November 2012 - Halloween costumes anyone?

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Rest day here. DD1 seems better so it is just me on the poorly bench.

Yes, kept the tyres, storing them at my parents. Thankfully they were new this summer so hopefully it will last me for another couple of years.

They should last a good while Lily I had my winter tyres put on a couple of weeks ago and it will be their third winter.

I've got very garlicky roast chicken and roast potatoes in the oven. It all smells lush.

I'm also menu planning for next weekend as I have friends arriving on Friday for three days. Massive Sunday brunch, onion soup, and a roast leg of lamb are planned so far. And lunch at our favourite restaurant. Or at another of our favourite restaurants. Depends on weather.

It's been months since have had guests so am looking forward to it. Need to get my cooking mojo back have done v little of interest for months.

Evening.

We have cuzza tonight.

Sweetcorn fritters and raita
Bombay potatoes
Chicken Dhansak
Nan

All made by moi. Even nan. It has been a lovely pottery kitchen day.

The boys have chicken tikka and nommed it.

Ooh can I have your naan recipe please wanda ? I have tried several and cocked all up but one. Which I didn't print and save in my book so have lost.

Sounds yum wanda. We are having chicken tika tonight.

Chilled out day here. Went to finally get a pedicure and my brows threaded. Feel great. Now fh is off watching footy. Boys are playing. Just spotted H itching his head. Will do another round of the leave in stuff over night.

Ok no more playing nicely. Later ladies.

I will photocopy it and post in fb.

I will never buy a supermarket nan again after making my own they are much nicer and lighter.

Ta. I remember the recipe I used had natural yoghurt in it. But can't find it anymore.

Roast chick smelled fab but couldn't taste much.

Yes. It has got natural yoghurt in. I might write it up tomorrow in the same way I did the beef shin. X

Going to bed after tea with netflix. Any reccomendations for a trash watch?

Not sure about starting a series as I don't seem to have time to follow through......

Good plan x

Suits! Easy eye candy I watched three seasons in the last fortnight due to feeling like shite.

Finally felt well enough to tackle a book today (the silkworm by galbraith/jkr).

Can't recommend films on Netflix as my Netflix is different to yours. I didnwatch Sleeping With The Enemy on it a few weeks back. It was great when it came out but was a bit meh on re-watch.

PR I'm loving the Silkworm.

We're finishing Game of Thrones and also need to catch up on S2E1 of the Fall. I have a new fluffy onesie, vair posh - from esprit. I love it. despite looking five months preggers in it. Great for BF on cold nights snuggled in front of telly.

Cuckoo's Calling was the first book in ages that kept me up at night ie choosing to read rather than sleep.

Hoping Silkworm will be as fab. She has created an amazing "couple". She is so talented a writer - the detail is lovely. I know she was criticised as an author for the way she wrote HP, but I love her style. So easy to read but so witty.

Evening wonderful chums!

I do little telly watching or book reading for no reason other than laziness. I need to get back at it. I would love to try the new jkr books as I was very much a fan of hp. I thought they were a genuinely lovely representation of growing up - magical or otherwise.

Today we had a very late start. It was fabulous! Then headed to ikea to buy p's birthday gift from us which is the kitchen. DH joked that she will have as much prep and storage as us. He isn't far wrong.

I have all weather tyres on my car. The weather is not definitely bad enough for winter tyres and they would be dangerous in the wrong conditions so all weather works for me. We did think about winter tyres but other than the lack of certain need we have nowhere to keep the dashed things!!

I started this post about an hour ago or so so I shall come back and see what else has happened!!

Haha! Nothing!

Well, I will continue blethering then.

I mentioned yesterday about finding some things harder since having p. Well, I have just ranted at DH about misogyny in pop songs. "She belongs to me" and "she'll be mine" etc. That accompanied by rape apologists ("I mean, do they not like their mothers?!") and the difficulties teens have managing issues of consent ("so, if you are snogging someone, does that mean they consent to sex?" "Yes!" ) have meant a cheerful and relaxed evening. I want to make a suit of armour for p. One which can be both consenting and resilient as fuck at her own free will.

How are we all? Curry sounds fabulous wanda. You are a culinary inspiration.

Gah misogyny in pop songs pisses me right off pass especially in the current r&b spinoff that the French young'uns find so appealing. The videos are also gross.

My daughters will think they have to grind and twerk over my dead body.

Ha ha. Just re-read that. They won't have to grind or twerk over my dead body!!!

But over my dead body will my daughters ever have to twerk.

Hmm.

Am fairly sure you know what I mean.

Hahahahahahaha! Grinding and twerking would make for an unusual send off for sure. Make a change to "I did it my way"

I used to eye roll at this stuff but I find myself more and more enraged by it. Obviously evidenced by the fact that a colleague asked me to 'drop past' a class he was struggling with during lessons on consent. He was genuinely appalled by their attitudes and shared it with me. Well, I stopped by and they were rendered speechless. Having been a girl of my time and a victim of the "just lie still. You want it really" attitude there is no way in the world that I am standing by lamely and letting generation upon generation of girls and boys believe that "she looked up for it" is acceptable. It just makes me sad that simply listening to mainstream pish fills their heads with such garbage

And the "but sometimes no means yes" thing? Ha. My girls will have the no means no drummed into them very early on. Which will be hard in France where popular culture regularly talks about no meaning yes.

I made the mistake of putting a music channel on the telly t'other day so the bear and I could have a wee dance. Jonas' eyes were on stalks "boobies Mummy". Jeez it was not so soft porn - if that's how the yoof learn gender roles I'm sad. No wonder I know so many young women in such utterly shit relationships and with such painfully low body images. I know its not my choice to make but its my Mummy mission to help raise my two as proud feminists.

the no means yes bullshit makes my brain explode.

Girls are brought up to be chaste and pure despite having sexual urges and desires so they have no idea how to manage and control them. They then have no concept of what to make of wanting sexy today but not tomorrow. Surely wanting sex at all means you should be damned well grateful of it comes along? Or at least you can't complain.

If we empower young people to acknowledge and feel in control of their own sexuality then we will have fewer issues. If boys learn to watch the reactions of their partners and not to be afraid to stop and check all is well. If girls are no longer afraid to say "stop! I like you but not right now. Maybe never. But definitely not now" and boys have egos well rounded enough to take her by the hand and say "alright. Fair enough. I wasn't keen anyway. I like you too. But maybe not like that. Not now Nd maybe not ever." And they can be ok.

I have always been a feminist, in my way. But having two girls has made me very VERY aware of the influence popular culture had on me, and how popular culture is even worse now.

DD1 told me she wanted a barbie for Christmas a few weeks ago. Instead of going mental at the idea I have been showing her other examples of toys (even picked up a toy catalogue for her to flick through, but ripped out the pink bits).

I love pink. Married in pink. But never bought into the pink girly thing (did it exist when we were kids?)

Fighting a hard battle though. Will photo some of her school work and you will see why. Pink and blue = difference between boys and girls seems to have been the first half term project. I haven't complained yet. But will mention it next time I get a one to one with teacher.

I don't think Barbie is particularly evil btw. But why would a 3yo ask for it above everything else? What is the point? Why isn't she asking for lego like last year? Nothing has changed at home.

yw I now often wonder if raising a boy now would be easier than raising a girl. 10 years ago I'd have said girls have the world as their oyster. But now I am not so sure. Even my work issues were mainly because I am an ambitious yet childbearing woman.

In 20 years will feminist still be something that politicians will be wary of admitting to being? Or will it be no longer relevant due to the world being an egalitarian non judgemental place?

I think things are worse now for women than they were 10/20 years ago. It's scary.