September 2006 babies

[Lysettes]

Start of our september 2006 post natal thread!

Blimey Pol26 - hope today is better for you. Have you got any family who could help out, or better still could you get dp's mum or dad to have a word in his ear? I know what you mean about the work thing - I envy my dh trotting off to work to be on his own for 7 hours a day and do what he likes in his lunch break!!
Luckily last night was much better so I feel a bit more human after getting some sleep. Going to try Mother and Toddlers today with the 2 of them so wish me luck

Hi all

I am really struggling to get on here now. So I haven't had chance to catch up with you all, but hope everyone is coping.
Compo my midwife said that 2-3 weeks is normal for a growth dpurt. Freddie started feeding every 2 hours for a day around 2 weeks of age, but it soon stopped, he is 3 weeks on friday and is back to roughly every 3 hours during the day, then a bit longer at night. Last night though I fed him at 6pmish, but COULD NOT wake him for his late feed, so he ended up waking up at 1.30am, 3am and 5.30am for feeds last night - any thoughts how I can wake him up (tried nappy change, stripping him off..)? Also he has got a sniffel already - his nose seemed really blocked in the night and was obviously upsetting him, I have been and got some Karvol, but that isn't suitable before 3 months, so not sure what to do to ease it for him.
Homemama - if it's any consalation my DS is exactly the same age, and while DH was off work, we had the same, he put up a fight and nap time, bed time, meal times. But to be honest a lot of it was down to DH being off, he is very clingy with his daddy at the best of times. It is now day 2 of DH being back at work and he has napped fine both day (hence - why I am able to type away now!) ate all his lunch fine yeserday and had a lovely afternoon at playgroup. The only problem came at bedtime, when of course DH was back from work. I honestly think that once we get back into our old routine that we had when it was just the two of us, everything will just fall back into place. Hope this helps cheer you up a abit, and that it may be that he just needs some normality back in his life.

POl- hope thngs improve for you. Men just don't seem to have the same amount of common sense when it comes to looking after children and you just end up doing things yourself so that at least you know they get done properly.
Sometimes when you've been with the children all day, all you want to do is hand them over when your DP arrives home from work! At least I know I do!

Hi all,
Hope you are all well apart from the glitches here and there.
Cant believe dd is only 9 days old and runs the house!!
Dp has been a godsend he goes back to work on sunday only gets two weeks paternity leave dont know wht im gonna do without him. Anything I ask him to do he does even if he's tired he'll still do it.

I was skimming thorugh (havent had time to sit down and read properly) but I noticed the discussion about the bf when dd was first bron I was bf in the hospital (was kept in for 5 days due to c-section) but she would not settle at all would cry and cry mw told me it was because she was hungry and that to try a fill her I would have to feed her every 15mins thoroughout the night and day which I just couldnt do. So I started giving her formula in the evening so she would sleep hrough the night and bf during the day. That still isnt enough she will still cry and cry. I tried expressing and nothing! I coulnt even produce an ounce and she has up to 4oz each feed. Everyday I feel like giving up and then I feel bad that I need to keep trying but what do you do if your not producing enough milk to satisfy your baby?
MW has visited twice so far and have said that she is healthy has put on 4oz since being at home.
Would it be really bad if I stopped bf? I feel really stressed about the whole situation and dont know what to do.

Hi all,

Good to hear from you Mabel..it is much more difficult to get on isn't it?

Feel today has been a bit of a waste given that it's midday & I'm still in my nightie!! Jack was restless from 12-4am last night & I got quite tearful after just not knowing what the problem after 3 feeds / change / winding etc etc!. He does seem to have two solid sleeps during the day & then his awake period takes in some of the early morning but what can you do? I can't make him stay awake for longer spells during the day can I?

DH was good (finally) & got up too to help but he has slept all morning - he's still asleep. I fed him at 10.30am (I think it was a comfort feed as he didn't take much) & I tried to sleep but just coudn't. Felt rather envious of DH snoring.....Sometimes after a long sleep he wants to fed evey hour & a half..maybe that's the growth spurt your MW talks about Mabel? Oh well, it's still early days, he wont be 3 weeks until Saturday I think you can go mad trying to get a perfect routine established so early on...

DD has been great with Jack but very winey & whingey with us. She's being ever so dramatic at the slightest thing & is trying at times to play DH & I off against each other. Bedtimes are taking longer & she's walking twice in the night for a cuddle. I feel guilty as I know I've not had so much time with her that I did pre Jack & I've had to rely on DH to do bath / bedtime / park / meals etc more than ever so am sure she realises this & just needs me a bit more....I do miss her...miss the time we had together. Perhaps this will all settle once DH goes back to work (this Friday) & I have to cope totally on my own...tbh, I'm quite scared at the thought though...

Compo, I haven't forgotten! I just haven't had a chance to get to the post office!! How's the feeding going? BTW, Trace is pg!!!

Redz, you have to do what makes life easier for you. It's such a personal decision, no-one can make it for you. If you are unhappy & have tried everything (which sounds as though you have) then perhaps you know the answer already! Whatever you decide don't feel guilty, just do what's best for you & baby.....

Hi all, I have at last managed to get on the computer for 5 mins and just found this thread, Hope you are all well.

Georgia is doing well. She is gaining weight and usually only wakes for one feed during the night. She is very clingy tho and cries if put down during the day. She enjoys cuddles too much! BF didn't work out for me so we are using the Avent bottles and Infacol too.

I'm just about recovering from her birth. I still have an infection but am going back to the docs this afternoon. Am also still struggling a bit emotionally so will see what they say. As for stitches, I was borderline as to if I'd need a general anaesthetic but as I'm overweight, they decided to give me a local and gas & air. All I can say is ouch!!!

Things have been pretty stressed what with my ex-hubby making abusive phonecalls to my parents and trying to move his money out of his accounts so that he doesn't have to pay out for a settlement. He's said that he doesn't want to see Georgia, unless she wants to find him when shes older but his parents do. It's so frustrating because he's trying to make himself into a victim. Grrrrrr!

Anyway, it's great to read through about all your LO's and I hope this thread will continue. Bye for now.

Coriander73 - no problem about the grobags, whenever you get chance!! Great news about Trace2 The feeding is going okay, I'm trying to stick with it and get to 6 weeks and then see how I feel!
Mandaz - great to hear from you, so [envious] of your lo waking once in the night though
Good day here compared to yesterday, dd seemed more settled. Hv came and weighed her, she's now 8lb8 - she was 8lb 3 when born so I think that's enough of a weight gain. So glad no more home visits, find them all a bit of a pain!!

Homemama - hope things are better for you. In the last week or so since we have been bathing both the little ones we do this now as we thought maybe DS3 was refusing to go to bed cos he knew DD2 up with us.
Bath together
Both have milk
Say goodnight to brothers
Into Keziahs room. Put her into carrycot ( moved in from our room specially )Say goodnight. Turn out light and shut door.
Put DS3 to bed
Go back into Keziah's room and get her back out of bed

Well, you should be able to outwit a 2 year old

Hello,

I think my DS is goign through a growth spurt as well. He is 2 weeks tomorrow and has just been feeding like mad. We were up from 12pm-4am last night with him and he just wouldn't stop snuffling and crying and he couldn't get enough milk. Also MIL was here yesterday and spent most of the day cuddling and rocking him which didn't help as he slept all day and then was wide awake at night (how we were cursing MIL at 4am this morning!)
My step-mum mentioned today that you should get baby used to the occasional bottle feed (expressed milk) early on or they won't take to it later on -has anyone else heard this and when is the best age to do it?

Hello everyone. I haven't been able to get on for a few days either, manic here. It sounds like we've all been a bit through the mill the last few days. Here, I think I have a bit of mastitis, as my left side is sore, red, and feeding is painful. Trying lots of hot baths, expressing, feeding more on that side (but then scared it'll happen to the other side as well), hot flannels, ibuprofen, and it does seem to be getting a bit better. But I hate the shivery feeling that comes with it. Had to call DH and get him home from work yesterday as I couldn't really function at all. I don't think the exhaustion helps... And Fraser is really no trouble, and only feeding once or twice a night, so I can't complain really. It's just cumulative.

Dh is away tonight with work, so had to do bath and bed on my own. it wasn't as bad as I feared... thank god. Although it did involve Fraser being dumped in his cot having had half a feed on the loo while I read to DS1 and sang a song. he cried the whole time, but what can you do?? DS1 needs some time on his own without DS2 attached to his mother.

oh Myrtle, F has been having an expressed bottle since week 2. No nipple confusion or anything. Good luck with it.

Claire- Totally understanding that your first born needs mummy time while our babies scream the place down... makes me feel guilty when I hear DS crying and I have to put DD to bed but it really is her only time with just mummy and her and I love it as much as she does. I couldn't take it away from her.

Today hasn't been so bad although DP has gone out leaving me to do the pair of them on my own... I cannot see me not killing him before the weekend And to top it all off was asked today when I thought we'd be back on for the 'rumpy-pumpy' as he put it ... not only have I had a baby nearly four weeks ago but he has been an absolute pig at times, when does he think i'll be ready not any time soon thats for sure!!!

Glad everyone is managing to cope and doing well.

Okay, Pol, that sentence needs to be turned around and it needs to be from your DH: "Pol has gone out leaving me to do the pair of them on my own!" Do it.

Claire, so sorry. Lack of sleep: definitely cumulative. Will have to wait two weeks for the meds to kick in so I can be a Stepford Wife. At this point, won't mind being one.
My fattest fat jeans are a UK size 8 but have had to surrender, go out, buy size 12 - nothing in my closet fits. Can count articles of clothing I'm able to wear on one hand. I know; it's only been a month. But still.

Pol - Tell him Dr.s in US make all their OB patients wait a full six weeks. (It is true, though.)

Alternatively, tell him you're too tired - but if he could take two nights in a row, you'd do it.
That'd be worth it ... wouldn't it?

Claire - hope you mastitis gets better - I had that shivery thing - it's nasty!
Lexy - I love your approach to bed time V. clever!
Myrtle - I have been giving Freddie the occasional bottle of ebm since he was a bout a week old - no problems with nipple confusion here either (personally I don't think it even exists) It is a good idea to get them used to a bottle early I think , it will give you the freedom to leave them with someone else.
Freddie has a real stuffy nose - i really feel sorry for him, he struggled to feed last night and couldn't settle himself, so he ended up lying in bed next to me from about 3.30am this monring. I know you're not supposed to have them in bed with you, but he was getting really upset and it seemed to be the only thing that soothed him.

Mabel, F has a stuffy nose too - he sneezed this morning and the hugest green snot appeared. Lovely. By the time I'd got a tissue he'd snorted it back up, so we had to wait for another sneeze to come!!

Marls, if it's any consolation, I can only dream of wearing UK size 8 jeans! Mine are all 12s and always have been!

Well, I had my first night alone last night with DH away - bedtime was fine, but the cats managed to escape from the kitchen at about 12.30 to run up and down the stairs yowling, DS1 decided at 1.10 am that he'd wake up crying and need calpol, and then Fraser woke at 1.50 for a feed. So I didn't get much sleep in until he was settled again - then 3 hours later we started all over again! Still, we are all still alive, and DS1 is in nursery today, so I am going to try and sleep when F sleeps (ha ha).

Thinking of you all, and hope today is a good one...

Mabel, did you get rid of the mastitis on your own, or did you need antibiotics? (sorry if you've already told us all this on the thread, I can't remember my own name any more...!!!).

claire - hope you have a better night tonight!
Not sure if I had mastitis or it was just engorged - I had mastitis with DS1 and it felt really hot to the touch, whereas this time it was incredibly painful but not hot. I just expressed went to bed (shivering - made DH put on the heating and was wearing all my clothes plus huge cardigan and socks in bed - that's how cold I felt) I took paracetomol and ibuprofen and I felt ok within an hour and have been ok since.
It was atually quite scarey how suddenly I felt so bad, but i didn't want antibiotics, as I had to take them with DS and they really upset his tummy and I ended up putting him on formula whilst I was on them.

Hi all, not had time to read posts but thought i would say hi. Don't have as much time to spend using the net but once i start to get used to being a mum and having a baby who is totally dependent on me (BF)i'll try to start to have a life again.
Not got out the house with pram yet, only once in car yesterday.
I'm totally overwhelmed but mostly in a good way. I'll eventually share my birth story (totally positive)would rather give birth than do the first week of BF again.
I hope every1 and their LO are well.
I'll prob post again in 3 months time lol!
Take care all

mabel hope you're better

claire - here's to a better night tonight for you

myrtle, jacob has had ebm from a botle from three weeks and is regularly fed from both - at night from a bottle as he goes back to sleep too quickly if he bf's!

pol you poor thing at your DH!

jacb is now almost 12 weeks old and is now on every 3 hours feeding - we were on 4 for a bit but it's back to 3! making the nights tough as i'm feeding him and then expressing afterwards!

Lysettes- you deserve the medal for feeding so often for so long...! Well done, I think I would've been far to exhausted to breathe let alone find time to post on here, Well done!!!

Here we have had a good morning and Ben is settled in his chair and Emily asleep upstairs! Yeah!!! I am pigging myself on the sofa while on here and semi- watching the trevor mcdonald thing I recorded on fetal alcohol syndrome- pretty scary stuff really... Hopefully Ben will be good tonight.

We have a birthday party to go to on Saturday- i'm dreading it as DD tends to be having heaps of tantrums lately- I think a cumilation of the baby and her age... and they have an entertainer so I know DD will have to sit down and calm down alittle which I think should be fun

Is anyone finding in-laws still to be a pain???

Hi everyone
Pol26 - luckily my in-laws have gone home, woo hoo! And my mum went home today. I miss having someone to chat too but did find it a bit stressful wondering if she was bored/hungry etc all the time. What are your inlaws like? Do they live close by?
Okay night - managed to get dd asleep in moses basket at 7pm, same time as ds' bedtime last night Think it was a one off but it did give us chance to have dinner in peace. Then she was up at 12pm and 4am - not happy to go to sleep after the 4am feed though so dh took over.... both tired and cranky today though!!

Compo- Well the in laws are hellish at times... I have some big concerns with my DP's eldest brother too. He just seems weird. Firstly he is a social worker and works with 'clients' with mental health problems and all like children. He takes it in his stride which I could never do. he also says that in the 'community' they are ok and to be trusted while under his care. My opinion is unless he is with them 24/7 he can never be sre if they are to be trusted... anyhow he seems to always watch bum changes and that just seems weird. We have a change station in our dining room which I do their bums on and he can be sat on the sofa in the lounge and get up and follow me to watch me do their bums. I feel totally uneasy by it all but them i'm not sure if i'm being over protective or hormonal or there really is something in it. Why would any grown man want to watch a bum change???
Anyhow DP's mum is annoying really as she insists on trying to win DD around when she is mid tantrum- even when DP and I say it's best to ignore it and it's over quicker... She also says 'oh why do you want to be with your mummy. Come nd kiss nannie. You never want to know me when your mum is around yet when she goes don't think i'll want you' That pi*** me off really as all kids are bound to love their mums before nans etc... Plus she annoys DD as much as me half the time.
Generally though they come round un-announce (as my flahsing inccident last week proves) and disrupt the pair of them. Grandad hypes DD up and then leaves me to pick up the pieces. And when DS is settled asleep in his chair, why the hell do they insist on pulling back his blanket to see him and touching him!!!
Oh these hormones are raging today!!!

Hi all. Georgia is definitely going through a growth spurt but more lengthways than anything else. She's almost grown out of her newborn size baby grows! I have started getting a few proper outfits now. She looks like a proper little girl now. We just got the photos of her first few days developed. I can't believe how much she has changed and I really can't believe that she;ll be a month old on Friday. How time flies!

Compo - I'm really relieved that Gergia is good at night. I've started giving her her last feed once she's changed for bed and in her growbag and I play a lullaby CD for a while. It seems to work most of the time. Shes going about 4 hours between feeds so usually she wakes about 2am then takes a half hour or so to settle afterwards but then sleeps through till 7am ish. As for the health visitor home visits, I will miss them as I don't have a car and I'm not quite confident about getting around on buses with the pram etc. I miss my mw too, wish she was still coming to see us!