultant booked. It's weeks away but it's the one thing we're clinging onto.

There is a lot of received wisdom around how to get babies to STTN and honestly I feel a lot of it doesn't apply in individual cases - like the feeding thing. Feeding is the only thing that bloody works to get her back to sleep! Not feeding or feeding just water=awake for hours. And also so many babies feed at night but it's not a problem as they just go back to sleep afterwards and start doing longer stretches off their own bat.

I know that if we work with the sleep consultant she will say to not feed at night, but at least I'll know then that somebody lucid is overseeing the plan of action as opposed to DH and I who are completely addled and sleep-deprived.

You've reminded me that DD will be getting called for her 12 month review soon I guess. Developmentally she seems pretty textbook apart from the sleep which as I said earlier is stalled at 'newborn' level!!

Anyway. I have coffee.

happy these 10 month reviews must be a postcode lottery as my dd can't pull herself up nor walk along furniture and the HV wasn't bothered at all and said she had no concerns at all!

Temp reached an all time high yesterday pm of 39.2 . Fortunately it's come back down today but she was in with dh and me from about 4am...now she's covered in a rash and has really bad nappy rash so I guess it's a combo of a viral infection (that's what the doc said last time she had a rash) and teething - I've never seen so much dribble in my life! Whatever it is, it can do one!

Haven't , could it be hand foot and mouth disease? Google it. Wouldn't be surprised. If it is the worst has probably passed by now. It's not particularly serious just makes them a bit miserable. You don't need to go to GP again as there's no treatment.

Havent hope your DD is well soon x

Happy hope the HV hasn't got to you with all her "you look terrible" and stuff. I have seen few babies around here the same age as DD - some of them would crawl very fast and confident, but wouldn't stand on their feet at all, not even supported never mind moving around along the furniture or pull themselves up on their feet. DD is very lazy crawler, she will only crawl when desperate to get hold of something. So I was looking for questions in Gross Motor skills to pick up on the crawling, but there was not a single one about it, as if crawling doesn't count at all? Also every baby has different skills preferences, just like adults some are Olympic champions while others are bookworms etc. Sorry, you now will have to put up with all the nuisance of pointless HV appointments.

DD is now in the stage of banging her head against things and if I shout "Bang!" every time she hits her head, apparently, it's a cracking joke and sets her off in giggles .

Btw, since the size 4+ revelations on here we've been using it for the night time and I have to say that 2 weeks in and there hasn't been not a single leak. Some mornings the nappy has been weighing a ton but everything in control. Amazing! Cannot wait till we go through size 4 nappies.

Strawberry that was my findings and amazingly true and no more leaks for us either using up size 4 in the day.

Happy we had 10mths check and will get a mthly phone call til he is,doing it or needs a referral basically not walking at 18mths is a concern. My first never cruised furniture or pulled to standing he walked holding your hands from 8mths but didn't independently walk til 18mths, didn't crawl til 11mths and that was bum shuffling, could roll but didn't was a dream Sat him down he stayed there and played.

I expect number 2 will follow suit although he rolls everywhere and gets around on his back and can't be left for a min without some destruction!

Chaos reigns here so been a bit quiet. We're off to Dubai on Friday, me for work but DP and DD are coming with me for a jolly. It's my biggest event of the year so I've been working really long hours. DD still not sleeping, after my boastful announcement that I had 8 hours we went straight back to 4 hours again. Hey ho. At least I'm kind of used to it by now. She has a night cough and so do I so between us we're up most of the night and she has reverted to needing boob to sleep. Which at the moment is about every 1.5 hrs. So sympathies to the zombie club, there's still a lot of us in the same boat. If I manage to pull this event off without a massive sleep deprived fuck up I shall be amazed.

happy the sign for milk is very similar to baby waves so she was probably waving, dd signs for both which is a little confusing sometimes. Adorably when I feed her in the night as she drifts off to sleep on the boob she will lift her little arm up and slowly make the sign.

Went to a first birthday party at the weekend and bumped into a couple who were on our antenatal course, their little boy who was born in December has been walking for a month already, he was only 8 months old!! Also got talking to a woman who turned out to have been in the bed opposite me in the hospital - she was the one I was jealous of for staying so calm and quiet while I huffed and puffed. Turned out that they ran out of space on the labour ward after I'd gone down so they stopped her induction for 24 hours - I had a lucky escape from a 3 dayer like her!!

Do they really get concerned by 10 month olds who aren't crawling?? I seem to know lots who don't or who can but can't be bothered??

DD totally lost interest in trying to walk once she got really good at crawling but this week she's started to enjoy standing up without holding on to something and holding her arms proudly in the air before launching herself forward. Terrifyingly the 'best' places to do this are apparently on the sofa, on the bed and on the tiny amount of hardwood floor we have.

Dd is still asleep I haven't seen her since 8:30 last night but I can hear her snoring down the monitor

Manic few days for us getting ready for the last competition of the season next week which means a 6 hour drive to Anglesey! My house has been like a workshop extension and Ive been feeding the masses. This time next week were off and the car isn't even on the road!

Dd got her new car seat this week, we went for a Joie Stages and she's so happy in it. She's loving being higher up too! What car seats have you all gone for?

Oh also we've not heard anything at all about a 10 month check! Maybe the HV has forgotten about us!

Hige hugs for the non-sleepers. Are all the non-sleepers on the boob? Or is there a mixture?

If they're all on the boob it frightens me a bit for a second baby as I always said i'd try to do it for much longer the next time.

Lady no, what it looks from the questionnaires and our own check-up, they don't seem to have any interest not in a slightest whether the baby crawls or not, it's all about standing, leaning, moving along on the feet. In one of our playgroups there is a month older buy than DD, he is crawling around in a light speed, but if somebody picks him up and tries to put on legs he just would not have any of it. He would score hardly anything in the gross motor skills although he moves around so fast and confident.
I am sure you will do great in Dubai, you have endured so much in the last year that one work event will be a piece of cake! :)

I have been asking myself what I would do if DD would not be able to do most of the things from the questionnaire. And I cannot for sure say that I would not mark few abilities with "yes" even if she would not do it. After all the constant head measuring hassle (our red book head circumference measure line looks more like a zigzag than a line because every time a different person measures her head the size is different as well) we have been going through and different NHS specialists saying completely opposite things, I might have just lied to get it done please, don't judge me. I am happy I didn't have to make that decision anyway, but it does make me resentful thinking about how many people who actually needed a help could have been attended in the time what NHS wasted on us completely ignoring that in both our families babies have always been with big heads and that DD's development has been spotless.