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December 2012 tantrums galore and they're not even two yet!

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SpottyTeacakes · 01/07/2014 15:00

Hope everyone finds this and I haven't doubled up!

I've got really bad back pain and ds is spinning on his zebra crying. No idea why!

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halestone · 10/07/2014 00:21

Nutella i agree with WL i think you'll have a girl as well.

Spotty how horrible.

Beasty i bet your neighbour was made up seeing you and getting a lift back.

H is not at all interested in me at the moment and just wants DP constantly. I'm hoping she'll even it out between us once she gets use to us living with DP.

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SpottyTeacakes · 10/07/2014 07:52

Dp's brother's gf had their baby yesterday. Can't wait for cuddles although I expect the poor baby will be very grumpy struggling with his nicotine addiction Sad

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WLmum · 10/07/2014 07:55

Oh dear spotty that doesn't sound good.

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SpottyTeacakes · 10/07/2014 08:07

She's not really my sort if person....she had two cigarettes in three hours on Sunday and that was surrounded by people so I can only imagine how much she smokes at home.

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PurplePidjin · 10/07/2014 08:18

3 hours sleep. ffs. Sad

WLmum · 10/07/2014 12:58

Why pidj? Brew

PurplePidjin · 10/07/2014 13:18

Dunno, he woke for a nappy at 1:15, then another at 1:45, then just laid there alternately chatting then crying out till 4 Sad He's been down for his nap for nearly 2 hours so I'm starting to feel somewhat rested, having done sod all apart from bunging a load of sheets in the machine to wash, showered and drunk a cup of tea!

Congratulations Aunty Spotty I'm sure the baby will be much loved even if it's not demonstrated in quite the way one would hope Thanks

WLmum · 10/07/2014 18:34

T was up a couple of times and was tricky to settle at bedtime after a run of good times - not sure if it's coincidence that I gave her a sneaky boob in the afternoon as I was lumpy and uncomfortable having not fed for days. Fx that really was the last one this time.
I'm unexpectedly going out for a curry tonight with my brother and my mum. Yum! I need a glass of something after having two (identical twins) of dd1s friends home from school today. They were very good but dd2 gets v stroppy when they don't want her to play and then very over excited at dinner and any communal play time.

halestone · 10/07/2014 23:59

WL i said when i first found out that i was pregnant that i would love twins. However after having H i would be so scared of ever having twins. Hats off to you having them round for tea. DP works with someone who had tripletsShock

Also WL i hope T sleeps well and that your boobs aren't too sore.

Pidj i hope you have a better night tonight.

Spotty, i hope you enjoyed your newborn snuggles.

WLmum · 11/07/2014 09:22

T slept from 8 til 6.45 last night [happy dance]! Just as well as after the 2 (woo-hoo) glasses of wine I was feeling a bit groggy. Lightweight!

halestone · 11/07/2014 10:51

Well done to T i am very Envy of that sleep.

H is so very independent and will not let us help her when she tries to do something. This morning the thing she wanted to do alone was peel an orange, she managed to do it as well but it took about 15 minutes. By that time she had lost interest in actually eating it.

WLmum · 11/07/2014 11:55

Wow hales! I know its tough now but in a years time you'll be thankful that H can be independant.
T has just fallen over and bitten her lip nastily again. Why does she always land on her face?!

Stacks · 11/07/2014 12:21

Quick message to get you back on my TIO, then I'll try and read back a bit.

We're having a tough day with DS today. We've struggled to get him to bed the last couple of nights, having to hold his hand till he's asleep. If you try and leave before he panics and really screams with upset. Well, this morning at 4:30 he woke in the same panic and wouldn't resettle. Was really hard getting him down for his nap, and he woke a again in a panic after just an hour. His behaviour is terrible too, a mixture of overtired, clingy and tantrums. All a bit hard work with an 8 day old DD too. Is this all kind of "normal" 18m stuff, or a reaction to DD? He seems to like DD, lots of kisses and stroking, an "oh no!" if she cries, and a demand someone tend to her, and laying down really close beside her on the floor to watch her and point out her hands, feet, nose etc, and giggling when she gets hiccups :)

PurplePidjin · 11/07/2014 12:56

Loads better thanks, Hales he slept till 5:20, nappy change and back down till 9:20 Shock

Stacks sounds like a little bit of separation anxiety? No matter how hard you try the new squish will need more of you than he does for a while :)

WLmum · 11/07/2014 14:26

stacks probably just a bit of a reaction/unsettling due to his world changing. He may well be delighted with his new sister but it's still a big change and no doubt he senses you are a bit different right now. Lots of tlc and a bit of time and he'll be right I'm sure b

WillYouDoTheFandango · 11/07/2014 16:12

Argh missed tonnes. Catching up now.

WillYouDoTheFandango · 11/07/2014 16:40

It's just the change Stacks. Lots of cuddles, lots of keeping him involved.

I was an absolute nightmare when my sister was born when I was 22 months. I refused to go to bed, told them to take her back and generally had a few months of constant paddies!

Off on jollidays tomorrow with my mum and dad. Only Rhyl but I'm sure J will love it. He'd love anywhere with a swimming pool.

Barbeasty · 11/07/2014 16:41

Stacks I'd say a bit of both. Presumably DS is sleeping in his own room and DD is in with you? I think Irremember a fair few nights where DD decided to come into bed with me when A was first home.

We had an agreement that I would deal with A and DH had total responsibility for DD over night. Could something like that help?

Hales it's frustrating now, but independence has its rewards. DD dressed herself from a very young age, will get herself food and drink, she cleans her teeth every morning.... so many little things that save us time. Also a fair few meltdowns when you don't let her do something herself or when she can't do it.

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SpottyTeacakes · 11/07/2014 17:29

Stacks I agree with beasty.

Chinese Friday here Grin

I'm so tired I can hardly think....

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Barbeasty · 11/07/2014 21:06

Week 2 of 5 days done.

I got a bit irritated with DH this week. If you saw the news of the factory that burnt down in Stroud we are about 1 mile as the crow flies. So the morning after DH announces that advice was to stay indoors and close windows and doors. I'll forgive the fact we slept with the bedroom windows wide open- we hadn't heard then. But letting me eat breakfast in the garden, after reading the news?! Then last night he opened the windows then said the latest news he'd read said to stay indoors. And he wondered why I snapped! Then in seconds I found the update that we were fine! Although I drove past it this morning and there was still smoke/steam.

A wanted shreddies tonight. He carefully packed each one out of the milky bowl, put it on his spoon and put the spoon perfectly into his mouth.

MrsNutella · 11/07/2014 21:06

DS is now on his fourth shoe size since his first shoes in February. Confused It's insane!

I am still pregnant and the baby is still trying to kick box it's way out. My legs hurt and are swollen. Why oh why oh why!!!!
I'm sitting in a cool bath right now with my compression stockings on - I know, totally sexy right?! Grin - to try and get some relief. Baby is also sitting on my sciatic nerve Confused

Sorry I just needed a moan.

willyou have a lovely holiday!! Smile

spotty I'm sorry, I really hate smoking around babies. Ok smoking isn't the worst thing you can do; but it is such a nasty, smelly, unhealthy habit. It makes me so Sad. Poor baby.

Can't remember what else...

stacks I think beasty' sides sounds good. I hope DS settles for you soon and it isn't too much hard work. Does your DH have much paternity leave?

I'm planning to get DS a big (some sort of police car or ambulance that makes noise would probably be both good and regrettable for my DS) toy from his new sibling and try and make a big fuss of him.

WLmum · 11/07/2014 22:30

Ooh nutella I remember that. Have you got some cooling leg and foot lotion? Get DH to massage your feet and lower legs in upward motions to your knees and then lie with your feet raised a little for as long as possible. With T I was wearing flip flops and crocs in the snow because my feet were so fat and hot.
beasty dhs don't always have in between the ears!

willyou enjoy!

WillYouDoTheFandango · 12/07/2014 00:10

You need body shop peppermint foot spritz and cooling leg gel Nutella. They're all that got me through pregnancy. I'd forgotten about the hot legs/feet til now.

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SpottyTeacakes · 12/07/2014 06:03

Ds keeps waking up at 5:40, too early for me!

Pretty sure he's saying who's that but minus any consonants Grin

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Maryland2013 · 12/07/2014 07:22

Spotty at the hospital where I work, people smoke right in front of the big posters of kids asking them not to smoke. Also a crowd of smokers hang outside the maternity unit meaning you have to fight through a cloud of smoke to get in. Patients come down in their gowns with drips and their huge pregnant tummies :(
I've even seen people smoking through tracheotomy holes in their throats- presumably for throat cancer!!!!