January 2014 -- the birthdays are coming!

[TobyLerone]

Just wrote a long message on the old thread only to have it not post because we'd filled it.

We really ought to do less chatting and more sleeping

I didn't get it.

I'm fucking gutted truth be told. I plan on getting a little bit drunk tonight

Oh million that's shit, sorry

Oh million sorry to hear that. Did they give any feedback? Definitely get drunk.

Sorry to hear that, million :(

million. That is hard. Like nature said, definitely try to get some feedback from them. You will have more opportunities, but tonight is definitely for doing whatever you need to do to feel better.

As I'm not in at the moment, this is the feedback over the phone

I'm honest - that's a great thing.
I need to work on my perception with a totally unconnected-speak once a week- department

My manager is pissed. He doesn't understand what they want. Apparently it was really tight and I was just pipped at the post. Which makes it worse. It's like saying "if you were a little better you'd have the job"

I didn't realise how big this was for me. I went back to work early, pushed myself really hard, to get this promotion. And I didn't get it. Maybe if I hadn't have done that, Henry would like me more.

So you see, it's not just the job, it's everything

Oh, million :(
Please don't beat yourself up about this. Henry loves you. Of course he does! I'm home all day, every day with Meredith and she beats the crap out of me at any opportunity.

Don't ever think that being ambitious is anything other than a good example to set for your child.

Be nice to yourself

It's awful when they tell you it was really close between you and another person. I agree with Toby, you are working hard and setting a great example to your children. You should be really proud of yourself.

million you are ace and they are pooheads. Fuck 'em. Bastards.

MrsG sorry about your uncle, hope you're okay.

toby glad MMR was fine, and yes, you always seem wryly humorous, on top of things and calm.

altered that made me , little monster! No crisps is definitely worth leaving home over...

I totally echo humpty's sentiments million. Their loss. Maybe, when you have shown them what incompetent idiots they are for not choosing you, you can go off and get a better job elsewhere. In the meantime, .

FWIW, I really lack ambition, or at least the perseverance to carry anything out, and I often feel that N isn't very fond of me. As I said before, he won't even call me Mama if MIL is around. She is Mama number 1!

You are giving your children a great gift in showing them how to be a great parent and also provide by working outside the home. I hope that I can do the same for my DD when things calm down a bit here.

Oh million that's rough, I'm sorry. I echo what all the others said, by working hard and having a great career outside the home you are a fantastic role model for Henry. And I'm sure he thinks the world of you too .

P had her first session at the creche on Tuesday, while I went to my PND craft session. They said she only cried for the last 5 minutes before I collected her - is this just a thing creche workers say? Had she really been crying for ages? She was really upset and now she's being really clingy. I'm worried because we have to go back next week, but also because my first PND counselling session has been arranged for Monday so she'll be in another creche for an hour on Monday. She's never been to this one before, so I'm hoping she'll be okay because I really need the counselling.

Can you all tell me what you do with them all day again please? Time is dragging a bit in between naps and trips out.

Hi all, small update from me.

But first... Millenium, I'm so sorry you didn't get the job :(
Book Tart - I don't think that child care are allowed to lie to you. When DD started at playschool, she had a 1hr intro session, we returned after 30 minutes and they said they were about to call us as she had been crying for 10 minutes - We felt really guilty, but at least they were honest. Just remember that your councelling is really important and that a happy parent = a happy child.

We have had another tough week, DS had his 1yr jabs last week which went OK, but he had a 1 wk hangover this week and has been really grotty. He has not slept well for several days - I think he has his back teeth cming through which cant help at all.

Why/How do our DC know when we are feeling low??? They have both been hoorrors this evening, constant whinging from about 4pm (before dinner) until bedtime (which was delayed because they were so whingey).
I hate it when they are so whingey that II become angry Dad - it makes me feel so guilty.
And I know that they don't respond well tomy anger, just try and be a bit more patient - they rrspond much better to love and hugs, butOMG - it's so hard.

Sorry for the rambilng.

x

It really is hard, firethorn. They must be able to pick up on the negative stuff, which makes them worse, which makes us more negative...it's a vicious circle.

Poor A with his jabs and teeth :( M had her jabs yesterday and has been super whingy today. I might have told her to man up at one point

book, I'm pretty sure all childcare providers say the same thing, so it must be true!

Hi firethorn

They really test us sometimes don't they? We just have to do what we can to get through the day sometimes! Don't feel bad for getting angry, we all do it. I get stressed really easily with S and then I feel awful afterwards.

Sorry to hear A isn't well after the vaccinations. I've been putting off booking them in for ages and need to just get it over and done with. She keeps getting a cold all the time though and I don't want to do it when she's ill (which is a lame excuse )

Book sorry missed your update! I'm sure she will be fine and get used to it quickly. You need the counselling and she will be in safe hands.

I am also bored stiff in the day time. Today we have watched a hell of a lot of CBeebies. The snow here is ruining my freedom to take her out of the house I keep trying different things like colouring etc but she's not interested.

We are still awake. Well me and S are. She woke up at 11 and had a bottle but won't go back to sleep. I refuse to take her down stairs to tire her out as I'm absolutely shattered so I've just left her. She's been 'crying' (aka whinging) on and off since about 10 past 11 and still not going to sleep. She's not properly crying so I know she's ok but I don't know what else to do Every time it goes quiet she starts again after a few minutes. Of course DP is sound asleep throughout all of this

I feel your pain, felix. M was up for hours in the night.

She finally went to sleep at 1.30. No idea what that was all about

firethorn the MMR messed us up for a bit. She didn't have a proper reaction, she just whinged for a few days and nights. It was grim. Whinging makes me really cross for some reason. Also, remember that you are doing brilliantly at a very hard job. Oh, and that they can smell fear :)

felix that sounds rough. I don't even have snow as an excuse. Maybe today we will take a recreational walk to Asda. Woo! I'm not cut out for this SAHM thing I think :)

Did you guys have to book your mmr or did an appointment get sent through like the earlier jabs. I've got to pick up O's x ray form tonight so will check with the Dr's anyway.

Must have been something in the air last night as O woke up at 3 and couldn't resettle herself. Luckily a quick cuddle calmed her down and she went back to sleep but I was awake for another hour grr.

firethorn you'll be doing brilliantly. It's tiring work and so much harder when they aren't themselves.

Book I have genuinely been thinking the same thing recently. I am bored out of my mind but I'd never be able to get a job which covers childcare costs so there's no point in me going back to work. I totally underestimated what being a SAHM would be like

Nature we got a letter through saying they were due and to call to book it in.

Nature L's not on antibiotics anymore, although we are still waiting for her to see a paediatrician and be officially signed off. She had a kidney scan at the end of last year and there were no underlying causes for the infection.

Million Sorry to hear that. I agree with the others, you're setting such a great example.

firethorn I hope things improve and you have a nice weekend

Being a SAHM is hard, I enjoy it for the most part, but times like this fortnight, when DH is away and I have essays to do, are tough. I got angry at L last night, by 6am this morning I had managed to get 2 hours sleep. But DH is back tonight, and I plan on sleeping all of tomorrow!

Is there any way you could do some training whilst your a SAHM and then go into a better job? Woucher have some good courses sometimes, there is a legal secretary course for £19 instead of £795, or a medical secretary course you can do online for £29 and others here.

I've never done one, so I can't say how good they are, but could be worth looking into? I'm hoping to train as an Accountant whilst I'm a SAHM.

I admire all of you who are sahp's. I've always known I wouldn't be able to do it!

Thanks I'll check with the gp receptionist tonight then as ideally I'd like to get her booked in for the week I am off in case she becomes wingey as well.

Thanks MrsG, I really want to go back to college but can't until S is 3 and can go to nursery as all the courses I want to do are full time. I've looked everywhere for evening courses but nowhere near me offers them. I'm not very academic at all (I am seriously terrible at maths etc) so I can't see myself doing anything that way inclined. My DP is doing a second degree with the OU and I'm so jealous

I'm thinking of going to uni, too. I like being a SAHM, but this isn't all there is. It can't be!
I'd never return to my previous profession (accountancy), as I always hated it. I'd rather clean the toilets in McDonald's.