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December 2011 - the one where we do the Twist and Shout

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ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 11/05/2014 22:27

New thread.

these babies are nearly two and a half

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mopsytop · 11/07/2014 21:33

Anyone remember Buckfast? Could never bring myself to drink it (I stuck to cheapest of the cheap white wine mixed with lemonade to make it palatable ... classy) but it was the favoured pre-night out tipple of many of my contemporaries. Evil stuff. Not much booze was cheap in the 90s in Ireland. They have much higher tax on booze there.

I am sitting by Minimopsy's bed at home. Had to wake her up Sad. to give antibiotic and she took it brilliantly but insisted I stay beside her afterwards. Fair enough I think. I've been stuck to her like glue for the past week after all.

pluCaChange · 11/07/2014 22:23

Timed medicinal wakings are horrid. It feels so inhuman to not just let them sleep! Is it 4-hourly or 6-hourly? Hope you all get some stretches of sleep!

AnAirOfHope82 · 11/07/2014 22:45

After any illness or jabs Dh normally has a sleeping bag on the floor next to dc bed to watch them and give meds. He does the nights and I do the day. Dd still will not go to dh after hurting herself but she is better now at letting him read to her and even gives him hugs and kisses now.

We had ds school reoprt today 13/17 expected and 4 emerging in personal social and emotional development and numbers Sad

One more week then both dc are off for 6 weeks eek

Aethelfleda · 12/07/2014 10:42

I'm really sorry air, I didn't understand any of the school report bit! But did notice the sadface: is it not a good one?
Hope you're OK...

Ooh, the sun's out! Shall I ignore the pile of housework and sit outside with a cuppa? Shall I?....

AnAirOfHope82 · 12/07/2014 13:44

The report said my ds is emerging so not meeting national standards for self confidance, maganering his feeling and behaviour and not very good at making friends. He has tantums if other children dont do as he asks them or if something doesnt work right stright away. He roars of the other children when he is angry. He is not confidant enough to ask the teacher for what he needs.

Also marked down for putting numbers back to front and not in the right order as he is dyslexic. He has worked really hard this year with maths and is fab at shapes, space and measurments and simply sums but puts the numbers the wrong way round.

Im please with his effort and he has worked hard this year and im pleased with the report but upset that its his personality they have marked him down on.

Im the grand scheme of things the report is not that important.

Aethelfleda · 12/07/2014 17:41

Ah, so "emerging" is code for "not doing this bit yet"? That makes more sense (though the technical nomenclature seems a bit unnecessary). Well done for Air for trying hard though, he's obviously doing his best.

Hope you're all getting out and about (and hope the caravan and moving is going Ok oi. Good luck with The Talk to the GPs...) we went to the town "local carnival" today, very hot but good fun with lots of "splatting the rat", tombolas and smash-der-crockery type stalls. Now have a cranky nap-dodging toddler... And nearly D-day for DH, off to the airport tomorrow morning!....

pluCaChange · 13/07/2014 09:10

Yes, we had "emerging" for some of DS's things last year (reception), AnAirofHope. That report made me sad, too, as it seemed to be mainly about "how likeable your child is", and that's terrible.

HOWEVER, there's better to come. We've just had the Year 1 report, and it's much more focused on subject areas, where effort really makes a difference. Most of these are probably unaffected by dyslexia because they are about understanding, not writing, recording and reading.

The curriculum has really got richer, with a lot of different ways in which children are being encouraged to understand the world, many of them independent of "text". This could really ease A's frustrations and engage his interest. So, there's:

  • Literacy (Speaking, Listening, Reading and Writing)
  • Numeracy which you say A is good at (what you described was actual mathematical awareness, with his dyslexic number writing being a separate issue which they ought not to have confused with numeracy)
  • Science (investigating things, understanding the world, basic awarenesses about sources of light, and being aware that plants need light and water to grow)
  • ICT (using computers for clip art, making simple charts, etc.)
  • Art
  • Design and Technology (although this involves making things, dyspraxia may not make this a total loss for A, because planning is also acknowledged as a very important part of D&T, so if he can plan, he will get credit for the intellectual input)
  • Geography (trips to local shops, using basic maps, awareness of the world and world geography, ideas about "what it's like in other countries")
  • History (again, not textual: at this age, it seems to be a bit more about putting things in a timeline, awareness of different historical periods, handling "artefacts" - maybe classic or vintage clothes/toys.)
  • Music (patterns, changing sounds)
  • P.E.
  • R.E. - understanding that stories can provide morals, or show people how to treat others (presumably, in time, this will move on to "dilemma" stories, which they will be asked to discuss and "solve" - quite interesting!)

When I read through the Year 1 report, it made me realise how thin and unsatisfactory the Reception curriculum really is! Mind you, some people believe that children shouldn't be taught much in Reception, just be "got ready" to be taught. For some children, that's going to be a frustrating and boring experience, and actually starting a curriculum in Year 1 will provide a good distraction, and finally provide satisfaction!

Over the summer, if you want to try some of the skills, to give A confidence, look at the KS1 section of BBC Bitesize. All the instructions are voiced and written, so basic reading is helped along. Also maybe turn on the subtitles when A is watching things on CBeebies: even the sounds ("DOOR SHUTS") are written out, so if the speech is too fast to read, there's some reinforcement with simple words.

Don't worry. Reception reports go out of date very fast, and there will be a very different report next year!

pluCaChange · 13/07/2014 09:12

Hope MrAethel has a good journey, and the rest of you have a good time together. Smile

Figster · 13/07/2014 09:18

Morning all hope the weather where u are as glorious as here it really is lovely!! Bit too muggy this morning though!!

Went to see rock of ages last night it was good but the film better cane back to friends house straight after with a subway and a bottle of wine story watch the movie Grin

Dh called me to say ds was hysterical without me he cried from 5 until he passed out at 8.30 apparently feel as going to head home in a minute

pluCaChange · 13/07/2014 09:50

Sounds like a fun evening, Figster. I especially liked the comparative work on the show/film! What a pity DH and DS didn't agree... though I thought you had left DS before? Or is it just how unsettled he is at the moment, with the wakings and pee-marinading?

AnAirOfHope82 · 13/07/2014 11:21

Thanks Plu thats good to know about year one and you are right the report looks like he cant make friends and its his personality which just isnt true. Im going to see his teacher about it on Tuesday.

Glad you had a goodtime figster Grin

Figster · 13/07/2014 14:58

Yeah Plu not sure what's going on with him he was utterly traumatised by my being out apparently dh called me and asked me to talk to him in hope would calm him down but it didn't and then just alerted me to the problem. Think part of the problem might have been that was out Friday night too and he'd had a sleep over at a friends with her 5yo so was unsettled.

Just had a nappy malfunction in the supermarket don't know what happened but he was suddenly weeing all down his legs stood in a puddle. Took him to get changed in their loos but shorts sodden so then carried him round with basket and bag as no spares and didn't want him running round in his nappy.

Big curry for tea tonight nom nom.

pluCaChange · 13/07/2014 15:50

Definitely Terrible Twos, then, and there's little a parent has done to prompt it, and not much a parent can do to stop it except place boundaries, boundaries, boundaries (which might do nothing except contain matters and make sure no-one gets hurt till the Twonager grows up! Sorry that's depressing, but does it help to let go of some guilt? On the plus side, "growing up" happens so fast, and so unexoectedly, that you can still be in despair the very week/fortnight before it happens.

OiMissus · 13/07/2014 21:42

Loved the light fittings Plu, especially the Dante chandelier. Gorgeous! (I may also copy you with that.)
Well, the weekend at the caravan was fab. It was a big Rescue Day with all the emergency services thoroughly represented. All kinds of vehicles, loads of displays, etc. helicopters, parachutist a dropping into the lake to be rescued, ... Pretty spectacular.
Until Saturday night when after our meal out, and the Boi in bed, I told dad. He didn't react well and stormed off to bed.
This morning,he was avoiding us, so I went to him,... He pointed at me and said horrid things about how I should put my family first and not my job, how can I look after Boi and DH when I'm swanning off to Denmark? Etc etc etc. (ignorant idiot!!! I'm still angry with his Victorian principles now! Grrrr!!)
So we came home directly.
The Boi and I went to DH's new house this afternoon. We took food around and lots of books we'd been given. Also, to go with his new racing car bed and Cars rug and bedding, we picked up a great all- in-one Cars pyjama suit from Tesco.
It was really upsetting seeing DH.
His flat is lovely, if a little empty. We had a lovely evening, playing with Boi. Boi seemed to be oblivious to what it means. (Great!)
It was really hard leaving DH behind. Sniff!! Sad I really had to fight back the tears.
When we parked outside the house, Boi asked, "Where's daddy?" Sad
But he accepted my answer easily, and hasn't asked since.
Poor daddy. SadSadSad
This is awful. So so awful.
It'll get better.
I need to make myself busy and not sit here sobbing. Sad

fixyourgardengate · 13/07/2014 22:13

Wine oi

& Cake

A self indulgent sniffle is allowed. It is a hard thing you are doing. Let yourself wallow. Then pick yourself up, brush yourself down and get on with that "to do" list Wink

But you are all doing brilliantly.

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 13/07/2014 22:23

Oi keep your chin up, it's hard but you know it's for the best. Boi will be OK, STBexMrOi will be OK and YOU WILL BE OK. Promise. You still coming on Thursday? Big glass of wine will make it better (ish).

I'm currently baking a cake. A gin and tonic cake. Icing is made of gin, basically. I feel a bit pissed.

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pluCaChange · 13/07/2014 22:29

People will dwell on the heartache following a breakup, especially if they weren't aware if heartache before! Mind you, you mentioned your mother going through a 20-year phase of not loving him, apparently without causing him the heartache of saying so, so his might not be the most unbiased reaction!

It doesn't sound as though DH is laying the extra heartache on you, though...

OiMissus · 13/07/2014 22:31

Yes, I 'll be there on Thursday.
And Boi will be at his dad's.
And I will be drinking.
I'm not sure I'm going to like being in this house on my own! I'll have to get a cat.
Shock

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit · 13/07/2014 22:59

Do you want mine? he's a fucking bastard

Oi, you know you've done the right thing. You can't spend the rest of your life married to someone you don't love/want to be married too.

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pluCaChange · 14/07/2014 07:52

Don't get a cat! Imagine the "babysitting" issues when you're travelling for work especially if it's a bastard Shock

OiMissus · 14/07/2014 08:25

I won't. Don't worry.
I'd love a dog. I'm a dog person. Not cats. But I know I don't have time for pets.
After last night's lack of sleep in this big house though, I'd really like a really big dog!
I'll get used to it. Smile

pluCaChange · 14/07/2014 09:21

Maybe your burglar alarm could have a deep bark instead of that high-pitched tweeting? yuck, who wants a bird?!

Figster · 14/07/2014 09:43

What about an attack skunk?? I have one going spare shits in his bed 2-3 times a day partially blind .........

OiMissus · 14/07/2014 10:11

Sounds perfect, Figgy!!

OiMissus · 14/07/2014 10:12

I've always wanted a guard goose.
They are well-scary. No ones going to take on a goose!