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JULY 2014 - WE HAVE BABIES

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justhayley · 12/06/2014 22:20

Well it's only mid June but I hear we have our first July 2014 baby - congratulations MrsC, also hear there is one going to be joining us very very soon so thought it was time to start a postnatal thread! Wow can you believe it's that time already!!!

I hope to be joining you on this thread in the next few weeks - have no desire to get to 40 /42 weeks in this heat thank you.

For now congratulations new mummies ThanksWine xxx

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teaandkittens · 06/08/2014 12:24

Breastfeeding is such hard work! Seems a lot (all?!) of us are struggling with windy babies- when is it supposed to get a bit easier? It's hard constantly feeding- dd has a new game of just having bits at a time so never sleeping/being satisfied- apart from at night when she has so much she projectile vomits over herself and the cot. Changing sheets is so much fun at 5am!

I'm going to a baby clinic tomorrow morning to get some tips/advice on how to make her less windy- will report back Smile

Howly- I have emotional evenings too! I think it's the being awake all day and knowing you have a whole night of crap sleep ahead. I quite often sit and cry.

NancyinCali · 06/08/2014 13:27

tea last time around for me it got easier around week 6. Only on day 5 here so we've got a little way to go!

We had a much better night with a 4 hour stretch of sleep. Feeding her now at 5.30am so hoping for a little more sleep.

Howly · 06/08/2014 14:13

I've been constantly feeding since 10am!! Getting exhausted now! I guess this is cluster feeding? Feed, burp, snooze, feed, burp, snooze, scream, change boob and the cycle continues!!!

AuntieMaggie · 06/08/2014 14:26

MW visit today - DS is 10 lbs 13oz! He's not chubby/fat at all though just big!

She told me again to put him down to sleep and leave him crying rather than cuddle him to sleep. He had a screaming fit while she was here so she could see how hard it is to settle him and that he just gets more upset if he's left. And how he calms down straight away when he's held.

She could also tell he has bad wind even though we've been using infacol and gripe water so she tried to help relieve it and suggested giving him water to try to help.

GrouchyKiwi · 06/08/2014 14:54

The breastfeeding clinic yesterday was really good, so can absolutely recommend going to one if you're having trouble with feeding. Little Kiwi has a great latch but doesn't take my nipple far enough into her mouth, which is why it's been agony while feeding her. So they showed me a different position to feed her in, and it is SO much better. The nipples are healing slowly, so it still hurts a bit, but at least it doesn't make me cry now when I feed.

Managed to achieve pain-free feeding twice yesterday (both on the right side) but haven't done it so far today. It takes a lot of practice and Baby Kiwi gets wound up because it can take a long time to get her latched nicely. It's a learning curve for both of us, I guess.

ItsAlwaysBetterOnHoliday · 06/08/2014 16:33

That's great kiwi! I keep meaning to go back to one of the breastfeeding drop ins but not quite making it.

Today DS has been back to a relatively calm happy self so hoping yesterday was a one off. Still quite a few spitting up moments but he doesn't seem distressed by it and sitting him upright after feeds seems to work fairly well as does methodical burping!

ismarah · 06/08/2014 16:35

Auntie did she say how much water?

AuntieMaggie · 06/08/2014 17:40

ismarah about 2 oz of cooled boiled water 30 mins after a feed if he has bad wind. He isn't keen though - didn't like the bottle or the water so would only take a couple of mouthfuls. The HV spent 10 mins trying to relieve his wind.

icklekid · 06/08/2014 19:06

howly yes to emotional in the eves- expected though when tired and got upset baby!

its I'm the same keep meaning to go but not making it. ..glad ds was happier today!

ismarah · 06/08/2014 21:30

We did an experiment this afternoon - fed bean 1oz of cooled boiled water. She had no problem drinking it and then within 3hrs did her business without screaming. The consistency was much looser than it has been for a few days. Not sure if this will be an ongoing thing or if that amount of water is enough but it was interesting.

icklekid · 07/08/2014 03:34

Good to know ismarah now 2nights of very little vsleep- ds slept 7-9 then 1-3 screaming horrifically in between and I was crying for most of it! Genuinely would rather go back to 5-9 screaming as at least dh awake! Now not planning on doing anything today except try and sleep when ds sleeps. ..

ItsAlwaysBetterOnHoliday · 07/08/2014 05:13

Sorry to hear that ickle. Hope you can catch up a bit during the day.

After being serene all day DS decided to have a 3 hour crying session (punctuated by feeds) starting 10 minutes before friends came over. He then finally went to sleep 30 minutes after they all left!

icklekid · 07/08/2014 06:31

Really hard its I find it worse when company over- even if they've had colic babies and so totally understand!

Well very great full ds then slept until 5.45 having sleep at the end of the night makes a big difference to how I feel. Will need more at some point today but not as shattered as yesterday!

GrouchyKiwi · 07/08/2014 10:54

Colic really is difficult. I hope your babies grow out of it soon, ladies. Don't know if it's comforting to know that it goes away in a few months.

A new day, a new feeding issue. The little one seems to have forgotten that she needs a wide-open mouth to latch on so we're right back to painful feeds. I have no idea how to teach her the proper mouth shape.

ItsAlwaysBetterOnHoliday · 07/08/2014 11:14

That is actually comforting to know kiwi. Some days are definitely worse than others too.

DS also sometimes forgets about the wide mouth thing (or even sometimes that he needs to open his mouth at all!). I'm trying to make sure I detach and relatch when that happens, but sometimes we are both a bit lazy. This is why I need to go back to the breastfeeding group!

ItsAlwaysBetterOnHoliday · 07/08/2014 11:16

ickle definitely made worse by company, and none of these friends have kids (I didn't think we were a great advertisement for having them!). Got a lovely email from one of my friends this morning saying not to worry and that DS is still cute when crying which cheered me up though :)

icklekid · 07/08/2014 11:37

Aehh thats so lovely its nice of them to take the time to say it too!

kiwi health visitor said should be gone by 10 weeks if there was no end I honestly don't know how I would cope- 7pm bed time, express for dh until 11 so I've had some sleep regardless of what happens next!

Well went into town this morning and feels amazing to have done it Smile picked up next order from sale, swapped some dungarees we got 2 of in John Lewis and then went to our local kiddicare as they are closing down- no real bargains sadly! Ds fell asleep on walk around to first shop which was great for rest of trip. Home, woke up, fed, now back asleep!

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AuntieMaggie · 07/08/2014 12:47

moresnow I think i am going to ignore mw - it's not doing any good to leave him crying like you say he ends up more windy. Going to speak to gp at 6 week check tomorrow.

ismarah glad the water seemed to help you. DS is just windy not constipated and wouldn't take much water yesterday so not helping!

those whose dc won't open mouth wide enough two things mws showed me in hospital: fold/squish your nipple so you can squeeze more of it in their mouths or hold their heads firmly and kind of scoop your nipple into their mouth. (These were both easier when I had a helping pair of hands though!)

Hard night with ds - can't help but think leaving him to cry yesterday contributed. He slept from about 10:30-1:00 then back to sleep about 4:30, awake 6 when I propped him up against a pillow as he was a bit sick when I picked him up and he promptly fell back to sleep! So after a bit I put him in his swing chair and he slept for another 2 hours but I couldn't sleep so I've had about 3 hours sleep...

icklekid · 07/08/2014 17:04

auntie oh dear for so little sleep have you managed to get any during the day today? I know this sounds silly is 6 week check for baby or mum? I should know but can't remember!

Oh dear moresnow not quite the outing you imagined I'm sure! I agree wouldn't leave ds with his colic for more than a few mins for my sanity!

So not sure if its the heat or lack of sleep last night but ds has slept a lot today! Had about an hour awake and is now but other than that has been asleep, awake, feed, asleep repeat! Anyway of knowing if there is a min amount of awake timr should aim for at 4 weeks or will I just suffer this eve?

GrouchyKiwi · 07/08/2014 17:24

Thanks for the advice, everyone. Have been holding onto her chin, shoving my nipple in her mouth and the letting go of her chin after smushing her face against my chest. Seems to be working!

ickle Here (Edinburgh) the 6-week check is for Mum and baby. GP should repeat the paediatric tests that were done in hospital and ask Mum how she's getting on physically and emotionally, as well as any concerns she might have re baby.

ismarah · 07/08/2014 22:47

Auntie did your HV come today? How is your DP doing?

icklekid · 08/08/2014 08:51

Thanks kiwi will get that booked.

Yes been thinking about you and dh auntie

Well dh went back to normal routine of crying all eve but sleeping well at night! Smile

ItsAlwaysBetterOnHoliday · 08/08/2014 09:30

Terrible night - DS just wants to eat and refuses to sleep anywhere but on me! Think I got a couple of 20 min naps here and there...hoping this is just another growth spurt!

AuntieMaggie · 08/08/2014 10:20

6 week check for both of us - ds has a nurse and gp appt I just have a go appt... no idea what they will do!

No he didn't sleep much yesterday but last night was much better.

HV came on Weds. DP is ok but very up and down. She told me to speak to gp today about it all but it was good that she got to meet dp.