February 2015..and so the fun continues...

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I'd like two. I'm an only child and it was really lonely growing up. But then a rough pregnancy and traumatic birth has left me a little tentative.

Same . I'm very close to my DB and would love my dd to have a sibling but feeling quite traumatized by the birth still and can't imagine doing that again in a hurry! I organized a private women's physio to see me today though and feel much better that I have a plan re exercise and massage to get everything back to normal down there. Shocking what women are meant to put up with bc they've given birth when it's (hopefully !) fixable with intervention!

honey I got pregnant at 37 (we had been trying for a month), had DD at 38 and after the horrible labour/birth experience and ongoing PND I genuinely thought it would be impossible for me to have a second one. A year later we decided to go for the second one. The problem was that I wasn't there neither mentally nor physically and it took us one mc and another couple of years to get the results from the consultant that my chances of conceiving were only 5% and only via IVF...That day I was devastated, told OH to get rid of all baby stuff (luckily we didn't), stopped taking antenatal vitamins, started having a couple of alcohol units more during the week (I had cut down coffee and alcohol to get pregnant) and decided to take it easy and look after myself more (booked appointment to have my hair done a month later -chemicals on my scalp- and arranged to have laser done -laser is not allowed if you're pregnant). That day was the day of my last period! :) I had lo a month after my 43rd birthday and after this labour experience (and taking into consideration my age of course) I can say we're officially done. If I wasn't giving birth, I would have loved to have 3 (provided that I didn't have 2 boys to start with), but I'm the one who has to endure pregnancy, hormones, labour, body recovery, so I say that's it.
Sorry for the long message!

I'd like 2, though won't be having my next one too soon. I'm an only child and DH only has 1 brother who won't be having children ( he has LD) so I feel like I need to have a sibling for DS. My cousins are only children too, so we were surrogate siblings to each other growing up but aren't close now and I remember how lonely it can be at times (although there were positives too).
I thought once I had one it would make a second pregnancy easier, but actually it makes me more apprehensive as even though the birth wasn't that traumatic (aside from the induction) I was quite naive about it all and everything that could potentially go wrong. Give it time I suppose!
Surprisingly, DH was always the broody one but he said he would be happy with one now though still wants another eventually.

Peppermint this was my concern this time. With ds1 I went in saying what ever happens happens, this time as it neared I was fearful of needing a section and having to cope alone with 2 and all the other thngs that can go wrong. I actually pcked ds off with 5 days of clothes and uniform but he only needed one luckily. I should have stayed in but discharged myself as I just wanted to get home to ds1.

I have a day in the house apart from having my brows done at 12, done 2 loads of laundry, need to tidy downstairs and do floors, remake beds, clean bathroom and iron......lets see how much LO lets me do

I think I'll be back to work in August so that's about 6 months off. I wish it was longer but needs must. I wasn't in my job long enough for SMP or their generous enhanced maternity so I only get mat allowance and didn't want to take too long a time seeing as I'd only started. I didn't think I'd like being off tbh so I'm surprised how much I enjoy it, it's so depressing when everyone call it 'only 6 months' when they ask how long I'm off as most seem to take longer as standard.

Memphis there were so many things I just didn't think/know to worry about, "ignorance is bliss" I suppose!

Im so besotted with DS but part of me would also love a wee girl. Im almost 37 so Im thinking 2 for now!

We are stopping at 2. I feel like my kids really enrich my life far more than I've had to give up but if we had another the extra pressure that would put on financially and the sacrifices it would entail in terms of travel and career choices and getting more of my social life back just wouldn't be worth it for me.

Hi Everyone,

I'd also love to join in if I may - I'm a FTM with a ten week old DS, born 6 Feb. Hes a gorgeous boy, but a massive fighter of sleep and lover of the boob. He is feeding every hour and a half overnight, and I know he can go much longer than this, as he feeds 3-hourly in the day and also goes for anything from 3-5hours at the start of the night (he goes to bed at 7pm, though it'll take up to 8pm to get him settled). Is anyone else having this problem? The lack of sleep overnight is killing me!

Hi Mrsgtw2, and welcome, our LO's are birth buddies, 6th Feb for my delightful bundle of joy pain in the arse!
Mine also generally went 3 hours or so between feeds. We even started going 5 or even 6 at night and thus requiring only 1 night feed. Except now he cluster feeds from teatime until 11ish and then requires 2 night feeds, generally 1.30 and 4.30 before commencing a morning cluster feed about 6.30. Grrrr. We've literally gone backwards. Not that I'm pissed off or anything!! But it's almost 2am and I want sleep [stamps feet toddler tantrum style]

It must be something in the date Geeky - it's not even 3am and I'm awake for my third feed of the night so far. I try stretching out the feeds as much as possible, but he makes so much noise that I'm lying there awake when he does that anyway, so I think I may as well feed him and then I can actually get some sleep. Does it ever get any better??

Hi all, I'm new to this group and was just after other people's opinions on bedtime for a 10wo. Do people have a set bedtime routine already and if so what eg times and feed to sleep or awake in to cot etc. iv been trying with a routine and getting dd to bed about 7:30/8 but only a couple times has she gone straight to sleep from this, we have had to go in a couple times to reinsert dummy or cuddle. She is normally asleep by 9 though (touch wood!) so wondering if I'm being too early? I just want her to have a good bedtime routine and worried about it not working if u don't start it early?

I think he sensed my frustration Mrsgtw2 as he slept 2.30-5.30 I've just put him back down and I'm hoping for some more kip. It does get better (everyone says!), mine just won't settle into a regular pattern. I really don't think hubby's shifts help, LO is kinda awake again as all the movement of OH going out to work seems to have disturbed him Tomorrow is another day, and night

Welcome gemsie. I think others are better at the routine malarkey than us! My LO was 10 weeks yesterday. When OH is on earlies we start bath etc around 7 ish but we're early days on attempting routine and his shift pattern does not help

Hi to the newbies!
We are back to 1.5 hours between feeds overnight.... He is definitely feeding more at night than in the day, don't hold out much hope of this improving anytime soon! DD is also sick & keeps waking even though she has come into our bed & screaming she needs cuddles.
Am doing LO's bedtime wash etc with DD's so he is a routine of this happening at 7 but doesn't go down for the night then. We take him downstairs but keep lights low & he feeds & dozes until he comes to bed with me. this is about 9-9:30 at the mo as I am so tired!

We do bath at 6.15 with big sister. Then upstairs to bed just after 7 once dd is in bed. LO feeds and then goes down in cot and falls asleep between 7.30 and 8. I really didn't expect him to be going down this early at this age but he is exhausted by then.
How are other babies doing with head control? LO is 10 weeks and although can lift his head when on his tummy he doesn't do it very often. He also lets his head flop back when pulling him up by his hands but again can keep his head in line at times. The gp said to go back at 12 weeks if no improvement and I am now starting to get a wee bit concerned.

We do bath at 7.15 and then lo is in bed most nights by 8.
Emmie we're 11 weeks today and head control is about the same as yours. We've been referred to a physio as he prefers to look left all the time and is getting a slight flat head. He can look right but most of the time you have to physically turn his head that way but within seconds it springs back.

Gosh these little ones are a test! Nearly all the babies from my NCT group are sleeping pretty long stretches (by that I mean 3 hours + which is long to me at the moment!) so it's just me who's still up every hour and a half. Good to know I'm not the only one. To be fair, mine is the youngest so I've still got a couple of weeks to go before I have to start really tearing my hair out!

I know that the issue is that my ds is not taking enough food in the day - he's become completely disinterested in food as he's so interested to know what's going on around him - but you can't force a baby to feed, so I'm not sure what the solution is?!

To top it all off, mine has also started refusing a bottle suddenly, so I'm also now freaking out that this means absolutely no freedom for me for the next however many months. Give me strength...

Yikes!! Donkir and Emma, my LO is 9 weeks and doesn't lift her head at all when on her tummy. I've not tried pulling her hands up but I doubt she can. I'm now a bit worried. When should they be able to? She keeps her head pretty straight when she's on my shoulder but that's it (still faces backwards on the sling though). When should I get physio/dr involved? Generally she's a happy little soul...

I think maybe my daughter was very quick to do these things. She screamed all the time so that probably helped strengthen her muscles! The GP didn't seem very concerned at his 8 week appt so maybe I should just relax about it. I'm not sure when it does become a big concern Mimosa. We have our next set of vaccines on a couple of weeks so will ask then.

Thingsarelookingup your post could have been written by me, my kids make my life so much better but a third would mean giving up work, which would mean less treats and nights out. It would also mean we wouldn't be able to go away as a couple as I couldnt expect mum to have 3 kids for us. I Need me time to keep me sane

Thanks, Emmie. I will keep an eye on it! Went to the doc earlier on the week as was concerned about LO's hearing - she doesn't react to noise or turn her head towards my voice - but doc didn't seem concerned yet. She will refer in the next couple of months of no improvement. The worry never really stops though, does it? If not one thing then another!

Lo doesn't turn towards my voice either, only this week he has started jumping at loud noise, did your lo have the hearing test at birth?

Well lo must sense when his daddy and brother arent here this is thr third time we have been gome just us and he is really unsettled, he doesn't cry just wide awake