November 2014 - The one where we figure it all out... Or at least try.

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Couldn't see another thread ladies! Crap title I know but I couldn't think of anything else!

Thisis how on earth did you manage to put the nappy in the wash!

Mine eats that often too Strawberry. It's totally normal and if she's doing a 6 hour stretch at night that is proof she's getting enough. Breastfed babies do feed more frequently than ff, it's normal and nothing to do with you being some weirdo who hasn't got enough fat in their milk

Wish dd would do a 6 hour stretch SIGH!

Greenstone once your DD will have double chin and cheeks one can see from behind (our DD at the moment), she should do 6 hours

Omama I actually have decided to take DD to ensuite bathroom (only space without windows in our house) with lights off for feed and only if it does not work give her a bottle. Up to now the score is DD 1: ME 0
getting ready to express

After a week or so of a million 6 to 10 wake ups a night last night we went back to 3. Included an hour at 5.30 but that's still an improvement.

I'm also having to feed every 1.5 - 2 hours and have had a few suggestions of formula - I disagree anyway but seeing as she won't take a bottle its an irrelevant suggestion.

This newly learned high pitched screeching is driving me mad! Plus I can't tell what kind of cry it is, it's generic for feed me, I'm tired and where are you?

DH has gone back to work, first full day today after 6 weeks off after his operation. DD1 is vomiting, she can't even keep down water. DD2 is ok, just crying a lot because I keep putting her down to sort DD1 out :(

lady vague progress. Good stuff. Bottle refuser here too. A very good excuse for why I don't give him formula.

happy that sounds really tough.

My mum has just left after staying for 5 days. I miss her, and her constant cooking, cleaning and gardening, but it is lovely to have an afternoon curled up with DS on the sofa with netflix.

Have they started to add some drugs into the baby jabs? Have the most fabulous baby after the vaccination. She slept 2 hours afterwards, woke up and since then has been all smiles and cheers. Has been playing on the mat for an hour, laughing at me eating and waching TV all amused. Haven't seen her like this for so long period of time. Comes handy as I am on my own with her tonight.
I hope it all doesn't turn into something bad later on...

I think the legend about FF babies sleeping through is another marketing trick just like a regular milk and milk for hungrier babies.

My EBF DD is also feeding often still - she occasionally goes up to 3 hours but only if she's ultra distracted by being out and about. Otherwise it's roughly every 2 hours. She's only on the 9th centile for weight but think that's just how she is, long and thin! Still lactose free here so no chance I'm putting her on formula as it's ridiculously expensive. Plus her poos are revolting enough already, I can't face the thought of formula pooiness as well!

Anna, really feel for you Glad you've got some relief now, hope you can catch up on a bit of sleep to help keep your strength up at such a hard, hard time.

They should give babies in sleep regression to prisoners of war. Its torturous.

Kellymom says its down to needing extra brain food for the growth spurt coupled with being super distracted during the day so using night time to get that extra food. The advice is to tank up by doing day feeds in a dark room with no phone/tv/sound. Not entirely practical but does fit in with babydolly preferring to be laid down in the bedroom for feeds.

Contrary to this is the advice to try and settle her without feeding every ither wake up and then using the pupd to get her used to settling herself.

I'm worrying about getting her out of my bed into cot, I feel like we're further from that step. We're moving soon and in the new house she'll be on a different floor, I can't run up and down stairs 10 times a night. Although might help shift the last few pregnancy pounds...

Any pearls of wisdom? other than to tell me pow jokes are very un-pc.

No words of wisdom but I read somewhere that you should do whatever you need to do in order to get through the regression and worry about the sleep cues etc at 6 months!

We were treated to an hour long demonstration of how to blow the slobberiest raspberries from 2-3 am. It was actually so funny that I couldn't get annoyed!

Ufff it's tough isn't it lady.

I can't wait to turf dd2 out into her big cot/own room. The little darling is now mostly in our bed. I'm getting more sleep tbh but I don't feel good about it, I just want own space for a few hours at night after 9 months of pregnancy and nearly 5 months of breastfeeding/general carting around of baby all day. She is pretty cute to wake up to though...

The other day we had a great moment - dh was off work so a lazy family day. Just about to eat brunch and I fed dd and put her into her pram ...and she immediately settled straight to sleep, no dummy, no rocking required, and did an hour and a half. Progress!

Anna. Hope you are all ok.

Hi All, he's been asleep since Monday. He's on a syringe driver 24/7. Despite this, there's still some breakthrough now and again and we have to top him up. He woke up suddenly earlier in a panic, but unable to speak or see. Just rigid and spasming. So we just kept kissing him and reassuring him and threw a ton of meds into him. Still took him 45 minutes to stop shaking and go back to sleep. That was upsetting. My mother is in bits. Can't believe he's still here. I wish his waiting was over. Poor man. We just want to keep him under now, so he doesn't get a fright again.

Baby is waking up too bloody often. We thought it was cos his head was rubbing against the top of the Moses basket so we brought down the crib yesterday but he woke up just as much last night. So I'm on about two hours sleep every day. He's in sparkling form during the day though, and delighting everyone with tons of gummy smiles and charm. Everyone is saying how good it is to have him. He's the only thing that cheers up my Mum. And I'm getting lots of baby cuddles.

Thinking of you. Your dad must be so proud of you x

Big hugs Anna. I watched my dad go from cancer and it was tough beyond words. You are all amazing. Xxx

No words of advice just huge hugs for you. I think your whole family is just amazing. I hope he stays peaceful now xxx

So sorry Anna. Hang in there.

anna Its weirdly heartwarming to hear how your family have pulled together and really put your dad first in an incredibly difficult time. Even the littlest member of the family doing their smiley bit to help. We're all thinking of you. xx

Thinking of you Annarose2014
You're an amazing daughter and mum.

Thanks a mill guys. I'm afraid I'm a bit of a thread-killer though!

Quick, back to babies! What highchair should I get??!

Thinking of you anna

I have only heard great things about the £13 ikea highchair so I am planning on getting that. If he grows out if it quickly at least it was cheap!

We have had some progress nap wise-put him in his cot bed on Monday morning while I had a shower and to my surprise he was asleep when I got out and slept for 2 hours! He has put himself to sleep twice more for a morning nap since then and once at night. Long may it continue!

anna I will join others about how amazing you are, also makes realise that whatever issues I might have at the moment, it is all nonsense really.

I bought this one, like the idea that it can also be used as a table and chair later for DD to play, draw and do all sorts of creative stuff. It is proper wood, no plastico-fantastico, and feels good make. Very easy to put together, did it myself while DD was asleep:
www.amazon.co.uk/East-Coast-Combination-Highchair-Wood/dp/B002LAQZV0/ref=sr_1_13?s=baby&ie=UTF8&qid=1426791869&sr=1-13&keywords=highchair

Thinking of you Anna. This part is so very tough so hang in there. Glad baby is doing his bit to keep you smiling.

Re high chair, we have ds's old one which is a cosatto. Its lovely as you can use from 4 months (has an insert & tips back) so we can sit dd at the table to watch us eat. But in all seriousness, if I was buying again I'd get an ikea antilop. £10 & wipe clean. Its all you need

I've been reading your updates with such admiration for how you and your family have handled the situation anna. I can't imagine what it's like but wish you all the best smiley baby time possible to help through the dark.

High chair wise ds1 has the stokke trip trap and it's worth every penny. He's had it since he was big enough to sit in it, and still uses it now as we've just taken the front bar off. Also due to the design now he's two he can climb up on his own, so doesn't need to be lifted onto a chair booster etc. Fully intend to buy another for A!

anna thinking of you and all your family. Hope that your dad can be peaceful now.

Re highchairs: we have the ikea antilop. We got it for DD1 and have just got it out the attic to clean for DD2. Really recommend it - great price, easy to clean, DD1 didn't grow out of it until she was ready to sit at the table. DD2 isn't ready for food yet, but I hope that she will happily sit in it while we eat so I can eat with 2 hands rather having to hold her or listen to her cry.

Re occasional breakthroughs in napping/ self-settling: yesterday I put DD down on my bed while I got dressed and she fell asleep by herself and stayed asleep while I went downstairs and did a fairly large jigsaw with DD1. She was just waking up full of smiles when I went back up to check on her. Also, the other night I got out of bed in the middle of the night (because DD1 is scared of the dark now), and she didn't even notice. Usually, if I move so I'm not actually touching a large part of her, she does a startled starfish thing and wakes up and cries. She seemed to spread out while I was gone though so there was hardly any room left when I came back. I would also like her in a cot so I can have space, both literally room to sleep comfortably and personal space not physically in contact with another person 24hrs a day. I would maybe also miss her a bit though. Getting the highchair out for her I realised she is not a tiny baby anymore and growing up too fast. I feel like I blinked and the tiny baby phase was gone.

Its been about couple of weeks we only have to put DD in the cot for the night and she falls asleep, so I think its safe to say out load without jinksing. With day naps its bit more complicated but rocking isnt needed either, more about rubbing her forehead or covering face with hand.

We were given a wooden highchair by friends but I think it is going to be too big for him to start with. A trip to ikea may be in order. x