November 2012 - Walking or not walking, talking or not talking, any other skillz?

[StuntNun]

Previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/postnatal_clubs/2000561-November-2012-The-exciting-all-new-all-singing-all-dancing-fred

We have quite a range of ages and they each develop at their own rates... so what can your toddler do?

Pennie I agree, so many times you think, oh my one doesn't do that... But it's lovely to celebrate the things they do.

My DSis's baby sleeps well, has put on weight, is alert and happy and she had a natural birth too - I had been trying not to have uncharitable feelings about this as things were so hard with L, I don't begrudge her but you can't help comparing sometimes. She said her NCT group are really unfriendly and arsey about her good fortune but she can't help it, unless she lies to them she feels like they don't want her around.

That is so interesting about M being 2 years old in embryo terms, my friend had IVF twins last year and they were actually frozen ten years ago (she'd had several attempts) and are possibly even from different batches so could be different 'ages' in that sense. Personally I would like to keep my options open, so would want to pay for the continued storage, but it is a completely personal decision of course.

Kyz how about foods with more liquids, like jelly and soup? I think it would be an idea to chat to your GP as the longer he goes without a comfy poo, the harder it becomes, literally. Perhaps he needs a suppository to have a clear out. I always chop my apricots very finely, and they are lovely minced in other things like yogurt or savoury dishes.

Glycerine suppositories work on an ad hoc basis but you have been worried about his lazy bowels for months. DD1 was eventually prescribed a laxative. Once a day for a few weeks, then every other day for a few more, and then she was fine. It's never been a problem since. Might be worth asking your GP about. Constipation can lead to a fear of pooing which turns it into a vicious cycle. Worth dealing with it now.

This time next week

You are right. I always focus on what H can do. But when listing it I was like wow he is a cleaver bunny.

Kyz I'd deff go gp and discuss it.

Today a has managed
10.30- 1 hour nap
2.30 - half hour nap
4.50 -50 min nap
Massive improvement on other day.
He did sleep better last night. However may have been due to fh not being in bed... Will see how today goes.
Have recorded the baby whisper show, going to watch those, see what tips I can find.

It's raining loads today was trying to work out how to make garden child friendly. We have brick raised beds, some a lot of the bricks are loose so need to sort that out.

Then need to clear beds for tomato strawberry and chilli plants. This may take me a month. Or could just wait a few weeks and get my mum to do it lol

Our garden isn't entirely toddler friendly. Raised decking, raised lawn with low brick wall around, hidden dog poo but not a lot we can do. Other than supervise.

Lovely day today in the end. Me and F had a fab lazy morning getting all her toys out and feeding the dog. Quick trip to the shops for some tights as her 0-6 really don't fit now! She has been so cheeky bless her, but shattered - she would have happily gone to bed at 5.30.

Can't help but imagine what the view is like in Mexico. And the warmth of the sun

Evenin!

Fatima I would want to use it but I am very sure I want another...so sure that we are not preventing and I've started monitoring cycles. L took some time and some help so we didn't want to wait too long. Also we wanted to know of we needed help we would go get it sooner rather than later.

Currently sorting the house out as it is soooo full of crap. Very therapeutic

Praying for some sleep but not hopeful as his cheeks were like burning rubies when he went to bed.

Hi everyone,

I haven't had much phone signal this weekend so am very behind with the fred.

One thing I need to say though, is Isles I am so fucking proud of you. Well done you. You are proper amazing. I know how hard it must have been for you to actually leave.

Had a good weekend in London, went to the Natural History Museum, had a lovely boozy dinner in Leicester Square and went to the zoo today. Am feeling a bit blue now though as I won't see the BF for two weeks and neither XP nor my parents thought to get me a birthday card from O. This has made me irrationally sad. I desperately miss being in a 'proper' family. Anyway, like the Christmas blues, this too shall pass.

Evening!

kyz kiwi fruit is a winner here for poo. If he will eat then giving him a half a kiwi fruit will really help. A whole one straight off could go too far the other way. I also used to give p a spoonful of brown sugar in cooled boiled water. Roughly 1 teaspoon to 2oz worked well for us.

Quiet day here after yesterday's misadventures. Housework and a trip to sainsbury's in between playing and dancing and eating like a fricking horse! That girl can pack it away.

More poo in the bath. Think the culprit is 4 bean chilli with Cous Cous followed by kiwi fruit for lunch

Your weekend sounds lovely chasing. It will be a very short time before O is making you macaroni necklaces which you will have to wear and cards which will make you cry. I am sorry no one thought to give you a card from O. X

fatima I have a friend who is going through exactly the same dilemma as you at the moment. For various reasons she has decided to go for it in June. Her first baby was an IVF baby and he's just turned 2. It was when DD1 turned 2 that I felt ready for another baby. I agree that the one advantage with IVF is you can pick when you conceive (fingers crossed it does take) so you may as well use this to your advantage. It's a hard decision that only you and DH can make but in your position I would probably pay for the additional storage to bide you some time.

gt Eeek not long now

chasing glad you had a good weekend. Sorry you are feeling a bit down now.

Quietish day today here too. Went to a park and it was so bloody cold that we left to go to a garden centre that has a small indoor play area and the girls played and we all had hot chocolate. They played really well together whilst we were out. Shame DD1 ruined it when we got home by swinging E upside down from her legs .

Oh dear Elisa. My brother used to dangle me over the balcony at church. Yes. More than once. And over the bannister at home. All the time. Not upside down though.

I should be in bed. I have pink wine. And work tomorrow.

Talking of cards from young ones (or lack of them) DD1 was born three days before Father's Day and I panicked as I had not got DH a card. My brother, the same one of dangling fame, produced one. It was extra pertinent as he had not had contact with his only daughter for several years. It had not crossed anyone else's mind, and I am lucky to be blessed with wonderful parents and a fab MIL.

I have read -stared blankly at the screen-- but not absorbed anything much so all round and where appropriate.

SIL loves her shrug, although commented about it hiding her fat arms which was NOT my intention, it just looked like something she'd wear hope I didn't make her feel bad

I am a horrible, evil nasty bitch. Other sil (mum of month older cousin) is away for the weekend. For two nights. I am irrationally, insanely jealous that she gets two nights off sleeping in a lovely hotel, having uninterrupted conversations, eating food while it's hot blah blah blah. Please can I have a sound slapping with the manky fish to buck up my ideas? She's had a rough year or so and thoroughly deserves her treat

pp You are none of those things. It's completely normal to feel how you do. I'd be jealous in your situation too.

I would give my eye teeth for a night, or even just a full day off. I only get a break to go to work, which makes me tireder because I spend the evening charging round after teenagers instead of slobbing on the sofa.

Hey ho. Sling meet tomorrow, I'm swapping vvvdf's R+R standard size for a toddler ABC. My mum has volunteered my dad to try back carrying R in it, which could be interesting she's of the "isn't he too heavy?" school of thinking and has been since he was about 4 months old she's never done DofE - my stock response to randoms saying that is that he's half the weight I'd have to carry on a Bronze walk!

Haven't got time to do a proper post but have been reading.
Just wanted to say thank you to those that have given me their thoughts on IVF/second babies. Given me something to think about.
Will post properly tomorrow, M has just woken up :-(

Wow after reading about all the babies it seems Alexander is not terribly chatty though he did say what I thought was out! Out! Out! When we chucked the cat out for whinging. I guess he's heard me say that once too many times. Will need to watch myself.

Pp someone a went to school with posted today about staying in a posh hotel. First thing I thought was "bitch".

I just had a massive moan to fh about never having a break. Currently negotiating terms of my release for accompanied lunch. So far involved me feeding and putting A to sleep at 1. Leaving ASAP. Eating and getting back, hopefully before he wakes. A is a child whose longest nap has been an hour. So a drive thro mcD would fit the bill. Hardly worth the effort. Grrrr

Sry I'm moaning PP. I was meant to be making you feel better.
Sry really insensitive of me.

I think all of us would love a break. And each of us would have an equally valid reason for wanting and deserving it. Quiche retreat, anyone? Stick the LOs in a padded cell?!

only joking a bit

I don't get jealous anymore, I used to. I had 5 hours break on Saturday and I really appreciate that. I have 2 hours very week when I go to the swimming pool with my dad and mum looks after O, it really recharges me. Having said that they are having her on fri night and all Saturday as I have an assignment to write.

chasing happy birthday lovely! enjoy your day. Go for a coffee with your little one! Cards are a tough one but soon he will start writing secret notes and things.

gt couple of more days, whop whop.

Re: breaks. It's the same for us. We share baby care so if either one of us is not with the baby then we're at work. It doesn't leave any spare time. I manage to squish a half hour swim in before work which is enough to make feel like I'm doing something for me but it's all v rushed swim swim swim dry dry dry fast walk to work. Not relaxed luxury :(

Second night of no night feeds went fine. J was only up four or five times last night so DH and I got a bit more sleep. When he woke up at about 6:30 he screamed at the top of his lungs for about ten minutes, absolutely inconsolable. Wtf was with that?

I would love a break too. I wanted to fly over to Manchester to visit my dad in hospital out Saturday back Sunday and my mum told me to save my money. I could have had a full night's sleep though the thought of which had me crying after Saturday night's epic sleep fail. My biggest problem is the unpacking. If I could only get a good run at it as I'm sick of not being able to find things I need. But DH absolutely will not give me time to do it and won't do it himself so I suppose the boxes will stay there until J is old enough to help me with it.

Morning quiche. LO woke up for two hours in the night. I'm hoping it is teeth but as she is just coming out of a cold I am crossing fingers that she isn't getting an ear infection.

Stunt your DH better be a millionaire or something to make up for him being an arse! Glad you got better sleep though. Maybe J just really wanted fed at 6.30? Sometimes J's most hysterical cries are boob related.

We had two long wakings here due to him spitting out his medicine at tea - he has a refluxy squeaky throat and wanted to comfort feed. He came in with us at 5 and slept til now. Note to self, if I eat dairy, he needs omeprazole.

As for breaks we have no parents close so I literally did not have two hours away from him until he was six months old and I went to the hairdresser. Now I'm freelancing two days a week I am much more mentally rested. Even the worst client is much less demanding than looking after a baby seven days a week. I'm lucky as I can do some housework minus the imp as I work from home too. Having a regular break makes such a difference - even work.