November 2012 - All our babies are 18 months, where has the time gone?

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We'd be going to an open farm day today too but already accepted a birthday party :)

Hallo.

I am astonished at your youth and coolness in not knowing where ambridge is bp! I have happy memories if listening to the archers as I drove home from pregnancy yoga. I got quite into it. Enjoy farm Sunday.

We have been to the safari park. Lions = meow and tiny wild rabbit = bit bit bit bit bit!!!!!!!!!!!

P is napping and so am I planning to. Dashed sinusitis is proving hard to shift so I figure a wee nap is in order and I can't face tidying up

DH and I were looking at an amazing house online yesterday only for him to spoil it with "I'll bet it's haunted". Well done, dude!

Good luck chasing!

Agree with the others perse. I imagine the each day will need to come at its own pace but do what you feel right doing.

How is the rash pp?

Healing rapidly, thanks Pass :) still only one wee in the toilet but that's at least half down to me a) not being able to keep him on the loo for more than 5 minutes (and he does well to sit there that long!) and b) misinterpreting him asking. This would be so much easier if he just blinking well said Wee Wee instead of mumping a bit and trying to drag me places! There's still a 2-3 minute delay between hand washing after he's sat on the loo (either having said yes to me asking or at his instigation) and him actually weeing, we had to to the church bit of Sunday School in damp trousers today because stupid mummy only took one change of clothes He did ask twice for the toilet though, just need to get the let-go control in place now! Luckily he actually only wees about 2-3 times a day so I'm not constantly clearing up accidents

P wees like a mouse so I am extremely impressed. It will be a massive warning curve for you both I would reckon. I hope he gets it fully soon and you can treat you botht to some superhero pants!

Learning. It will be a learning curve. Not a warning curve

Running water while they are sat on loo can help the "let-go". I found it helpful to pop them on the loo//potty every 15 mins and 2 mins after a drink too. (I say them as a long time ago I trained a kid I was au pair for).

it was a big sign he was ready, switching to fewer big wees. Will try running the tap too - i insist on hand washing sign that might be triggering him!

I'll keep an eye on the sale and try and treat him to superhero pants un the next size up

It also helps, if you can, to have a few days inside with v few or no outings. Less stressful for both of you and means you can concentrate completely on the cues. With DD1 last year we didn't leave the house and garden for a week. It was warm weather. It was much harder with the au pair kid as she had three older siblings to get to school/activities, and was going to nursery herself too. (Yes, I was an au pair in a family with four kids - and yes, I hated it :o )

outings atm are limited to a few places he knows where the look is plus my parents garden as i don't have one

he's like a puppy needs walking twice a day or he gets naughty

We did that Pidj, what PR is suggesting, and stayed in and v close to home for a week. DD was slightly older but it was really helpful. Other things we did was to have a potty upstairs and downstairs (no running for it if needed), no clothes either for the first few days, loads of her favourite drinks fruit shoots all day so she permanently needed to wee, chocolate button for anything in the potty. We only went to v local park and took the potty with us. I also found that suggesting a wee or suggesting trying for a wee was good and still do quite often. Poos took longer to master but those few days of being at home really helped to get the basics established.

I was against using potties originally but the paed suggested that some children get worried by the height and the empty space below them and their feet, which blocks them, so could be worth trying a potty if loo not working out. DD1 still switches between potty and loo depending on her mood.

I'm doing all that apart from the chocolate button which is in reserve! luckily i live in town so everything is local

oh and am using loo because the potty didn't work out although its still cluttering up my lounge...

DD2 loves nothing more than doing a huge turd in Grandma's potty. She has not used a potty at home for a year.

35 degrees predicted tomorrow. It's a bank holiday but there is a shopping centre open do we are going to go there and hope the air con is working.

We went to a farm open day too. Tractor ride was the highlight. "Jonas would you like to sit in the tractor?" "oh yes yes yes peeeeeaaase" Chickens were his favourite animals.

Sounds like he's really getting there Pidj. And if he doesn't get it this time don't stress - he's still a gifted wee chap. Give it a week or two and see where you are - more accidents in the wrong place at the end of that fortnight than in the right place would suggest to me he's close but not quite there. My sister has just postponed training her DD as while she was dry every night (for the last two months without fail) and could say when she was about to wee / poo she didn't quite have the sphincter control to hold onto it until the potty or nearest loo is found or the car is pulled over. If you are having to react instantly - that would be a problem in the real world - they need to learn to hold it a minute or two rather than training you to move at light speed

Pass the ghost comments are funny. My pal has a DD a day older than J and she is super gifted in terms of language (she's already starting to recognise letters and numbers!!!!!) - they moved to a new house last month and since then the wee girl has been describing a "man with hair" (her Dad's bald) "in corner" "hiya mister" "cross man - look!" in the corner of her room. My pal is convinced its a ghost and wants to move!

Learning to hold on for a minute or two is part of the training process though surely yw . When they are wearing a nappy they don't need to hold it in so don't. It's only once they start needing to hold it in that they do iyswim. The first week or so you kind of have to be ready all the time, but once they get it the sphincter control comes with practice.

Yes absolutely - that's why you can't judge it until after trying for a few weeks - but they also have to have the comprehension / sufficient language to understand "not yet! hold it! wait for the loo!" My sister is going to retry once her DS' nursery finishes for the summer as at the mo her DD can't be housebound as they have nursery pick ups etc. She's sorted for wees but more poos are ending up in knickers than the loo.

With R it's letting go that he hasn't mastered yet. He tells me he needs a wee - to the point of trying to take me to the public lavatory last week and I think it was because he recognised the sign as I'd made no indication towards it and hadn't spotted it was so close - then sits for 5 minutes (5 little ducks, 5 speckled frogs and all 10 in the bed this evening) but then does his thing a few minutes later. We have the Dr again a week on Tuesday for a check up. If he hasn't at least got some of the hang of it by then I'll be putting him back in nappies and going the medical route if that's what she says needs to happen. But it's looking looooooooads better already, and last night he was a nightmare for 2 hours, once i changed him out of a well-boosted nappy into a loose fitting one (and cooled his room off) he settled fine. So I'm not sure going back to nappies would be a welcome step from him.

Everywhere we go is within about half a mile of the house. I can run that with him in the sling if i absobloodylutely have to

Ha - you are hardcore carrying a nappy-less potty training toddler on your back! Don't forget a change of clothes for you.

I think learning letting go is also a part of sphincter control - they need to learn to open it and close it at the right time.

What do you mean by medical route? Has she suggested something to you?