November 2012 - Roll on summer, we want paddling pools!

[StuntNun]

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Ditsy, I'm impressed he has the patience to wait!

Zamboni, I can send you a picture of my abs as motivation if you like

Oh and Stunt, I would be livid. Pidj's idea is a good one - it might help them to see the reality of the consequences.

It's a bank holiday here tomorrow My guests arrive for the long weekend in time for lunch. Friday girls at nursery and DH at work. Have popped tourism brochures next to guest bed in the hope that they'll sod off for the day and let me cook.

Thanks for the offer but not really PP, I generally favour the approach of total denial and faith in my own robust constitution . I am very aware of all of it though and that was a very major factor in deciding to really implement the new regime. It started off better than I could have contemplated at the outset but I allowed a wedding and a birthday to de-rail me. I'm particularly good at sabotaging my own efforts. Part of the problem is I find that for me, being healthy and making good choices requires planning and organisation to avoid situations where I make the quick, easy and bad choices - made partly because that's then the only option. I am so bloody busy I haven't had any time to do the organisation < massive excuse, but still>. Work is as mental as ever and the demands of that mean I often have no time to plan, shop and prepare good food as well as exercise opportunities being limited given DH works FT hours around mine. And so it's the same for him. And reading that back is a massive bloody cop out I know, but I really really struggle with time to plan.

I think that might be counter productive Chasing as I am almost certain I don't actually possess abs.

pr who are your guests? I would imagine that they want to get out and about exploring. I would!

stunt I am amazed how many packaged foods contain milk. Perhaps they were just being very naive. That said they know all about J's intolerances and should therefore check and double check every ingredient listing. I'm so sorry and I hope the following nights aren't as bad as you fear.

I have a friend coming for a play date tomorrow. I really need to hoover but just can't be arsed. I need to finish off making dinner too. Feeling very slovenly this evening.

It's not a cop out zamboni and I agree, everyone knows the health risks so threats of various ailments (ditto for fags/booze/ heroin/ insert ishoo here) won't do a thing.

I would suggest writing out your objectives, listing them, and breaking them into achievable baby steps. And menu planning. Batch cooking and buying in healthy snacks.

You could also place your major goal of getting fit and eating better in a list of your other goals. And seeing where it fits. How much of a priority it is to you. Listing or maybe a mind map. If it's down at number ten then this is not the time, or maybe you need to work on shifting it up the list.

Zamboni, I would do whatever PR says. As is an excellent life coach and loves a list

eliza they are dh's bff ( who I have met a few times) and his gf (that neither of us have met). He is diabetic and she is on a diet. Which is a challenge for my butter loving cooking. But dealing with. soph's risotto recipe is a great start.

Still at my parents, my dad had an op yesterday and we are on nurse duty with O. He is doing better than expected and is walking about already (it was leg op). Which means I managed to get out for a 5k run and spent time with my godchildren. Yey.

stunt I'd be livid. It's total disrespect. Hugs
zamboni I get you. I hate chasing for owning abs .

chasing

I also hate chasing for owning abs. Mine are sliced and diced and herniaed and I need to get my arse to physio.

Zamboni that's why I asked first. You're not stupid, you know all this shit, and sometimes one just needs a day of cake. FWIW when I was trying to shift the AD weight I allowed myself to eat whatever I wanted but only on a Thursday evening at work. So, I could stuff myself silly with crisps and chocolate for 3 hours a week but had to be sensible the rest of the time. The other thing that works is that if I want a treat, I have to walk to the shop to buy it. Nothing in the house to snack on, if I'm that desperate I'll make do with bread and jam. It works for me, and is much easier to maintain that flat out denial I'm not a fucking martyr :)

you're a saint!

PR I do a mean fish pie which also happens to be piss easy and mega quick. Will post recipe if asked.

I have abs, They're hidden under a thick layer of frosting...

Talking of abs, my abdomen is like a rock a heavily cushioned rock.

I hate Lily for being able to run faster than me

Thanks pidj. Please post recipe but I have menu planned and shopped this morning. Even googled decent, drinkable wines on offer in my supermarket :) and stocked up based on their ratings.

Evening guys,

I'll consider myself well and truly fish slapped you lovely lot. I just don't always feel like i'm doing so great, you know? Some days I don't know my arse from my elbow and I am usually beating myself up about something! Thankyou all though for reminding me that i'm not half bad though and certainly not as bad as I make out to myself!

Today has been one of lifes ball ache days. I am fucking glad of sweary bastarding cunty wednesday. My lovely beautiful new cooker turned up this morning, dp took the delivery, he had gotten in from work at 6am but I had to go and watch my DN and DSIS at mums with E in tow because mum had work. I opened the cooker at 2pm when I got back (dp took delivery at 9am so was still in bed at 2pm) and the front of it was all bashed in! I could've cried!! Had a struggle getting them to arrange a delivery date for a new one and a collection for this one that wasn't mid June!!! Fucking wanknuts. New new cooker is here Monday, now.

I have a dream quite regularly where i'm sat in a car in the passenger seat and next to me is a big bulky bearded man (dp with age added) and then in the back three strapping boys, one about 9, but very big, one about 6 or 7 and one about 3 or 4. I've had the same dream many many times over and so i'm convinced this is what is in store for me and I don't mind one bit! I am happy with whatever I am given, as long as he/she is healthy

pikz I am glad you're enjoying your dryer, I do miss my mums terribly!

Hugs to those of you doing bastarding revision, I don't envy you one bit!

chasing that's so cute!

oh stunt that's awful! Poor J! When are people going to start taking his issues seriously?! I am so mad for you, what a set of twats if I may say so. They are aware of J's problems aren't they? Why can the school not sort things for DS2? Hope you find the cat soon, how long has he been missing?

zamboni I too am off the wagon, and keep kicking myself for it. Just not sure how to get back on again

hope you have a good time with your guests visiting pr :)

have a nice playdate tomorrow eliza :) I am at my mums again for the morning with DN and Dsis and E. Should just be until lunchtime afaik

glad your dad is doing well lily that's great :)

am up for hating chasing (and stunt!!!) for ab-ownership :P I've signed myself up for some abs challenge for June on facebook. I have to do SOMETHING before I need to buy bigger jeans rather than smaller ones!

I'll nab your fish pie recipe if you don't mind pp I know how to 'cook' vague and basic things so i'm always on the lookout for nice new stuff to try out :)

kyz you are the queen of sweary. That dream sounds awesome. :)

Okay I lied I don't actually have abs.

Evening lady peeps.

No abs here. Just a tummy which wines and makes p laugh and try to wibble hers

Why is p taking 2 hours to fall asleep every night? It is so weird. She is pooped and goes to bed happily but it takes her a wee age to actually fall asleep. Typically she is quite happy but it is taking its toll during the day .

Oh and I did manage a wee last night with no slithering required. I pulled her door shut ninja style which made her cry for 30 seconds then she seemed to fall straight asleep.

kyz your dream sounds lovely.

I would be really cross stunt. I just don't accept that these things are that complicated when food is well labelled. I know people get confused between an intolerance and allergy but to be totally frank it makes no difference - if parents say not to feed X then don't bloody well do it. I am for you and for J

Enjoy the rosé pp. Well deserved.

My tummy does not wine. It wibbles. It might wibble because of wine

Stunt I'd be so angry too, and wont crisps contain loads of salt as well as the dairy. Hope it's not too bad for J tonight.

I have a day off tomo. I'm very excited. Taking H to nursery and then have the day to myself. Yay!!

Pass H is exactly the same. He'd chat to himself a little and then lie there a while and then eventually drop off.

I am so gutted about the accidental dairy exposure. They were only taking him out for a walk while I was at the school, if I had thought they were going to feed him then I would have emphasised how important it is to read every label. And milk was in bold in the ingredients. I'm more annoyed with how FIL just dismissed it as if it was of no importance. J's eczema had cleared up, his sleep has been so much better, his temperament during the day has been marvellous and I was thinking I might finally get to try cloth nappies with his diarrhoea resolving. I know it's only going to set him back for a couple of days but the idea of him having yet more pain is heartbreaking. Hopefully it won't be too bad for him tonight.

Vair interesting dream Kyz. The issue bullshit with the school is that they are only allowed to refer one child per 100 children in the school for special needs assessment. We were told that DS2 wasn't a priority for assessment so he would not be able to be assessed until year 6 (he's currently year 2) and not then if another child was deemed a higher priority. So we paid for a private assessment (£575 which we have had to borrow) which came back with a diagnosis of Specific Learning Difficulties due to developmental dyslexia with possible fine motor skills issues and possible ADHD. The school have said this helps his case but they still won't be able to refer him to their educational psychologist until year 4, i.e. in September 2015, and only if there isn't anyone else higher priority. So they can't access any SN support such as the one-to-one reading work that he needs, despite the fact that he has been diagnosed with dyslexia. It really is appalling. The school are keeping him back a year and seem to be hoping by the end of year 3 he'll have magically caught up even though most of the rest of the class will be doing more advanced work for a year. He's the oldest child in his year as he was born on the first day after the cut off so at age 8 he will be going into a class with a load of 6 year olds. It's such a crock of shit, I feel like his education will be completely ruined by all this. DH wants to transfer him to a primary school a couple of miles away. I have said that I don't want to drive to this other school twice a day for the next ten years (since J would probably end up there as well). Poor DS2 is a bright lad, and he's really motivated to learn and compliant my nature. He's hampered by this learning difficulty but he would have no trouble overcoming it if he could get the support he so desperately needs.

Stunt that is complete and utter bollocks. And contravenes the Disability Discrimination Act to boot. Get onto SOS SEN and IPSEA and possibly the NAS too, they cannot do that.

Sounds like my parcel will be well timed though :o

Piss-easy Fish Pie:

Put 1" milk in a medium sized heavy-based saucepan and add seasoning ( i do a shake of mixed herbs and a dash of black pepper, skip the salt) and add a pack of Fish Pie Mix - Sainsburys frozen is ok, Morrisons fresh is lovely. Bring to the boil and simmer until fish is falling apart a bit, maybe 5-7 minutes?

Drain off most of the milk. Stir in half a pack of ready grated cheese. You can also add some frozen spinach, or peas, or whatever you like. T

Make mash. Frozen works well, as does packet. Anyway, you'll need to transfer your cheesy mixture to an oven-proof dish and you need enough mash to cover the top. Pop some more of the ready-grated cheese on top of the mash layer and oven for 25-30 minutes at 180ish.