sept 2014: babies are here (or coming soon!)

[allisgood1]

Even though dc3 is end of August, thought I'd start a sept thread :-)

How are you all doing?

dS1 is 9 dats old. Feeding well and surely sleeping well but it's hard to know as I keep falling asleep at night feeding him!

My bleeding is only just now slowing down (to a neon yellow discharge) and DS is nearly 6 weeks. It did used to get worse when I was active.

I think I'll go for the mirena again. I had it before DS and had no unwanted symptoms and it was quite easy to manage.

I am starting to get really anxious. Talking to dr this week about going back in anti-d's as I can see this is on it's way to spiraling out of control. I woke in the night panicking that I am a shit mum. Dd2 is really struggling with not being the baby and I spend the majority of my time shouting at her. She must hate me

All, don't think that! She doesn't think you're shit at all. She will be wondering what's going on but she'll be fine. They bounce back so well. Be kind to yourself

Thanks for the good wishes ladies.

Thanks Marjal, I'm hoping it's all something and nothing - a few people have told me how common heart murmurs are in newborns so fingers crossed. We have our appointment on Tuesday to check everything out.

Nazly my first two ds's slept on their tummies. It was the only way they'd sleep. Scary but necessary. I just told myself that that was the advice when we were growing up so even though research has proven sleeping on their backs reduces the risk of cd, it is still a relatively rare occurence. And sleeping on tummy reduces the risk of choking so it's swings and round-abouts.

Allisgood, please don't worry. I'm lucky to not suffer from depression but I still worry I'm not doing a good enough job with my two other children (age 6 & 7) and often go to bed feeling guilty about things I have or haven't done - I think it's a mother's curse! I'm forever shouting at my two about this and that, but they're robust
xx

all sorry you are feeling like that :( speaking to your doctor is absolutely the right thing to do, it's good that you're feeling proactive. Like the other comments, I'm sure DD just needs some time to adjust.

We had a horrible night last night. DS cluster fed 11pm -3am. I was a wreck. He wouldn't settle at all and I was so exhausted I just needed sleep. It's so weird how they keep going and going and then suddenly they nod off. I'm sure there's no trick to it, you just have to wait for that magical moment.

Then at 5am DS woke and had a little bit of sick by his nose, he seemed ok though. I changed his nappy and then suddenly he was struggling to breathe and arching his back :( he wasn't really choking but it was coming close and it was just so horrible. It was like there was a lot of fluid in his throat that he couldn't shift. DH sucked some out through his nose and just ssshed him and baby calmed down, and fell straight to sleep. Like it was nothing to worry about! Was so horrible :(

Easily the worst night we've had.

There must have been something in the air last night.

My son has been like a dream since birth - just waking for a feed at 1.30am and 5.30 am. I have found this really manageable and have actually got better sleep than I did when heavily pregnant. Then last night, he woke up 2 hourly and stayed awake for much of that time. My partner helps but I can't sleep whilst my baby is awake. I feel absolutely shattered today ...hoping tonight is better....

allisgood - I have the same "shit mum" panics. I am forever snapping at my 11 year old daughter and feel guilty as her twin brother and the baby get the best of me where as she just gets my moods. I am trying to spend quality time with her and not make her feel picked on but she is constantly testing me and several times I have ended up in floods of tears because of how I have ended up snapping at her.

Ella my LO takes 3-4oz at each feed and goes about 3.5 hrs between, but she will sometimes wake up after an hour or so and take another oz. She's 12 days old now so I can definitely see her being up to 5oz by 3 weeks old. She's a little piglet bless her

First off ... Wow Kitkat, my new hero! I had a 2nd degree tear and stitches 2 and 1/2 weeks ago and don't even want to think about DDT for some time yet...poor DH.

I had my last midwife appointment, where she told me to book my 6 week check. When I went to do that at my GPs they said they don't do routine 6 wk checks anymore. Anyone else told this?

Ella, Danny has about 3oz top up on top of a breast feed, sometimes he doesn't quite take it all, sometimes he wants an extra oz. he is 3 weeks, not sure how much he gets from a breastfeed though.
With Ds1 is was 12 weeks before I could face DTD as my stitches healed so slowly and painfully and DS1 never slept (I lived on 2 hrs sleep in 24 for 2 months) - healing much quicker this time and dS2 sleeps much better but not quite ready yet!

Lh thanks for that- right now either me or dh sits next to ds watching while he sleeps on tummy soundly - I only get decent sleep when dh watches over him. I know these are all only risk factors and possibility of anything happening is low but I think I am going to order angel care soon...

Honey keep an eye on him arching his back... Ds started exactly doing what you describe and we had to take him to doctor and they said it is reflux... One time is obviously absolutely normal but if you had more of it you may want to check it out

Allis, this is my first by I can only imagine how difficult it is to have more kids and spend time with them.... Very difficult... Be kind to yourself, your kids wont remember these...

Ladies I need some cheap nursing tops- any idea where to get them?

Omg I can't believe some of you are back shagging again, tbf dh is gagging for it but what with my infection and fissure I haven't been up for it :( Eli will be 8 weeks on Wednesday

ella Eli takes 5-6 oz every 4 hrs or 3-4 every 3 sometimes he can only manage 2hr gaps and takes 2-5 oz. He is a piggy. When I was bf he could feed for up to 1hr and still drink 5 oz from a bottle after.

Ella sorry I go in ml but B does about 100ml every 2.5-3.5 hours. Sometimes 120ml other times 70.

Poo question. Yesterday he only did one. Today he has done two MASSIVE ones. Is this ok?

Also does any one else's child make lots of noise whilst sleeping?

Holls - dd is SO noisy! It's like sleepig with a tiny pig

Nazly - bf tops from h&m are 2 for £15 which is ok. They have clips on the straps and are good for layering but cheap stretchy vests are just as good if wearing under a top (pull top up and vest down method)

Jaykay - I'll second that, dd is a reasonable sleeper but last night had me up till 3am feeding constantly

Ds is a very loud sleeper, well he can be silent too which is also a worry. He grunts lots and makes an awful choking noise

ella right from day one Eli was a flipper, I've always put him on his back and he would flip over onto his side. He is much better at staying on his back now though and he finally weighs enough for sleep bags :)

I am worried he may either have silent reflux or is badly constipated, we have a weigh in this am so gonna speak to the health visitor.

Thanks for the encouragement ladies. I luckily don't suffer from depression but unfortunately anxiety is huge. Managed not to shout yesterday but am on my own again today so who knows.

DS is also sleeping very loudly. He used to be quiet but now has a cold. He's very sniffly bless him and it's waking him up.

What weight do they have to be to go into a grow bag?

Showme thanks, checked online straight away but it is out of stock in my size- why should nursing tops be so expensive,,, I should just get some stretchy ones then- thank you

allis it normally says on the label. I have a few different ones and they all seem to vary. I've started using one from BHS and the label says suitable from 8lb 8oz. I think that's one of the smaller ones. I'm glad I have it, the weather has changed quickly and it gets so chilly in here by the morning!

Anyone else find that baby gets very upset before pooing? Or farting for that matter... DS seems to get in a right state and is confused because he starts rooting. Then lo and behold, we have a full nappy or a rather large trump! Anything I can do to ease it for him? He's BF.

Yup, baby gets very fractious and red in the face just before letting rip with a mahosive fart or explosive poop! She has been a little better since starting her on infacol. We are also doing some tummy massage with her. There are some good videos on You Tube.

Naz, I've got some and they're nice but not really necessary if I'm honest. Low cut stretchy top just as good under top of choice.

Dd grunts and groans like a pig when pooing and we have very runny/liquid poos which come out with lots of trumps too!
Dd1 was the same and just grew out of it so I'm not too worried. Dd2 struggles to bring up wind which doesn't help but she's not a puker like dd1 was so it's less messy this time!

Went to the doctors this morning to see about baby's discomfort but they really weren't helpful at all! She brushed it off because he's putting on tons of weight, despite the fact that he's in pain as soon as he lies down. She basically asked what I wanted to try so he's got ranitidine. Gaviscon was offered but sounds really faffy for bf babies and causes constipation. Anyone else on meds for reflux?

I think he might have a milk protein allergy too much googling but doctor dismissed that without discussion

I am highly emotional today .DP returned to work after 2 weeks paternity. He works miles away and leaves at 5am to be home by 7pm.
He didn't want to go back so I held in the tears for his sake, even though I really felt like crying. It's not that I can't handle baby or feel lonely....I just feel gutted to return to normality following such a lovely break with him. I miss him.

The morning was shit...my 11 year old daughter faffed around getting ready for school...I lost track of time...then realised it was 8.15 and my daughter would be late. She asked me for a lift...just as baby was settled ...and I ended up bursting into tears and taking her to school in my pyjamas. I was vile to her and told her she was grounded and had ruined the baby's sleep. Now I feel guilty .
I came home and looked at the baby and had such an overwhelming love for him that I cried again (in a happy way).

Then I saw some photos my father in law put on facebook this morning... and I look awful in them- just fat faced and slitty eyed and I feel gutted.

I know this is just a bad day and will pass..I just needed to get it out. I feel like a hormonal wreck !!