December 2012: the one where they're all potty trained. Sort of....

[Barbeasty]

The old thread was getting dangerously close to 1000 messages, so thought I'd better start this one.

Oh no Goat. Hope it improves for you.

DH had a phone call from nursery today. A has a cut/bruise under 1 eye (on the eye socket) because he was playing flying buses and to quote A "X hit me in the face with a bus". Also known as they were waving toy buses and cars around and he leaned in and got accidentally hit in the face.

DD's class had left a lovely get well soon card for her too. Each child has written and drawn something and it's all been stuck together to make a book. Several declarations of love from the boys too!

That's sweet beasty

Dd and ds are out playing in the garden so I'm eating some chocolate. It's so nice that they can go out on their own now, the door isn't closed properly so I can hear them, they're playing so nicely.

Beasty thats so nice of your Dds class i hope shes recovering well. And A as well of course.

Wrecked i was just coming on to say the same thing. H has been playing with toys on the floor happily for the last half hour. Although she did insist that the horse racing was on tele at the same time that may be my grandads influence ha.

Goat, i hope you manage to get some sleep this weekend.

Oh she would love to live here in the summer then as we are fairly close to goodwood and sometimes go to watch the racing the dc have been outside in the garden for a couple of hours now! Although they pop in every so often to wee or wash their hands as they're covered in bird poo

It's soooo good when they just play!

Dh took me away yesterday for the night for a bday surprise. He did really well and took me back to the jewellers where we got our engagement/wedding/eternity rings from and bought me a beautiful necklace. He had preordered a personalised cake at an amazing cafe and had booked dinner at an amazing veggie resto (me veg, him carnivore).
Dm and dmil had the dds which was great but dm not feeling well and I'm feeling v anxious about her. She has got an oncology consultant apt this week - fx we will get reassurance but I'm scared.

Fx for your DM WL and a pat on the back for DH.

Hope DD is doing okay Beasty is it the dreaded day 5 yet? I remember it well from when I had mine out at 19.

DS is covered head to toe. His arse crack is particularly itchy so XP and I get the treat of whacking a load of bepanthan on it hourly!

Had a lovely time in Belfast. My friend's baby is beautiful and we had an awesome weekend.

I hope the sleep deprived have a better night tonight.

Wl keeling everything crossed for your mum. I hope the break did you and DH some good and gave you a chance to relax and enjoy yourselves.

Frazzled poor wee thing!

DS has driven me nuts today. He is a tiny bit tired and there does not seem to be any way to solve it, he just gets gradually more and more tired and more and more arseholey. but I can't really complain, my Mum is here and so she entertained him for me - I am in a pretty bad mood because of tiredness myself!

Nice frazzled! One of the finer points of parenting!
nutella hope you felt better once ds was in bed. My goal of being in bed before 11 hasn't been going very well. Must try harder!

WL i have my FX for your mum as well and well done to your Dp it sounds like he is trying

Frazzled poor Ds i'm not sure if its an old wives tale but i read somewhere if you put the in a bath with some oats it relieves the itching.

Nutella FX your having a good sleep tonight.

I have been to Alton Towers today for the armed forces discount day with my sisters and the kids and partners. I had a lovely day but DP has ruined it and pissed me off to the point were sleep impossible since we got home. The stress of our home life is probably pushing us closer than ever to splitting up. And at the moment that thought fills me more with relief than regret.

hales I cannot imagine the stress the two of you are under. What support do you have as a couple? Are you able to have some time alone and talk? And I hope you got some sleep.

I had a fairly decent nights sleep. DS is still a pain in the bum, but a very cute and gorgeous one. He wanted to wear sunglasses to Kiga today, because the sun is shining. The staff there were really sweet when he arrived and told him he was a really cool dude. Although a bigger boy laughed at him, which made me want to squeeze DS and push the boy over.

He very rarely talks about his feelings and when he does its because he has lost control of them. Trying to get him to talk before he loses his temper is near impossible because you see him losing it when you begin pushing. He doesn't speak to friends or family really about it either, i am lucky i have a really close family so i can talk to them. Its just getting to the point now of do i really want things to continue this way? At the moment that answer is no and i have told him that but he says things will change and yet we're arguing again. I don't want H seeing this.

Nutella i love that Ds wore his sunglasses, i would love to wear mine more. I bet he didn't even notice the older boy.

Oh hales bless your soul. There has been so much stress in your relationship - you have always dealt with it all amazingly but it's inevitable that there will be times when you feel you've had enough. If talking feels to stressful for him, could you try writing each other little notes - always being kind and respectful but sometimes a little challenge or honesty? I don't think it would work well for us as I'd get frustrated but I suspect you are rather more patient than me!

nutella the other little boy was wrong and rude - I wore sunglasses today as I find the winter sunshine bright. Ds can hang out with me! Sadly he and you will come across people who are unkind - intentionally or otherwise. Try to remember (and teach ds) that it is more about the other person than you. However, do try to forgive small children for laughing at things they find unusual or funny. Last weekend T laughed at a dwarf in our village - just like dd2 did at the same age. Mortifying of course, and I sincerely hope (and genuinely don't think) the lady heard, but T wasn't being unkind, just seemed comical to her. I often talk to dd1 and 2 about people being different, and each person being the perfect size, weight, colour, loud, religion, sexual orientation etc for them.

WL you're absolutely right. Children don't have any the same mental filter as adults do they. Oh, it is going to be very embarrassing for the next few years isn't it?

In fact you've just reminded me, at the weekend BIL was driving on his way to his holiday and dropped in to see us - which was lovely. DS went for a wee and asked BIL if he wanted to see his willy "no, thanks DS" then DS asked if he could see BIL's willy fortunately he laughed like we did and we tried to explain to DS that it isn't something you should go around asking.

Re the lack of mental filter; I've been asked some odd stuff at KiGa. Once DD was poorly with a cough and for some reason DS was obsessed with hospitals. When I picked him up the staff asked if DD had been to hospital in the night I am sure they get to hear all sorts of funny stuff.

WL i have never been described as patient before we do text each other a fair bit while he is working and i suppose thats when we do most of our serious talking. He has apologised for it and explained he is frustrated by the whole thing.

I finally have some amazing news, we have found a house on the same estate we live now which is cheaper and have managed to secure it today. We are so happy right now.

Nutella i love that they don't have a filter just yet H comes out with some amazing things at the moment. We do have to tell her some things are inappropriate though. She asked my Dsis if she had brushed her teeth as her breath smelt

Yay hales! That's fantastic. Maybe you could try to set a new goal about talking or spending time together in the new house. We really need to reinstate movie night. We went through a stage of having a night at the weekend if possible where we made a pact not to do chores etc after the kids were in bed but to sit together on the sofa with a treat snack and watch a movie. It really helped us having a shared experience when we are often a tag team.

I also love the lack of filters - it's a little window into their minds.

It's ok everyone it's Friday here comes the weekend and next week it is Easter!

The PIL want to buy DS a bike. Not just any bike, and not even a real bike. No the fancy BMW bike they have seen. AIBU to wish they would take him to a bike shop and buy him a normal bike? I know, it's their money but we will have to be really relaxed about him trashing it and I don't know if I can.

So yesterday I was 40!! And I survivors! Today I'm having a party at my house - I'm quite scared! I. The old days I probably would have got a bit drunk to take the edge off but as I currently don't drink I'll just have to ride it out I guess!

nutella I think you're right - you will have to be relaxed about it potentially getting trashed. If you have warned them that it might and fwiw you would buy something cheaper/more robust etc and they buy it anyway, then it really is their lookout.

Happy birthday wl

Happy birthday wl !!

hales hope things settling at home with dp. You guys have had so much pressure on you that not surprised that things getting on top of you all. Keep going things will get better.
nutella they may find that the shop assistant tell them that that bike not appropriate for a 3 yr old- may be too tall etc

WL happy belated birthday! I hope you have a lovely celebration.

Ddas I do feel terribly ungrateful. I know they just want to spoil the kids.

Anyway, this weekend I don't have children. I have one whirling dervish and one shrieking banshee.

Happy birthday WL!

Thanks all! The party was pretty full on but lovely - so many people came! I am knackered now, socialising is exhausting!