December 2012 tantrums galore and they're not even two yet!

[SpottyTeacakes]

Hope everyone finds this and I haven't doubled up!

I've got really bad back pain and ds is spinning on his zebra crying. No idea why!

I forgot to say that Willyou i am loving that poo story I hope J is feeling better today and yay for moving day.

Beasty how is A now?

Spotty yay for DS speaking

Pidj one accident sounds like a very good start to me.

As the heat's reduced, he's perked up so hopefully over whatever he had.

But he fell over at MIL's yesterday and banged his forehead. Big mark there (not bruised yet, I expect it will be bad). Add to that the fact DD looks as though she has a slight rash, when she actually used a bath colouring tablet in a small bowl of water and turned herself red.....

Beasty that sounds like an 18th Birthday picture.

Lost count of the amount of times i've had to say no to little miss violent this morning. She has refused to go to the time out corner so i took her upstairs and put her in her cot. Still took 3 times in it to make her say sorry. She is now lay on the couch watching Peppa pig and having a bottle. I am honestly struggling with the amount of violence she is capable of. Biting, Head butting and kicking when she doesn't get her own way and no amount of distraction stops her. I am proud that i never give in to her but at the same time i am wondering what i am doing wrong.

hales your not doing anything wrong, you've just got a headstrong toddler on your hands! You're doing the right thing by being firm and consistent and you'll be thankful to yourself later on. Chin up chick.

Hales don't be hard on yourself consistency is key. Remember even if she's not actually doing as you say she's still hearing the words so once she is able to control herself more she will know what's right and wrong.

Nothing is more funny than ds trying to catch some kind of jumping moth. Keeping him amused for ages

Thank you WL and Spotty shes dropped her afternoon nap recently as shes scared of missing anything. So this afternoon i forced a nap out of her at 2:30 she slept till 3:30 and seemed abit more clam before i left for work. I am currently trying to get her asleep again hopefully she'll be better tomorrow. I genuinely think lack of sleep could be the cause.

In other news she has poo'd again on the toilet and another day of no accidents. I forgot to put her nappy on during her nap and she never wet her cot and when she got up asked to use the toilet

Spotty that sounds lovely, you should of got it on video.

That's amazing hales. You could well be right about the sleep. I think it's set to get a bit cooler so maybe time for an action plan?

hales she sounds like a very intelligent little girl given how much she's talking & with the potty training etc but emotionally she's still only ?19 months so may be getting frustrated at things but doesn't quite understand why.

So lashes out.

Had dd in no nappy yesterday as she is obsessed with ds's pants and just wants to wear those but although she'll sit on the potty looking down saying wee doesn't actually do anything then when goes off to play & has an accident will come running over to you saying wee and take you to show you where it's happened. Definitely not ready but don't want to put pants on top of nappies as it'll just confuse her later on.

spotty hope you are feeling better & have your car back

Getting both dc's hair cut in a minute. Then off to the pub round the corner for lunch with a friend. Car at the garage again today...!

Agree with ddas, hales - it could be frustration at physical ability not being at the same level as intellectual?

O has started signing to us for pee/poo - often after the event but not always. A step in the right direction but we're not pushing it!

Thats quite possibly it Ddas and Utopian.

I agree with you also that putting knickers on over the nappy is confusing. We have been super lucky in that we haven't done any of the toilet training. She has just done it herself and told us what to do, she knows exactly what she wants. We tend to leave her bum completely naked if at home and she says toilet sometimes she will ask for pull ups and sometimes knickers we let her choose.

I would say that she is almost completely toilet trained but i don't want to do what my Dsis did and take her out of nappies when out and about as its so hard to find a toilet and i think that can wait till shes older. However if we just go to a relatives house she wears knickers.

Spotty, i hope you enjoy your pub lunch.

I'm in awe of all this potty training, I think we're going to be quite a while yet before we even think of starting.

Having a very tough day with F, he refused to be dressed this morning, and threw himself of the bed hurting himself. We went to the park and he thre a fit as I wouldn't let him climb the steps of a 10 foot slide, then whilst he was running away from me he tripped and face planted on to concrete, he has a lump on his forehead and one side of his face is covered in scrapes. Then as we were leaving he walked through a patch if stinging nettles. And just to add to it, I noticed his first canine tooth cutting through.

He's currently screeching in his bed and refusing calpol.

, or ? For me obvs, not him...

Oh no coffee I hope you have a better afternoon!

Pub lunch was nice £31 for four soft drinks, an antipasto selection, ham sandwich and bowl of chips

All I want in life is a third child, third bedroom and holiday every two years. Is that really too much to ask?! It just seems impossible. This thought seems from dp saying I will never be happy (we were talking about my job)

Oh Coffee i vote all 3, these toddlers don't half like playing up.

Spotty i hope you get your wishes, my main wish is to own our own home and to finally have some family time alone just me DP and H, also DSD if the dragon would let her.

Owning our own home is something that will never happen for us. If someone gave us enough of a deposit we wouldn't be able to afford the repayments. Unless we moved to a remote place in Wales. Or Bognor Regis.

Sorry, am v tired and not keeping up well atm

coffee for sure! FWIW I probably would have let R go on the big slide, as long as there weren't any bigger children around that he'd hold up/would push him out of the way...

I own my flat, but can't afford the holidays/newish car/posh food etc and we won't be moving for a fair while yet. We probably could if I went back to work, but not for years and years yet as pretty much everything I earned would go in childcare so there are no benefits to me trying to kick start a career until R and any future dc are older. SAHMdom it is then

My car still isn't fixed the garage have given me a courtesy car this time but it's three door and as old as mine! I don't know if ds' ERF will fit!

hales I agree with what ddas says about our LOs getting frustrated with not being able to communicate and properly understand what they want themselves.

Although I think that when they don't get enough sleep it adds to it. DS is horrible when he doesn't get enough sleep. The other night he took forever to get to sleep, normally he is well away by 8pm and it was after 9pm before he was asleep. The next day he woke earlier than normal (6:45 instead of 7:15/30) and the whole day was hard work.
I hope you manage to get H in bed earlier and get some time to yourself so that you can relax too!

Wrt owning my own home.... My general personal wishes for the future.. It's an interesting thought. I don't mind renting. I like the freedom of it, it's a bit different (and much more reasonable) here.
I'd just like to have a good job that I enjoy and earn some money. I'm worried about the school system here. It's pretty archaic and I want to look into non state school options but I have no idea what it might cost. So, being able to pay for that would be my dream.

spotty poor you and your poor car! Aargh that would drive me nuts!

Ouch coffee teeth and tired is not a happy combo - certainly makes T super hard work.
spotty I also hope you get your wish - there's time yet though, if I'm right you're a young un?
We do own our house but only because we spent our 20s working hard and saving hard - when our friends were buying stuff and going on nice holidays, and we were lucky enough to get on the property ladder before prices became quite so crazy. We couldn't afford to buy or rent our house now (and it's not anything special). Our car was the only we could afford that could fit all 3 dds in the back. Would love the 7 seater version but it's obv more expensive and is in a higher insurance class etc.
My new job seems to be going well - I'm quite busy now with some quite serious stuff and I got a nice complement from a dept head today who also told a senior manager. It's crap timing that we're on holiday next week (camping -DH just had the thrill of ordering a new cool box!) but that's life.

Hello all. Sorry everyone's having a rough time. Seems like we're all in the same boat with frustrated toddlers pushing boundaries driving us around the bend.

I'm having a bad week. My work colleague is away so I'm doing two jobs. The PA (who's helping by covering a little of her work) has quit effective tomorrow her clients are being super demanding and I'm not up to speed so look like I don't know my arse from my elbow.

My nan had a water infection a couple of weeks ago and it made her act completely crazily as they can when you're older. The dementia's not gone away after treatment though and she's being really demanding, refuses to sleep in the house unless someone sleeps on her floor and keeps arguing with and throwing people out, so the list of people to take a night is dwindling to me and my mum. I'm struggling to cope and my mum is on the edge. We contacted ss and they said we'd have to have her sectioned before they'd offer help

Plus my house has been left in a dreadful state by the tenant so now everywhere needs decorating. I think once she knew it had sold she started smoking inside, let her 7 yo run wild and stopped cleaning. It's just cosmetic but I'm already so busy that it's daunting.

Sorry for the long whinge.