April 2015 thread 2 - ruling our lives and stealing our sleep, our babies are growing up already!

[PenguinPoser]

New thread for those of us left here

Take an emergency appointment babiecakes - it is an emergency. So much can change in 3 weeks in a downwards spiral!

So pleased your dp helped out babiecakes. Long may it continue! Hope you got to the big latch on.

We have been busy today doing the supermarket shopping and then down at a friends housewarming party. Getting dd to bed now and feeling guilty as she was due a bath but as we were late back in delaying it until the morning. Don't know why I feel guilty about that!

I'm glad your dp is listening to you babiecakes I hope you have a good time tomorrow and Ds is ok.

We have had a quiet Saturday night because DH is doing tough mudder tomorrow. I'm going for a walk to a local car boot sale and lunch with my Mum and Dad because I thought it would be a bit much for dd to spectate at tough mudder and it means I get a rest while they play with dd.

Is everybody still ebf or is anybody ff or mix feeding? I've been expressing a bottle for DH to give to dd in the evenings but dd seems to want more than I can express so I'm considering getting some ready made formula.

Hope you're asleep babiecakes! And even though there were only 4 of you at the latch on its still good and gave you something to do for a bit. So sorry you're still feeling bad but pleased your dp is realising it and helping more. Going back to GP sounds like a good idea.

Wineandchoccy I'm still ebf - dd will have a bottle of ebm if I'm out somewhere - but I have to plan and express for 3 days in advance or use some of freezer stash as I couldn't express enough for a bottle a day. Plenty of people mix feed though and on fb group there's quite a few ff too - so a mixture. Just do what is right for you I'm wondering whether to add some formula when starting weaning in a few weeks time but can't decide at the moment. I'm not sure how long I plan to continue bf (never thought I'd get this far!) but by the time in back at work in January I'd like her to be on a max of 2-3 feeds a day so we will see!

Hope you had a nice party PenguinPoser. By January I assume ds will be 9 months so likely to be down to 2-3 bf a day anyway unless you comfort feed for bumps etc, ds1 only had morning and evening by then but ds2 fed a bit more. Dont worry about the bath, having a routine is good but if you never vary from it it can lead to a very inflexible baby who's u happy when anything changes.

Glad you dh is helping babiecakes11 and that you're feeling a bit better. Hope gp is useful tomorrow.

I would have thought watching a tough mudder would be fab for a baby wineandchoccy. Ds3 loves people and was fascinated while We were out yesterday, very chilled which was nice. I'm sure your day will be equally as fun for her though and a rest for you is good. I am still ebf, in fact I've been really slack at giving bottles of ebm recently so he may decide he doesn't want a bottle now! I didn't give ds1&2 any formula and don't intend to this time but if it suits you then go for it. Especially once you start weaning they will such a variety of nutrition it won't make much difference I wouldn't imagine. I'm just to lazy to worry about sterilising and worrying about making milk up properly.

Hospital said they want to discuss with another Dr who comes in Monday's only so will hopefully Hear something by Monday afternoon. I ran on my own yesterday and ended up in tears, won't do that again until I feel a bit more certain of the future!

Fingers crossed you get the results soon cinnamon.

I hope your dp continues to help babiecakes.

I am a bit low again...... had been feeling so good but found myself struggling again today and wanted to have the pain ds was in so he didn't have to. Not just in a caring mother way, I feel lost

Cinnamon it's rubbish that you are still in limbo with the results. It's hard to be alone with your thoughts at times like that. Are you able to go running with a friend to distract you?

Fi sorry you're feeling low again you've been doing so well but there will be good days and bad days. I hope this is just a bad day for you and you feel better tomorrow. If not please go back to your GP and ask for more help. I know you've had a tough time with your ds tummy and that can't be helping. Keep talking to us if it helps.

Babiecakes it seems sensible what you're doing to focus on one thing at a time. Hope you can get an emergency appointment tomorrow.

Just settling dd for bed now - I hope. Would like some alone time with DH. I feel sad that he's back at work tomorrow after a week off - although I know that is insignificant compared to what others are going through. Don't have many plans for this week so need to make some to fill the time in. Taking dd for her next meningitis b injection later in the week which I'm dreading as she was poorly last time. Definitely calpol at the ready!

Sorry you are feeling low firaffe I hope today is a better day for you

babiecakes I hope things improve for you soon and you can get an appt sooner.

penguin I hope you find things to do this week it's hard going back to being on your own after you have some help.

cinnamon I hope you get Sams results today.

DH is off today recovering from tough mudder yesterday but looking at the way he has just shuffled to the bathroom I don't think he will be doing much, he really enjoyed it the washing machine worked overtime getting his things clean I'm glad I didn't take dd though because my MIL went to watch and she fell over in the mud and she said lots of other spectators were slipping and sliding and I would not have wanted to risk falling with the pram or dd in her sling.

My Mum and Dad must have tired her out yesterday she was asleep for 6.30 and woke at 4am for a quick feed then woke again at 8am and is now being very vocal on her play gym.

Oh babiecakes. I really hope the chaser will get things moving - have you made an appointment with the doc for 2 weeks. If not, phone and do so - it gives you a target to aim for.

Feeling a bit better today after a relatively good night. Hope it continues and DS is good today. He has had a poo already which always helps his mood! Packing for holiday today which fills me with a mix of excitement and dread! The drive on my own with DS is scary but will be good to get a break

Glad you're feeling better today and hope the holiday helps rather than hinders FiRaffe. Are you able to talk to your oh about how you are feeling when you get low?

I have been running tonight with my canicross club PenguinPoser which definitely helps. I also hate when dh has been off and goes back to work, hope you had a nice day.

Glad you made the right choice wineandchoccy and that you parents wore dd out

Surely there must be some antidepressants you could take while bf babiescakes11? I know it's really important to you and I would be gutted to not be able to bf but would it be worth thinking of stopping? You can then feel better and although bf is important there are other things that you do as a mother that are more so. You said you wanted to get to 6 months, do you have enough frozen to do that? Just a suggestion if you feel nothing else will help.

Phoned hospital this afternoon and the specialist did speak to my paediatrician but she had the afternoon off and didn't ring me before she left so now have to wait until tomorrow right off to arch up on fb been a manic day!

Argh cinnamon sorry you're still waiting how frustrating. Hope you get the results today.
Babiecakes I think cinnamons siggestion is worth considering. Although many women breastfeed on antidepressants - it depends which ones are being considered. I don't know if the bf is affecting your mood in a negative way but if you think it'd related you have done so well and if you did stop you could still be so proud of yourself. It's a really personal thing so I wouldn't say do it or not it's just worth thinking about. Most important thing for your dc is to have their mummy.

Wineandchoccy glad you had a good night! The tough mudder sounds a little too muddy for my liking!

I really don't know why dd woke at 1am it's really unusual DH tried to cuddle her but she was having none of it and screamed blue murder until boob was provided. Hope I can get her back down in the crib for a lengthy stretch. yawn!!!

Babiecakes the best antidepressant when breastfeeding is Sertraline. I've been on it since 16 weeks pregnant specifically so I could keep taking it while breastfeeding (I was in Citalopram before). I have been advised to take it at 4 p.m. so that the peak level occurs when the baby is least likely to be feeding. They will start you on a low 50mg dose. One word of warning though, anti-depressants take a few weeks to start working effectively and they can make you feel worse before you get better. So if you think you need them then it's best to start them early rather than wait until you're really struggling and then have to wait for them to kick in.

Glad things have been better babiecakes

Just doing my first bed time on my own. I hadn't realised the monitor needed pre charging for 24 hours so guess I will go down and be on high alert!

Hope you all had a good day and have a good night