November 2012 - Walking or not walking, talking or not talking, any other skillz?

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/2000561-November-2012-The-exciting-all-new-all-singing-all-dancing-fred

We have quite a range of ages and they each develop at their own rates... so what can your toddler do?

Det I have a lovely charity shop pair of JoJo brown cord dungas in 12-18 if O would like them? They're a funny shape on R with wide legs and the body's getting too short because of his fat cloth bum - pm me :)

I'm having wine for dinner must go to bed, am meeting an old uni pal tomorrow - who just happens to live a few miles away now, and uses cloth and slings! Random as a random thing, neither of them are from anywhere near here :o

Oh.

I want to simultaneously scoop everyone into my slightly saggy bosom.

chasing you sound so worn down. I am sorry. I don't know if it helps you to know that I think you are an inspiration. It will get better. You deserve it to if nothing else.

evil how lovely. You sound so contended. Love a bit P&G Hoover therapy!

I love pink. I love all colours actually. I hate presumption though. And insipid. Insipid presumption.

Dental dams are brilliant for making sullen children squeal by draping one over their heads unexpectedly.

det she shinied my sink! All clean and soap scum free! A la the fly lady.

And your chat earlier ladies got me thinking. I shall not be applying from promotion soon. Not quite yet. No need for a long and boring Facebook thread so thank you all for helping me with a dilemma.

apple wow, non contact rugby at 18 months. DD1 sometimes goes to the micros session at our local rugby club but they don't start them till 4.

evil So nice to see a happy post from you.

Sorry yours isn't so happy chasing. Here's hoping for a better day tomorrow.

Sitting on Fs floor whilst she lobs stuff at me . .never in my life have I seen so much dribble. She is teething baaaad. She keeps randomly gagging in the drool

Chasing and

I've just popped out for some air and my neighbours door was still wide open. was open when i got in from work. no downstairs lights on. did i do the right thing shutting it quietly?

Hugs Chasing it'll be better tomorrow. I hate panic attacks.

We have that vacuum too Evil get the bags cheap on eBay. The seller I get them from includes scented sticks you out into the bags to make it smell luvverly when you vacuum.

Only one wake up so far so in turning in now. Night quiche.

We bought proper shoes today, he's been in Clarks cruisers up till now. He is 4.5F although the woman said that would make him 5 in Clarks (it was an independent).

We bought the brightest ones in the shop as so much boys stuff is brown and grey. They are bright red - my favourite shoe colour. In fact DH and I both have red shoes so we will look like some kind of Wizard of Oz tribute family but they were too gorgeous to resist.

Chasing I'm sorry you're feeling down. Sending and

BP hope you get some sleep soon...

PP I am really disappointed I didn't get into cloth. I have been wondering if it is too late to try again. I've tried the LL OSFAs a few times and he just seems the wrong shape for them. Maybe I need to get something closer fitting and give it a bash.

Eliza I read Wolf Hall and reckon it will be wonderful on stage. DH says BUTB even better so need to motivate myself to start it instead of re-reading Agatha Christies as they're all my poor brain can take.

Pidj thank you for the kind offer! Sadly, brown does not suit O in the slightest. As cute as I find some things, he looks washed out in them! At the minute he wears a lot of royal blue, red and navy. That is all I can find to suit him!

JJ Where did you get the shoes from? I would love red shoes for O. I was looking for ages, ended up getting him red converse type ones from Next but I'd rather properly fitted ones if I can!

The last time O was measured he was a 4.5F. He's a 5F now, measured by myself. I should take him again as he is regularly wearing shoes now. He wasn't wearing proper shoes until about 6 weeks a go or so.

So his first pair of Clarks were worn twice. And have a deep scuff from the time he wore them in the park. So I can't sell them. Grrr.

Chasing I hope you are sound asleep now, and your dreams bring you something good. :)

Evil What a useless twat. Screw him. He's the one making all the mistakes. N deserves so much better than that. So do you. :)

Today O has learned two new things. So now I am definitely feeling much happier. Despite his willful nature...! He has learned to 'turn around' and to roar like a lion (okay, it's a scream like he's seen a scary monster) to the verse of row row row the boat.

O learns through song. That is what I have learned today. Everything he knows has been through music. I love this. :) So tomorrow, we are working on noses. If you're happy and you know it, touch your nose .

Det these are Ls current shoes www.startriteshoes.com/outlet/boys/colorado-ii-red-suede but they have little red trainers etc too

Up for a drink of milk at 3, two nights in a row

Not much left thofugh as have had to scoff it all myself, after an awful night where both of us nearly drowned in drool

Ooh Pidj - are those dungas going spare? My O would look fabby in them p.s. Thank you. You know what for

chasing sorry you are feeling low. You are doing so well and although you are not looking forward to leaving O to start work, being amongst adults and making new friends will be brilliant for you. You will get to be you for a few hours a day. O is very reliant at the moment and some days it can seems as if they suck it all out of you. But you wait till he gets through toddlerhood and comes out the other end around 3, you can chat, joke, have fun together, and they do a bit of stuff without needing you to be right by them, the difficult days of earlier toddlers just disappear and you have this little best friend and someone to go and see all the new kids films with

Hang in.

DH has taken boys to nursery as, you will not believe it, I still do not have my car back. I won't even venture into that tale. Anyway I get an extra half hour added on to my day.

Oh and evil I had a Miele cat and dog once it was the best Hoover I ever had, better than the Dyson I think.

MsJ I'm leaning towards cloth nappies as well. J only has three nappies most days so the amount of washing wouldn't be so intensive. Also I've heard cloth nappies can help with potty training as it's easier for them to feel when they are wet and start to learn the associations between the sensations of weeing and of needing to go with being wet. I might end up using disposables at night then putting him in cloth after he's done a poo.

We actually had a better night here so I'll have to get some more formula milk for J. He was awake a few times but not screaming as intensely as on previous nights. I'm hoping there isn't a link with DH being away as last time he went to China J slept really well until the first night DH was back home.

Stunt I've got a bunch of LL from a friend with the thought of putting him in them when I want to potty train. My sister used cloth night nappies to get her son dry at night and it worked a treat. I think I'll stick mostly with disposables whilst I've got two in nappies....

We had a sleep thru. So 2-3 nights after a dairy challenge we get disturbed sleep with 1 or 2 wakings and a mucus / reflux cough.... then it calms. He's getting there! The cumulative effect is noticeable its slightly worse each week so he's not ready for me to challenge twice a week.

Marking place to catch up later!!!

I love cloth nappies. We use them all the time apart from night time. I reckon she would be fine overnight as well but I'm not risking. Second morning in a row of waking at 5.30, I'm tired. Not complaining though.

Had some bad news yesterday, the main thing is that I need to look for a job. I have a place in a nursery for O from August and will need to find a childminder before if I find something. I had a day of wailing but pulled myself together now and concentrating on surviving with O. I am not sure what to do about emergency childcare though, I will not be able to take time off if she is sick and my parents still work. I am budgeting actually a month worth of salary to put aside for emergency childcare, do you think it's a bad idea to advertise in the building where I live? There are mainly retired people here, would be great to find a grandma who is happy to help me out.

That's interesting about the potty training Stunt & YW. Maybe I need to find a cloth meet to look at the options.

YW that is great about the dairy challenge - definitely improving. L's CMPI was much milder but it made my day when he started tolerating dairy once he was one.

Stunt do you think things are more relaxed when DH is not there? Not suggesting that fixing sleep is as simple as being relaxed but could be a factor.

Det they are Superfit, it was an independent so I don't know where else stocks them. They were eye wateringly expensive but I figured we have got by so far on Clarks Sale cruisers... also I forgot to ask the price before I paid for them & was too embarrassed to do anything other than pay

Pikz love your red shoes too!

Det L loves to touch his nose but he sometimes gets it confused with my nose - same for teeth!

I am in my third week without a car. I have been patient. My car is ready and I can not get to it as is an hour away.

AIBU to be getting all little bit cross?

Lily the emergency childcare thing is difficult. I am in the same boat as you as i have no one who can do it if he is ill. Do you need to go back full time?

We had another sleep through until 5.40am on follow on milk/cm half half so am going to keep going with it and see if it continues to make a difference. Two sleep throughs in a row is huge progress here

Am feeling a little low today even though i have no reason too. Am worried that i wont be able to get pregnant again and its going to be as much heartache as last time. I know if it is DP will say stop and just stay as L but i can't, it is already gnawing away at me. I know its only the first month and the fact I'm back in a 28 day cycle is a really positive thing but i suppose i just felt a bit gutted to wake up today and see the first month hasn't worked. Brings back all the old worry of last time.

Must have a PMA to it all. I must and i also must see it as a positive that i can enjoy the wedding first and then worry more about this afterwards.

Pikz it took me three months of regular cycles before I ovulated and months with shit nights I didn't ovulate. Don't worry it'll happen and at least this way you'll not be at the 8-12 week knackered, farty, bloaty and queasy stage at your wedding. Give it a few more months honey it'll happen xxxxxxxx

No part time jobs here unfortunately. I wish there were some.

Getting a regular cylce is a great start. Don't dwell on past experience or what may happen try (I know is easier said than done, well actually pretty impossible) try to enjoy every day with L and only having 1! I feel like I wasted time inbetween 1&2 and 3&4 stressing and being desparate for another child. And remember as well each time is different, it maybe much easier this time.

A granny would be great. Think granny murry on me too.