January 2014 - hoping for more sleep

[beccajoh]

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/1952352-Jan-2014-And-lo-there-appeared-a-star-Our-babies-start-arriving

What's the deal with threads being closed? Is there a post limit?

I am soooooo tired today. Archie has been really unsettled the last few nights from about 4am onwards. Sometimes he's hungry, sometimes he wants to play, sometimes he wants his dummy. The last two nights he's ended up in with us as it's easier to replug the dummy, pat etc.
YAWN.

[Angelesque]

Nature bleugh! Hope she feels better soon, poor little thing.

[MerryPops]

Ditto here nature v sicky baby so cuddles on the sofa.

Dh decides to tell me last night, in a nice way of course, that he thinks we should be having more duvet time. I feel I have been very accommodating on that front for saying we have a 10 week old! I know it's not easy for men when their partners become mums and are not solely focused on them anymore but jeez, give me a break!

Hope everyone has sunshine where they are.

[FelixFelix]

Ooh enormouse thank you for the offer but I have literally just bought that same book after i saw her mentioned before but thank you anyway!

Only just checked my emails and realised about the password thing. I've spent all of yesterday trying to log in and getting really frustrated that I'd forgotten my password

Humpty we are teething here too. It's awful! Sylvie is usually a really happy baby and doesn't cry much but she's been crying to the point of no return and it's horrible went to asda pharmacy yesterday and bought some Nelson's granules and some anbusol (I think it's called?) but then went round the shop afterwards and left the pharmacy stuff we had paid for in the basket! DP went back but it had gone, so he went to another pharmacy on the way home and bought Ashton & Parsons powder and more anbusol as they didn't have Nelson's. It seemed to work this morning. We also got some of those gum shaped hard dummy things for her to chew on but she's not a fan...

[FelixFelix]

Nature hope she's better soon!

[enormouse]

nature, merry hope the poor wee ones feel better soon.

merry dp keeps hinting at more duvet time too. But he's ok to wait too. As I've explained (several times) it's not the thought of doing it with him, it's the thought of strenuous activity of any kind.

felix I found the book really good, it's common sense mostly but I found it really reassuring with DS1. I had stressed myself out trying to get him to follow guidelines and eat the right amount of puree, at the right times. The rapley book convinced me it was ok to take a step back from it and allow ds to become comfortable with food in his own time.

Have come back from Dps parents. We were there for lunch and DMil advised me to use baby oil on Cals cradle cap, which I've done just now. I'm a little worried I'm taking his hair out with it as there's quite a bit on the brush. Am I going to make him bald?

[beccajoh]

Err we haven't had ANY duvet time since DS was born . Not of the adult variety anyway. Plenty of early nights but I go to sleep!

[beccajoh]

enourmous it's just old hair that hasn't fallen out that's all. You can use olive oil if you don't want to use baby oil...

[AMillionNameChangesLater]

enormouse i was told to use rapeseed oil instead of olive oil, apparently it's better for their skin or something. Interestingly Crisp and Dry is rapeseed oil.

i use detinox cradle cap shampoo and a tiny toothbrush which works it into the skin and lifts off the cradle cap at the same time. Henry seems to like it.

[HumptyDumptyBumpty]

fly dentinox stuff is ace, thanks for tip!

enormouse will try that! as she doesn't care for gel filled teethers. Fussy girl.

nature poor baby, hope she feels better soon. And North London fist bump!

Merry my DH suggests the same. We have had three duvet times in 12 weeks. Now I have my period back, so he has no leg to stand on (not a fan of period shags). If we get a chilled sat night, fine, but otherwise we need sleep more!

[MrsGSR]

Argh! Last two nights Leah has slept for 3 hours, woke for one and then slept for 2. So she can definitely sleep for more than half an hour at a time! Yet tonight, despite doing everything the same, she has so far woken every half an hour. It's like she lulls me into a false sense of security, then just as I dare to hope I might get some sleep she tortures me by staying up all night. And why did her two good nights have to be on a weekend when DH could help?! Can't she chose to sleep now, whilst I have a headache and a bad cold and could really do with some sleep? Trying so hard not to cry!

[MrsGSR]

Twice in her life she has slept for 5 hours, I was so supprised I kept checking she was breathing. We're now on 20 minute sleeps. I'm feeling quite sorry for myself!

[Pidgy]

mrsG you poor love. I know exactly how you feel as we had the same for a while. I can't offer any advise that hasn't been banded about on here before but wanted to say it will get better.

Hope all the ill babies get better soon.

We had a lovely weekend with DHs family staying. Nice to have a houseful but it is tiring at the same time. DS loves having his cousins here though so he is pretty much entertained. Lara had lots of fuss too.

It's nearly the long weekend too! Where is this year going to?!

[MistletoeBUTNOwine]

Hi all, I lost you at the 'lo!' Thread but keen to rejoin
DS is 3 months (13 weeks?) born on 10 jan.
Will have a quick catch up now

[HumptyDumptyBumpty]

MrsG you poor love. When she's awake, does she need you (feeds, cuddles)? If not, if she won't scream, I'd leave her and sleep. Hugs.

pidgy sounds lovely! I wish I had more cousins. A will likely have v few as my DSis is a bit of a flake, and DH's DB is weird not currently ever in a relationship.

[Naturegirl82]

mrsg sorry you are having such a hard time. I think it's understandable you are feeling like having a cry.

I had a breakdown at/to dh last night. I'm struggling big time with bf at the moment. The actual feeding itself is fine, but the fact that I can't leave her is starting to get me down. I think it's just because I am still ill (and keep getting worse rather than better) and just want to sleep. Dh had her on Saturday and let me nap just bringing her to me when she wanted feeding which helped but yesterday he was out all day and then couldn't settle her in the evening so I had to take over. I just feel so worn out. I'm hoping it's just because I'm ill as I really want to ebf to 6 months and I don't want to express because I'm worried about messing up my supply. Sorry for the moan.

[AMillionNameChangesLater]

mrsG and nature you're doing great. You really are. One day mrsg you will get some real sleep. Until then, be kind to yourself, have you tried co-sleeping? I can't remember if you said you had.

nature it cant be fun to never really get time off. You're halfway (ish) to 6 months.

mistletoe welcome back!

ds1 has spent 30 mins fake crying, no idea why and he doesn't seem to know. That's frustrating. Henry has a cold, his sheets were covered in snot, which wasn't nice. The house looks like a bombsite, and we've ran out of clean clothes for Henry so i have to do laundry. Hopefully the weather will hold and i can dry it on the line.

I'm going out tonight, just to a friend's house. We're going to have some home-made soup (I'm bringing the bread) and some wine/shloer. I live a rock n roll life

[TarkaTheOtter]

nature I hope your dp was working yesterday not leaving his ill partner at home with the baby whilst he was out socialising!
Alex has a cold too. It's rubbish.

DH left our pushchair in lidl car park on Saturday and didn't realise til Sunday. Unfortunately no one stole it because it's about a million years old but they did take the raincover, footmuff and bag clips. I was secretly hoping it had been taken and was already browsing ebay for a 'new' one . Would have been a bit off a pain given we're off on holiday on Monday though.

Alex seems so much more awake and alert now. He is also requiring a bit more entertaining to keep happy.

million tonight's plan sounds lovely! I need to start having friends over during the week whilst dp is away for soup night!

[MrsGSR]

nature have you tied ringing one of the breastfeeding helplines to ask about expressing? I managed to express about 6 feeds over a fortnight or so before she started refusing bottles, didn't seem to affect my supply at all.

million I love shloer! I've tried co sleeping some mornings after DH left for work, she feeds for a few minutes them pulls away from the boob, and then cries as she's not getting fed! So I don't really get any extra sleep.

DH took her from 5-7 so I've had about 3 hours broken sleep. Popped get in bed with me when he brought her back up and she lay there laughing! She's only just started laughing and it's very cute!

[MrsVDB]

mrsg that sounds so tough. I always put h in bed with me in the morning, he chats for a bit then we usually get another nap. At least you can relax in bed even if not sleeping

[BookTart]

Poor you mrsg you have my utmost sympathy. Percy is currently waking hourly at night and only Feeds to sleep, so I know how desperate you must feel at the moment. I hope things improve for you soon

To cap it all I've just had the HV round again, this time bollocking me because I need to sleep train the baby and she wants it done before her visit next month as my tiredness is putting her in danger. She clearly thinks I'm enjoying never sleeping for more than two hours at a stretch, and the fact that I borrowed every book from the library that has "sleep" I the title just doesn't show enough willing apparently. To say I've had enough of her shit would be an understatement. At least she's given up with the weight thing for now though.

How have all the second round of jabs been going for everyone? Is it much the same as the first?

[TarkaTheOtter]

book your hv sounds dreadful! Can you just stop seeing her?

[TobyLerone]

book, I think you need to stop seeing that hv. I really do. Do you feel like you still need to be seeing one at all? If so, you can ask to see a different one. If not, just cancel the appointment and don't make another one.

[Angelesque]

Book your HV sounds like a total arsehole. She's adding zero value and is causing you unnecessary stress - I second Tarka and Toby, sack her off. You're doing an amazing job and she needs to foxtrot oscar.

[FelixFelix]

Yes tell her to do one! What an arsehole.

[beccajoh]

Big hugs Mrs G.

Nature, expressing the odd bottle won't mess up your supply. If you've been EBF for three months then it's well established. Hugs - I remember all the exhaustion from when I was BF dd.

Book FFS sleep training such a small baby? Did she say how exactly?