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halestone · 28/10/2014 13:34

Mama H has been having nightmares recently and waking up from them upset. Its horrible, i just reassure her when she wakes up.

I have just started slimming world today, i was absolutely gutted when i stood on the scales. I have never been this heavy

SpottyTeacakes · 28/10/2014 17:50

The dc have driven me mad this afternoon they've been horrible and I've not been the nicest back I've shouted and said go away

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PurplePidjin · 28/10/2014 17:56

and fat-free all round then

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halestone · 28/10/2014 20:14

Spotty i hate having days like that. Hope tomorrow is better for you.

SpottyTeacakes · 29/10/2014 05:49

They were making me so cross! I was on the phone trying to sort out chimney leak and they kept screaming and screaming. When I went into the kitchen they kept banging on the door! Fingers crossed for a better day...

halestone · 29/10/2014 18:27

I've had a brilliant day with H today she tickles me she is so funny.

Hope everyone else has had nice days.

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PurplePidjin · 29/10/2014 18:34

Went to Ikea. He had a lovely time playing with my friends' older kids then tantrummed round the shop - he's not taking the clock change well - came home, ate dinner and did his first poo on the potty! I was assuming, since those mostly come after sleep, that we'd be tackling that later but he appears to have just quietly got on with it for himself :o

for those who need it and for Mama just getting up for the day

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MrsNutsandBolts · 29/10/2014 19:22

spotty that drives me nuts too. You can't win. Especially when a miserable child just needs to be miserable for a bit; but they insist on following you around while they are busy being miserable.

Pidj ikea is always a brave choice!

DS has taken to calling me whenever I'm sneakily on MN not giving him my full attention "muuuuuummmyyyyu muuuuuummyyy" even in the car
But today was good. He is another who hasn't taken the time change well. I'm hoping that a few days and keeping to his routine will see him right. Fortunately he stars at nursery next week.

And I need a little rant: a friend of mine made a comment that I feel was a little bitchy and judgemental. Now, if I wanted to I could make some very judgemental comments about her parenting choices and also that basically I think she is being a bit of a martyr, she could make different choices and potentially be much happier!

Anyway, she said about me putting DS into Nursery "different people cope in different ways" Maybe she wasn't judging and it's just that I feel a smidge guilty about not being able to entertain DS. Even though I know that he will love nursery. So he will benefit from being there. I will benefit and have more time for DD, so she also benefits.
But what I heard my friend saying was "well, I don't need a nursery and I've looked after my two children until my first went to kindergarten at three years old". When that isn't strictly true. Her PIL live around the corner and they see them a fair amount. She gets on really well with and sees lots of her SIL. She is happy to stick her kids in front of a movie. DS won't watch a movie, 25 ish minutes of YouTube and that's enough for him. Plus he is harder to deal with when he has too much TV/screen time.

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PurplePidjin · 29/10/2014 19:31

that would drive me nuts nut it's easier by far when you've got doting rellies itching for an afternoon at the duck pond i have absolutely no problem being a sahp and still think the benefits of socialising at nursery far far outweigh having those few extra hours with me!

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SpottyTeacakes · 29/10/2014 19:32

Hmm it's hard Nutella, she could have been being bitchy but she also could have sensed your guilt and been trying to reassure you dd started nursery when ds was five weeks old and she loved it I felt much less guilty about not being able to do as much with her as she did so much at nursery.

I went out earlier and ds fell down the stairs all the way! He's fine but I think dp is traumatised!

Maryland2013 · 29/10/2014 19:35

Nut even if I didn't work I would send DS to nursery. It's so good for him, he loves it. He has fun days and has a genuine bond with the other kids- he hugs and kisses them without prompting. He's a very social boy and I think some of that comes from going to nursery.
Your friend can get stuffed!!

One of my friends is having real trouble with her little boy who has just started school in Sept. He never went to nursery. He's having real problems with rules- boundaries/ sharing/ structure at school. They've been in 4 times already (!).

MrsNutsandBolts · 29/10/2014 19:44

spotty poor DS! Is he ok? I do think that often it's more trauma for the parents than for the kids! I remember (vaguely) cutting my head open and going to hospital for stitches. My lasting impression is "cool, stitches"

and thank you and pidj for reassuring me. It is absolutely possible it's me. But I do think she has tendencies to be a bit of a martyr. I'm not going to go into detail, it would out me not that I'm interesting enough for anyone to be looking for me and I also totally agree pidj the social aspect of nursery is something I really cannot compete with. We go to various different playgrounds, we are out daily and it's usually only us there

My next angst attack will be whether I leave DS there full days or half days - it's a full day place but he just seems too little to stay there all day. So we plan to start with half days and see how we go.

MrsNutsandBolts · 29/10/2014 19:45

Maryland thank you too! Your comment that she can "get stuffed" made me lol .

Thank you all, I really am feeling better about it now!

SpottyTeacakes · 29/10/2014 19:49

I would do half days to start.

Apparently he slid rather than rolled and luckily(?!) the pile of crap on the bottom of the stairs softened the blow when I got in he kept rubbing his head and taking me over to the hall and pointing at the stairs!

Barbeasty · 29/10/2014 20:11

Nut it's so much easier when you have family support and/or nursery! With A I had a mixture of the two.

And I've accepted the wine, now I'm on leave for the rest of the week. I want a hangover when I spend a day making glittery Christmas cards with DD don't I?

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PurplePidjin · 29/10/2014 20:38

Spotty

Nut some people are just Like That. If she weren't complaining about how much she does for her kids she'd be complaining about how busy she is at work (instead of doing any actual work) or how hard it is to decide between Corcheval and the Rockies for this year's second skiing trip can you tell I've dropped a few people from my Christmas Card list for this Deffo half days to start, you'll miss him! Although my friend's dc has been in nursery 8-6 since 11mo and is a lovely, happy, confident child.

Beasty you'll need a hair of the dog, surely? I wish you luck :o

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MrsNutsandBolts · 29/10/2014 20:57

Beasty enjoy the wine! You'll love the glitter equally if you're hungover or not I reckon

spotty awww bless him!

pidj yes. She does have a lot of her own issues too which I have every sympathy for; but do something about it, instead of moaning, woman!

DH and I have both been saying how much we will miss him. He is such a cheeky chap and so loud it will be very odd and quiet!

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PurplePidjin · 29/10/2014 21:06

That type don't - all the pleasure is in telling other people how hard done by they are. It's a form of attention seeking. If you every challenge them by suggesting how they could improve things, you get firmly sidelined I take great pleasure in doing so It's like one-uppers, you know the type - if you've been to Tenerife they've been to Elevenerife

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MrsNutsandBolts · 29/10/2014 21:23

I know I can be a bit of an elevenarife type . I'm also full of useless facts which somehow fall out of my head in relevance to whatever has been said, like a verbal fart rather than diarrhoea

And if I think I'm right I can be awfully dogmatic about it. But you know, it's only because I am the best
Gosh I am a loon!

Stacks · 29/10/2014 21:59

MN just crashed my browser and ate my post. Sigh. Too tired now :(

MaMaPo · 30/10/2014 01:11

I lost a post earlier too. V frustrating.

nuts, everyone has told you exactly the right thing about this friend of yours. I'm happy I don't really have judgy friends - I have a feeling they would not be around very long.

Aw spotty! C has started getting very indignant at things that she trips on our bumps her head on. She points to them angrily and says 'This!' Pretty cute.

WLmum · 30/10/2014 07:18

Argh the WL house needs a cross on the front door - T has an awful cough and temperature, and dd2 has nits! Just in time for us to go away for the weekend tomorrow. Did mega nit combing session on us all last tonight, more tonight. Don't think DH has ever been so glad to be bald!

WLmum · 30/10/2014 07:25

nuts judgeyness is always about that persons insecurities rather than anything that you are or aren't doing. You are making a choice to use some quality childcare for ds because it's right for the nuts family. Other people will make different choices because it's right for them. There is no one right way. If you want to preserve the friendship, smile, nod and ignore, if you don't, tell her to mind her own!
spotty I hope ds is ok. Bet it was scary for dp.

utopian99 · 30/10/2014 09:22

I know I can be judgey but hope mother hood has mitigated it somewhat. I have a friend who is seriously competitive in terms of status anxiety, and she's definitely softened a bit since having their dd.

utopian99 · 30/10/2014 09:32

spotty I hope ds is OK? Must be scary!

pidj yay for the potty training success!

nuts O is starting at the Montessori nursery two mornings a week from January for exactly the same reason as you - he doesn't have to as I'm on May leave/self employed, but we think he'll get a lot out of the extra variation in interaction, plus I personally want to be able to give the new one some one on one.

wl I. Hope the house of lurgi is improved? Will remind DH of the bonus of baldness when we get our first dose of nits!

O kissed the bump after his normal round of morning kisses for DH, his bear and me - am so nervous about him liking it when it turns in to a baby!