October 2006

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Pmoore - sad news . Letting her be with her greatgrandchild is probably the biggest thing you can do for your GM at this time. We took ds1 and dd to Israel to meet my GF 2.5y ago and went to see him every day while we were there. At first he was confused and remembered me but not them, and was too tired to want to be bothered, but by the last few days of the visit he remembered them and looked forward to our visits. His joy and excitement gave him such a burst of energy and improved - albeit temporarily - his slight dementia. I'm so glad I was able to bring some goodness to his later days and not have them just be a sad, dreary, period of putting off the inevitable.

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hi everyone - typing with 1 hand so who knows what will happen!

/i am sorry to hear your sad news pmore.

Welccolm memum (?)!!! Cant scroll back to check, but welcome!

lo is really good, 4 weeks today! re; bottle fed growth spurts - rather than keep feeding, just put an extra ounze in the bottle - Megan is now gulping 5 oz! Porker!!

after having dd1 I was so badly damaged 'in there' that sex was painful 4 6 months and i had to go to hosp weekly for some lazor treatment ... needless to say i am dreading embarking in that again. And i am still bleeding so really don't want to go there!!!

dh is away this week and i am coping with the girls far better than i ever imagined ... and i got dd1 to school on time on monday!!!!

gonna go and chill out - take care x

well done girlygale, sounds like you're coping brill.
sex! i/d rather change a stinky nappy. 4 weeks on and think still have the infection. still, dr said to not worry til 6 wk check and then wd b easier to do d and c.
swizzler i'm impressed how much you've been out and about, let alone thinking about knitting.
sorry about your granny pmore, sad news, i also wish my granny had been here to meet lo.
we had a disaster night last night followed by killer day. ended up having to take h. out in the buggy to get her to sleep. walked round and round for 2 hours trying not to cry with the sleep deprivation. luckily i called my aunt who took over after the 2 pm feed and wheeled her great niece in the pouring rain and freezing cold for another 2 and a half hours so i could finally get some sleep.
tomorrow faced with a visit from the outlaws. what with the sleep deprivation etc i am not at most tolerant. mil went balistic when told she couldn't come and stay the night. apparently everyone else she knows has gone down to stay with their grandchild for at least a week, she's not wanted, we're not meeting her needs . we should have an open door policy, she brought dh up better than that...
as if life wasn't hard enough. will have to try v hard not to visualise sharp knives when she comes. and i really don't have to bf in front of dh's stepdad but feel like they'll make me feel i'm not welcoming if don't.aaghhh.
it was lovely to hear you back on thread dogsmum, hope you're healing well. hope nowanearlynicemum is doing ok.

Morning,

Thank you for all your kind words.

LO still sleeping- for the first morning in 6 weeks I've managed to have coffee and breakfast watching TV on my own.

I've heard proper baby cooing and chatting from Samantha now and she smiled at me through the cot bars. Shame it was 3am but it made my night!

The postings about sex are cheering me up. I just keep thinking of ways to put it off a bit. DP does understand- it is just the thought of it!

marthahm- I've resorted to the taking out in buggy thing and I've even taken LO to the supermarket late at night to get her to sleep in the car seat! The things we resort to for some sleep.

Morning ladies. Had a rough night well thats not strictly true its just that lo prefers to sleep with me than his moses basket. Totaly my fault because every time he makes a noise at night I take him into bed so ofcourse hes got used to this. How quicly they learn! But as you say anything to get some sleep eh? Apart from that things are going well with his feeding. Feel more relaxed about the whole thing now.
Dont seem to be bleeding so much now which I stupidly mentioned to dh who suggested next time hes got a day off we might hava an early night. I just laughed out loud at him..............

Bother - I've wrecked my back. What slight feelings of lust were starting to tingle in me have now been completely subdued once again! I wonder whether dh had noticed that I was starting toget a bit more 'interested'. Men never seem to understand that for us women sex isn't always an all or nothing thing, and also that the fact that we are 'healed' down there, doesn't mean that we're ready to do anything about it!

I wonder whether birth partners who've seen the birth from the foot end, so-to-speak, are more understanding of the woman's lack of desire than those who stayed up top.

morning all,

Well my dp seems the opposite of everyone elses im trying it on with him and he turning me down lol, not that im up for sex yet as still bleeding and not feeling completly healed guess im just wanting some much needed kissing and caressing still not getting that either lol.
dp had to go work to day so am on my own with jasmine for the first time am quiet nervous as i get really stressed if i cant calm her and an exhausted as she didnt wantt o sleep for long last nite well unless it was on me!!!!

hello all you lovely ladies
sorry I haven?t posted before now. have tried to keep up to date with your news but failed dismally to put fingers to keyboard myself until now.
Lucy will be 3 weeks tomorrow and it feels like she?s always been here to be honest. She is very very good to her mummy and papa and only wakes up once a night for a feed so I don?t feel the TOTAL sleep deprivation that I suffered with dd1. She does seem to feed all evening to prepare herself for the night but I can deal with that
Gradually coming to terms with the events that followed L?s birth and am sleeping better, fewer nightmares and less waking up in cold sweats.
Dd1 is struggling to find her place in our new family of four. She can be really affectionate with L and then all of a sudden she gets her claws out and L gets a great big scratch across the face. Naturally I then explode (oh, that maternal protective thing!) which I?m sure isn?t the best way to deal with it. Any of you with more than 1 having similar trouble? There?s a 2yr age gap between my two.

pmoore - sorry to hear your news. spend as much time as you can with your gran right now, it?s the best thing for all of you. hope you?re ok.

marthahm - I know what you mean about pil. mine have just gone home and whilst they were a great help cooking, cleaning and helping with dd1 I really couldn?t have coped with them any longer. Very ungrateful I know but my MIL has totally different ideas to me (she can?t understand why I would want to breastfeed, let alone respect my/our decision ) and keeps making really unnecessary comments. I heard her tell dd1 that she understood that she was lacking affection . This, from a woman who has NEVER in the 11yrs that I?ve known her shown any signs of affection to any of her 4 children or her long suffering husband . RANT OVER!

catgirl - don?t mention Christmas shopping, I haven?t even started... aaaarggghh!

re sex, I have to confess I?m pretty much gagging for it at the moment but daren?t ?do the deed? as my scar hasn?t healed properly yet. seem to remember being up for it by this time after my c-section with dd1 though.

gingeme - the medela electric is ridiculously noisy, isn?t it? I know friends who could express in front of the telly but for me that would be completely pointless as I wouldn?t be able to hear a blinking thing!! haven?t got mine out of the cellar yet this time round - keep putting it off. maybe tomorrow

pretty candles - hope your back is ok. what did you do?

right, that?s more than enough from me. dd1 is at nursery so it?s just me and dd2 for the morning - should really be making the most of it.

PLEASE READ

Hey all. No posting for a while as have colic to deal with. not fun. Anyway, even though I am not posting, I am reading the threads and glad everyones recovering OK, and reassured that I'm not the only one having fun fitting LO into a family with other children in it...

Anyway, main reason for posting is to alert those of you who haven't seen it to THE VERY IMPORTANT THREAD

I have no idea how to post a nice link thing so the address is www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=2652&threadid=240112

Or if that doesn't work it is under Christmas in the topics section. Please read if you haven;t already. This is what christmas is all about and I am very pleased that I now have something to do with all the gifts that I have been given for LO that I won't be able to use.

And are we having a get together? John Lewis sounds busy at xmas time, Canary wharf would be quieter but no idea if there are any good places there to meet up...

Whiffy.

Morning all,

pmoore - I'm in the same situation as you with my gran, she was taken into hospital last week as she was bringing up blood and they called us at 11pm that night to say she was very poorly and to expect the worst, she pulled through but the dosctors have discovered a tumour in her stomach and there's nothing they can do. I visited her on Saturday and took a photo of the baby for her to keep which she kissed - heartbreaking.

I've been feeling really fed up about the amount of fat and flabby skin I'm still left with. I can loose the weight but I'm not sure if I can do anything about the excess skin - another downside of having a huge baby! To make it worse it hangs over my c section scar which is making it really itchy and smelly sorry if TMI.

However having said that I am looking forward to sex again but i'm not sure how long to wait after a c section is it classed as aerobic excercise??? i also need to get contraception sorted as DH has gone on some strong tablets for his athritis which means getting pg is not advised but as my blood pressure has been iffy the dr has suggested a coil or implant does anyone have any experience of these?

Sorry for long post must mean I have moretime on my hands today which is a good sign.

can i ask anyones advice on the bleedng situation?
It seems to be all ova the place one min it hardly anything and the next im pouring is this normal or shud i be worried that i have an infection???

I told my mw but she didnt seem to worried!

thanks whiffy, for giving my ample butt the kick it needed to get involved with soapy's scheme; I bet she had no idea what she was getting herself into when she posted her OP!!
christmas cheer to you all!!!

Youngmum: I think bleeding can vary depending on how active you are. I know I started bleeding more after a walk at that stage. If your uterus is contractin OK, there aren't any big clots or any smelly discharge I think it's OK. Keep the mw informed, tho.

Whiffy: we're having a few colicky episodes as well - am impressed at how loud the boy can yell! Doubt the neighbours feel the same way . Infacol seems to help, but sometimes he just screams anyway. Cue lots of walking about - DH has also perfected the 'sleeping lion' colic hold as well which seems to help.

Despite problems settling and constant feeding yesterday, W slept for OVER 5 HOURS from 11ish to 4:45am. First time he's gone for more than 2 - hope this lasts and isn't a blip .

Marthahm: your inlaws sound like a nightmare. Remember your priorities are a) DD and b) you. I suppose partners get a look-in, but in-laws do not. Leave them to your DH if possible.

Meeting up: Canary Wharf sounds much better than Oxford St at Xmas . Catgirl: could you recommend a venue? Re dates, midweek would be good for me, not the 10th but otherwise my diary's free. Am looking forward to having a nose at everyone else's babies

Hello all

I'm not really getting the hang of posting post natal yet but am managing to sneak a glimpse at the thread just to catch up on all your news.

girlgale, there must be something in the name Megan, mine is a real guzzler too and putting on loads of weight, she is really developing chubby cheeks and thighs!

I have bought a breast pump but have yet to try it, I think if I have extra to give her at the late night feed she might go longer during the night. She lasted 4 hours last night her longest stint yet, clever girl.

Has anyone tried going out in the evening yet with their babes? Megan is 4 weeks on Sat and we have been invited to a dinner party, it's with really good friends but an hours drive so a bit nervous, if she is going to kick off it's usually the evening time so unsure whether to go or not.

Keep up the good work everyone we all seem to be getting the hang of this

Hi,
Any protocol to joining this thread late? dd1 was born on 30 Oct and I have just discovered the joys of Mumsnet plus am mastering the art of 1 handed typing while feeding! Wish I'd have found this site during pregnancy, would have saved a lot of stressing knowing others going through the same thing as me!

Hi Mellin and welcome! We're a friendly bunch, tho sproadic posters due to demands of small babies (DH has just taken mine to the shops ). Have tried bfing while typing, but DS is a wriggler and I have to watch for him bashing his head against the desk!

Hi Mellin, welcome and congrats .

Nicand2 - if a skin fold is getting itchy and smelly, be aware that it's possible to get thrush in that fold. So if it gets worse go see your GP. The treatment is Canesten, jsut as for vaginal thrush, but I don't know whether you can just go ahead and slef-medicate, as I don't know whether you can put Canesten on a new scar.

And as to what I did to my back...here .

Swizzler - bf time is about the only time dd is still! The rest of the time is fidgeting/fussing/snorting/wanting to be rocked/walked. Oh and the occasional wink of sleep here and there. I am dealing with lack of sleep with the mantra that she is still really young (3.5 weeks) and things will get better!

Pretty Candles - ouch! Can I ask what position you were in - a chair or sat in bed? I feed at night propped up with pillow against my bed head and must admit on occasion recently have found myself falling asleep. Will have to super glue my eyes open I think as last thing I want is back trouble. Hope it gets better soon.

My all-time favourite feeding position, for day or night feeds (but not for 3h at a time!): lying on my side, baby lying in front of me feeding from 'lower' boob, my 'upper' arm draped over baby, my 'lower' arm stretched upwards under my cheek and arcing over baby's head.

Hiya
doin that 1 handed typing thingy.
welcome 2 new mums

yougmum - i only just feel normal down there - has been 3 weeks and had 2nd degree tear + lots of stitches. still bleeding slightly but did o through a phase last week whre it seemned to increase and had some clots but is ok now. i think wuith dd last rime it stopped at about 3 weeks but evry1 differs.

gingeme-medela pump is noisy but imagine easier than manual pump. when dd was 5 months i went to dh xmas do and stayed overnight in hotel (mil babysat). i needed to take pump with me to relieve myself at end of evening. anyone passing hotel room at 2am must have been thinking we were doing kinky stuff!!!

went to tesco with ds today - is so nice having evry1 cooing over baby. He must really be cute, not just to my eyes!

Morning-

Welcome Mellin-MN is great.

DD still sleeping! Another good night she has been asleep from 10pm last night.

Anyone been for their 6 week check? Is it a bit of a waste of time? I went yesterday and was there about 2 minutes and the doctor didn't even examine me! I suppose they just have to take your word for it when questions are asked. Mum said in her day it was like a full M.O.T.

I would like to meet up with you all but I am a bit scared. Not of you nice people but, I have never done anything like this before!

Morning All,

Welcome Mellin.

Not posted for a while as been busy. DH has been off this week, helping, which is great. Just finished second lot of antibiotics for womb infection and now have mastitis!! Have major problems feeding with my right boob. Am seriously considering letting it dry up and just using left one. It has been seven weeks now and it is never not sore or easy and both myself and LO get frustrated.

Have my post-natal check up today! Not sure what my doc will do - seems to be different depending which area you live in.

Went Xmas shopping on Monday - DH sat with LO in cafe and I raced around getting stuff! Was good to have helping hand although was exhausted when we got home. We are going to my parnet's in the Highlands for Christmas - LO will get to see the farm and coo at all ther animals. can't wait!

Took Lo in the bath with me on Tuesday and it was lovely - she really enjoyed kicking about{grin}

Have a good day all!

Had my 6 week check yesterday - included internal check on stitches, smear test (as I was due one) and chat about contraception, support and general stuff. She also cauterised my episiotomoy as it was granulating and checked my boobs (all fine). Wasn't sure if they would do an internal, but it was pretty quick and OK.

W did another 4 hr stretch last night - at those sleeping through the night but 4 hours seems pretty good to me at the moment.

Rumpel: having been to 3 meet-ups, I can assure you that we're all normal and not axe-murderers or (worse) competitive mums . You can always slope off early to do some shopping if you want .

Sorry, meant Pmoore - obv 4 hours not enough to get brain moving

catching up with the news while dd1 is having her nap and before dd2 wakes up demanding MORE food!!

swizzler - good to hear W is beginning to sleep longer. It?s amazing how just an extra hour?s uninterrupted sleep can make you feel so much more human, isn?t it?
last night L slept through from 12 til 7am - but her lovely sister woke up twice in that time and needed to be settled. It?s never ending!!

very jealous you?ll all get a gander at each other?s little ones when you meet up soon... I?m just too far away unfortunately.

re going out in the evening with little ones Clon, we haven?t done that yet with L but with dd1 we were constantly out and about. she seemed to genuinely enjoy it - and on the rare occasions where she ?kicked off? there are always plenty of willing arms to pass her around to

pretty candles - how?s your back? I have to confess to falling asleep from time to time in that position when I?m feeding L in the middle of the night, usually for no longer than an hour but even that makes me feel pretty stiff. Hope you?re coping ok;

Rumpel - sounds like you?re beseiged with nasty infections and stuff. Poor you. Is it possible just to feed from one boob then?

lots of cooing and pooey nappies to you all x