November 2012 - Walking or not walking, talking or not talking, any other skillz?

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/2000561-November-2012-The-exciting-all-new-all-singing-all-dancing-fred

We have quite a range of ages and they each develop at their own rates... so what can your toddler do?

Please could I just spout out some feelings. I know if I do this in real life everyone will tnk I am being a self indulgent wimp but I think I am safe here to get these feelings out.

Actually I will do it on fb just Incase.

Soph that's what we're here for lovely xx

No need to ask Sophia xx

On the subject of breaks, I am very lucky to have my weekends 'off'. I would struggle without them. But handing O over every weekend is very difficult indeed. It seems to have resulted in separation anxiety this time round as he was crying to be in bed with me this morning - first time since 7months old. When I start work, I won't have any full days with my boy, which is horrid.

Thanks. I just needed to share my feelings a bit rather than internalise them.

Don't worry chasing remember they acre full into toddlerhood which comes with a lot of crying and whinging and making noises because they don't know how to express themselves. You will miss O when you go to work but you will soon get into a routine and have lovely afternoons together.

Negotiations failed. No me time today. I can't complain fh has to help pil

DH has his moments YW I suppose because we have been together for 18 years then I see it as a case of taking the rough with the smooth. The way his work is and the children are all having their own difficulties then there is a lot of stress on us at the moment, not to mention ill family members and financial woes. He is going to have to buck up his ideas soon though as I'm worried about the effects on the kids, he can't go on like this for ever.

Hi quiche..... I can't believe how much I've missed, 2 whole threads and lots of this one I haven't seemed to have chance to get on and catch up properly and I didn't want to just post without catching up ignores the fact that I'm doing exactly that now if I don't post now though I will feel like I've missed too much to join in again, silly I know.
Hope you are all well. S is an absolute snot bucket at the moment, but is happy enough with it, I'm not liking the trails of snot she keeps leaving on my shoulder though.
She still doesn't have any real words, she says ga for yes and a longer gaaaa for ta. Nods and shakes her head for yes and no and understands nearly everything I say, so I don't worry about the lack of words.

Anyone know who is the muppet in government who cut funding for the OU? It used to be that if you had an address in the UK that degrees were cheaper, so I was going to use it via my mum's address. Nope, in England it is now over £5k a year. England only. Appears that Wales and Scotland still give a damn about their people and subsidise the OU still..

There's taking the rough with the smooth and then there's taking the piss stunt. It's a fine line sometimes but he needs to be pulling his weight.

Busy busy day at work today. My mum did bring C to meet me for lunch though which was nice. He was so excited to see me, he was grinning from ear to ear when he spotted me coming out the door

Job for today. Between feeding rocking playing patting and maintaining sanity. Learn how to teach a baby to self sooth.

I've made his cot extra cosy today. Increased blanket bumps wither side of him. Lovely cosy blanket under him. Spotted first signs of sleep. Patted and shushed. And he is tiered. Rubbing his face. But just can't sleep.

Last night was better tho. 12, 3.30 and 5.30. Then fussing/feeding for an hour and back to sleep till 8.30.

May go get baby whisper book. Feel like I need to arm myself with more knowledge.

It's ridiculous PR, it's still subsidised in NI which meant I was able to finish my degree but the OU has been priced so high now that you would need employer backing to be able to do it. Ironically my second degree cost me less than my first degree and is all paid for whereas I still owe thousands to the Student Loan Company.

Bloody Tory arseholes making life difficult for people to get on in their lives all the while stealing from the poor and giving to the rich. Grr.

I would love to quit my job and go to uni to retrain. It's impossible though because there's no way we could afford our rent and bills on one wage. So where is the incentive for people to better themselves? Unless you are well off or have a good flexible employer it's not doable.

^^ I learned a new trick :)

I'm sorry but I have to moan, cry, whatever.

I've signed and sent the approval for me to take the 27%.
I'm so fucking, angry and sad, I was even crying this morning. This Deffo feels like the final end.
I still can't absorb that he feels it's ok to leave us like this. Even, that he does not want to have N for a day. Let alone a nite, because N room is now an office for his employee.

Does 8-9 years count for nothing????? What about N? ok so he's paying £250 a month, but nothing else? I'm sure his mum bought N Xmas present.
And the best bit, ex gets to be the Disney dad. Of course he does, all that money, and no input and no hard work put in.

So fucking great.

((((((Evil)))))) Easier said than done, but please try to concentrate on the positives. You are free from him. You can breathe. You have N.

Evil I hope karma bites him firmly on the arse one day

Hey all,

Thanks for all the suggestions, we have had a poonami of epic proportions this morning with not too much in the way of effort or straining, drs appt booked and we'll see how we go. bplp he does drink a fair bit of fluid, but i've got some dried apricots to soak :)

fatima i think i would regret not using the embryo and probably do what vq has suggested and put it on ice for as long as possible if you can

pr I know i've had concerns before now, but i've been concerned and then things seem to settle and he's then been ok. This has happened a few times now though so I think I'll take him back to the doctors and see if they'll suggest anything/give him something

Need to give our garden a going over too, I was just thinking about that earlier!

really pleased you had a good weekend chasing I'm sorry nobody thought to get you a card from O :( Would've been nice but like pass said just you wait till you get things he's made for you from school/nursery :D

Thanks pass I gave e a kiwi this morning and it must've been a coincidence but he did a poo this morning! Anyway, he does like them so i'll include them more in his diet if it's going to help!

glad sil likes her shrug pp i thought it looked lovely. You are none of those things at all! I think most would feel as you do in that situation, i'd be jealous too! I am lucky that I get a break as MIL has e about once a month overnight and my mum likes to have him for a few hours here and here too.

good god vq over a balcony? I wish someone had done that to me though, might've been taller if they had

fc for no ear infection pr

stunt glad last night was better :) hope tonight is a good one too

fruit hey! glad to hear from you! :)

evil massive hugs, do try to think of the positives lovely, you've done really well and you've got N and you're both free and safe and happy :) I know that's easier said than done but you're truly amazing xxx

I try, but today..... All he seems to worry is about money. Have you received the info about the house/ money?
Yes I have you greedy, man.

Grrr......

Why, why do I still hear his voice in my head saying things.
I know I'm not stupid, but why do I hear it every time I try and get independent?

I'd guess because he was a controlling bullying shit who took over your life and destroyed your self confidence. It will take time to rebuild your faith in yourself. What a bastard.

Evil, what PR said. I know exactly how you feel about Disney dad. If I let myself think about it then it can make me very angry. But wiser people than me have reminded me that I will always be the most important person in O's life, and that will be the same for you.

So, as birthdays go, today has been pretty dull. Spending most of the day alone wasn't ideal - but at least it's almost over now.

I can't remember if I said happy birthday to you chasing. Apologies if not. Happy birthday Sorry it hasn't been the best day. Sometimes day's that are meant to feel like something end up being a bit of a damp squib as they're just normal days iyswim.

Finished off painting DD1's room today. It's pink with disney princess wall stickers and butterflies. She caught me when my defenses were low. It actually looks quite sweet and she is delighted with it. E's is the same colour as DD1's was in the old house, a soft lime green but with owl stickers and bunting. Expect it will end up pink as soon as E has a say! Their new carpet should be here by the end of this week and then they'll be complete. Can start on my bedroom then.

stunt did I read you are still unpacking boxes? It seems like ages a go that you moved. It's never ending isn't it.