September 2006 Babies - growing in front of our eyes!

[Lysettes]

New thread everyone!

compo - we are really soft with jacob - he basically falls asleep in our arms (rod for our own back and all that!). I leave him for up to 45 mins when he is just fussing in the middle of the night after his feeds, but i do find it really hard to leave him if he is crying!

liquid - you poor thing - I have had the same sort of thing and it turned out that he had managed to bend one of his very soft fingernails back! totally agree it can be something that you can't spot that can make them cry - poor little things!

on the subject of dh/dp's - although i do rant about mine a lot, i feel really guilty as he does work ludicrous hours (leaves home at 730 gets back at around 1030) in a very pressurised job, so that i don't have to go back to work (which i will be eternally grateful for!)

Wow Lysettes - don't know how you cope with your dh working such long hours!!
Well dd finally went to sleep at 10pm after more milk. And then woke up at 7.30am so I guess I shouldn't complain. I think I get a bit hung up on the fact that now she is on formula after she's had a bottle I think she can't be hungry. It says on the tin 5 bottles in 24 hours but she's having more like 6. Ds was the same at this age though so I suppose I should just chill out and just resign my fact that we won't have our evenings for a little while longer. Dh is out most of this weekend though so I'll have to grit my teeth and get on with the 2 of them Does anyone else still feel a bit tearful and down at times? I'm hoping it's not a sign of anything other than the blues....

Compo - Don't worry, I had a good old cry last night. I'm sure that the tiredness doesn't help. Feeling that way every now and again is perfectly normal. If it was becoming more regular or if it was a constant feeling it might be worth seeing the GP. I know that PND can strike up to six months after the birth and its best to go to the docs and nip it in the bud quickly. Being a new mum is really difficult, I think!

Compo - hope you are feeling ok.
I am sat here listening to DS1 screaming the house down , while I try and get him to nap
It is truly awful. Last night he went up to bed ok -ish, but woke up screaming when I went to bed at 10pm. DH decided (in his wisdom) to take him downstairs. I woke up at 12.20am and realised DH wasn't in bed. So went downstairs, where I found DS wide awake and DH fast asleep on the sofa. I woke him up, but couldn't face doing controlled crying at that time of the morning, so DH ended up sleeping in DS's room on the sofa bed, so we seem to have now taken three steps backwards. It's really getting to me now.
On a positive note I booked our holiday cottage yesterday, so at least we have something to look forward to.
I have got to take DS2 for his 1st injections this afternoon, after they decided against doing them last time, and am popping in to 'pre-school playgroup' with DS1 for a trial, as he will start there after xmas.
Don't believe it - the Bl**dy postman has just banged on the door, just as DS's cries were subsiding...... arggghhhhhh!

Thanks Bristols and Mabel I'm not a first time mum though so should know better
Mabel - how old is your ds? Hopw he eventually went down for his nap. Also hope the injections give you a good night tonight! grr at your dh bringing ds downstairs.

compo, I think we all feel like that sometimes. It does get on top of you at times, usually when the baby is crying and you can't work out what to do, I find... Sometimes that over tired crying can take ages to settle - Baby Whisperer reckons it can take 20 mins...

Mabel, your DS must be so tired after being awake all that time in the night. Must say I do think that going downstairs can be a big mistake.. esp if you fall asleep on the sofa and toddler is wide awake!!!

Fraser slept last night from 11.30 to 7.02 without a peep! Although he was in his car seat, as we had a terrible time trying to settle him down last evening as he was really windy (culprit was cauliflower I think) - he'd settle for 1/2 an hour then cry again. Hope he doesn't do it tonight, as we have a friend babysitting so we can go out!

Still having trouble getting him to sleep for more than 45 mins at a time in the daytime... Oh well, can't have it all.

Ds didn't go to sleep - after nearly an hour of him screaming and me starting to get very teary and a call to DH wailing 'i don't know what to do' he came downstairs with me. So I am not taking him to pre-school this afternoon now... he will only get irritable. I am going to speak to the HV at the clinic this afternoon about his sleeping. I am dreading it though, as last time we went it was for DS1's pneumococcal, and even though it's DS2's injection this time I know he will remember and kick up a fuss.....

Hi Liquid, Havent managed to get onto yahoo yet did have an old account but cant remember my log in name or password! Will try to open a new one today. And request to join.
Didnt get to have my blood tests yesterday woke up and subconciously went to the fridge and had a big glass of orange juice so not allowed as its suppose to be a fasting blood test so have to go back on monday.
The doc gave me some really strong pain killers they are helping slightly but the side effects are horrible.
Im am going to do the yahoo thing right now before dd wakes up.

ok Ive done the request now. My yahoo id is Chikaukwunnah.x

Hi Compo, Know im really late but was just reading through some of your posts, and you mention about you and dp getting irritable with each other.
My dp and I were at each others throats a few weeks ago I felt like I couldve killed him and im sure the feeling was mutual. Its amazing what lack of sleep can do to you ive never experienced anything like it! We made a promise to each other that once a week we would go out just me and him whether its to the cinema or dinner and its worked we're so much closer. We get to have a conversation for a change which doesnt involve "pass the bib!" "she needs changing!" etc etc. It can be hard getting a baby sitter but I beg and beg after all its only for a few hours and they can give them back. Hope everything works out for you

Good grief! a couple of days away from MN and so much to catch up on! . We all seem to be at the same stage of nightime routines though. ie they are doing the same thing night after night. Dominic has a definite pattern now - though it does need refining a little........ He no longer has a fussy time in the evening cos as soon as i see it coming I put give him his bath, feed him and put him im his gro-bag (am loving the gro-bags). Then...... - we have about 2 hrs - sometimes more - of feeding, sucking, dozing, bobbing about, feeding, sucking and on and on and on. This is interspresed with attempts to put him in his cot (always wakes up after 5 - 10 mins) till 10pm when he gives up and stays asleep till 5am, feeds, sleeps again till 7ish. I guess really he sleeps from around 8 - 7 apart from the occasional fussing and the fact that not all of this sleep is in hs cot. Anyone else having trouble putting baby down in their cot? Any tips? Daytimes are settling down too . There are two definite naps and one that sometimes happens per day. I guess it could all change soon enough but at least we know they can do it

Oh Compo and Mabel! to you both. It is so much harder with two, isn't it? Mabel, do you think it's because ours are just that bit younger? I wish I'd waited until DS was 2.5 or 3 before doing it again as I feel he would have coped so much better. I'm ashamed to admit that I feel that my relationship with DS has suffered since having DD and my relationship with her isn't what it was with DS at the same age.

Bloody hell, I've just typed that last part with tears streaming down my face. Wish I wasn't so crap at this.

hi
i'm new,
i have baby girl, Zara Kathryn born 16 Sept, 6lb 13oz, now 10lbs.
Homemamma, don't be sad, you're a great mum.

compo mabel and homemama {{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}} you poor things!

talking of being at each others throats..... dh announced last night that he is concerned that we are drifting apart - at midninght when he got in drunk from a work dinner!!!!! you can imagine my response, although i did manage to hold my tongue somewhat!

isn't the weather crap????? it's raining and hailing here now, and is pitch black like it's 8pm! roll on spring and summer i say - we can all enjoy this one without swollen feet

oh and forgot to say how envious i am that you are getting longer nights sleep - we now feed at 630, 11, 330 and then 630/7, so still getting up so much!

Homemama, don't be so hard on yourself! It's jolly hard second time around with a toddler in tow...no-one can really prepare you - but it will be OK in the end, honestly it will. DD has been a nightmare since Jack was born...however I think we're turning a tide...when I picked her up at nursery today she came running over to me for a big cuddle...she hasn't done that since the summer!! I also feel guilty about the way I feel with Jack...i.e much better & much closer with him at this stage than I was with DD....(many reasons which we've all discussed before!). I think it's probably quite normal...having said that I do so much miss the time I had with DD....I wish I could have some of that again..a bit difficult given the constand breast feeding.........I keep on telling myself that I don't remember anything from when I was two...so am sure our toddlers will not be scared in anyway!!!!!!!!

Princesscarrie, our babies share the same birthday!!

Redz - you're approved on yahoo. will be in touch re hands - bit busy over next few days though but don't want you to think I forgot or anything.

Have good weekends everyone!

Welcome, princesscarrie!

so dh asks if he can go over to his mates for a few hours.... i knew he kinda felt uncomfy cos he never has to ask, hes an adult! i didnt say no...but i did let him know how i really felt.

then he dared to say that im going to be asleep in a couple hours anyways! so he's gone out while im awake and will be back just as im n bed! grrrr

i need a cocktail! with a big paper umbrella stickin out.
ok ok ok im done ranting. thanx for listening/reading.

Homemama - I remember my sister was at wits' end with a (DS) toddler and a (DD) baby. Now they are so close, love each other so much. And their #3 is due in December! When she visited me she would just break down. I have never seen anything like that with her before or since.

Well... our Secret only worked for one night ... oops ... still pretty sleep-deprived here. I have def. had teary moments lately, and I'm on an anti-depressant, so ... def. normal, I imagine.

DH asked it I'm up to 5K tomorrow, but I am. Might as well; it's either that or the gym. My collarbones are beginning to come back, and losing an average of a pound a week, so no quitting now.

Huge hugs to compo, mabel and homemama! I think the weeks of sleep deprivation can turn a normally sane and organised individual into an emotional mess quite easily - dps/dhs don't always help this process. I had to sit mine down a couple of weeks ago and spell out that I would cope far better if he could help with the night feeds more - it has saved us from real bad feelings and I feel much better too.
I have given up bf totally now - I was doing a combination of bf and formula. Got to say life is a heck of a lot simpler now and LO seems happy enough so I let go of any guilt on that one.
Had a great massage today and it was needed!
Re the amount of formula Alex gets through, he takes 7 or 8 feeds of 6oz or a bit less over a 24 hour period. Roughly feeding every 3 hours still and occaisionally extending the odd hour in the night. I can't wait till he can sleep longer....

Will catch up on the posts now... many hugs to all of you

Hello all. Remember me?
I firstly must apologise for not congratulating everyone vut life with 3 little ones (mine are 5, 19 months and 12 weeks now) is rather bust to say the leats and with DP away every week i don't have time to have a wee let alone Mumsnet!

So a huge belated CONGRATULATIONS to one and all
Am gutted that i have forgotten my password to see all these pics so am off to try and remember. I really want to see all your babies and show you Elliot who is an adorable smiley chunk!
Am currently in a state of constant angst over vaccines. He is yet to recieve any.
Any other worriers?

Oh my god 2 children are hard work! I keep promising I'm back and then not making it online for 2 weeks! DD is beautiful but refusing to gain weight bless her, is only 8lbs 3oz. Keep looking after those lo and I really will catch up soon!

Off to my parents again as DH off to Dubai for a week (!). To give you all hope, F has slept from 11 - gone 7 for 4 nights now!!!

I've got an interesting little thing for all of you to watch a snippet of. My best friend in california sent me this info the other day about a guest that was on the Oprah Winfrey show. Apparently, this woman has sussed out baby talk, and what they are really asking for. This only applies to babies from 0-3 months as she says the sounds of the requests change after that. its very interesting and i believe her to be spot on with a few of them, if not all. here's the link below...read a little about this woman then click on "Listen to the secret language of babies"....
((i had to listen twice+ to recognize fully.)

www.oprah.com/tows/slide/200611/20061113/slide_20061113_350_102.jhtml

wait... i just tested the link i posted and its sending me to an oprah error page.

its worth having a see so let me find another way to get you all there...