December 2012: Now they're all 1

[Barbeasty]

We needed a new thread!

Lock the door "for security" and let him get to fuck WillYou. Those are NOT the actions of a respectful and loving partner or father and don't let him persuade you otherwise

I think I've been too calm with him. He thinks I'm a pushover doesn't he? Some little doormat who'll be waiting when he rolls up.

I'm a bolshy bugger really I swear. WTF is wrong with him, I'm the mother of his child FFS. Partner of 10 fucking years.

The worst thing is, if I was alone I'd have gone to my mum's. But DS is asleep after an awful couple of days with his 6 partially erupted teeth having a growth spurt n I'm trapped here just waiting.

For your own peace of mind I'd assume he's forfeited tonight and lock the door as pidj says as you've gone to bed. He can sort out his own solution tonight and tomorrow you can point out how disgraceful his behaviour is lately.

He came back earlier after 4.5 hours. Cried his eyes out, been out driving to clear his head as we'd been making plans for the next month or so and he didn't want to make them if he wasn't sure what he wanted

I shouted. I don't ask for fucking much, I'm not a nut bar, but a text saying "I am going out for a bit for a bit if space. back late, don't wait up" wouldn't go amiss.

The conclusion of his drive? It's going well, we're having a good time and slowly getting closer to each other again. Exactly how I felt before tonight.

I told him that ^. Ie I felt good about us before he fucked off and put me through the emotional wringer again. I don't understand how he doesn't get me. I am a nice person, I do not shout at him. WTF does he think we'll end up having massive screaming matches like his parents did? I like to discuss ours problems like adults. He's been my best friend for 10 years, if we can't talk who the fuck can you talk to?

Will never sleep and I'm waiting on DS to wake up for his feed/calpol.

I have finally managed to get the ginger thug asleep although i have been beaten up by her numerous times in the process.

Utopian i hope your morning sickness calms down soon.

Ddas what a relief, i hope she recovers quickly

Stacks of course its ok if you lurk. I'm sure others are lurking too. Congratulations on DS's first word

Willyou you'll get no judgments from me. I think your both going through a turbulent time and that it sounds like your DP is getting some time to sort his head out as and when he wants, however i think you probably need some time alone as well to sort out whats going on in your head. I hope that you get this and then are able to tell him exactly what you want. Also you may be right the time for being calm with him may have passed he clearly needs some boundaries, i.e yes he is more than welcome to go for a drive but at the same time he needs to let you know that he is gone and that he won't be back till late. And yes he is entitled to time alone to get his thoughts in order but he has to let you have time alone as well to get your thoughts in order. I hope J is feeling better soon

Beasty i have my FX crossed that you get the job.

WL aww T being a mummie's girl sounds so sweet. H prefers men to me. But she really prefers the neighbours cat to anyone.

I'm not sure I could take much more WillYou. No one knows your relationship like you do though.

Easter holidays here so I have this week off. So far have one nice day planned plus an asbestos inspection, hospital appointment and course to go on for diabetes so all in all very boring for poor dd.

willyou no judgements here - I can't begin to imagine the complexity of your feelings and the lengths you would go to to salvage this relationship. It does sound however like it is mostly been on his terms and perhaps now is the time to force him to be more respectful of you going forward (whether it works out or not it is vital that your son sees his father being respectful to his mother). Hope you and j are feeling ok today.

spotty hope DD enjoys the time you have planned together.

hales I hope you had a restful night once h was asleep.

willyou I am so sorry DP is being such an arse. Hugs x

wl well said.

I also meant to say it's my mum's last day with us and I have a million things I want to do before she goes. It is so hard always having so much to do and not enough time. Although it has got easier. I think we are almost half moved now. I looked in DH's office last night and thought "wow it looks empty in here". There is still plenty to do - moving does seem rather endless doesn't it. But I'm glad we have the chance to pack and move some stuff before our big move.

willyou that would drive me bananas! He is still at his mums or back at home with you guys?

utopian just thinking of the early morning wakings with morning sickness makes me feel queasy. Found that bit the hardest part of being pregnant with a toddler.

Ds is sooooo grumpy. He can do his own shoes up now though he's only had them a couple of weeks. Such a miserable day glad dinner is in the slow cooker.

Thats impressive spotty!
nutella packing is a dreadful task isn't it! Just take deep breaths and think about how lovely your new home will be. We're going away this weekend (all the gloir of a caravan on the Isle of Wight - although the dds think it is the best thing ever) and the thought of packing makes me want to cancel it! I know we'll have a fab time though. It's just so nice to be away and have a change of scene and pace.

Hey peeps thanks for the support, I'm sooooo tired today. I've not really seen him yet as he left for work at 5am.

He's been staying here Ddas, in the spare room. It seemed a bit counterintuitive him being at his mums when the plan was to spend more time together. As I'm sure it is for everyone the 2 hours between DS' bedtime and ours is pretty much the only alone time we get.

That sounds lovely WL, but i can imagine packing for 3 girls is hell!

Oh have fun WL are you going from Portsmouth? We were there yesterday and discussed going to IOW next year.

It's so sad about Peaches Geldoff. Her babies are so little. My sister was friends with her and she was not a party girl she just doted on her two boys.

It's really sad Spotty, those poor tiny boys all alone tonight. She said on this morning that the 3 of them coslept and the thought of them without her is so terrible.

Just saw that. For a minute thought must be a wind up. So sad, her boys are so young. She seemed to be such a dedicated mum but must have been hard with them so close in age and get the feeling she actually did most of it herself unlike other celebrities.

willyou that makes sense but must also make it hard on you as must feel a bit like limbo. Sounds like you'd made progress so hopefully this is just a small set back. Really admire you.

I saw that as well and my first thought was PND.I hope her poor children get lots and lots of support.

Willyou go and get some sleep if you can, you can talk to him tomorrow if you need too. I hope your ok.

WL thats sounds like a lovely holiday i bet you'll all enjoy it.

I have had my arm twisted by my friends and am now going on a night out on good friday for my 30th. I'm a tiny bit excited now.

Yay Hales where are you going? I was 30 last year and just went into wigan but it was nice to let my hair down and drink cocktails. Also J got his first tooth that night and tortured my mum and dad not me

Haha Willyou i'm going to beg someone to take care of H all day so i can have a hangover in peace. We're only going into Ormskirk as its cheap and cheerful.

I'm going out Good Friday too hales I'm not going to drink much though as I haven't been out drinking since.....jan 2012?!

I'm out Easter Saturday for my friend's birthday. DP's out for his friends birthday too n he's told me not to worry as he'll sort the babysitter. So im not!

The thought of those babies in the bed without their mummy just made me cry.

Oh Spotty thats worse than me you need to drink!

WL, its horrible the thought of it.

Everyone going to the IOW must go via Lymington and have coffee with me on the way over