January 2014 - hoping for more sleep

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I am soooooo tired today. Archie has been really unsettled the last few nights from about 4am onwards. Sometimes he's hungry, sometimes he wants to play, sometimes he wants his dummy. The last two nights he's ended up in with us as it's easier to replug the dummy, pat etc.
YAWN.

I'm so sorry getting complete bastard. H is the only thing that matters and he will get you through it.

What a complete bastard getting, you and Henry don't need his shit.

Know we don't know each other well but just shout if you need someone close to kick him in the balls, be there when he collects things, drink wine and chat with.

So sorry getting. What a complete twat.

I'm gutted for you, getting. Just to repeat everyone else: we're here for you no matter what. You have our sympathy and support.

getting so sorry to hear that your suspicions were confirmed. He is way way beyond the usual insults of cuntpufffin twat and bastard and is in a category all his own. I agree with you that it doesn't sound like it was just the once given the cards and even if it were, how does that make it acceptable?

Like you say, you are better than this and you and H deserve better. Onwards and upwards! I am too far for cake unfortunately but can send emergency macarons or my four brothers who all play in the front row.

My news is that we have decided to go back to Egypt early, on June 1st. Lack of money, too much time on our hands and not really being able to make the most of our time here in Paris with a small baby made us rethink staying til the end of the school year. I am half excited, half terrified especially as in the last call DMIL mentioned that I "still don't know how to get the kids into a sleeping routine". I felt really cross about that because we are living in a one room flat with a chronic sleep refuser who can see and hear everything we are doing from her bed, and a four month old baby who sleeps through the night fine. On the other hand, after a year of not knowing anyone and family being so far away it will be lovely to have some help with the kids and to have a strong social network again. Not to mention actually having an income.

BIL coming round in 15 minutes and the place is predictably a complete tip with a big pile of dirty washing ready to go...I am also not dressed I don't understand why I can clean but I still can't make the place look tidy. So much stuff and as lots of it is presents DBIL has given to DD I can't even get rid of them!

MrsV/getting fuckity fuck bollocks. What a total arsing scumbag of a sub human. I am so on your behalf. Who does this? FFS. I'm amazed you're generous enough to give him his stuff back, I'd be lighting a bonfire. Cockmunch.
We must sort out wine, cake and a good slagging off chat.

book A was like that over Easter. Lasted six days then overnight improvement. Fx it's the same for you.

million congrats to your SIL!

altered awesome! I can't wait to take A to visit Egypt when she's older. More space and support will be great.

Getting what an absolute cunt. He saw her the day you came out of hospital?! Arghhhh wtf is wrong with these people. I am genuinely angry and upset for you. I hope you can get away to see some friends and have some rl support

Just been for the last set of jabs until she's 12 months now. Cried for a minute or so then fell asleep. Now she's laughing and kicking me sat in her rocking chair. It's a beautiful day here and I'm really missing having a garden/balcony like we had in the flat. There's not even a park nearby to go to!

Ooh it was a year ago on Monday that we found out! We went to Ingleton to walk round the waterfall trail and I bought a test from Wilkos on the way and couldn't wait until we got home, so I did it in the toilets at the visitors centre We packed a posh picnic and we were both freaking out too much to eat anything. Seems like a lifetime ago now.

A year ago on Monday we found out too. I took a test as felt pregnant, DH and ds1 were still asleep. Saw a faint positive, so took a pic and sent it to my mom, who agreed that i was.

i went upstairs and told dh. I was in floods of tears (not happy ones at all) he was beaming.

Getting that's awful for you and H. Keep your chin up, you guys will be ok.

I found out I was pregnant on the 4th May last year. Only reason I took a test was I was going to a theme park holiday and wanted to make sure it was ok to ride the rides, hadn't missed a period yet. So finding out was a mixture of great been trying for ages but also dammit, i freakin love rollicoasters. I think it was even more if a shock because I was only doing it for reassurance that I wasn't.

Our HV called, she isn't happy with his weight gain. Even though he's alert and meeting his milestones.

She isn't happy about the delay until we get to see the paediatrician, so she has arranged for us to meet some kinda uber hv on Tuesday morning to discuss his eating. He will be 17 weeks the next day, so I'm going to discuss trying food with Henry and see what she says. I know food has less calories than milk, but I'm hoping if he eats some food, he will try drinking too.
I'm not going to give him any before speaking with her, so don't panic, but i need to do something.

Still, it'll be fine

How much does he weigh now million? Sorry if you've already said, I'm sleep deprived!

She's sleeping at the minute, on my lap :(

He's 10lb and 0.7ozs at 16 weeks. Well, 16 weeks tomorrow. He's now dropped below the 0.4th centile. He just isn't interested in feeding. We've tried everything, honestly everything. Waking and undressing st night, waiting for him demanding food/giving him something every hour/two hours/etc, not giving him milk straight away so he cries for a bit and becomes hungrier (that one wasn't fun) quite simply, he eats when he wants to. There's no rhyme or reason, I cant say he usually has 8ozs at any particular time, it's when he feels like it. He's so bloody laid back, but really stubborn about milk. We've changed milk too, he's had all the first milks available. Seems to prefer SMA so moved onto that

Million your HV sounds great. Agree with your logic re the food. It's worth asking about!

Tonight is the first day of implementing some sort of night time routine. Usually she will sleep downstairs then we take her up to bed with us at about 11pm. She used to sleep well downstairs but now shes started getting disturbed by noise. I gave her a bath at 7 then got her to sleep by 8 upstairs in her crib with the monitor on. She woke up at 9ish for a bottle then went back to sleep. I was expecting her to keep waking up but she's been brilliant. I'm so pleased! Has anyone else started with a routine yet? Do you find it easy to stick to and have you found it works well? I'm interested to see what everyone else does.

Million it would be good if there was some sort of higher calorie formula they could prescribe for him. I wonder if that's a thing? Probably not as I'm sure he would have had it by now. It must be so frustrating as you physically can't force him to eat if he's just not interested. I hope the uber HV visit goes well.

Sorry your having such a bad time with the hv million, he looks lovely in the photo's. I wish they didn't obsess with charts.

mrsg hope you get some sleep too.

A is finally down, nearly went at 8 but woke herself up crying in pain. Poor girl was awake nearly 7 hours, don't think she's been awake that long before.

Off to try and get some sleep, have a KIT day tomorrow, not sure how I feel about it or going back to work. When does everyone else go back?

We have the basis of a routeen felix. DH gets home just before 7, so it's bath and massage about 7 then feed to sleep with A normally asleep 8 / 8:30 in her cot. She then wakes around 3 and sleeps till 6. Though sometimes wakes loads and 4 times has slept though!

We have moved the start time around a few times when needed and to try and work out what works for A.

million hope the uber hv is some help

fly I start back in September. Will be weird as a lot has all ready changed at work

felix we started with a bedtime routine last week. We change her into a nighttime nappy and pjs. Then feed and she falls asleep between 6.30 and 7.30 in moses basket downstairs. She usually stirs for a feed about 45 mins later and back into moses basket, then I bring her upstairs to crib when I come to bed. Last few nights she has slept through till 6.30!

We've had a loose routine for a while. Depending when he woke from a nap, milk is given about 5:30/6ish, he goes to bed 30 mins later with white noise on, he's asleep 30 mins later.

I go back 4 weeks today!

Our routine loosely consists of oilatum bath about 6 pm downstairs for bf, back up when sleepy about 7-7.30 and feed to sleep. Into crib then sleeps anywhere up to 6 hours, bf then back into crib. Usually wakes every 2-3 hours after that for quick bf.
Doesn't nap very well during the day
All that gone to pot last few days as Pip has been spiking temps of 38.5 night and day. GP said no obvious sign of infection but have to go back today as still spiking

Our routine is feed somewhere between 6 and 7, then bed around 7-7.30 He wakes between 3-4 on average or just before 6 on a really good day.

I go back to work part time next week! I am dreading it as little man is only 13 weeks but hubby is unemployed and just had an operation, and been on SMP for last 6 weeks so no choice really.

Good luck today mistle
merry that sounds tough, do you know days/hours yet?

million I hope the boss hv is helpful.

merry, you are one tough lady. I'm hoping to go back to studying in the next 2/3 weeks or so, so I've only taken off a term roughly.

felix I had a rough routine of 6pm - dinner, 6.45 - bath, 7.15 -fresh pyjamas/story, 7.30 DS1 bed with Cal in bed about half an hour later after a feed. But atm with everyone sick it's gone down the toilet.

I'm such a numpty, I've managed to doublebook a dentists appointment for me to have a filling put in (1.30pm) and Cals second set of jabs (2.30pm).

I had hoped to take DP with me to hold my hand as dentists make me very anxious (ive come out in a stress induced rash) but he's going to have to take Cal to his jabs and give him an expressed feed afterwards. I know DP is fantastic with the boys but I feel guilty that I should be there.

DP has suggested me having his dad there for support but northern Irish FIL is not the hand holding sort and his brand of depressing pessimism from the corner of the room would not be filling me with cheer. I've already had to hear the tales of X who removed his own teeth with string and a door and Y who died of an infection after getting some backstreet surgery done. Not to mention his many opinions on the nhs.

I guess I'm going to have to woman up and get on with it.

million I will be doing Monday-Weds 8:30 to 5. I'm hoping to work 2 days at home but my boss was a bit unsure. Longer term I am going back full time in August and I think I am going to take a role with a bit less responsibility as my job would involve a lot of travel to Bristol, I live in Hull. I hate the fact I will only see bubs for 2 hours a day during the week anyway without overnight stays for work as well.

enormouse your fil doesn't sound like the best of supports! Fingers crossed your appointment goes ok.