September 2006 Babies - growing in front of our eyes!

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New thread everyone!

cruise - {{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}} you poor thing. we have the same sort of thing with jacob - he does sleep very lightly, and does wake up very easily and fusses a little - he's found his thumb now so that is really helping - I just listen on the monitor and let him get himself back to sleep.

re the naps thing - jacob doesn't really sleep unless we are out and about in the afternoon - he goes down wherever he is at around 10am ish - never the same time though.... but in the afternoon he won't sleep till 430 sometimes, and then only for around 45 mins unless he is out in the buggy, in which case he'll sleep non stop! and we too have the back arching between 530 and 6. Have started giving the first part of his evening feed before his bath and then finishing it afterwards, which he seems to like and is taking a huge amount now - 30 mins on me before bath today, then good kicks on his changing mat before and after his bath, then a whopping 9oz after his bath!

I am also a real softie and let jacob fall asleep in my arms before the start of his night sleep - we do put him back into his cot kind of awake in the middle of the night, but i can see us having all sorts of problems soon! watch out for me trying CC soon!!!

Gizmo - thanks for the tip - the problem is that the knees are killing me all the time! just bending down to pick something up off the floor and they are shot to bits! I feel like an old woman!

If anyone wants feel good TV - watch the trinny and susannah undress show - watched tonights one and the woman was such a lovely lady it nearly made me cry at the end of the show!

lol everyone and will sort the lo's soon!

xxx

nightmare evening last night. Dd had feed at 7pm after bath - 5oz. Was really tired so put her down, stright back out again and so on until midnight. Gave her about 10 more ounces over the course of that time as she was crying as though hungry although I think it might have been overtired. Kept going back in with dummy (is that a version of controlled crying?) Didn't work as she kept spitting out the dummy. Still asleep now though after crashing out at 12.30am so no idea what's going on. Really long for an easy 7pm bedtime Guess it just takes time!!

Oh yes and dh was out so at 10pm in desperation I rang him and asked him to come home. Boy was he cross when he got here Even though I'd been looking after 2 kids all day and haven't had a night out since forever he still feels hard done by Sorry, bit of an early morning rant!!!

compo - i don't blame you for the rant - it always happens when you're on your own though doesn't it!
Any ideas on how to cure a constipated baby? He hasn't pooed since sunday and isn't really feeding properly and keeps crying out and doing smelly trumps - poor love.
Still no better with ds1 - last night dh thought he'd got him to sleep - got downstairs and the screaming started, We left him and eventually he went off to sleep - it was so hard though. Then he woke up at 1am crying.
I posted a thread about it, but didn't get much response..

Compo on your behalf! These DH's don't know they're born sometimes! Does sound like J was over tired last night - it's such a fine line isn't it?

Mabel, have you tried a little prune juice very diluted in boiled water? Think that's ok to give for constipation in a young baby??? It might sort him out.

Have you tried CC with DS1? We had to with ours when he moved to a bed - 45 mins on night 1, 20 mins on night 2, 5 mins on night 3 and since then no problem. Hugs for you all.

We had a good night last night. Decided to try the Baby Whisperer's tips for dropping night feed. Managed to get him to drink 7 oz at 10.45, then he woke up at 2.15 (I was up giving DS1 some medicine for his cough, so think he heard me moving about and was in light sleep), I put dummy in, he went off. Then nothing until 6.15. As I was about to lift him to feed him I thought I'd just give it a go again. It worked!!! Gobsmacked. So then I didn't hear another peep until 7.10, when I went to wake him as had to get DS1 to nursery. So he took a really good feed then. Does that count as an all-nighter, even if there were 2 30 second dummy runs? Now of course, I'm worrying that he'll start waking for the dummy. Such a worry wart...

Having woken DS2 up to feed him, then I couldn't wake up DS1 - opened the curtains, stroked his face, called his name - nothing, so left him to sleep - finally woke after 8. He went to nursery late but rested!

Hi all,
Hope you are all well
I know its been such a long time since ive been on here. Its like theres not enough hours in the day anymore.

I wanted to ask does anyone have or know of anyone that after giving birth they have really painful wrists?
While I was pregnant I suffered from Odema in my hands I was told by my GP/MW that after baby was born it would go, the swelling has gone down but I have the most ridiculous pains in both my wrists this morning it took me 30mins to change my babys nappy! The pain was so bad I was crying my eyes out
No one seems to know what it is, Im going back to my Gp today to be reffered to the hospital. DD will be 8 weeks on sunday and my GP thought the pain was due to the pregnancy hormone still in my system, but would it take so long for the pain to go?.
Please if anyone has heard of this plse let me know Im so worried because I can barely look after my baby and my job involves typing if my hands get any worst I wont even beable to work.
I dont know who else to ask.
I know im not on here everyday but I would really appreciate any advice and knowledge if you have any.x

Oh Redz, that sounds awful. I don't know anything that would help - are you wearing support bandages? But we will be thinking of you on here...

redz - i would go back to see your GP if I were you.
Claire - well done on your 'sleeping through' I'd say that was pretty good going. I've got that book, so I might give it a try.
I am trying CC crying, we ended up doing it last night.
I have just taken him up for his nap and he went upstairs better, is crying now, but I am going to try and stick to my guns... it breaks my heart though

Compo - really sympathise re: bedtime fussing etc. and naps. My ds did that the night before last and last night - eventually crashing out around 10pm. re: naps he will nap really happily in his buggy (not car seat) indoors or out so I wil just use that instead of stressing over trying to put him in cot.

thanks to all who have responded to my rants/desperation! My ma is here for a couple of days so that is really helping - esp with dd needing time and attention after school. ds is such a joy during the day and does sleep for around 7hrs at night then sleep again before wakign at 7am so I guess I should not really be complaining. I jsut had a moment of panic and self doubt I guess. Also I had a painful inflamed blocked milk duct - ouch which prob added to my feeling down. Thankfully getting better esp since talking to La Leche League on phone who gave me sound advice and telephone hugs. I will read/post more later but off for Xmas shopping with my mum and ds now.

can I just say - I have taken DS1 upstairs for his nap and he went upstairs ok, said no when I put him in bed. I said 'it's bedtime now, see you in a little while' and walked out and shut the door, he yelled a bit, but then went all quiet after a few minutes - I so hope this is a breakthrough. It is ceratinly a vast improvement.

Cruisemum - blocked milk ducts are the pits, i've had them a couple of times and it's a killer! Hope it feels better x

Mabel, all fingers crossed for your DS's sleep. It does break your heart, but if it works after a few days it is worth it, you'll all be happier.

Cruisemum, I think you're doing a great job. Fight one battle at a time, worry about the cot later - at least he'll sleep somewhere!!!

sorry, another thing... re. blocked ducts, I had one a month ago (so painful!). I managed to get rid of it by feeding more on that side (but not too much or you get pain the other side!), putting warm flannels on the boob, hot baths, massaging it and trying to express quite a bit too, esp after feeds to make sure it's emptying out. You can also take ibuprofen while you're feeding according to my HV. If it's still painful and not getting any better, or if you start to feel shivery and fluey, you should go to the GP as you could get mastitis - but I hope not!

Thanks for the sympathy everyone Dd just had first injections and her 8 week check. She's now 11lb1oz !! Must be all the formula! She's on the 50th centile I think. She weed all over the doctor. Nurse also did my postanatal check - hardly anything to it!! They did weigh me though, goodness knows why. Sje asked if I was feeling irritable or tearful and I said no although last night when dd would't settle I did. Wonder what she would have done if I'd said yes!!

Hi ladies!

Well not been here for a while and seem to miss so much when i'm not here. Welcome all newbies and their lil'ones!

Have been addicted to ebay buying new bits and pieces for gifts. DP's niece wanted one of those hello kitty watches for christmas and in town they are £35 but looked on ebay and brand new from hong kong were £6.49- INCLUDING postage!!! It arrived today and doesn't look any different from the one in the shop. Very pleased with the bargain!

Both of mine have stinking colds- and Ben has been up most nights rattling with phlegm (lovely) and the DD has been waking coughing every two minutes! I am a very tired mummy...

Have re-taken my 'fetish' with Billie Joe Armstrong (yum) from greenday... lol... Well these night feeds, endless nappies etc... I need some escape Especially when you're pacing the floor with a crying, snuffly baby at 2am!

Prior to Ben's cold he did one night from being fed at 10:15pm (put down around 10:45pm) and wanted a feed at 5:30am!!! Yeah. Maybe when this cold goes he'll go back to that [fingers crossed emoticon]

Ok, so i know im new to this group but after readin so much about all the sleeping issues, i'm wondering if i've been doing this all wrong with my own DS from day 1!! ((im so confused, and obviously a very new parent, can ya tell??))

Am i supposed to have him on a sleeping & feeding routine? ((is it best?? what age do i start him?? and how the heck do i go about starting it without any drastic changes to his sleep and feeding now?))

sooo many questions, i know! its pretty much been the same since i came home from hospital: wakes to feed about 6-7am, sleeps til about 9-10am, then we're up for a little bit...feeds about every 2-3 hours. ((sometimes every hour!!! am i not making enough or is he just greedy??)) he sleeps throught the day in between feeds and at around 9-10PM, i start the 3 B's: bath, boob, bed..... sound normal??

Liquid ~ i just clicked the yahoo groups link and sent a request to join...are you the moderator?

i seem to have forgot to mention the waking during the night around 2-3am for feeding...

OH, and one more thing: anyones baby ever get irritable and screamy (red faced) when passing wind or fillling nappy?? i have to give ds a complete aerobic leg workout to help him.

seems to be such an issue almost 90% of the time that he passes anything! he's got regular yellows so not constipated. DH made a suggestion that maybe im not getting enough fibre in my diet and hence Fynn having the same problems... is that just a silly concept or what?? ((breaks my heart when he gets this way...The baby, not the husband! ha!))

thanks...

Thanks all, Liquid i will join the Yahoo group, thanks.
I went to the docs this morning have to go to the hosp tommorow for blood tests. It does'nt seem like anyone knows what it is. Im wearing support bandages on both wrists look like a boxer or a really sporty person (which I am not!)
There is a slight chance that the pregnancy could have caused arthritis but fingers crossed that is not the case.
Just to add I am besotted with dd even though she doesnt sleep at night AT ALL!! It is so lovely to watch her smile and laugh when I talk to her
Thanks for your support.x

Munkibaby, re, routines etc. do whatever you are happy with and whatever suits you and DS. I am a pretty routiney person, I like having my evening with DH with the children in bed, and with DS1 around it's easier to try and get F to fit in to DS1's routines a bit, just for an easier life. Also I like knowing when (ball-park anyway) I'll be doing what, so that I can plan ahead. It sounds like your LO is developing his own routine anyway. If you're happy, don't feel pressured at all. you'll find as many people here on MN who are anti-routine as people who are pro, and the only conclusion is that you just have to do whatever works for you.

On the wind front, F sometimes squeals in pain when doing a fart or poo, and we also do lots of leg cycling to help him along! i think it's quite normal!

Well I have 36 hours of messages to read so will have to come back later to do that but need to tell you that Lucy slept from 7.30pm to 6.30am last night! Then crashed out again at 8am and slept for an other 2 hours in her crib! Woohoo! Could have been a one off as she had her injections yesterday. Of course I was awake from 3am on and off feeling engorged and v uncomfortable!

wow Tassis, that's AMAZING!!!! What have you been feeding her (or rather, what have you been eating??!!). Hope it wasn't just the jabs...

tassis,I don't really think that you should tell us that!!! ......what's the secret?!!

Had Jack's imprints done today at John Lewis...like we did for DD. Can't believe how much bigger his hand is compared to DD at the same 8 week stage!!

Taking of CC, DS is fine but bloody hell DD is driving us to it again...arrghhhh.....just is so hard to settle at night at the moment - pretty much since J came home. DH has just gone upstairs to tell her enough is enough...trouble is she is such a daddy's girl I do wonder how strict he is with her when needed! It's so hard at times this parenthood malarky isn't it???

Oooh Tassis - now I am so of you!!! Lets hope it keeps up for you, Hope the engorgement isn't so bad for you in future so you can sleep more. I dropped the BF in the night (to speed it up) and within a few nights I wasn't quite so full in the morning.

Cori - good luck with DD (sometimes I am so pleased not to have a girl as I know DH would have found it harder to be quite as resolute as he is with DS!). We've done the imprints too - except I bought a pack of clay for £2.99 from the art shop (love the John Lewis ones but can't quite justify the price at the moment)

Munkibaby - Re routines - if you like them, use them, if you don't then don't! I think you 'know' if they'd be right for you - if you want to read up there's a few books out including 'the baby whisperer' that are a good place to start.

Redz - when you're in just email me a quick note so I know it's you and then I can send you some info.

Oh, Compo, I'm so sorry. If it helps from a male's perspective, DH just shook his head and rolled his eyes with a semi-angry look. Few jobs could be more stressful than DH?s, and he takes over DS1 entirely right after he gets home from work, so your DH has no right to complain ? well, I know that?s what he?s thinking ?

Liquid - This is exactly what Dr. said, after he told us just how to make our own AR with cereal: "Doctors will tell you it doesn't make a difference, but most Moms I know say it buys them an extra hour." I.e. - I think - it can't be proven but for anecdotal evidence, but he thinks it's worth doing.

Good going for your LO, Tassis!
Ours isn't quite as far along, but last night we did find our particular secret for getting ours to drop the midnight feeding!!
And it was so simple. Duh. You'd think an engineer & an MBA . ..
Munkibaby, if we'd had a daytime routine, we would've caught this earlier. Yesterday we noticed Jameson's "night" has been between 5pm and 3am. He'd wake around 7pm for a feeding; then DH would wake him at 11pm for a feeding and put him upstairs next to my sleeping self ... who would be awakened at 3am for a feeding, then again at 6am.

We decided to purposely keep James awake between 5pm and 8pm or so. Took him to the gym around 5pm yesterday. As planned, he wasn't able to sleep being hustled around between 5pm & 7pm, but we didn't have to deal with his being too fussy b/c he was distracted. So he stayed awake until 8:30pm. And slept 'til 5:30am! That's the duh simple secret for us. We'll be doing it from now on! We'll keep him up a bit later tonight to see if he'll sleep 'til 6.

Setting up all the Christmas things this weekend! DS1 so excited to decorate the tree & we have tons of luminarias for outside - they're a New Mexico thing; lit candles in sand in paper bags, traditionally, but ours are electric - they are so beautiful on snow. PILs coming next Thursday for Thanksgiving, and that's when we'll be doing our Christmas with them.

Running a 5K this weekend too!

I just received this link to a 4-minute video regarding booster seat vs. carseat/5-point harness for older children. I am not sure whether it applies in the UK, but thought I'd pass it on; am glad I was able to see it. (DS1 is still in a traditional carseat, as he's only 31 pounds.) video