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October 2014 // thread 4 // a lot of night feed chatting!

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sazzlehopes · 29/11/2014 08:06

Welcome everyone. You're doing a good job by the way. Remember that.

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fatpony · 15/12/2014 09:42

tatty it's my resolution too, shall we hold hands? I tried plonking him in his cot last week one morning when he was sleepy, put the monitor on, rang DH to say I was going to be brave and allow 5 mins of grumbling/crying, failed miserably after 3 mins and ran in And got him! He sleeps well in it at night.

I'm actually going to cheat this morning and take him out in his pram as have some shopping to do but am desperate to get him to sleep well at home during the day, especially with the pandemonium of Christmas coming!

LebkuchenMonster · 15/12/2014 09:45

Thanks, Jeanne! Fx crossed for improvement soon.

tatty ds is also more or else glued to a boob all evening to stop him fussing. It's not being a bad mum, especially when it's the only way to keep them quiet when you're watching the Apprentice reading to an older child...

tattyblue · 15/12/2014 10:04

pony I'm with you. She actually goes to sleep fairly easily, but getting her to stay that way is hard. I think I'm going to have a week if trying various things to see what works. She's just so much noticeably more ratty now if she doesn't sleep.

ohthegoats · 15/12/2014 10:32

OK, what would you do with this child?

She naps most days about an hour and a half after waking up. In that hour and a half she eats, then we 'play' until she starts looking sleepy then I'll work for a bit to bounce her around/put her over a shoulder or whatever is her preferred 'thing' that day, until she goes to sleep. Then she'll sleep for maybe 40 minutes to an hour. But ONLY on me.

We've had a few days recently where we've been confined to the bedroom due to work going on in the house. On those days the same 'schedule' happens - BUT, I could put her anywhere at all in the room, while she's awake, and she'll fall asleep on her own. It's not warmer up here than the living room on a usual day, and the options for sleeping are the same - floor, play mat, car seat, bouncy chair, sofa cushion/bed.

Does she just have a preference for this room? I get more done on the days I'm confined to one room than I do on days where I have a normal life! Obviously I bring all my paperwork etc up here with me.

So, for those worrying about daytime naps - mine doesn't usually unless I work like hell at it, and once she's asleep it's eggshells time.. creeping around trying not to breath too loudly or joggle her too hard. She only sleeps for any length of time in a sling.

fedupofrainydays · 15/12/2014 12:47

Part of the thing I find with naps as he's a lot less likely to go to sleep if overtired. So I have to plan a nap and put him down when in a good mood!
I manage to get him to sleep long periods in the carrycot of buggy - bout 2 hours most days.

splendide · 15/12/2014 13:05

Mine won't sleep anywhere. Not the pram, the car, the sling. Just on my tit (as in latched on) for maybe 20 mins at a time. I'm at my wits end.

tattyblue · 15/12/2014 13:06

I have a sleeping baby! Lots of rocking and listening to some absurdly dreamy music got us there eventually and she's snoring loudly now. fed up that's what I've come to realize, hence the nap drive. Otherwise she gets more and more annoying grumpy through the day. She'll sleep in the sling but from January I want to be working when she's sleeping in the afternoon, so that's not ideal.

tattyblue · 15/12/2014 13:07

splendide I really don't know anything helpful to say other than that in your position I would go insane. I think you're incredible just to be still capable of talking.

splendide · 15/12/2014 13:15

Sorry I mean just naps. He does sleep a bit at night so that's how I'm not quite dead. He won't sleep in the day though at all. He just cried and eats.

FATEdestiny · 15/12/2014 13:29

splendide I may have asked this before, but have you tried to establish a dummy? It may give you a break from comfort sucking and help her go to sleep not on you.

splendide · 15/12/2014 13:36

Yeah I'm still trying with the dummy. He'll take it sometimes but won't go to sleep with it (yet?!).

ohthegoats · 15/12/2014 13:50

splendide - that's what mine did up to 6 weeks. If I hadn't got sleep at night i'd have sent her back as broken. She's just started to do useful napping in the last week or so.

Pregnantagain7 · 15/12/2014 14:08

spendide it's so bloody hard sometimes I think you're doing an amazing job Flowers

I don't think I will bother with anymore nights out for a while still feel rough today!
I'm having one of those I don't give a shit days I am doing as little as possible the house is like a bombs gone off and there is still chopped up pear on the floor where ds has thrown it off the highchair. Keep trying to convince the dog to eat but she's not having any of it! God I'm so lazy today both my babies are asleep and I should be doing stuff but I'm on the sofa on my instead! Trying to psych myself up for the school run in an hour Grin

splendide · 15/12/2014 14:24

That gives me some hope Goats thank you.

STIGZ · 15/12/2014 14:34

splendide i really do know what you are going through, my first never slept through the night until she was four, hence why it took me nearly five years to have another one, i really admire you as you are breastfeeding, i hardly coped with my dd's feeding patterns and she was ff ! It is so so hard, but you will manage, just try and rest as much as you can when familly & friends are over, even 15 minutes getting out to the local shop on your own will do you wonders!

STIGZ · 15/12/2014 15:04

goats did you get a test ?

ohthegoats · 15/12/2014 15:50

No, not left the house today yet. Am going out later on my own - will be less embarrassing buying a test without a very young baby with me, so will do it then. It would be proper bad luck if it has happened.

Pip has had three hour long naps today since 10ish - only one of them on me, I might have been able to put her down the third time but didn't try. Very exciting. Mustn't get hopes up for tomorrow. I actually managed to do all my Christmas shopping online, reheat and eat some chilli, change the hooks on some curtains and wee without a little audience. Amazing.

YellowWellies · 15/12/2014 16:07

Pregnant our dog is on permanent cleaning under the highchair detail. I too get annoyed when there's something she won't eat and I have to clean the floor myself Shock Grin !

Lil is 9lb 14 and a half oz! I swore she felt 10lb but had an epic dump this morning so robbed me of my double digit happy dance.

Am booked in for a coil fitting on January 6th - nothing says 'Happy New Year' like a cervical examination eh? Envy

Goats hi five on the napping!

ohthegoats · 15/12/2014 16:14

Urgh, I'm going for coil appointment tomorrow. Not fitting, just the precursor "yes I've got a uterus" conversation. Not looking forward to the fitting appointment, last one was awful, made me pass out. One before was fine though, so will keep fingers crossed.

fedupofrainydays · 15/12/2014 16:54

R is almost 14lb! Eeeek! My little newborn ain't so little now! They grow up too quickly...

YellowWellies · 15/12/2014 17:09

Apparently its easier post kids as your cervix remains 1-2cm dilated. First time was horrible. Had the you have a uterus chat over the phone today. The doc assured me that I should bring the baby and toddler along to the appointment and someone will entertain the wee man if needs be. Err there's no 'if' about it. He's not going to sit nicely for 15 minutes and I don't really want him watching! Hmm

ohthegoats · 15/12/2014 17:27

My last one took 45 minutes to get sorted, then an hour with my head between my knees in the waiting room!

ExcitedCJ · 15/12/2014 18:11

splendide try Mam dummies for 0 - 2 months, they are the ones that worked for us.

YellowWellies · 15/12/2014 18:55

I was utterly Hmm when they said '15 minutes' it was half an hour last time! Still if they want to provide free childcare I'm not complaining!

fedupofrainydays · 15/12/2014 19:18

Thought if a coil makes me feel Envy. Despite childbirth and abnormal smears.. Just couldn't do it!!!