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November 2014 - newborn thread!

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Greenstone · 03/11/2014 15:59

Welcome to all the November 2014 babies! Let all the post partum rejoicing and angst begin...

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eastmidswarwicknightnanny · 28/12/2014 16:25

Are you sure it's thrush most babies have a light white coating that's milk on tongue thrush is thicker cheesier consistency and can be scrapped off with finger nail (milk will wipe off) also sometimes when scrapped off under thrush it bleeds but this is more so on the gums.

Is it nystatin you have? I would apply 45mins after a feed or 45mins before a feed either to prevent vomitting or if before gives it a chance to work.

amy83firsttimer · 28/12/2014 20:07

As I said, not convinced it's thrush, that's what makes it so frustrating.
It is nystatin but trying to time when is 45 mins one side of a feed is hard as I don't monitor timings of anything and don't particularly like giving him medicine that makes him vomit quite often and I'm not even sure is right. No motivation to make myself do it at all! The family member GP said stop medicating for a couple of days and see what happens then ask for daktatin if it gets worse.

eastmidswarwicknightnanny · 28/12/2014 20:16

I would also stop medicine as its having more of an adverse effect than being a benefit.

ladydolly · 28/12/2014 20:27

I was given daktarin for dd's thrush and its worked a treat and she loves it! Very easy to apply when they want it!

Strawberryfield12 · 28/12/2014 22:09

I was thinking some time ago that when we were expecting the LOs, we were all quite upset about them not showing up at the EDD and going well over it, but once they are eventually here, the days overdue actually is a good thing as it feels like overdue babies are well ahead at what they should be according to the book.
Mine was 12 days late and I have been told that DD looks more like 1 month old not a newborn. Although now that she has put on 1.5kg and has a double chin, I look back at 3 weeks ago as if I have had a kitten and now its a proper baby :)

WorkFreeWannabe · 28/12/2014 23:37

ARGH!!! Just lost my post! Stupid phone AngryAngryAngry

WorkFreeWannabe · 28/12/2014 23:47

Here goes again...

Just catching up after the family get together yesterday and random napping today when DS is not screaming. He's been a super Velcro baby today. Doesn't want to be left alone and crying/screaming constantly. I'm so worn out.

Baby Wannabe is doing much better now and his stools are mushy again. The downside to that is the dreaded reflux is back. Just need to decide what the lesser of the two evils is - anti reflux milk and constipation or regular milk, reflux and projectile vomiting.

I'm really hoping I can get a GP appointment tomorrow for him. My alarm is already set for 7.58 so DH and I can start bombarding them with calls at 8 o'clock when it's a case of on your marks, get set, go with every Tom, Dick and Sally.

caravela · 29/12/2014 04:31

The last week has been amazing in terms of Dd's development. We had first smiles last Saturday, and the last few days she's been working on her hand-eye coordination. The last two days she has spent more than an hour obsessed with trying to hit a dangling toy with her fist, with an expression of grim determination. I have a hilarious photo of her glaring at the toy with bulging gimlet eyes. I also feel like she's now becoming a proper baby rather than a cute cuddly pet.

Christmas has been amazing because of having lots of other adults around to help - has meant I can have hot baths and catch up on sleep. DH and I are now taking it in turns to do the night shift, since a big bottle of ebm gets her through till 7am. The last few nights she seems to have established a routine of lasting from the midnight feed till some time between 3 and 4.30, and from then till between 6 and 8, so we are getting there in terms of sleep...

amy83firsttimer · 29/12/2014 05:51

M has just slept from 10 last.night til now ish. DH did nappy and brought him to me. My boobies are glad he's up!

Nessalina · 29/12/2014 06:52

Hi all Smile Lost you for a bit there with a busy Xmas break!
It's been bliss having a week at home with my Mum and Dad - I even went for a back massage one day which luckily J slept right through Grin
He's 7 weeks today and we've had a lovely week of toothless grins - he gave me a massive smile when I looked into his Moses basket yesterday morning and I think my heart exploded GrinEnvy
Feeding has been hard lately, I posted a thread about it that you might have seen and got some good advice - essentially, learning how to BF without a nipple shield is hard with a 6 week old and I reeeally should have weaned him off it sooner! But after 3 nights of me giving up and giving a FF last thing at night when the cluster feeding got too much, we just did 48hrs on boob alone which feels pretty good, and my nipples are still just about in one piece!
Sleeping is going better than I ever could have hoped, he's doing a block of 5hrs once a night, which is great though not so much when he doesn't go down til 3:30am and then we usually get 2-3hrs one side of the big block, so I'm feeling not too zombie like Smile I'm an absolute nightmare when I'm tired, so I seriously sympathise with anyone who has a LO who isn't sleeping so well - I keep waiting for the other shoe to drop.
J is now hugely alert and in need of entertaining ALL the time, which feels like a lot of pressure somehow - does anyone else feel like that? It's awesome to see him coming onwards, but I think it's starting to hit home that it's going to be a loooong time before I have an uninterrupted evening to myself in front of the telly Grin

WorkFreeWannabe · 29/12/2014 07:39

Hi Nessa, I remember you from the antenatal threads.

Your last paragraph sums up exactly how I'm feeling at the moment. DS turned 6 weeks on Saturday wants to be entertained non stop. I can't wait for the day he shows an interest in his bouncy chair toys so I can get stuff done and eat hot food.

He's been so ratty since yesterday. Wanting to be fed and be held non stop. After a feed he's napped only for about an hour then goes back to wanting to be held, only by me!! I'm hoping this is all down to his 6 week growth spurt and it will pass after a few days.

I'm starting to get annoyed at DH as he completely ignore DS when he's screaming at the top of his lungs. When his crying gets to that level it's like it's drilling into my skull. DH manages to ignore it so easily and still sleeps through as he's assured himself DS is testing us but that cry pierces my soul. I'm so glad I read an article yesterday on mothers are affected differently by their baby's cry.

Annarose2014 · 29/12/2014 12:34

I'm struggling a bit with BFing. Like a fool I BF him twice yesterday so he was about 60:40 formula to boob, and then DS was a wake from 6am literally writhing in discomfort for hours. He was exhausted, and so am I.

To add to it, despite taking shitloads of formula as his 11pm feed, he still woke at 2.30, so its definately not making him sleep longer! On boob we'd often get till 4am out of him.

So now I daren't BF him during the day at allin case he pays for it later on. The guilt is immense, and I'm getting hyper-sensitive to every word DH says. Looking for implied criticisms everywhere. Then I feel guilty about that (!!) as he's doing 50% of feeds and all of the housework as he sleeps through at night.

You hear about mums beating themselves up over BFing and I always thought they were mad - until it happened to me. Its so ridiculous. DS has gotten fatter in the face after a week of formula - today I found myself feeling guilty about that (the bulking agents) which is totally insane! I was FF myself!

Nessalina · 29/12/2014 12:50

I know just what you mean, I had to have a proper hysterical meltdown in order to justify J's first formula feed, and it's ridiculous really, it's not like I liquified a Big Mac for him for fucks sake! Grin More babies are formula fed than BF by week 6, so if he has a formula feed every now and again, it's really not an issue - so why the guilty feeling in my tummy? I think it's just that there's such a strong maternal urge to 'provide' that our brains are just wired that way. I used to think that it was pressure of society, but I genuinely think it's only my own brain making me feel bad!
Well shut up brain Grin

We're off for an outing to Currys to get a microwave in the sales, then out to lunch. It's 2degrees out there and DH took J out to the car without his blanket on, the plonker Confused

Strawberryfield12 · 29/12/2014 17:07

Interesting how many babies actually are there who are fully BF-ed?

Before DD was born I was fully determined to have her 100% breastfed. Now almost 4 weeks along the line - she is about 90% BFed. And while she is not a big fan of dummies, when we go out, she seems to want one, I would struggle to make her have one when at home. Maybe she doesn't feel too comfortable when out and about and needs something for security?

Why DD isn't fully BF after all? I think it was the moment when I was on loo for a longer business (sorry TMI!) and DH knocked at the door because DD had been screaming her head off for feed. That was the breaking point when I thought that DD would benefit more from not having angry and constipated mum due to deprivation of basic needs instead of being purely breastfed. So now we are having an odd bottle a day to give me a breathing space and for emergencies when we are out and about.

I felt that our HV was quite catholic about babies being breastfed and got bit stirred up when she saw a bottle on a table and only relaxed when I fed DD while she was still in our home and she saw the latch was ok and DD was more keen on BF than FF.

amy83firsttimer · 29/12/2014 17:12

Fully BF here. I know what you mean about personal space though. Luckily M sleeps well at night so I can do stuff h

Thehedgehogsong · 29/12/2014 18:14

Found my way back to you! Grin

DD2 is 3 weeks now and still huge, she's putting on weight so fast she's way off the charts, my boobs are keeping up with her just fine (take that MIL!!)

Trying to catch up with posts but I think it's futile...

My older DD is the difficult one at the minute. She is being really demanding! Climbing into my lap when I'm feeding dd2, shouting mummy mummy mummy over and over... It's very trying!!

ladydolly · 29/12/2014 20:12

Fully bf here. I've been really lucky and other than the excrutiating nipple pain in week 1 I've found it easy. Dp suggested formula this week because I'm on antibiotics and its upsetting dd's tummy but I do suspect reflux so it wouldn't have made a difference anyway.

Also, someone here suggested trying to express before I gave birth and I'm sure that made a difference so a big thank you is owed there!

dp just let me nap from 5 - 7.30! Woke up and both he and dd were starving, too late for the dinner I planned so now a pizza is coming... suspect this is why he let me sleep!!

barmybunting · 29/12/2014 21:56

Fully bf here as well, and whilst it is going well in terms of her weight gain and feeding, I am finding it hard going and starting to consider using the odd bottle off formula as I don't seem to be able to express enough for her and I am getting to the stage I need to get DH to do the odd feed as I am just so tired but she doesn't really sleep during the day to let me nap. 6 weeks today so hopefully that will change as we get into more of a routine.

Are you seeing any sign of a routine around feeding yet? It just seems to be constant here!

ladydolly · 29/12/2014 22:05

No routine to speak of really. She'll go 3-4 hours between feeds at night and about 1.5 during the day but has moved to shorter, more frequent feeds this week.

I'm more keen to get an evening routine going, at the moment its hours of rocking/crying until a final long feed at about 11ish.

Thehedgehogsong · 29/12/2014 22:17

In terms of routine, all I know here is she likes to do her big poo around lunchtime! Handy to know I suppose but it doesn't help with sleep.

happypotamus · 29/12/2014 22:23

Fully breastfed here. I don't have a choice as I couldn't interest a doctor in prescribing dairy-free formula when I was told she was allergic. She was both breast and formula fed for the first few weeks though as she took a while to get to grips with feeding and I was having to top her up with formula.

Tomorrow is 4 weeks since we were told she has cows milk protein intolerance. One of the A&E doctors said i only need to be dairy -free for 4 weeks, so tomorrow I will reintroduce some dairy (ignoring the half a slice of pizza I ate yesterday before I even realised). I am sceptical that 4 weeks will make any difference, but everyone else I have spoken is sceptical about the diagnosis. I really hope it works out though and she is ok with me eating normal food again. SIL did a buffet today, and I could only eat cold pork, chicken which I don't really like and salad, as she hadn't checked the packets to see if the other things were dairy free and I didn't want to keep asking. I had offered to provide some food but was told I didn't need to.

Today my velcro baby slept in the Moses basket for 2 hours! I got to help DD1 make a crown and play with play-doh. I probably could have made better use of the time but I never expected so long

Nessalina · 29/12/2014 23:23

No routine here really, just trends... He goes down 10pm at the earliest, 1am latest, then sleeps about 5hrs, feeds for an hour if I'm lucky, 2-3hrs if I'm not, then sleeps another 2hrs. So we're up anywhere from 7am to 10am! He's cheerful in the mornings, so good for an outing, will want a feed mid-morning/lunchtime. Then may snooze for a while, feed in the afternoon, then it's the great unknown - may snooze, may be happy, may start the great evening whining/feeding routine! Grin

WorkFreeWannabe · 30/12/2014 00:14

I really wanted to fully BF, but had to stop last week so I can start taking medication for a long term condition. I really wanted to continue but considering I've been off my meds for nearly a year whilst being pregnant and TTC, the risks are too high.

Saw the doctor this morning who was very reluctant to prescribe anything for Baby Wannabe's reflux. He suggest going back to the anti reflux milk which was helping, but only using it for half the day, then regular formula for the other half. He told me to see how it goes and come back in a week if need be. I've got a prescription for something to help with his constipation in case it shows up again. I haven't collected it yet, as I want to try using both milks throughYeah the day first.

caravela · 30/12/2014 00:16

DD is fully breastfed in the sense that she is only getting breastmilk but she is now getting one bottle of expressed milk per day. Either I go to bed early leaving DH to do a feed at 11 or midnight, and then bring her to me afterwards, or I do the midnight feed and bring her to him after that, and he does the 3-4am feed with the expressed milk, and brings her back some time between 6 and 7 am. We are sleeping in different rooms at the moment to make this system possible, which is a bit of a shame, but it's a price worth paying. Does it make me deeply weird to admit that I actually quite like expressing? There's something satisfying about seeing the milk level dripping slowly up in the bottle, and watching your nipples do the crazy water jet thing.

Since we started doing this I feel a whole lot better because it means both of us are getting at least 5 and sometimes 7 hours of sleep a night, which is so much better than the chaos before - the first couple of weeks in December I hadn't had more than 2 hours consecutive sleep for 5 weeks, and the tiredness was really starting to get to me.

We've been lucky though because DD has always been a good feeder - no problems with latch after the first few days. She definitely prefers breast to bottle, but she accepts the bottle when she realises that milk comes out of it. But several people have told me that their DC initially accepted bottles and then later on refused them, so this may only be a short term strategy.

Poor little thing has been under the weather with some kind of tummy bug. Very sleepy all day, and unhappy when awake, needing to be constantly rocked and jiggled, which isn't like her. She perked up when given a bath and seems to be a bit more cheerful now, so hopefully it's passing out of her system.

catg83 · 30/12/2014 02:34

DS is 100% BF from breast at the moment. He is 4+3 and haven't tried a bottle yet. A friend has an ekectric breast pump which i need to borrow.

Routine. ..that would be a no. He tends to go to sleep from 11-1 and then wakes 2-4 hours later. Feed/change/cuddle for 1-2 hours and then the same again and then will sleep for 1 hour or so That takes us to about 7/8 am and my OH will take him downstairs so I can get 2 ish hours uninterrupted sleep. The day is very much baby led but as I am exclusively BF we don't have to worry about having bottles with us. I can always whip a boob out.

Those that have tried bottles how old were your babies?