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November 2012 - All our babies are 18 months, where has the time gone?

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StuntNun · 02/06/2014 22:17

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YellowWellies · 13/06/2014 09:57

Speaking of books Mummies of more than one - can you recommend good books for introducing toddlers to the idea of a baby in Mummy's belly? We have this Q&A every day: "Bear do you know what's in Mummy's tummy?" "Hmmm. Pizza? Poo? Bread? Nom noms? Panda?" "No its a person - do you know who?" "Jacob. Daddy. Grandma. Betsy. Panda?" Sometimes eventually we get to "Hiya baby!".... Hmm So yeah I think we need to break the idea to him a bit more clearly!

Zamboni · 13/06/2014 10:20

YW there's a book called something like there's a house in my mummy. We used that. DD was a similar age to J when we had similar discussions. When we reached the stage where she knew there was a baby in there, I asked her if it would be nice when the baby comes to live with us. Bearing in mind she was then at the start of her long obsession with babies/dolls, I was sure she was keen but to my surprise she said no quite categorically! Haha.

Zamboni · 13/06/2014 10:22

PR that book sounds AMAZING. Love that kind of thing. When I studied French we spent time on the Occupation. Utterly fascinating as well as terrifying and unimaginable.

Wandathewindfairy · 13/06/2014 10:48

Yep, there' said house in my mummy, and there is also an usbourne one with a family in it that talks about going to the hospital and stuff which I really liked when I was having Dd2

Flies flies flies ahhhhhhhhh.

PetiteRaleuse · 13/06/2014 11:29

It's brilliant! I love it, I am a quarter of the way through already. It's giving me goosepimples.

yw I can't recommend a book - obviously a book will help, but don't stress too much. I don't think they can actually grasp the concept that there is a baby in there in the same way we can at this age - DD1 is really only getting to grips with the idea of pregnancy and babies coming out now. She was 19mo when LO was born and I am sure she didn't make the link between my tummy and the baby - she was completely uninterested in the baby in fact until she started smiling. It will of course be a big thing for the Bear but I'm not sure anything will really prepare him, so just wanted to say not to worry.

I showed DD1 rowing's picture on FB yesterday of her newborn and tried explaining that she was just a few hours. She liked the picture and repeated "brand new baby" but it's a tough concept to grab might let her watch OBEM

PetiteRaleuse · 13/06/2014 11:30

No hurry Wanda for the book don't worry as I said I have so many to read and just went mad on the Book Depository this morning

Wandathewindfairy · 13/06/2014 11:36

Ahh my dress is advertised at the top of this page Hmm

izzybizzybuzzybees · 13/06/2014 11:48

I can tell believe how many words all your babies have. Dd was amazing with speech and spoke in sentences however J doesn't talk. He's said a few words once but never repeated. I wasnt worried but I'm starting to get a bit concerned now!

izzybizzybuzzybees · 13/06/2014 11:49

That should have said I can't

PetiteRaleuse · 13/06/2014 12:07

izzy my example above was DD1 talking, not LO. And remember that DD1 only really started talking well after two, and was two and a half before sentences started and never stopped coming out of her mouth. There's no need to worry.

I have just discovered that part of the farmland my house was built on was used for vineyards. The vineyard section of the land was done in kinds of allotments, and each family who could afford one had a patch, and they made their wine for the family - it was normally rosé. Isn't that fab?

And the baker used to sell bread in the nearby villages in a trap pulled by dogs, and one day it was so hot that the dogs were thirsty and pulled the trap, and the bread and baker with them, into the stream :o

I'm loving this book!!!

Wandathewindfairy · 13/06/2014 12:17

There must be an actual novel in that pr

AIBU to be a bit peeved. I had a chat to my dad on the phone today, he finished the call really quickly which suggests to me he is sulking about something. It could be one of two things:

A) I have sent him a Father's Day card but no present, as I am going to phone the place where he is going with his wife for lunch on Sunday and out £50 in the pot, he thinks I haven't bought him a present ( me peeved because that is utterly childish and stupid)

B) his wife is going into hosp for a reasonably big operation on
Monday. I haven't made enough of a fuss about it.

( I think I have mentioned this before, I think he wants me to make a fuss of him because she is going into hosp. I can not do that. I spent years supporting him and looking after him while my mum was ill and "coping" for him, and then I put my grieving on hold so that I could support him when she died and no one supported me. When he came through it he went off and met another woman. And there I was a total mess. So I think this is why I am finding it hard to make a fuss about it. I don't want to can't expend any emotional energy on my dad through this. I have decided to send a recuperation care package to her, with a mag and some hand cream and a book etc in it, and I will ring my dad and check he is ok but I am not going to drain myself over it like I did before)

Him and his wife do have a tendency towards hypersensitivity I am often coming off the phone thinking I have done something wrong and so I phone back later to check, beacuse I don't like underlying stuff and it is always something really stupid. Eggshell city sometimes, honestly.

Wandathewindfairy · 13/06/2014 12:18

Or c) he has written a childrens book which is going to be published it could be I haven't made enough Fuss about that and told him how wonderful he is.

Wandathewindfairy · 13/06/2014 12:19

So that is three things.

Anyone else have an emotionally high maintenance parent or is it just me.

PetiteRaleuse · 13/06/2014 12:25

You are not alone wanda in that... He sounds very stressful. Let him wallow and when he phones you on Sunday to thank you for your gift maybe he will be better, or not. The care package is a good idea and realistically that is all you can do. Now take a deep breath and do something to take your mind off it.

I think there might be some weeds in that miniscule veg patch you've got going on...

Wandathewindfairy · 13/06/2014 12:42

Ta pr yep! bit of weeding always takes away the worries!

PetiteRaleuse · 13/06/2014 13:16

Slap on some sun lotion though Wink

Paisleychick · 13/06/2014 13:34

Wanda I have a dad like that. I have to be a mind reader sometimes. I just ignore and get on with my stuff. I know its hard to do that sometimes though.

Izzy and Donna H doesn't talk. He is trying to copy words but no mummy or daddy. He says duck when looking at ducks but that's it. He understands and gestures and sometimes shakes his head and I think he kind of knows it means no, but I don't know if he know completely what no means. I think he's completely fine though, just a late talker.

I picked loads of herbs from my garden yesterday and some strawberries and raspberries. I'm going to now investigate how to dry the herbs. Any tips would be greatly appreciated.

Wandathewindfairy · 13/06/2014 13:52

Phew. Glad I am not alone.

PetiteRaleuse · 13/06/2014 16:07

youuu are not aloooone, Iiiiii am here with youuuuu...

Can't remember the rest of the lyrics.

Wandathewindfairy · 13/06/2014 16:15

Is it pimms o'clock yet?

PurplePidjin · 13/06/2014 16:26

wanda yes!!!

YellowWellies · 13/06/2014 16:57

Wanda sounds like my Dad classic self absorbed baby boomer maaan / rubbish grandparent maaaan

I had a lovely trip to Edinburgh, J was perfect. Napping on the train home so Mummy could scoff a Pret lemon cheesecake without having to hide it from dairy free toddler! I luffs my H&M skinnies!!!!!

PetiteRaleuse · 13/06/2014 16:59

H&m maternity jeans were the only ones I felt comfy in. They did some lovely winter jumpers too the winter I was pg with DD1.

izzybizzybuzzybees · 13/06/2014 17:10

Although you're far away.....I am here to stay....

ChasingDaisy · 13/06/2014 17:16

Yesterday's food fight was a BAD idea.