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October 2014 // thread 3 // Maybe we'll get some sleep soon.

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MundayCakes85 · 14/11/2014 09:48

Last thread is full so here's a shiny new one Grin

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pebble82 · 23/11/2014 12:18

Thanks all. He's reasonably good most of the time. I'm going to the theatre later with my bro so he has to look after DD for 5 hours. It'll do both of us good but I'm worried he hasn't learnt enough about how to look after her. I guess I had to learn though.

YellowWellies · 23/11/2014 12:24

Fate dummies produce excess saliva which can really help with mild reflux. If there wasn't puking, sour breath or the sound of choking / regurgitation I wouldn't say it was reflux. I agree on what you say about colic, I think there's trapped wind, lactose overload, immature digestive systems (perhaps what you're describing), silent or normal reflux or food intolerances - but colic is a catch all useless definition as its used to cover a range of conditions some of which can be cured outright with simple treatment, some which can cause serious lifelong problems if not addressed and others which just resolve themselves in a few short weeks. Colic is just a lazy term used by HCPs who don't want to spend money investigating what they see as paranoid Mums. We wouldn't expect any other age group to be in screaming pain for weeks on end if it could be resolved. I do think babies get a rough deal!

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mrsb87 · 23/11/2014 13:24

Ugh.... The crying continues!...I hope this ends soon. I feel like we got a rough dedeal as we solved the reflux and now he's having a growth spurt. I want my happy baby back Sad

pebble82 · 23/11/2014 14:03

I tried to talk to him bump but I'm not sure how much of it went in and how much of it just came across as me being a moaning nag. Although I think his pissed off reaction is due to guilt on his part. I think he knows he's not doing enough but he's always been a bury your head in the sand type. His mum would be no good to give him a nudge, she's not the most maternal. His stepdad is the worst though. He's proud of the fact he never changed a single nappy when his children were little!! At least my DP isn't that bad!

Pregnantagain7 · 23/11/2014 14:12

Thanks again for all your kind thoughts everyone.

Unfortunately my lovely lovely uncle died this morning at 8.45.

It was very peaceful but just far too early aged just 57. I feel desperately sorry for my aunt who relied on him so much. :(

pebble82 · 23/11/2014 14:14

Oh pregnant. I'm so sorry to hear that. 57 really is too young. Hope you're ok and getting lots of support. X

MundayCakes85 · 23/11/2014 14:17

Pregnant my thoughts are with you and your family. Such sad news x

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Kirstipops · 23/11/2014 14:19

So sorry for you and your family Pregnant xx

YellowWellies · 23/11/2014 14:23

Oh Pregnant that was so quick Sad 57 is far too young. Your poor aunt xx

mrsb87 · 23/11/2014 14:23

Sorry to hear your sad news pregnant at least he didn't suffer for too long xx

Captainmcgraw · 23/11/2014 14:37

So sorry Pregnant

Sorehead · 23/11/2014 14:51

yellow- thank you for the comfort feeding pointers. Some of those are ringing true over the last couple of days so I'll keep an eye on it and see if it continues.

Sometimes I've noticed that passing wind gives him some relief but again, going to be more vigilant and look out for it now.

When you say extended crying being periods > 30 mins, is that inconsolable crying or would crying where he can be consoled but it's only fairly short lived count?

Finally, how can I persuade my GP that these periods of crying aren't just 'colic' (the unexplained evening crying variety and not the sore stomach variety), if indeed it doesn't seem to be wind related?

pregnant- a dummy doesn't tend to cut the mustard when he's like this. It may cause a temporary pause in the crying but then he'll carry on. Could this indicate true hunger or is it a possible reflux indicator because he wants milk to soothe his throat?
I'm sorry to hear about your uncle.

pebble- no wonder you were reduced to tears. Some good advice given from other posters further up the thread. When he asked, did you explain that you needed more support? (I'm only on pg 25 so apologies if you've already answered this)

Kirstipops · 23/11/2014 15:20

pebble I'd be upset too if my DH was going about like that, hope he gets his finger out. I don't think they realise sometimes what a full time physical and emotional job it is :(

pebble82 · 23/11/2014 15:42

I explained but not very well I don't think. He's good at direct instructions (change her nappy, make me a drink etc) not vague "I need more help" requests. He'd never think to do anything without me saying to do it. Very old fashioned bloke I suppose but at least he does do things if I ask. It would just be nice if just occasionally I didn't have to.

STIGZ · 23/11/2014 16:20

Really very sorry for your losspregnant that is far too youngSad

Oh god i have a hangover... Overdid the wine a bit last night Blush but it was a great night, just wont be doing it again for a while.

Missus2ndwife · 23/11/2014 17:16

Pregnant I am sorry for your loss. your uncle went quickly and peacefully rather than suffering.

Pebble - I don't blame you for being upset. Good for you for trying to speak with him about it. He's probably pissed off because he knows you're right and he's now sulking. Have you thought about writing him a letter to get your points across?

I put Bumboo into his Caboo earlier today to get a feel for it. He lasted about 30mins before complaining. Need to build up his sling-ability as I loved the feeling of having him close to me whilst still having free hands to do things.
I still want a Connecta though :)

pebble82 · 23/11/2014 17:40

Missus I wrote him a letter when I was pregnant saying pretty much the same thing after he went on a 48hr bender. He never really mentioned it. I know he read it though as I found it in his study.

As I'm going out in an hour I'm leaving him with frozen breast milk. If DD doesn't have a full feed (100ml I'm guessing) once it's defrosted then can he leave it in the bottle for a few hours and try her with it later on? Seems a waste to bin it.

Kirstipops · 23/11/2014 18:03

Eek Stigz not good, hope the hangover clears off soon! I'm out for the night in a couple of weeks for DH's band's gig and pondering how much milk I'll need to pump for it, I really need to be a bit more efficient with recording the amount of feeds she has, I'm just dreading she has a wee clusterfeed night and gives my mum & dad a 'mare, I'll maybe include some Infacol or something just incase she has the munchies?
How often are your babies feeding during the day, H is about every couple of hours?

Missus2ndwife · 23/11/2014 18:07

Thanks Gun!! Just about to say the same.

Quick get one now

pebble82 · 23/11/2014 18:17

My DD is all messed up feeding wise. She is currently feeding every half an hour-3 hours. Although that could just be because when I can't stop her crying offering boobs usually helps. Not sure she's actually hungry or not. I read somewhere that about 100ml as a rule of thumb for a normal feed is about right for a 1-6 month old. During these crazy feeding times I'm only expressing about 30-40ml at a time though. She's eaten the rest!

pebble82 · 23/11/2014 18:20

There's a useful calculator here:kellymom.com/bf/pumpingmoms/pumping/milkcalc/

gunwalloe · 23/11/2014 18:20

myn feeds around every 3-4 hours usually, shes been asleep for 6 hours now so im going to stir her my boob needs emptying!

pebble82 · 23/11/2014 18:21

kellymom.com/bf/pumpingmoms/pumping/milkcalc/