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October 2014 // thread 6 // baby's new year resolution is to sleep more?!

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sazzlehopes · 08/01/2015 17:22

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splendide · 21/01/2015 16:43

I've gone very low again today. People with older children - when does it stop being so terrifying? Or do normal people just cope better. I'm really panicking again suddenly.

FATEdestiny · 21/01/2015 17:11

Everyone is anxious about something with their first child splendide. Everyone is. Many people are with their second, third and fourth children too.

In fact if a brand new Mum was not worried about their parenting then I might worry about them.

You worry because you want to do the best for your baby. This in itself makes you a good Mum. Worrying is a necessary part of parenting. As is "The Guilt" that you are in some way not perfect - also normal part of parenting for everyone.

The only difference between more experienced patents and new parents is that they learn to live in a world of worry and guilt but accept it and don't let it bother you. Everyone has that worry there though. Everyone does.

What has bought this on?

sazzlehopes · 21/01/2015 17:12

kirstie have you got natural bath products etc? We only use Eco stuff and find that's normally better than the chems.

Also can you describe you bedtime routine please. We have about 4 wake ups a night as it seems to be every 2 hours. Did you put to bed earlier to combat this? N is ebf... Id love to cutdown on night wakings, it's very draining!

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ohthegoats · 21/01/2015 17:17

My boobs are leaking today - what the hell?! Sometimes one will do it while she's feeding from the other, but only at night. Today though they are all over the place, randomly at 14 and a half weeks - not done that since week 3. Weird.

sazzlehopes · 21/01/2015 17:27

Also kirstie does H nap lots in the day? I'm only wondering if I ought to be better about that... Today he has has 1 hour one this morning then 2 half hour ones this afternoon and is currently napping on me again but I need to put him down and make dinner for ds1 but pretty sure he'll wake up. He's not a good at being transferred...

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splendide · 21/01/2015 17:35

Thanks Fate. I'm not sure what's brought it on really I just suddenly feel really jittery and tearful. Maybe baby massage stupidly! The others all seemed much more together and capable and their babies seemed calmer. Plus I had the normal embarrassment of everyone thinking he was a few weeks old.

tattyblue · 21/01/2015 18:03

Splendide, I find other mums very disheartening. I always feel like they're proper mums whereas I just, y'know, had a baby.

So we have medium sippy cup success. She spits it out a bit but at least it didn't make her cry like the bottle do. I don't think dp is going to have a nice day tomorrow but at least she won't starve.

wondermoose13 · 21/01/2015 18:15

A mum at baby massage inadvertently made me cry by telling me how well her baby fed and slept etc and was generally being a gloating tw@t going on about how well her 3m old behaved on "luxury holidays" etc. I havent been back since! That and paddy always screams the place down Wink

FATEdestiny · 21/01/2015 18:35

I go to baby massage and there is one of those mums there. In fact she was sat next to me last week. Nod and smile. Nod and smile. Occasionally saying "That's nice" and refocusing conversation elsewhere.

sazzlehopes · 21/01/2015 19:44

Oh god those mums are the worst. I just want to slap them. I normally just grimace and force a smile or end up saying something widely innapropriate to get a reaction Blush
And wonder don't worry it'll come round and bite them on their arse. You'll have a great well behaved toddler and they'll have a complete nightmare screamer they won't be able to take round sainsbos never mind fancy pants holidays!

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sazzlehopes · 21/01/2015 19:44

Sainsbos = sainsburys

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STIGZ · 21/01/2015 19:58

wonder her baby probably isnt as good as she makes outHmm

Kirstipops · 21/01/2015 20:05

Yeah Sazzle I started putting her to bed earlier as I wasn't sure if her out of the blue 2 hourly wakeups were down to sleep regression or a growth spurt, i thought I'd try to ease her into it by going from 11pm-midnight bedtime to a 9pm bedtime but by the 3rd night of that I could see she was getting tired a good bit before then so I started giving her a bath about 6.30, some tuneless singing and haphazard baby massage as i dried and dressed her, then upstairs and into her sleepy bag, turning Ewan the Sheep on and feeding her to sleep and let her lie in my arms for 10-15 mins or so after she's finished feeding, she's usually out for the count & in her basket by 7.30. I reset the Sheep and stay in the room for a wee while in case she stirs and grumps, if she does I put her dummy in before she has the chance to properly wake! The first week or two i was in and out of the room replacing her dummy as she woke but now when it falls out she must be in a deep enough sleep to not be bothered about it!
Napwise, she will have maybe 30 mins on me after the feed which she has approx 2hours after her 9.30ish waking (so between 11-12), then I try to get her to have another couple of naps (which usually only amount to 20-40 mins each) in her bouncy chair with her dummy & blankie which she likes to pull halfway up her face! These usually fall between 2-3pm and 4-5.30, I just see when she starts to go quiet/bleary eyed and encourage the nap at that time.

For the bath I was previously using a little sample bottle of Cussons Mum and Me baby bath (no reactions) but it ran out and I havent replaced it, so then it was just plain water, sometimes with some Coconoil in it (previously added this to the Cussons bath too sometimes) for her cradle cap. Where do you buy the Eco stuff? Not very convinced by the Oilatum, I thought it would leave a film on the skin but I don't think it does?? Diprobase I'm only using twice a day.

Kirstipops · 21/01/2015 20:09

Jesus epic post, sorry!
I too hate the smug perfect mum types, i try to console myself with cruel thoughts like hopefully her hubby is an uncharismatic/ugly/philanderer/chauvinist or things equally uncharitable Blush

sazzlehopes · 21/01/2015 20:18

Kirstie Thankyou so much mega helpful.
So you saw a gradual improvement over 3 weeks? I need to put some effort in to sticking to something I think... And H is ebf too?

I buy eco as I worry about chemicals on my skin and babies... So I like neals yard, green people, weleda and lots of other brands without any nasty foaming agents in etc or perfume... A little more money to buy but I also find a little goes a long way and they last ages.

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YellowWellies · 21/01/2015 20:37

Just for those not on FB - if you're dairy and soya free check your BF supplements. Pregnacare certainly isn't. That could be one of the things upsetting wee Moose.

wondermoose13 · 21/01/2015 20:43

Haha yeh i know she probably lies buy at the time it finished me off! The rest were quite nice tho so i really should go back, i need somewhere to go tomorrow now the ice has finally thawed on the hill but my usual baby groups are mon&tues so not sure where to go
i really want to try baby sensory but havent seen any advertised locally
anyone up to anything fun tomorrow?

wondermoose13 · 21/01/2015 20:44

yellow sorry it was me asking you about them on fb. Am still fuming at the gp! The whole reason i went to them was to make sure i was getting a high enough dose/not causing more reactions.

sazzlehopes · 21/01/2015 21:27

Yellow being dairy and soy free bf when it comes to weaning do you try your baby with those foods or avoid them until later...one year? Sorry maybe that is such a dumb question.

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YellowWellies · 21/01/2015 21:38

We didn't try until 1 with Jonas and then were told to trial again every 3-6 months, stopping if there was any reaction. You start weaning with very gentle foods - as hypoallergenic as possible (not that such a thing exists!) i.e. pureed fruit and veggies, then gentle carbs and proteins like chicken and rice. Nuts, shellfish, dairy etc I leave until later.

YellowWellies · 21/01/2015 21:40

Sazzle google 'milk ladder' for how to gently introduce dairy (building tolerance slowly) to avoid dangerous allergic reactions.

wondermoose13 · 21/01/2015 21:41

Is it ok to use pouches for weaning allergy babies as long as it doesnt contain dairy? We wanted to try a few to see how he takes to it before i spend a whole day mashing and blitzing... or am i just being super lazy Hmm

Kirstipops · 21/01/2015 21:45

Yep Sazzle she's ebf, and it was really gradual yes! The first few days she was feeding every 2-3 hours in the night, then the first stretch of sleep became longer, like 4 or 5 hours before she woke and subsequent feeds spaced out more too, you can imagine it's wreaked havoc on my boobs!
That IS weird about yours leaking all of a sudden Goats!

Kirstipops · 21/01/2015 21:50

Thanks for the advice on eco brands Sazzle Grin

MundayCakes85 · 21/01/2015 22:04

Sazzle how did you and Ned get on with the goats milk formula? We tried E with Aptimal- she seemed to enjoy it.
Also anyone suffered a cracked nipple these days? She clamped down and gave mine a good tug and it's really raw and painful Sad
Moose the teacher at my massage class commented on how "small" someone's baby was Angry not nice.