September 2006 Babies - growing in front of our eyes!

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New thread everyone!

marls/liquid- ha! my husband is doing it too! except, he's "replying" to ds with what he thnks ds is needing. its very cute. im hearing alot of 'neh', heh, and lower gas one. dnt think ive ever noticed the owh/sleepy tone. when ds is tired, he just goes to sleep... w/ the ocassional exception of like now...

ds has been fussy and in pain since getting injections...so he's passed out on my lap as i type (using an onscreen keyboard), after a dose of calpol and lots of rocking in arms. of course he only let me rock him while standing! im afraid to move him upstairs...

cruise - my biggest worry so far has been whether or not im creating a monsterous bad habit when ds sleeps in our bed. its only been a couple weeks that he's been sleeping on his own. and even still, i keep him in bed with me after 5-6am feed. i agree it seems silly to move myself OR bebe.

Munki, re: bad sleep habits. My thoughts are that lo's will eventually sleep later than 5/6am - extending to about 7am so it is a just temporary situation . I am justifying it in my 'guilt ridden mummy brain' as the perfect time of day to have an interruption free cuddle and that our lo's will not be so little for long . Today he went from 9:00pm to 6.10am so I am getting there Yippeeee!!
Anyone elses lo still feeding every 2 - 3 hrs during the day? (ds is bf.) Sometimes my ds will only go about 1.5 - 2 hrs! Not complaining too much as the nights are getting so good but just wondering..........

Cruisemum my DS feeds about every 2 hours during the day although has a longer nap over lunchtime and he was doing every 4 hours at night but last night he started feeding every 3 hours again. It feels like he will never sleep through - I'm really jealous of everyone's LO's sleeping through. I'm bf but considering trying him on one formula feed a day in the hope it will fill him up more. Sometimes he feeds and is dribbling and shoving his fist in his mouth only 5 mins later. Either i don't have much milk or he is just incredibly hungry.....

Cruise- during the day, my ds can go from 1.5 to 3 hours between each feed, same as yours.
there have been times when we've left house for hours and he's gone without feeding...so i know he can go for longer inbetween!

munki and cruisemum - I am also guilty of keeping ds2 in bed with me if he feeds at 5ish, it just doesn't seem worth putting him back in his room and quite honestly I am so cold at night, I can't face getting out of bed again!
Marls - sorry to hear about your insomnia - I think we have all done it though - lying awake in the early hours with all sorts of nonsense going round inside your head - i know I have!
Well after Ds2 refusing his early evening feed he woke at 2.44am and again at about 4am - so am very tired today, but on the positive side DS1 went to bed reasonably ok last night and I have managed to get him upstairs for his nap with out any tears at all, a couple of reads of 'Percy gets Stuck' and he's in the land of nod! yipee! I see a light at the end of the tunnel... (touch wood)
Thanks for all the info on formula. Funnily enough I used Farley's with DS1 to supplement BF, and he was always fine, but for some reason I didn't buy it this time. So maybe I'll try that again!

Myrtle and mabel - so glad that i am not alone in the feeding frequency stakes. I was thinking everyone's lo's were going 3 - 4 hrs between feeds. Currently having great difficulty getting ds to sleep longer than about 20 mins during the day. It's not like he doesn't need it as he gets quite cranky if he doesn't get enough sleep. he falls asleep then wakes angry. He is, at the moment, yelling his head off in the hall in his buggy having slept for a total of 20 mins since 7am this morning (it is now 12.17pm!) very frustratng and I must admit that I am getting quite angry about it. There is nothing keeping hime awake so why?????????????

Myrtle, DH gives DS a formula feed at 11pm ish..& no it doesn't make any difference in him going any longer!!!! Actually for the past 3 nights he has only taken 3oz of the normal 5 which makes me think he maybe dropping that feed at some point...only thing is that I want him to drop the 3-4am one first!!!! Poor thing has got a cold, can't breathe very well so we've been up a lot last night.....until he's 3 months I can't really much (i.e vicks, vaporisers etc)...my only saving grace is that he is in bed by 7 along with DD so we do manage to have a couple of hours to ourselves.....DH was feeling very amorous a couple of nights ago...suffice to say I'm still not in the mood...poor man, he's not had any since conceiving (Liquid!!)...

Re amount of feeding...DS changes every day. Some days it's every 3 hours others it's every 1.5 hours....no rhyme nor reason....hard at times esp. when breastfeeding!

Pistachio, not sure what to suggest as DS has followed DD's routine almost to the letter. What time do you attempt to put her to bed?

Coriander -tell your dh that he is not alone! My poor dh has forgotten what his is for! I most definitely am not 'in the mood' just yet. And even if I was - bedtime is for sleeping right now .
Pistachio - are you consistent in what you do as regards bedtime routine? On the days when she doesn't sleep till 5am could she be overtired/overstimulated. If ds is getting cranky through lack of sleep during the day I generally put everything else on hold and concentrate on getting him to sleep (going for walk/drive, bfeeding to sleep and then holding him while he sleeps etc.) I am sure you have tried everything but it might be worth establishing what works best then maybe you should just stick to that system. Do you let her sleep with you on the nights she won't settle? I really don't like doing that with ds but have done a couple of times and then he usually settles better the next night. Sometimes they just need to be near you I guess. Who knows?! they are so confusing aren't they?!!! Good luck [smil]

Morning everyone. We finally did the deed the other night (only managed it once while pregnant!). Very foolishly used the withdrawal method as not sorted out contraception yet as didn't think it would be needed just yet
Dd went down last night at 7pm with none of the usual crying etc so hoping it wasn't a one off. Woke at 5.30am so not bad!!

compo compo..tut tut!!! We conceived DD with that method - the first time in 8 years that we didn't use any contraception...how incredible or foolish was that?!!!!!!!! Still, big respect to you my dear for having taken the plunge!!!

oh my God Cori - don't tell me that Will definietely not be doing it again!! And the next few weeks could be a bit nerve wracking (aarrgghh!)

Scared yet, Compo? If its any consolation, I have my own concerns in that department, since we're relying on BF as a contraceptive and now I'm told that it isn't always effective.

Bugger.

So I need to do a test in a couple of weeks time - keep your fingers crossed for me!

Meanwhile DS2 is still gigantic (14lb 4 oz at 6 weeks weigh-in), my back is killing me and I urgently need bigger clothes for him. The good news is that I have found a running buggy so I can start to get out and train a bit more than my Monday night run-and-pub sessions.

DS2 is very relaxed but has little interest in toys so far (now 7 weeks). It would be nice to know what other people's babies are interested in and maybe he can have a few useful birthday presents.

OH wow! My DH puts on that he's so badly done to with the sex thing...and now, after reading what your DH's arent getting, my DH is going to get an earful if he keeps up! First of all, we kept having sex up until about a week before i gave birth ((i had a planned cesarean)). and i think maybe 3 weeks ago i decided to try and give it a go, see if i was ready. and lets not forget to bring up that DH 's "Urges & Needs" totally shut off just after i had ds, it was definitely noticeable, cos he wasnt "jokingly" bothering me.

so, we have sex once...and since then, maybe twice a week. depends on me, as it should do!!! but they way he goes on about it, you'd think its been years! ungrateful so n so! ((maybe if he keeps this attitude up, i'll suddenly "develop thrush, or water infection, " or something of the sort. hahahah!

Oh, and i think it's important to add that I've been back on the mini-pill about two weeks after birth ((just in case , wanted to be ready) PLUS i make him use condoms at the moment! Since we are MOST fertile the weeks following birth, I'm not taking ANY chances. ((yes i do plan on having another one...but just not now. ((how embarrassing would it be to have two children in the same grade/school year, that ARENT twins?? heheheh))

((oh and one last thing, lucky for you all that are still waiting to jump back in the saddle again...its still slightly uncomfortable for me, very tender!)) take your time ladies!
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Gizmo! be careful!!

my sis-n-law was breastfeeding her 13 month old when she got pregnant this time around..and she's 7 months prego now. ((this is her 4th child as well)).

Munki - you are a good wife - more than once a week?! wow! my dh didn't get that even before i was pregnant with ds!! During pregnancy i think we managed about 4 times and i had a fantastic pregnancy - no sickness etc. i think i am getting ready for it tho as it is on my mind more. just that sleeping seems so much more appealing these days..........x

i must admit, though, i'd rather sleep as well! ((even if i didnt have a little one! )) hehehe.

Cori, DS has had a cold and we found the nasal aspirator you can get from Boots quite good in helping to clear his nose or the paediatrician said use a bit of tissue, roll it into a point and then put it in their nostril to clear anything out.
DS has got immunisations this afternoon. I hope it will be ok.
Gizmo, re: toys. We made DS some black and white cards like black blobs on a white background and he likes looking at those. He also has a Tiny Love activity gym - he likes patting the hanging toys and he loves looking in mirrors.

Compo be careful - we used the morning after pill when unsure if birth control was taking yet ..
Tonight PILs are taking baby so DH & I will be sleeping at least for tonight in THE SAME BED!
Munki - not participating in Black Friday tomorrow ... but when opened the paper, thought of you! (Happy Thanksgiving!)

Just a quick question for all of those still bfeeding - how long you planning to continue? I was gonna stop around four months but already getting upset at the idea of stopping... may go to 6mths max. What is general opinion??

Cruise, i briefly thought about this topic before i gave birth...since he's my first, i was a bit uncomfortable at the idea of BF for several weird reasons. And i thought i'd give it a go and maybe do it for a few months.

But now that i am actually doing it, i think i'd be sad to not have that "time" with my ds. so i'll let him continue for as long as..well, whichever happens first:

A) i go back to work in the next 6 months, he'll have to have expressed most of the time from bottle,
B) he decides he's finished with it, on his own. ((which from what i hear is usually after they have started eating solids, 6months-ish))

OR

C) he gets to about a year old. ((i'll stop the process at that point...as everyone here who have BF before will probably tell you, its different for all babies & mothers. some may think 1 year is too old, some think babies can bf for over a year.))

For me personally, i'll hopefully only be offering bf just before bedtime towards 9-12 months.

but again, who can really say at this point. If you have no problem with bf, just let it continue for however long you feel is comfortable to you.

OH, and dare i bring up that i watched a program sometime last year about breastfeeding mothers...STILL bf at the ages of 3, 5, 7, and i think in one case, a 10 year old girl.

did anyone else see that program?? i think it was on channel 4...unsure.

anyways, when you look at what some mothers do (like the older kids), bf 6 -12 months doesnt feel so bad. heheheheh

Munki I saw the programme - the oldest was 8 - gross!!!!! Who on earth is befitting from bf at that age???
I bf my dd until she was just over 4 mths old which was what was recommended at that time (she is nearly 9 now). I remember phoning my friend as I was giving up bf and being in floods of tears. It felt like a kind of loss and I really hated stopping but found it confusing weaning and offering boob etc. In the end it was OK as she still had tonnes of cuddles while being bottle fed but it was hard . Maybe I'll do 6 mths and stop