October 2014 // thread 2 // keeping each other company through the night feeds!

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Hi all, welcome to thread 2!

Hello everyone - I totally forgot to come and join here after everything that happened last week!
Just about adjusting to our new normal as a two child family since we were discharged at the weekend.
I shall read back properly, later

Frau yes cluster feeding on an evening is definitely something I'd encourage its a baby's way of trying to fill up ready for the night.

Thanks for help with scar pain. captain, no not really, just the obvious heavy lifting. if I had a car, I'd be able to drive! Just like a dull ache still every so often.

Our bedtime routine is that DP comes home about 8, takes her for an hour or so. I'll feed her the next time she asks, usually about 10 and stop halfway through for him to give her a bath while I sort myself out. Carry on feeding after in bed. It's worked well for us so far. She's still cluster feeding so we're done about 12/1 and she sometimes will sleep til 5/6. Not tonight when I've been up an hour at 3am. Grr. The plan is we'll gradually shift bedtime back when she's older.

We have our month old appointment tomorrow with the paediatrician. Her little arm's infected from her tetanus shot, poor thing.

Can I just say that the clothes situation for babies is absurd. All this pink shit is giving me the rage. Why so much pink? We've been given a load of clothes and all of it is pink. I don't want to dress her in pink - but to not wear perfectly nice things we've been given is just churlish isn't it.

porcito the past couple of days i have had a pain in my scar, mostly right hand side, its hard to describe what it feels like? Woke up through the night and it felt quite tender aswell but seems to be ok this morning? Im putting it down to everything inside is just healing & fusing back together ? Im also still also feeling a bit tender inside scar area after i do a pee, but my bladder was actually attached to my old c/sec scar tissue so they had to obviously do a bit of magic (what i dont know) to my bladder when getting dd2 out, will mention to doctor when i see her next time.

Mine's on the right too stigz. Wish I had a little window to see what's going on!

goats, we're the same. We were adamant not to overuse pink but there's so many gifts. I reserve them for vomit days. Here they already think she's a boy because I didn't get her ears pierced in the hospital like the other baby girls. MIL thinks I've 'doomed' her to life as a transexual by dressing her in blue occasionally.

Good luck Fedup! I had exactly the same appointment the other day. It was 45 mins delayed - DS screamed the entire time and nothing would stop him. DD climbed onto a window sill when I wasn't looking and fell off. Cue both kids screaming and others in waiting room shifting away from us. Dr decided I had mastitis as my boob was hot - I'm not convinced- I had broken out in heat rash and sweats from the stress of it.

Surely your appointment has to go better?

Captain argh any appointment with two makes me heated and tense!

Porcito I shouldn't laugh but you should write a book about your MIL.

First morning just me and the baby since the ILs went home. I actually got a sleep in. Woke up at 10. Lovely. OK was up for 2x 1 hour in the night (bloody reflux and having to hold them upright for half an hour after a feed - she feeds in less than 10 minutes!!!) but still feeling much better. Right best get jobs done before the boy is home at 12.30.

IM averaging approximately 4.5 hours of sleep in 24 hours (not all in one go) sleep deprived to the extreme. I wanted to ask if any of you have babies who won't go back to sleep after feeds at night? Violet wakes after 2-3 hours then feeds and doesn't go back to sleep for another 2 hours at least it's so exhausting at 3am!

I'm just about to try to put her down as I haven't eaten anything yet today and in dire need of a shower.

OH has a job interview today keeping my fingers crossed it's more money for us which we desperately need.

Dylan is sometimes awake for 2 hours at night. I downloaded a white noise for babies app yesterday and he really settles with the vacuum cleaner noise! Maybe worth a try?

Best of luck Me

Hope your DH has a good interview Me!
How do you all find your loss of 'independence'? My nearly 3 week old has lost the desire to sleep during the day. So awake 5.15am-10am this morning then went down for 30 mins so grabbed a shower and stuck a load of washing on. But seems to be v little time to dry hair/make up/did out nice pre pregnancy clothes/do computer stuff/sort stuff. Guess i need to get quicker!

Nah, fatpony you don't need to get quicker, you need to stop trying to do so much! Have you tried showering/hair drying while the baby is awake? Ds is vey happy in the bouncy chair in the bathroom with the extractor fan noise/shower/hairdryer.

goats we have the opposite situation here (everything pale blue) and I also feel bad about not just being bloody grateful for the gifts. SIL gave us a pale blue snowsuit - perfectly nice, and I will have to use it, but I would have picked out something in a nice bright green or orange.

Any tips then, yellow, fedup and anyone else for getting the baby to cluster-feed in the evenings?

True frau! But that's the thing- doing less just isn't me. I chafe at having to sit on the sofa for too long. Perhaps as it gets colder...

Afternoon all- I don't know when the last time I wore make up was! I'm lucky my mum's been over for a couple of hours each day so I've had a little break from burping and bouncy walking!
Good luck to MrMe on the job.
Very proud of DD- she's put on 8oz in 6 days- no wonder we're both knackered

me my first dd sounds like V ... She seemed to settle in car seat as hated lying flat due to reflux, so i would put her in that for an hour to get things done (or sleep) probably not good but i would have done anything for a sleep for me & her, as she was probably over tired most of the time, i also used to take her into my bed as sometimes she would settle better as close to me as possible, i did make a rod for my own back doing this as it took 4 years to get her back out of our bed but in those early days i was so exhausted that i didnt care, does v fall asleep when your holding her then wake up if you put her down?

Frau I strip her down to her vest to encourage her to feed, change mid feed to wake her up too.

Pony I was the same first time round. Annoying as it is to admit - lower your expectations a bit I reckon - it just leads to stress, babies aren't called dependants for nothing. (Though actually I find it easier to get stuff done with a newborn than a toddler as there's less policing involved.) Yes to showering with baby in the room - on playmat \ bouncy chair first, then actually in the shower in a swim nappy once crawling - they love extractor fan noise.

Had to get myself to drs today, been told I have mastitis - possibly with an abscess! Feeling ill and a bit low just when I thought I'd got the hang of bf...

Boyfriend leaves bath water in in the morning, I feed pip at 8 ish, then she stays awake in her crib for an hour or so - she's definitely a morning person - but I go and hop in the bath. Then I have time to get dressed, take everything downstairs, put washing on etc before she starts shouting. I get that this is very lucky! Even after she's shouting, I still carry on with doing hair or whatever - she loves the hairdryer sound.

Thanks, yellow. My Germanicised sensibilities are screaming "but your baby will get pneumonia in just a vest" , but I think I will give it a try, see if I can gradually bring the cluster period forward.

me good luck to your dh for his interview.

Well, we survived the waiting room! It was a 15 min wait so the iPad and some biscuits kept ds1 occupied.

Doctor told me I looked absolutely knackered - usually somethjng I can semi disguise with touché éclat and some tinted moisteriser, clearly not!

Anyway, she thinks I have thrush I my boob so given me a prescription. R doesn't appear to have it.
She's also prescribed R gaviscon as thinks may have reflux :( gaviscon a right faff with bf though so I don't know how I will get on - will see.

fatpony my dd has a wee awake period from 8 till 10 30 am ... I shower at night so it saves me one less thing if i am going out, and lie dd on my knee on the feeding cushion while i do my make up, (enjoying that while it lasts! ) she gets put on changing mat when im straighting my hair and i just talk away to her. When she finally settles its all systems go, breakfast, steralise bottles,make beds, unload dishwasher, load washing machine etc i also have a weeks worth of clothes for me and dd1&2 all ironed and ready to be put on.
I have got myself into a better routine since dp went back to work

Wow Goats - an hour or so awake in crib? That's impressive. Ro does a minute or so if I'm lucky! (Not at all jealous!)

The first of my two new slings arrived - Girasol ring sling and the other a petite Connectababy carrier. Slings are only way I'm surviving at present.

Me23 really good luck on job front - sounds like you could do with some good news

Also I agree with others about lowering expectations. I've really lowered mine this time and it's helping stress levels. In fact I've lowered them to just survival at the moment!

Hi everyone, how is everyone with older kids coping? We are watching a lot of peppa pig but I don't have the energy for much else. We were out all morning at the children's centre and library but this afternoon has been a peppa marathon so far. Toddler hasn't napped either so it's making it a long afternoon to entertain him and tv is the only way I can get him to chill out. Fortunately DD (2weeks old) is a fairly content little thing but that might not last!!