November 2012 - Roll call!

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Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/2109948-November-2012-Bring-on-the-summer-fun

Calling all lurkers! If you're reading but finding life too hectic to keep up then please check in and give us a brief update.

Hi! Not been on the thread since about March, and not sure I'm going to be able to keep up at all but wanted to post a quick update (I spied you guys when I was being naughty and browsing at work…!)

All good here. M says lots of words and a couple of almost sentences. I wish she'd say more but her vocal is expanding literally every day so we'll get there. I am working too much but can't really afford to cut back. When I'm there I love it, when I'm at home I'm tearing my hair out. I just have lots of mum guilt.

Hope all mummies, babies and daddy are well!

Struggling at work then evenings with boys. Pil are here but feel like I'm alone. Spoke to a single parent at work today and she's so together and calm.
I'm coming home getting the boys to sleep then when I sit down and relax I just want to cry.
I decided today that I'm going to keep going to Xmas then reassess how I'm doing. Keeping in mind if I want to stay at this school my time table wouldn't change until sep 15. So I'm stuck with it ATM.
My mind is a mess.

Struggling at work then evenings with boys. Pil are here but feel like I'm alone. Spoke to a single parent at work today and she's so together and calm.
I'm coming home getting the boys to sleep then when I sit down and relax I just want to cry.
I decided today that I'm going to keep going to Xmas then reassess how I'm doing. Keeping in mind if I want to stay at this school my time table wouldn't change until sep 15. So I'm stuck with it ATM.
My mind is a mess.

Lovely to see you isles. I have missed you.

M is bright as a button - I will imagine that one day she will come out with something quite impressive

How long until the holidays gt? I think you are right to set yourself a goal. Can you take a career break? We can have two years here and be assured our own job back. It might be worth looking intk

GT that must be heartbreaking - I guess its a question of whether it works financially or makes career sense - if you're barely covering childcare costs then I'd probably plump for being a SAHM. My new job has a final salary pension so for us, long term, it was a no brainer - they're hens teeth nowadays. But its still such a juggling act. I'm technically doing a 4 day week but compressed into 3 days in the office and that's tough enough. Only two days (Wednesdays and Thursdays) are consecutive and by the end of Thursday afternoons I'm literally craving a cuddle from J. I waddle to collect him at as close as I can get to a canter! Having had him as a sidekick for so long its no fun being apart two days in a row. He has been more cuddly since I started - every night I ask him what he wants to do while DH serves tea and he just says "Mummy cuddles". I do love my job though. I have been v lucky in that DH drops him off, does the shop and cooks tea on the days I work so that's made life a lot easier. Even if he does forget to hang washing out! I wish you got more support xxx

What yw said!

P asks specifically for mummy cuddles sometimes and for daddy cuddles other times. And despite DH seeing herore during the week than me it is still me who knows her new words or what she means when she says or does x or y. That is lovely but adds pressure.

Financially work is good. I can cover both both their child care costs full time and have spending money left. Although they won't be doing 5 days. Mostly 3 days a week as fh is on shifts.
It's the getting out of the house at 7.15. The getting home at 5. Then H crying cos he is tiered so tantrums. Today he slept 5-6. Had coco pops for dinner then start getting moody again so went to bed at 8. Then I made fh dinner. He went on night shift. I had a shower. It's 9.45 and I've come to bed. Just feel like I've had no me time.
It's the coming home to A who sobs when he seems me. Made worse today as he had a temp.
Saturday the oct 14 bus are doing a massive meet up. Folks coming from Scotland Manchester Liverpool etc. I just want to sit at home and sleep. But I doubt we will have another big meet I don't want to miss out. I've decided not to take A. Some mums are coming alone. But I've told fh I'm too tiered to deal with A while out. He's not all bad. Lol.

To tiered. I'm off to browse Pinterest to distract myself.

pass relieved to see the outcome of the cm story, was starting to think the same as you

gt When I first went back to work I didn't think I could juggle everything. You get used to it though. Having said that fh needs to step up and give you more support.

Took another test today and the digi said 3+ weeks instead of the 2-3 I got on friday so my hcg levels are going in the right direction. It's helped me relax a tiny bit more. DP also had a positive meeting at work today. Won't know the outcome for another week and he's still suspended on full pay but it's looking more promising than it was. All in all not a bad day.

gt I am concerned that if you stopped work and became a SAHM your MIL and DH would finally drive you mad, to be blunt. hugs. I don't know what to suggest.

perse that is great news fx

We are driving home today. LO had a raging temp overnight and tbh this break hasn't gone brilliantly well on the whole.

Perse that's fantastic news!

PR I am sorry to hear about the break, you ok?? Big hug

GT the first few weeks I was back at work were hell. In fact I broke down I think the 2nd Wednesday in. It is hard and you need everyone on your side and supporting you. But it does get better and now I feel I have a real balance. Big hugs

I'm fine thanks pikz just pissed off and tired and disappointed. We were really looking forward to this but it has been anything but relaxing. If it were down to me we'd be on Our way already but DH promised to stay for lunch.

LO has the fluey bug DD1 had last week so is v hot and clingy.

gt I will post to you o. Fb as you are more likely to see it there.

pr sorry your break has gone tits up. That is a shame. Can you treat yourself to a slap up meal on the way home or a night in a b&b (equivalent) on the way home somewhere nice. I had no idea you were going with friends.

perse sounds great to me. Hang in there.

I hope you can get a relaxing day or two when you get home PR

Good news Persepolis. It's a shame you have that stress when I'm sure you would rather be delighting in your pregnancy. I love that secret stage at the beginning when not many people know.

GT I felt the same when I went back to work after DS2 was born. It seemed that I was getting the kids ready for nursery, going to work, going home and putting them to bed. It just didn't seem worth it, even to be earning money. I cut my hours from 40 to 35 a week which gave me a bit more time each day with the kids. Would you have any options for reduced hours or part time work? You seem to be beset from all sides at the moment and I do think you need to try and prioritise your needs a little more so that you don't get bogged down in the daily grind.

I wonder how Kyz and E are doing? I hope he's back to his old self now.

We're staying at a friend's home. I'll have a self indulgent moan on fb at some point if you guys promise not to judge me for being precious :o

Yes please PR, I love a good moan.

I'll try and do it tonight once home sweet home.

Me too stunt! Do it PR

Sorry to hear it's all gone tits up pr. I look forward to reading all about it later.

gt sorry to hear of your woes. I'm afraid I don't have much advice to offer. Perhaps it's a question of you all settling into this new routine and jigging things around until you find one that works for you.

Had a lovely day at Greenwich Park yesterday. Was hot hot hot with very little shade in the play area though. Off to a friends for a play date this morning then a quiet afternoon whilst DD1 is at nursery I think.

Sounds lovely Eliza

We are pottering this morning, it's just lovely to have some time with my boy!

J is watching Ice Age 3 and loving it. He's going to be even more excited when he gets to the bit with the dinosaurs. DS1 and DS2 haven't managed to get themselves dressed and fed yet so we're stuck waiting for them before we can go out for a walk.

Go for it pr is so therapeutic to have a whinge and be precious, although I am sure you are not being.

Gt I felt the same when H first started nursery. It did get better once we started getting into a routine.
We batch cook H's meals so he has something healthy to eat when he gets in and cook quick meals for us, fish, stirfry, mince. Sometimes even baked chicken the night before so its ready in the fridge. But H is just at nursery 2 days. He goes to 3 in September. You do need to get FH to help as much as he can when he's around.

Are you breaking up in a week?

I'm reading but too busy entertaining -shagging-- my best friend. It's going really well actually and I picked up my car yesterday too. First car at the grand age of 34 . Will be back at one point...

Fuck me. Can I be sweary and thankful this Thursday?

A few weeks ago, I finally got round to sending off my PPI claim for the loans I took out in my early 20s. Today I heard back. All I can say is, if you haven't already, do it! I didn't even have all the details and this is going back nearly 20 years. I got all the PPI back with interest. Check the money saving expert website for how to do it. I am flabbergasted. We have been struggling for so long and this is going to help so much.

Sorry for the random interjection but I am just amazed! This kind of shit doesn't happen to us!