November 2012- Jingle Bells tantrums smell mummy needs some wine...

[Pikz]

Just to start us off..

Thanks eliza. It is actually helpful. H has always been a good independent sleeper however move to big bed has thrown us both. He was hysterical 1st night so lay with him until he calmed enough. 2nd night he insisted I lay down. I did. Fh did a few nights as I went out. Yesterday was same. Mummy here lay down here. So I did. Today he took ages to go to sleep. I lay there waiting but he was just looking at me. I was turned away from him. In end I got up. Said night night turned out light and walked away. He did cry for a minute but stopped.
I don't want it to become a habit. Taken so long to sort As sleep out I don't want H taking over the time I've finally managed to free up.

GT my J went through a phase of wanting to me to get into bed with him at bedtime but it was just a phase and he accepted me sitting next to the bed again after a while. I would love for him to be able to go to sleep on his own but there's so much noise here at bedtime with the other two squabbling and making a fuss going to bed that I don't think he can. Hopefully after Christmas I'll be able to get him going to bed earlier than the other two so it will be quieter. It's annoying as he used to be able to do it but his clinginess is just way too extreme now. If I even get up and walk across the room he'll start crying mummy wait and run after me.

It doesn't sound like you are doing badly at all gt given he settled fairly quickly last night. Keep doing what you are doing. P developed all sorts of different behaviour when she dropped milk so I had to adapt. I needed to sing lots then I suppose I did gradual retreat. I occasionally still do it when she says "at door mummy?" Which means she wants me to stand at the door for a few minutes. I started doing this with the door open and hall light on then gradually the door got closed bit by bit then the hall changed to nightlight then I moved away. Occasionally I wohld need to go back a step. This lasted maybe a fortnight but each night would take maybe 15 minutes maximum.

Not sure how any of this relates but I think they all go through phases where their needs change and it sounds like you are responding well.

Speaking of which. I have just been on FB and I find myself to blinking frustrated by the people who comment on my dsis status. She likes to let off steam about her worries and anxieties about her DS but I find the responses she gets infuriating! For example he changed from cm to nursery quite suddenly and nursery asked her to return for him one day "never, ever go back! Don't give in to it!" She is worried about his lack of proper eating just now and tantrums "let him starve! That'll teach him" When he was weeks old someone suggested he was manipulating her and she mustn't give in to him.

What is with this? I always post and they must read mine and think .

Anyway, we are off to the in laws now. P has spent all morning saying "oooo! I can't wait!" And "sooooo exciting!!"

Pass I agree - I hate that style of parenting that sees your child as an enemy to be defeated. It makes me wonder why some folk have kids

I tend to agree with you too, Pass. I hate this idea that tiny babies can be bad or naughty. I remember my MIL trying to force F to take a bottle of ebm when she was 7wo, and F having none of it. MIL was adamant that F was just "playing me up"

Lovely cuddley afternoon on the sofa with a snoozing baby. Who smells of marmite

I think the insurance company might have decided he accident wasn't my fault about bloody time given the emails i have had in the past 24hrs about physio etc for my injuries. Nobs. Might take them up on it though as am still pretty sore.

GT I think you have done the right thing with H. I often have to say to F that I'm going to do the washing up, and will be back to tuck her in soon. She's inevitably asleep within minutes, but needs to know i am close and will return.

Quiet today. Fwiw I agree. Some scary advice is given out. By randoms who don't know the situation or by people who just are stuck in the ancient ways.

It is worth remembering though that lots of our generation were raised that way and are ok. It will take a long time, several generations to change that. So I try to ignore, but not be tooooo hard on people who come out with that kind of shit

Except my mil. Of course. Shortly to celebrate the one year anniversary of no contact with her....

Busy day today. Had a christening then took the girls to a birthday party then back to the christening party which was also a 1st birthday as the little girl is one on xmas eve. Was a lovely party but I am glad I have a couple of quiet days lined up before the Christmas chaos. I'm really looking forward to it. Christmas that is. I'm like an excitable little rather large child. Can't wait to see the girls faces.

Mooooorning.

Am I the only one who logs in of a morning and hopes to hear news of a baby eliza?

for all.

Yes Eliza any twinges?

Ah thanks for thinking of me

No twinges yet. Every night I go to bed wondering if this is the night but then get through it (apart from several toilet trips and guzzles of gaviscon). I went into labour roughly the same time with both girls (early hr of the morning) so am just assuming it will be the same with this one but that doesn't necessarily ring true I guess.

Both girls are happily playing upstairs in DD1S bedroom. This never used to happen but over the last week or so they seem capable of playing nicely together. Often ends in tears but it's nice whilst it lasts.

My two are starting to really enjoy playing together too. LO bosses DD1 around - she's quite the dictator. Tries it with us too. Anyone else got a mini dictator?

"Mummy MUMMY MUMMY, dit down DAAAAAARRREEE" etc etc. So yy to mini dictator

I seem to have 2 mini dictators

I get that too, a lot of, Mummy come over here. No Mummy sit on THAT cushion. Mummy help you (he means help him).

Jonas is obsessed with the loo. So many times when I'm sitting on the throne he barges in and tries to unseat me - saying "beep beep Mummeeeeee". Charm school graduate that he is!

School holidays here mean I am getting used to being interrupted mid poo.

DD1 is past that. LO? Ooh MUMMY! A POO! In the TOILET! Bravo! And applauds.

Feck off, Child :o

I am so glad I am not alone!

"Mummy, c'MON!"
"Sit down dere, mummy"
"I help, mummy"
"No. DAT OOOOOOOONE"
"I pick. . ."
"Need toys in Showa? Here ya go"
"Want lollipop/googybear/peppa pig"
And so on and on and on

We've lost duck tonight. I've convinced her duck's just gone on holiday. This is okay, right?

Sounds like an awesome plan. Order one tonight just in case. I hope duck turns up!

What is duck?

By that I mean is he a jellycat or something?

When we went up for his bath tonight I was firmly instructed to sit down on the loo and have a wee first. Tbf I do usually have one before his bath but it was quite funny to be told!

Bossy little sods aren't they.

LO demads the horse channel on tv before bed. ITNG? Over! Horse channel now. With a when I am big, I will do that. Be that jumping a 5ft fence or grooming or artificially inseminating a mare.

I have bred a horse loving monster.

Duck on holiday is excellent. My friends sell a ton of jellycat toys if he is one....

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I think O is a bit different. He is not much bothered about what I do. He is mainly bothered with himself, Stealing leftoverTurkey from the fridge, wrecking DS1s lego creations and mopping. Yep. Mopping.

I got up early for the next online via sale. Rubbish. Next year I might get up early and go to store. There was hardley anything on there. Got a. Oh please of jumpers for O a pair of boots for DS1 and a pair of boots for me. Couldn't find anything for Dd1 so didn't look for DD2 as won't get one without the other.

I suppose it means I can get started with chores earlier.