September 2006 babies

[Lysettes]

Start of our september 2006 post natal thread!

just logging onto it so I can find it again later. Got to go and bath two wriggly children...

Yay - new thread! And just in time ...

, but my front tear (into clitoris - not stitched; deemed too small) has not seemed to have healed correctly. Looks very different; edges of tear never found each other, I suppose ... have left message for nurse, but she's not back in office until tomorrow.
As long as it still works like it's supposed to (or works even better; that'd be great! ), then nothing to worry about ... but I am a bit concerned right now.

(Wouldn't have posted on other thread! Imagine non-perineal tears are rare, but not something I'd want to picture in the days before birth! )

I really shouldn't have come to find this thread to add to my watch list just yet should I Marls? - Hope your nurse helps you out, ouch!

Marls - poor you - ouch. Hope it doesn't hurt too much.

Marls, ouch!! I have to tell you, I too have a tear that goes from there, right down the perineum, and then on up inside both orifices "down there" - didn't post this on the other thread either - Liquid, close your eyes!!! It is healing nicely though, although I have been getting a bit of an ache when I urinate.. the midwife thinks it's just where the stitches are coming away and says it's not infected. She advised taking a bath with lavender oil - just 5 or 6 drops dissolved in milk - apparently the milk helps the oil disperse better in the water. And put a couple of drops of lavender oil on your pads as well, that really does seem to help (and makes you very fragrant!!). One of the girls at DS1's nursery asked today if I'd had a massage as I smelt so fragrant - didn't like to tell her what it was really for!!!

LOL at it working even better - now that would be a big advantage of childbirth!!!

Oh Liquid - So sorry! Dr. wanted me in his office as soon as nurse heard the voicemail; he saw me this afternoon. This should help you feel at least a bit better: what I thought I was looking at (torn clitoris), wasn't what I was looking at (very swollen, but completely healed, superficial tear/flap of skin between urethra and clitoris, but not into clitoris).
Also, stomach muscle separation this time barely qualifies as diastasis. Good news all around.

Claire - LOL at the idiosyncrasies of Bristol! I think that is hilarious.

Glad I'm not the only one spilling the less than desirable parts of the birth experience. Sounds like you got a bad one too - I am so happy you're healing well though. It's been a bit disconcerting ( my going in to the Dr. today) to have that part of me - ahem - altered - even if temporarily.

I know Marls - it was a bit weird lying legs akimbo with a spinal block, having 2 people, 1 man, 1 woman, examine me in intimate detail, discussing where to put the next stitch... Childbirth isn't really dignified is it?!!!??

Glad to hear your tear wasn't what you thought - phew - should still all work as normal... !!

Claire - not at all!! I think I wrote in my pseudo-journal (keep picking it up, then forgetting it for months) (LlQUID CLOSE EYES AGAIN PLEASE):
"If you pee on your husband's shoes during the strongest and most evil pain both you and he know it can't be helped. Decorum exists out the window in the real world. It doesn't exist in Hell."

Anyway ... ... had a real American (if you will) moment today at the Wal-Mart, speaking of stereotypical - buying a tire inflator to keep in the garage and hearing an awful country song called "In the Wal-Mart Parking Lot" over their loudspeaker ... which was actually proudly announced before play. I'd gladly trade some Redneck for Classic Bristol ...

Oh - and did I mention I hope it works better than normal? You never know ...

You did mention that...!!

LOL at the Wal-Mart Parking Lot. I can't beat that one, sorry...!!! Also lol at peeing on your husband's shoes - or on the midwife's?? We can laugh about it now it's over... and don't know about you, but I'm not likely to be repeating it either...

So glad there is a post natal thread. Feel like i've got to know everyone although I should join the July thread. Keziah is 6 weeks now and is putting on weight - 6lb 13oz the last time she was weighed, so newborn size. I am still giving her EBM via the bottle but in the last week or so have managed to get her latched onto the breast which is easier. She has been so good - just sleeping and feeding till last week ( when she was due ) and is now starting to be a bit more awake. Just as well really as DS3 has been very jealous and refusing to go to sleep at night, waking in the night crying / screaming for 30 mins plus and waking at 5 am. Luckily he is settling down and is in the last couple of days back into his normal routine so I'm feeling more human. Having better sleep makes such a difference.

Hi LexyB - sounds like you're doing really well with Keziah - great weight gain! It must be so hard when they are really tiny and need feeding all the time. And I really admire you expressing all that milk for her - you are amazing. I am in awe.

I feel a bit guilty now having moaned this morning about being tired - and I was only up twice in the night, at 1.30 and 4.30. Fraser's already over 8lb, so really I have nothing to complain about at all.

It can only get better in terms of sleep from here on in...

Those with DD/DS1s - how are they getting on now?

The honeymoon period with DS1 seems to be a bit over... He's wet himself 4 times today and yesterday already... Guess this is attention seeking, as he's missing out on a bit. We're trying to ignore it, not make a fuss, just change his clothes without any real comment, and then praise him to the hills when he does one on the potty/toilet.. Fingers crossed it works. Luckily the problems just seem to be regression so far, we haven't had any hitting Fraser or anything - he's still gentle with him, and wants to see "my baby" all the time.

definately lots of attention seeking from stanley who is just 2 but understandable really as i was in hospital for a week before keziah was born, came home for 2 days, re admiitted for another five days ( she was born on the second day ) and then I was splitting myself between home and SCBU till she came home 10 days later. So he has been really clingly and like I said playing up and major issues re sleeping but things are improving. Although last night he cried at 2am and 4 30 am for about twenty minuted / half an hour each time and again at half past five when i gave up trying to sleep and got up. Hard when alternating with Keziah's feeds. I swear they communicate telepathically to make sure there is always one awake and needing me! Luckily DH has taken him out and I have had a sleep so feel OK now. at first Stan would try and pull her off my lap climb on himself if i was feeding her. lately he doesn't mind her having cuddles and now is sharing his things with her - he insisted yesterday she was to hold an empty snail shell so i had to wedge it in her hand. he is snail obsessed and shells are very precious so she was greatly honoured. today he was attemting to give her some rice krispies - so cute.

LOL at the snail shells - DS1 here is obsessed with snails as well - is it a 2 year old thing? We have to hunt snails everytime we go to the shop, and then he wants to wear the shell like a ring on the end of his finger. Difficult when the shell is still inhabited by a snail!!

I hope things get easier on the sleeping front for you soon. xx

LexyB, regarding the honor of snail shells, that is SO cute.

Claire - Have heard toddlers will regress in toilet training when there's a new baby ... great that Fraser's already 8+ pounds! When DS1 hit 10 pounds, he dropped the midnight feeding [fingers crossed for you icon]!

Our DS1 just this morning was leaning over DS2 of his own accord, saying "I like you!" and "You're so cute!" I think he's only disappointed DS2 doesn't DO anything - though he likes it when I make the baby "dance", holding him upright and rocking him back and forth - or when we do Disco-era moves with baby's arms and hands. Fun With Baby - We played it with DS1 as well.

To be fair, DS1 has been greatly distracted with my Mom ("Mimi") in town & constant gifts from her. As I type they're at the parade for the County Fair. Since DS2 arrived there's always been some fun distraction for DS1. Mid-October both Mom and MIL will have been here, and we will be back from our week in Houston, so all of that will stop.
Interested to see how he'll regard baby then.

had two successful wees this afternoon though, so there is hope... but resorted to bribery and stickers... Bob the Builder stickers now everywhere. Still, better than pee everywhere...

DS1 slept through the night 12 hours at 12 lb - reckon that's another magic milestone...

thought for a minute you were talking about yourself having two successful wees claire figured you must have meant pain from stithes etc

Anyway thats good bribery is brilliant and and enjoy it if all it takes at the moment is a sticker. Trust me they definately get more expensive as they get older.

DD1 ( aged 19 ) off to uni tomorrow which is a bit wierd. Funny though cos for months, since she finished college shes been saying I cant wait to go to uni, I wish I was starting now. In the last week she keeps saying thing like " I suppose I will just be living on soup or cheese and tomato sandwiches " and " Mum im really going to miss your cooking. Her inability to cook is a standing joke in the family. She is very clever academically but common sense - not really. I will miss her help though she is very good with the two little ones.

Congrats to all with new babies - they really are popping out everywhere

can't believe i started the thread and then couldn't get on our computer for a few days!

my only post birth story is hearing them saying "lets pull the uterus out to stitch it up and then put it back in"...... not one i'd imagine hearing!

we are now I think over 7lb and jacob is 9+2, and weighing tomorrow at the baby clinic. feeding every two hours during the day and 3-4 at night.

is anyone else's newbie hating the water for baths? ewveryone told me he'd hate the first one and then like it afterwards but we are 6 weeks at home now and he's still yelling blue murder when we go in there!

must go another feed wanted

"pull the uterus out"??!!?!? OMG!!!!

Fraser doesn't like his bath much either unless it's quite warm - too warm I thought..

How are you feeling Lysettes? Are you v. tired, or do you get used to the night feedings (she hopes?!)?

lysettes

my ds hated baths screamed the who time, god knows what peole thought we were doing to him.
A friend of mine told me to put him in the bath with me or dh because they might not feel secure ater being somewhere so snug, i never had a problem after that, used to take turns with dh the other would then dress him and put him to bed.

He now baths on his own no trouble

good luck

Hi Lovely to hear about everyone enjoying their babies. Sophie is a week old today.
Reading through this I am so glad I didn't tear. Its all sounds very painful.
I went on and on throughout the pregnancy that I was going to bottle feed this baby and did when she was born. But on day 2 some hormones must have kicked in and I just had to breastfeed her!! So now I have sore nipples and I'm full of milk just like last time.
And when I said I'd never let her sleep in our bed...well thats gone out the window too. Oh well, never mind

Wait - Lysettes - uterus - were they serious? Did they do that?

TopBanana: More itchy now than sore, unfortunately ...
Only other downside is have been told not to walk for long distances as rubs the stitches together with each stride and delays healing.
Good for you for BF! Wish it had worked with me.

Marls I heard a lady in the hospital talking about drying them with a hairdryer to make them heal quicker

Okay; not willing to go that far