November 2012 - Walking or not walking, talking or not talking, any other skillz?

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/2000561-November-2012-The-exciting-all-new-all-singing-all-dancing-fred

We have quite a range of ages and they each develop at their own rates... so what can your toddler do?

Wow am v glad am freelancing - just had an email from an old colleague who's wanting advice on freelance after our old company has just made a large swathe of folks redundant

J's room is right next to mine so DH heard him without the monitor however because I'm partially deaf I'll only hear J if I'm lying on my left side!

I have downloaded a sample of the parenting book but it sounds quite similar to the Incredible Years which we already use.

Should I read some books? I've still not read any. Parenting ones I mean .

Although I haven't read any kind of book for quite some time either.

Pass Please tell me what this means about your sink?! I would like to know. I hate my sink. DP does the dishes, and the sink is always dirty because he doesn't fucking clean it up after himself!

Good luck to all those who are trying the follow on milk method! I'm preparing for a dairy challenge shortly. I am not looking forward to it. I am going to be reading the results and taking note for if we can stop with the oat milk. I really hope this challenge doesn't fuck with the sleep. I'm petrified of the next regression. I don't know how I will handle a 2 month regression plus the shitness of intolerance sleeplessness. Last time it was 8-9 weeks before we got any resolving of the sleep. But I think that was combined with regression. And we did CCing to get out that. So we have had 2 1/2 months of sleep now.

And I am going to fuck that up, I am sure.

Kyz I too am ignoring the ironing pile.

Anyone watching OBEM tonight? I know I do it every day, but I still enjoy watching it for some reason! I forgot to mention, as of the end of this month, I'm back to LW. I'm looking forward to it!

And, apart from a hideous scar on the fanjo, the inability to jump without pissing myself, and being dubious on how long one can crouch for without again pissing myself, I am fully healed. I'm all singing, all dancing, no pain, fixed fanjo.

It just looks shit. And possibly smells like piss. I do my PF's, and do what physio said, so not sure how to fix the pissing oneself issue .

You don't need one chasing. You will hear him I reckon.

Detective you need a vanilla flavoured and scented Dental Dam

det yes! Fire extiguishers, bashing them together finding the only socket in the place without a safety cover. Turning the lock on the door left right left right. Slapping his hands on the glass trophy cases (not the best thing to have in a baby room) but hey ho. Walking right through the middle of a circle to do his own thing. Snap! Again I felt like crying at baby group because I'm the only person with mental sweaty hair and a hot red face saying sorry because I'm basically running all the time. All the other mothers sit so calmly, they never get up. Made a big decision today to quit group.

Took so long to write that that i cross posted

Good grief you lot! It's taken me bloody ages to catch up on todays rambles through toddler groups, pink lego and childhood psychology...

YW, F started nursery in August, 3 full days per week. I would say it took until perhaps December before she stopped crying at drop off. Now she tantrums when it's time to leave . J will get there. Fwiw, I would stick to your routine. He will appreciate that you have a routine, and may be more confused by the change.

No baby monitor here, she screams loud enough to wake half the street. Dh will have to sellotape the monitor to his head when I am on nights though as he will literally sleep through the house falling down around him

DH feels guilty about not seeing dsd. He has tended to want to buy stuff to make up for this. Thankfully, I have managed to convince him over the years that she has more fun just spending time with him. It is tricky with her though, as he mum is of the "do stuff, spend lots" school of thought. So we get lots of sulks, and "I'm bored" - wicked step mum that I am, I tell her to get on with her sulk in private or snap out of it. F will get the same message when she is older .

Stunt, no words to add, but wishing you good luck. F would be the same as J I suspect, the mattress on the floor really did help as a more gentle way of getting her to settle in her cot. Could you bring yourself to try something similar? Just popping in was insufficient here when she was up so often. Shall make sure there is strong for tomorrow.

Pass LOL at veiny cock. And dental dams . Can always rely on you lot to raise a smile!

I have never slept with the monitor on over night. I turn them off when I go to bed. But then the girls have always slept in rooms next to mine so I would hear when they were crying rather than whimpering. Which reminds me I haven't turned the monitor on at all since we've moved house. Don't suppose there's much point in it now!

I used to hate pink with a passion and never bought pink toys. Having said that DD1 has a pink bike, pink scooter, pink toy pram, pink bedroom . It appears I've become immune to it. She never liked pink or princesses until she went to pre school. E's favourite toys are her cars and garage (which aren't pink).

I hate pink. By pink, I mean that sickly insipid pastel pink. Hot pink, fime in small amounts. I loathed the fact that all we could get to dress F in when she was tiny, was pink. She lived in 3 colourful babygros, or white . Dsd would only wear pink at one point, whem she was 2/3. I hope F does not follow in her footsteps!

Best toy here may well be a green tractor. That's my girl I'll make a country bumpkin of her yet

I love pink. I even got married in pink. But I have only started to like it in the last ten years or so. I was very anti-pink as a child and just don't want to force it on the girls.

So, confession time. Who didn't have to google dental dams? :o

pig DD1 is obsessed with tractors. There was one parked up the road for ages and she still looks out for it and asks where it has gone months after it was moved. We see tractors all the time but she really misses that one!

Those dirty birds on FB explained what one was - I was all I would have had to Google it (though knew it was to do with oral sex)....

I have built in wardrobes between the bedrooms, so use the monitor. Also, he tends to need a nappy to settle him and if I catch that early I get straight back to sleep, if I leave him to fully wake, he takes ages. I also use it when I'm downstairs of an evening or during naps. I do tend to turn it off if it's after about 5am and I'm not sure he'll go back down - I think the ignoring works, because we're rarely up for the day before 7:30

DH tried to do the Disney Dad thing when he was off sick - not buying stuff, but taking R off on long walks to give me a break. 2 months post stroke and he'd be trying to walk to the beach over a mile away with R in the sling I had to work hard to persuade him to leave the long trips for when R was older and him fitter and just bugger off to Costa 2 minutes away! We compromised on Lidl which is under 10 minutes, and the pushchair so he could do all the shopping at the same time :o

Pink is a fantastic colour. I have no problem with children having pink toys or clothes - as long as that is their choice. The current fad for Pink Everything for girls winds me up because it removes all choice. My current favourite tee shirt for R is pink and has a picture of a Tyranosaurus Rex wearing glasses on. I tried him in white babygrows when he was tiny and they just don't suit him, nor does insipid baby blue. Luckily I amassed quite a stash of colourful stuff from nearly new sales etc. I always thought babies look better in sleep suits but actually he doesn't suit those either and always looked nicer in proper clothes, even jeans at a couple of months old despite my "views" on that

Haha Pidg O doesn't suit some things I love, so frustrating! He lives in jeans or denim dungs now. I love leggings and tops, soft dungarees etc. He'd destroy them, and they no longer suit him. :(

He didn't wear jeans until he was about 8 months, and not regularly until 10 months when he was walking a lot. I shed a few tears as he looks so grown up in them!

I like brown cords, but he just doesn't suit them. Or chino type things. Grrrr and double grrrrrr!

I've had a good day, bought new vacuum and had loads of massive positive comments from the baby group workers.
I'm feeling on a up, I am tired.

This morning ex didn't want n this morning so I've bought a new vacuum as my old one has died. It's a cylinder meile, in bright red. It's a pet hair one that has a variable suction and even a noise reducing mode. then we had sausages and chips and beans for lunch, where N ate most of it.
The after noon, was wonderful. Lots of positive comments about N, and now happy he is. He is now 9.7kg and 79cm tall. I've been to the drs to sort out his rash which is still there, and I've now got lots of creams.
The evening was takeaway pizza, and fun with a baby sized beach ball.

The weather has been amazing! and even though ex has difficulty see n, it proves to me that really can't be bothered.

Was going to do a proper post but I had a shitter of a night with M last night followed by a shitter of a day at work.
Having an early night in the hope that M sleeps and work is better tomorrow. Roll on my week off next week!

Yesterday it was One Day, tonight it's OBEM. Why do I do this to myself? Sitting here in tears, struggling to breathe because of the loneliness. It feels like somebody is sitting on my chest today. The weight of responsibility perhaps.

C goes to a play group at a local church but there's no hymns or anything involved and he can run around to his hearts content. Occasionally we take him to indoor soft play places which he loves. Nothing structured.

My mum took him to a book class at the library once and he was exactly like your O chasing. Sat still for a few minutes then got up and ran around pulling books off the shelves All the other babies sat on the rug and didn't move but I'm told they were all much older than him, around two and above.

We are starting to look into sports clubs. I have seen non contact rugby and football classes locally which we can sign C up for when he's 18 months - 2 years old. My mission for tomorrow in fact is to find a kids plastic football so DP can start teaching C to how to kick

Evil that was a lovely post.

Chasing I'm sorry you've had such a shit day. I hope a good night's sleep will help

May everyone have good nights tonight. Fingers crossed.

• how to kick. Gah! So tired.

Haven't caught up on the thread yet so apologies for everything I have missed. Will try to read it all tomorrow. The book/psychology discussion seems interesting.

Laying in bed, having a panic attack. Hopefully it fucks off soon so I can get some sleep.