Morning all, home from my trip to see the girls. Had a great time. But for one thing.
Ex H kept on texting me getting me to get the girls to phone him, like three times a day it was driving me mad. Anyway there was a small incident where Dd2 wandered off. Now Dd2 does this. She has always done it she just floats around In A dream. It wasn't too major and it was ok, but as always with anything out of ordinary I called their dad to let him know because I am always up front about anything. It was ok when I spoke to him and he said he had had to speak to her last week about it. Anyway the next day he sent me a text saying he had been thinking about it and he was furious.
I just snapped. He speaks to me like shit and sends me and my dad abusive emails which I ignore and bin and have told my dad to do the same, because I want to keep the peace for the girls sake.
I phoned him and hit the roof and told him no one speaks to me in the disgusting way he does and I don't know why I let him bully and walk over me.
That is the first time ever.
Then I had to hang up because the dentist called them in.
Then later I spoke to him to say the girls were ok when I had left them and he was quite polite. And when my dad and stepmum delivered the girls back he said hello to my stepmum which he never does he blanks her because he really hates her.
The other development is that my dad has started to see what he was like in my marriage and has admitted that he must have been really controlling towards me. And he blames himself that I married him because I married him because it was what I was "meant to do" ie all the normal stuff that you do growing up in a middle class suburb school, sixth form, uni, marry a nice public school boy. It wasn't his fault, I wasn't confident enough to stay single and wait for the right person because all my friends were getting married etc.
Anyway, my dad suddenly understanding has meant a lot to me.