jan 2013- No, I will not have a new nappy

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Ta daaaaa new home feel at home already.

Poly do you have to go for the whole thing? Could you do one or two nights? If so then I would see it as an opportunity to wean her off the night feeds, although it would be tough on your dh!

Congrats tugs Had spotting with ds1 and full.on bleeding with Ivy. Hard not to worry though x

poly don't know what to suggest but if you wanted to wean you have plenty of time to prepare her.

Ivy in total meltdown. Tried to leave park this morning and she threw herself into the dirt and lay there kicking and yelling. Oh the joys of toddlers

Wow tugs congratulations I have everything crossed for you.
poly that sounds difficult. I don't know what to suggest, no way I could do it either as E still feeds all night (though it's getting better).

Congrats tugs!!! I also had spotting with dd, try not to worry

Poly, I'm not sure really, it's a bit unfair for them to say you can't bring dd along with you, can you express, will she take the bottle?

Apple I'm with you on the tantrums, I'm actually getting a bit worried about dd, I know she is teething, a fang and a back one too but the meltdowns she is having at the moment is honestly unreal
Today she has had about 7/8 complete meltdowns, banging her head on the floor so hard she has bruises
There's nothing I can do to stop them she won't let me near her, I try and distract but she just looks like the exorcist, she even made herself sick tonight from crying so much, what do I do?
Ds1 had some epic tantrums but Darcie is taking them to a whole new level

Have any of you left your babies for several nights yet?

poly i haven't left Ivy at all but when ds2 was just 2 i spent several nights in hospital (dd1 was a tricky pregnancy) and the coped pretty well. I know its not quite the same but they are quite adaptable and usually cope better than we expect.

lolli its exhausting isn't it?! Am putting Ivys down to teething (shes started to dribble like mad), the fucking heat, and the fact she is used to having my full attention whikst dcs at school and althogh she enjoys being with her siblings shes very jealous and clingy to me.

I try to distravt her as much as possible but sometimes just have to step over her and leave her to it!

Apple, seriously I was at breaking point today, no sleep doesn't help, she did 2 big poos in the night which is really unlike her too.
Teething, fucking heat, she's at the childminders tomorrow so will have to pre warm her of the tantrums

Poly I've not yet but I'm going on a hen party in September so will be away for 2 nights

Poly I left dd for two nights last weekend, it was my first time away from her and we were both fine. She stopped bf a couple of months ago though.

I'd say try night weaning her now in preparation, could you spend one night in a hotel near your home as a trial run?

Dd is also being a monster challenging at the moment. She has a meltdown if she isn't getting my full attention. Or if she wants something and I won't let her have it such as scissors, or my phone when she's in the bath, or her third banana of the day

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Thank you all! Just been to GP who referred me to EPU because of cramps/spotting. Going tomorrow at 9am so we'll see what's what then :)

DD is v tantrummy at the moment as well, especially when it comes to bedtime. The last few nights we've sat up singing songs for literally hours until she conks out. Tiresome.

Poly I've left DD for a night but no longer yet, but I weaned her a few months ago. I guess you have lots of time to prepare.

Congrats Tugs! Had major bleeding when pg with Molly but it's so hard not to panic... How did it go this morning?

With you on the tantrums. Had to change a stinky nappy yesterday and Molly was shouting NUURR and running away then full on tantrum while I wrestled with her. It's a nightmare. At nursery she doesn't do it though-saves it for us

I was away several times for a couple of nights but weaned Molly about 6 months ago. She's a bit clingy when I get back but they're tougher than they look. I can't put her to bed recently though. She screams when I put her in her cot. DH can put her in but if I try she just wants to be held. There's always something but I think this phase is exhausting...

How did it go this morning tugs? Hope all is well.

I've not left DS yet either. He's still a boob-monster so no chance of me getting away any time soon.

Things not going great for us. Money situation is quite frankly dire. Thought we would sell the house and rent but turns out we're in negative equity so can't even do that. DH is either working or out with friends most of the time. On the rare occasions he's home all he wants to do is watch TV. If it weren't for the fact that my mum has DS one afternoon a week so I can get away I think I'd go crazy.

On the up side tantrums aren't TOO bad here. Yet.

Sounds hard cupcakes

could you get a pt job while your mum looks after ds, or an evening job and dh curtail his social life a bit so he can stay home with ds while you work?

any news tugs?

I already work 3 mornings a week whilst DS goes to nursery. I would love to increase my hours as I'm struggling to get to grips with the job on 15 hours a week but it's really hard to balance nursery sessions etc. DH won't do evenings as he says "he doesn't really like babysitting"

He is basically continuing to live his life as he did before we were married and won't give that lifestyle up.

Oh cupcakes that sounds so unfair on you. You are both parents now. Time for a heart to heart?

Agree cupcakes, you don't 'babysit' your own children, you look after them because that's your job as a parent!

how is he generally? Does he do much around the house or is that your job too?

DH won't even put his dirty socks in the laundry basket, never mind anything else. When we were first together he used to do DIY, car maintenance, mowing the lawn etc, but he's gradually done less and less and now it's either done by me or not done at all.

Heart to Hearts are no good, sadly - any inkling of a serious conversation and he looks at the floor and refuses to speak until I give up and leave him alone.

And to top it all off I've just used the last 2 eggs to bake a cake with DS and I've just realised I've used plain flour instead of SR. Fuck.

And the dog just ate half a tub of play-doh.

Cupcakes, sounds like you are having a tough time, your DH needs to know how you feel, make him listen as so unfair you are coping with this all on your own! As for the cake, I did the same with DS birthday cake but bizarrely it actually tasted ok, won't lie.....looked a bit weird but no one cared as it tasted nice so hopefully yours will be lovely :) x

Tugs how did this morning go?

Cupcakes, frankly he needs a kick up the arse, I'm sure you've got enough to do with work and DS without having to pick up his dirty socks

Hi all, sorry haven't had a chance to post til now. Scan was fine thanks, too early to really see anything but they confirmed the pregnancy so that's something! No explanation for the bleeding but I had bleeding throughout my pregnancy with DD and it was always a mystery so guess it's just one of those things. Reassuring to know that others had early bleeding and all was well. :)

Cupcakes Sorry your DH is being such a div. As MsBug said you don't babysit you're own kids! If a heart to heart won't do it then maybe some harsh words or more drastic action - not suggesting you LTB at all but he needs to get his shit together.

Tugs that's great news

Cupcakes how's things with DH have you had a talk?

Hope everyone is having a nice weekend and babies are coping ok with the heat

tugs that's great news. Is it a different hospital now you've moved and does it seem ok?

cupcakes that's just awful. He is behaving so selfishly. How has the weekend been?

He's been at work all weekend so not really seen him. Probably a good thing. It's his birthday tomorrow so hopefully I'll at least see him for a bit.

Took DS to an ice-cream parlour today, it was really lovely. He stuffed himself silly with Raspberry sorbet then spent a good hour and a half exploring the play equipment and ride on tractors. He was fast asleep in bed by 6.15!

Cupcakes the ice cream parlour sounds amazing

We spent the day at the beach yesterday for DPs birthday, kids loved it and were asleep by 6.30pm and didn't wake until 8am this morning!