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November 2012 - All our babies are 18 months, where has the time gone?

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StuntNun · 02/06/2014 22:17

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PetiteRaleuse · 12/06/2014 14:01

I have to agree with vq that accidents could become an issue, however kindly and patiently you deal with them. You have to decide on a week, or a fortnight even, where you don't go any further than walking round the block, using your own loo or potty. And that goes for any age. It's a pita but I am watching lots of DD1's contemporaries being dually trained by nursery and at home and it is taking them weeks and months. And they are 3.

Life has to be put on hold while training a child to use the loo, and more so the younger they are. The most common advice on MN is once you start there are just no more waking time nappies, which is impractical when you have long car journeys etc.

As you know I intend on starting training LO in July when we will have two weeks at home. I am even trying to organise summer nursery cover for DD1 so that I have some one on one time with LO to make a proper attempt. Because during those two weeks the outside world, apart from the odd occasion, will stop existing.

This is hard for people who work full time, and to them I would say use some annual leave and tag it on to a long weekend and do nothing else.

It sounds like I am shouting and criticising and I really am not. But going out for beach trips and to music class, however familiar to him will, IME, distract him from your current goal.

He seems ready from what you say so make the most of it, but everything else needs to stop, otherwise this could drag on for a long time. And the longer it does the harder it will be for both of you.

Again, this is advice based on my experience and observation and from the advice given to me by far more experienced people when I was training dd1. I'm not saying the way I train is right, or perfect, but in my case it worked.

PetiteRaleuse · 12/06/2014 14:07

zamboni DH and I have come to the realisation that we will probably never get a mortgage, even with various other financial committments coming to an end. Due to his age and my health history. It sucks utter arse.

YellowWellies · 12/06/2014 14:15

Actually Pidj if you're on spot watch this could be the ideal time as you've two reasons to stay close to home. Presumably all the Mums at music group were cool with potential CP exposure? I think a lot of folks like to get it out the way, but unlike your SIL its nicer to give a warning! Good for you.

Jonas is a wobbly wibbly red cheeked stinky arsed mess today. Went to a pals and he just lost the plot at so many little things that wouldn't normally bother him. Utter histrionics! Calpol when he wakes I reckon.... Teeth? We've had a few months off, I wonder if his wolf teeth might be coming.

Zamboni I'm sure you're not alone. Modern life (i.e. overinflated house prices) has forced so many couples to live right at the edge. We are lucky that my income is disposable for us or used for saving for big stuff, but that's because we bought a massive house but in a not vair nice town. DH earns a very good wage and was being offered double the mortgage we have, am v glad we didn't take the bait as we seem to never really have much spare. He saves a bit each month but nothing to what I'd like.

BTW Aldi's strawberries and grapes are lush at the mo!

ChasingDaisy · 12/06/2014 14:22

Good to see sleep on your list VQ Smile I am also loving my job today. Actually, I love it most days, but particularly so today. Plus I got a letter saying I have passed my 12 week probation period Grin

I had a mortgage many moons ago and it was cheaper than renting, but I have no idea what the market is like now. All I know is that I pay a shit load of rent for my small flat.

Potty training. I think I am going to aim for next spring/summer and book some time off work for it. I want to leave it as late as possible really.

Zamboni · 12/06/2014 14:24

PP I too followed the accepted wisdom when I potty trained DD and it worked for us too. Like R, she initiated it - I did not plan on training her while S was so tiny but she showed an interest at nursery so we took advantage. Was always going to try before S was 6mo and I went back to work, didn't plan on doing it when S was 8weeks old!

We stayed at home, practically naked (in January - at least R can be naked in the summer!) and with loads of drinks and did nothing at all for a week. We ventured to the park with our potty once or twice but it was too much to deal with. Cabin fever isn't the word! I actually used She Who Shall Not Be Named's little book for guidance and there was a good checklist in there for starting training - she said that unless the child could do all the things on the checklist it wasnt worth even trying and even then they might not be ready.

Then again, DH's best friend's son was potty trained literally overnight at 18mo. Just took his nappy off and did his wees in the potty from then on. I imagine that is rather exceptional though.

S is telling me about wees and poos now. "WeeWeeWEEWEE" is a common shriek! And he waves bye to a discarded nappy.

Zamboni · 12/06/2014 14:42

I know YW, I'm sure there are many more. We borrowed considerably less than we could have done too. On paper we have a decent enough household income but due to various boring, complicated reasons the house is owned by me alone. Which means they won't take DH's income into account, but that's fair enough as the mortgage is my sole responsibility. But they also take into account 100% of the outgoings, which are met in reality by both incomes. Fortunately I still have options so it's not a disaster but I am far from at my limit and still fail the test. I think you are right that a lot of people will find themselves in difficulties.

chasing congrats on passing probabtion. 12 weeks has gone quickly!

I'll book time off to train S too when the time comes. DH has 3 days at home during the week which hopefully means I wont have to spank all my annual leave on poo-duty. Grin

PetiteRaleuse · 12/06/2014 14:57

Thankful Thursday, missed that VQ. I am thankful for my dopey dog, my fly swatter (among the dozens of the twatty buzzers in my house today there was a couple of flies actually shagging on my SHOULDER earlier the cheeky fucking bastards) and for my freezer.

YellowWellies · 12/06/2014 17:08

PR wah re your potential intruder!!!!!

PetiteRaleuse · 12/06/2014 17:28

It was a little disconcerting but I'm over it now. I do feel safer having a dog, even a useless soppy goldie like mine.

ChasingDaisy · 12/06/2014 18:00

Oscar just started throwing peas at me.

I didn't tell him off Blush

We had a food fight instead BlushBlush

Discipline isn't my forte...

the kid has good aim

PetiteRaleuse · 12/06/2014 18:01

:o chasing

Lily311 · 12/06/2014 18:14

Haha chasing

I got a top yesterday as a present from jojo for O. Didn't like it so exchanged it for foldable travel potty. Not planning on training anytime soon though.

My mortgage journey is over, I will not take one on ever again.

Lovely day again, saw Leo's friends who announced they were expecting. Due date is the same as O's due date was. I will pop some pic on fb.

ValiumQueen · 12/06/2014 18:26

Lovely Lily. You may get a mortgage again one day when you meet your new love and embark on having a dozen more babies x

ValiumQueen · 12/06/2014 18:34

I have no broadband. How am I going to survive? Sky fucked up the transfer. Thank fuck for my phone.

PetiteRaleuse · 12/06/2014 19:08

Oh good. The Football is starting. Hmm

Lily311 · 12/06/2014 19:27

The only advantage of still being single that I have control over the remote.

No mortgage vq, I decided. I need to find a rich guy who owns his house Grin.

ValiumQueen · 12/06/2014 19:32

Sounds like a plan. What has started PR? I cannot see on the phone.

ValiumQueen · 12/06/2014 19:34

Football?

PetiteRaleuse · 12/06/2014 19:38

Yup. And it's lasting a month.

ValiumQueen · 12/06/2014 19:39

Fuck

PetiteRaleuse · 12/06/2014 19:51

Yup.

ChasingDaisy · 12/06/2014 19:59

very excited about the football

PurplePidjin · 12/06/2014 20:05

maths gcse tomorrow too am having a nice quiet night at work Grin

PetiteRaleuse · 12/06/2014 20:09

I like the football matches themselves, just dislike all the hype.

ChasingDaisy · 12/06/2014 20:29

I like all the hype Blush

More excited about Wimbledon though Grin