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October 2014.. Thread 7.. Teeth, tantrums & tickles

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STIGZ · 05/02/2015 10:46

Hope this works ?Hmm

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splendide · 27/02/2015 17:21

It's both Fate. I tried dummy and chair he's not having it. He sleeps in car, pram, sling or on me. He'll sleep in for but I seem to have to put him in asleep. I guess I'll just keep trying to put down awake and hopefully he'll get it.

splendide · 27/02/2015 17:21

Oh yes and pram he will sleep in Greenstone but tends to wake as soon as we're home!

FATEdestiny · 27/02/2015 18:10

I'm finding the return of the swaddle is helping with the transition into cot during the daytime. I've not swaddled since 6 weeks old and I don't expect it to stay, but has helped with the move.

splendide · 27/02/2015 18:44

I've been tempted to swaddle as he rubs his face which wakes him up. One to try, thanks!

MundayCakes85 · 27/02/2015 19:26

I have a problem with wayward arms smacking her in the face/ knocking dummy out/ poking her in the eye.
This makes her very angry!
Never mind, I keep telling myself it's all a phase...

Kirstipops · 27/02/2015 22:59

Evening everyone, I hope you're having peaceful nights of sleeping babies! How are your weekends shaping up? I have nada plans so far, DH is working and H is at the tail end of her cold, I'm at the beginning of it. She has a cough still but is otherwise happy enough - would it be rubbish and selfish of me to take her out tomorrow and sit in a coffee shop or something?

Igottastartthinkingbee · 28/02/2015 05:15

Those of you with nighttime chatterers, what do you do? Ignore? Feed? Engage in conversation???? The last 3 nights she's woke at 4 - 5am and is so LOUD!!

tattyblue · 28/02/2015 07:50

kirsti not selfish- we do that lots of days and Ada loves it. She gets to stare at people, she quite likes ambient chatter andthe noise of coffee machines... Wrap yourselves up warm and go and find coffee, I say.

We're going to stay with MIL. I want to see her, and I'm fond of her, but sleep is so crap at the moment that I don't feel like I've got anything in reserve. Also, I know there's a bit of her which thinks I've brought it on myself (even though Ada was sleeping quite well for a while) by using a sling instead of a pram and keeping her in our room still at the grand old age of four and a half months.

We had another lot of wake ups last night. Poor baby does her best to get back to sleep on her own- I quite often wake and she's sucking her fingers and then going quiet and then sucking her fingers, but she can't quite do it and after ten minutes or so she gives up and cries. So there isn't really that much I can think of to do.

The thing is, maybe it is my fault. But aside from the currently crappy sleep I've got a baby who is basically cheerful and friendly, so when I think back over things at four in the sodding morning I don't think there's anything major I would have done differently- lots of little things, sure, but nothing massive, style-wise. So although I'd love to get some uninterrupted zees thems the breaks, I guess. And MIL should be more sympathetic given that DP apparently didn't sleep through till he was three and a half.

tattyblue · 28/02/2015 10:07

I don't mean I think I've done everything right, by the way. I just mean that given how I am, I'm not sure I would have done different wrong things.

Kirstipops · 28/02/2015 10:09

Thanks Tatty, just wondered if I'd get the evil eye for rocking up to public establishment, both of us coughing in stereo. I've woken up feeling like a bag of shite so I'm not sure I'm up for venturing out anywaySad
And it is most definitely not your "fault" re: sleeping, sleep will come. There's so much advice out there but I'm realising it often amounts to feck all as all babies are different!

Bee re: loud chattering baby - I just put white noise on and let the chattering continue, I don't chat or pick her up. H was like this for a few nights a couple of weeks ago and eventually she either knackered herself out and fell asleep herself or else got grumpy and cried at which point I'd then pick her up and feed her to sleep!

splendide · 28/02/2015 10:26

I ignore chattering for about 5/10 minutes then if it continues I put dummy in which seems to send him back off.

Igottastartthinkingbee · 28/02/2015 10:59

Thanks splendide and kirstie, I ignored her for 10 minutes but she just got more and more chatty. Good to know its not just me with a chatterbox! I picked her up (cue enormous grin from DD! Hi Mum!!) and she fed to sleep really quickly.

FATEdestiny · 28/02/2015 11:06

First sign of noise or movement here has me leaning an arm over and putting the dummy in. Night time is for sleeping, thank you very much DD!

Igottastartthinkingbee · 28/02/2015 11:10

Not using a dummy at night (or in the day much either). She's only done it the last few nights so hopefully its a phase that'll pass. I vaguely remember DS doing it But it was easier to ignore as he was in his own room by then. Another couple of weeks and DD will be in her own room (we're moving!) too. Maybe that'll sort it.

Kirstipops · 28/02/2015 11:21

Oh yes I forgot I try the dummy too, she just always spits it out when she's "talking" hehe.

Igottastartthinkingbee · 28/02/2015 11:23

It's very cute all this chatter isn't it! Just errrr no so cute in the middle of the night.

Kirstipops · 28/02/2015 11:59

Yeah DH and I have had to stifle our laughter a few times!

splendide · 28/02/2015 13:04

It is cute, he's started doing a noise that sounds exactly like "oh dear".

Kirstipops · 28/02/2015 14:35

Aww! Heidi's latest murmur sounds like a "hiya" hehe.

Twistedheartache · 28/02/2015 16:17

As long as chattering is of a happy nature I try to ignore for 10 mins then rock the crib a couple of times then ignore for another 10 minsome. She only does it after a middle of the night feed & tends to go back off after about 15-20 mins. Too loud to sleep through though!

splendide · 28/02/2015 17:35

Hmmm. I've just been to the theatre leaving DH with the baby. Apparently he didn't nap at all, I think it went quite badly. That's the last time I'll do that then I guess. :( :(

Igottastartthinkingbee · 28/02/2015 21:15

Oh dear splendide were you able to relax at all? I'm sure you will have time to yourself again, as soon as baby is on solids it gives your DH another weapon in his armoury! Rice cakes, raisins and yoghurt are wonderful things for entertaining potentially grumpy babies!! So I know that's a while off yet (a month or so?) but we're over the worst if the dependant baby bit I think. He'll also need a bit less sleep as time goes on so he won't be so reliant on strict nap times (or there will become a definite regular pattern eg short morning nap followed by longer nap early afternoon that happen pretty easily).

A friend of mine (with three children) once said to me "make sure you leave your DH with the baby for at least a few hours at least once a month. They will both be fine, you need the break and he needs to have a taste of what you deal with every day!". Good advice I thought.

Oh and the other advice I was given about parenting was that you only have to be good enough. Not perfect!! Which is a bloody good job really....

ohthegoats · 28/02/2015 22:02

Yeah but splendide, he's got to learn how to do stuff too. I don't feel too bad when things don't go well when I leave boyfriend with her - he's a parent too! Think of the days when a few hours don't go well for us - it happens to me loads of times in a week, just because that coincides with when the dads have them doesn't mean it will happen next time!

FlipFantasia · 28/02/2015 23:35

Hello ladies

I have been reading everything but never any time to post!

Splendide as others have said, it's important for the dads to have alone time. Going 'badly' is normal I think, as like everything it's a practice/confidence thing. The more you do it the better you become. So next time will be less of a challenge. You need the break and your DH needs the time and space to work on his relationship and also to have a glimpse of your daily reality. I have 3 kids btw (I find leaving the house the best as Dh is a faffer and I have to bite my tongue at the inefficient faffing that goes on!).

Fate I really liked your post about your dd1. Such a rite of passage and so nice to hear of it being handled so well Smile

And I agree with all saying we're over the worst of the dependence. Four months is intense but six months/weaning is just around the corner (dd2 is 20 weeks - had to count it out yesterday and was shocked, again, at how fast time is passing!).

Twistedheartache · 28/02/2015 23:49

Keep trying. I've been out to the theatre tonight as well & apparently she screamed & was v unsettled but she's asleep now & as everyone else has said it's good experience for dad's & I'm sure she won't be scarred for life & will be ok in the morning.
What did you see?
Night night everyone