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December 2012 tantrums galore and they're not even two yet!

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SpottyTeacakes · 01/07/2014 15:00

Hope everyone finds this and I haven't doubled up!

I've got really bad back pain and ds is spinning on his zebra crying. No idea why!

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SpottyTeacakes · 31/07/2014 06:37

WillYou that's so crap. Has your Nan's uti definitely gone? Have you tried asking the dr if they can do done kind of referral for extra care? Or if a home would let her stay for respite for a few weeks?

Sorry about your house too ours stank of smoke when we moved in we had to sugar soap it three times to get rid if the nicotine smell.

WL glad you're enjoying your job Smile unfortunately number one and two on my list will never happen, not whilst I'm with dp...

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ddas · 31/07/2014 07:14

will you got see her gp: he is more likely to get somewhere with social services plus assess her to make sure there's still not a cause for her acute confusion. If she won't go to them they can do a home visit,

ddas · 31/07/2014 07:16

If acute cause ruled out old age pysch in the community can be good too but all done through your gp.

WillYouDoTheFandango · 31/07/2014 07:27

She's always been under the psych in the community as she had severe pnd in the 50s and 60s and then lost a child which she never recovered from.

While she's been ill she hasn't taken her ADs but now getting her to take them is impossible as she lies about it.

Her GP said that he'd recommend her but only if she agreed and she says she's fine on her own (as long as we stay). If we don't stay she thinks someone is breaking in and calls the police.

I think eventually we'll have to not stay, she'll call the police, be admitted to A&E and it'll go from there. But ATM my mum isn't ready to do that.

ddas · 31/07/2014 07:34

Have you spoken to her community psych team?

ddas · 31/07/2014 07:39

Difficult though if she's under a community team for depression rather than for dementia. Sounds like a difficult situation as would be different management if it's a depressive episode, acute confusional state or just an unfortunate deterioration of her dementia. I'd try & a different gp in the practice and talk it through with them.

WLmum · 31/07/2014 07:59

Oh no willyou what a nightmare. People can be such pigs. I know it might be money you don't have right now but have you thought about hiring professional cleaners? The whole house including carpets and oven etc should cost about £200.
Sorry about your nan - getting her sectioned sounds a bit extreme. Could you see if she'd tolerate an agency carer a few nights a week? Dementia can be so awful. Perhaps your mum could try speaking to age uk or dementia uk for support and advice (sorry if you've already been through this).

PurplePidjin · 31/07/2014 12:30

Brew and Cake for everyone

MrsNutella · 31/07/2014 12:51

thanks pidj!!

willyou I can completely understand what you say about having to leave her one night to start the process rolling. That is so hard, but sadly ss seem all too often to hold off unless it's an emergency when you're trying to avoid an emergency Confused
I hope you and your mum are ok.

I like WL's suggestion of a cleaner (I would love a cleaner for the next few weeks.... How sad is it that a clean house would make me sooo happy?!) that would at least mean you move into it and it's nice and clean for you.

FX for your move!! You do sound incredibly strong by the way. After all that's happened and what you've been through. I just want to say, you're amazing, you're doing a really amazing job right now and that you have the strength to help take care of others is really impressive. Make sure you take care of you tooThanks X

Maryland2013 · 31/07/2014 13:26

Willyou in Manchester we have a later life team in our Trust (mental health trust) that have a clients with MH issues and/ or dementia/ Alzheimer's problems. If she has a nurse or care team they should be able to help you and advise? If she's already under a care team/ consultant you shouldn't have to go back through GP. Obviously this might be different for you but I would contact community psych team.
Sounds very difficult I hope you can find a resolution

WillYouDoTheFandango · 31/07/2014 14:12

Her community psych nurse is terrible. My nan actually threw her out last week after she tried to look at her leftover ADs and she still wouldn't recommend any plan of action other than having her sectioned.

It's shit.

The house is dirty but it's more the painting and decorating (every wall is covered in stickers/pencil marks/chips) that will be the time consuming stuff. And I definitely can't afford to pay a decorator to do the lot. At least I am capable of doing it, it just may take a little while to do so.

Maryland2013 · 31/07/2014 18:44

Have a painting party Willyou! Get some friends round and some wine and pizza and you can get the house done in an evening.

If the nurse is a care co ordinator and she's useless you can ask for someone different if it might help?

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SpottyTeacakes · 31/07/2014 19:51

Sounds horrible WillYou. I'm surprised they're pushing the section it's pretty much a last resort where I work.

Poor dr today got chased down the road by a (very ill) lady in her underwear. She was throwing lots at him.

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MrsNutella · 31/07/2014 20:10

spotty that sounds sooo funny Smile poor dr (ahem) I hope they were ok?

I have the rage tonight. 40+1 and DH is being a dick. I don't know what's wrong with him. I had a mini go at him when he was sweeping up the sand around DS's sand pit but I really didn't think it was anything major. We have a kind of turtle thing that we use as the sand pit. Of course DS loved to grab handfuls of sand and throw them, pour them over his head, drop them on the flood next to the sandpit. Not a big issue. Occasionally I sweep up the patio area a bit to keep it tidy. Depending on the amount of sand I sweep it up and try and put it back in the sandpit - it gets full of muck from the garden anyway so a bit more won't hurt.

Anyway, tonight I see DH sweeping. He sweeps the sand at the sandpit. The sand pit looks like it has a sort of sand moat around items now I understand why. I asked him why on earth he was sweeping the sand that way. He asked me if I wanted the sand back in the sandpit. I said "yes". And apparently I'm criticising how he does things Confused

I think this is why he is pissed off with me. It's a really stupid reason. Ok I may have sounded rather exasperated I probably could have been more polite in the way I phrased what I said and not huffed I probably rolled my eyes and gave him a look too but seriously?!

Thank goodness he has gone for a swim! Smile

MrsNutella · 31/07/2014 20:12

I mean I'm 40 weeks +1 pregnant. I think I have every right to be a little unreasonable/hormonal/fed up/demanding or all of those things at once. SmileWink

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SpottyTeacakes · 31/07/2014 20:20

Of course you do Nutella! Your dh was being completely UR Grin

Poor dr was late back to afternoon surgery and once he was running an hour late I started moving his appts to the other drs to give him a break (he's only a locum but is with us quite a bit) he was sweating and looked pretty shell shocked tbh!

My car still isn't fixed. I'm really fed up about everything atm (I'm sure you can all tell Wink) and dd starting school is stressful dp just tells me to stop moaning though Hmm

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WillYouDoTheFandango · 31/07/2014 20:21

At this point Nutella your word is law! My sister's friend shares your due date Smile

Maryland2013 · 31/07/2014 20:29

Nutella how late do they let you go over there? Perfectly entitled to get the rage :)

PurplePidjin · 31/07/2014 21:18

Definitely your word is law, Nutella!

Not to minimise everyone's horrible times at the moment, but to lighten things up a bit - I'm back to my pre pregnancy weight of 11st, my size 12s are loose on my and I'm wearing a size 10 top today :o Babywearing FTW I reckon my core muscles are titanium right now!

WLmum · 31/07/2014 21:25

Absolutely nutella at this stage you are able to claim that the sky is falling in and no-one (least of all DH) is allowed to argue.
willyou I hope once the house is filled with your stuff it won't seem so bad.
spotty try not to stress too much about dd starting school. These things have a way of working themselves out. I got in a bit of a lather about dd1 starting but it was fine. Also try not to worry about things you can't change.

WLmum · 31/07/2014 21:29

Good for you pidj. I'm back to about the size and weight I was pre dds but I'm much Wobblier and my core muscles are def not great. I did have a quick run followed by some crunches in my lunch hour today but I have just eaten a choc pud with custard

halestone · 31/07/2014 21:59

WillyouThanks Thanks Thanks i hope things get sorted with your nan soon. Also i hope your house is easier than you think to sort. I love Marylands suggestion.

Pidj, well done to you.

Spotty thats hilarious.

Nutella if you believe you saw a flying pig at this stage of your pregnancy i would absolutely pretend to believe you.

Apparently all the kiddiecare stores are closing this weekend and there having massive sales. I picked up some great bargains today.

Stacks · 01/08/2014 03:50

Here lurking during a late night feed :)

halestone · 01/08/2014 14:48

I have put a video on facebook of Heidi counting to 7. Grin Grin Grin

The weather is awful here. I hope its better everywhere else.

Barbeasty · 01/08/2014 18:03

WillYou I hope you get everything sorted.

After my train home was cancelled again in the week, and having to drive past Gatcombe to get to nursery, I caught the hour earlier train tonight. Just checked, and the usual train was cancelled again! That's 4 times in 5 weeks!