March 2013 time for shoes!

[Plonkysaurus]

New thread ladies...

Ds has broken me with his clinginess today. I made an emotional phonecall to dh to come home and rescue me. The random cries and clinginess is all too much. He won't go to dh. Its me me me. I can't even go to the toilet. On top of this there is an impending wonder week. We had such a good few days now he has turned into a little devil.

DS isn't clingy at all in fact all I get are 2 second cuddles before he's off...

I know what you mean about regressing plonky, last week DS took a couple of steps several times and now he's not keen on standing up!

Just organised his presents for his birthday tomorrow and I'm reminiscing lots about this time last year. Round about now I was having a bath whilst watching modern family whilst trying to ignore the contractions. How's that for multitasking

Well, the birthday is officially over but the good news is that the party was fab! There was just the right number of people, DD had a really long morning nap so was ready to recieve her guests at noon, the cake was amazing (modest) and nothing and no one got broken. Even MIL behaved. Best birthday pressie was a Cooper bear whatnot that comes with a book which you read to him and at certain points in the story he chips in and says stuff. Not sure if DD'll be freaked out that a bear is talking but i'll show her Toy Story when she's older and she'll understand

Aldan Happy Birthday to your little one tomorrow!

I'm off to bed for a well earned rest...

BTW - anyone else who had the birthday already spend the entire day remembering it moment by moment? 'Ah, 9.45 - Jeremy Kyle for company' '7.24 - threw up my Costa hot chocolate during a contraction'

And I win the breaking waters competition - 30 seconds before DD popped out, meconium and all

Any- birthday here not til Friday and I'm already having flashbacks "hmmm, the Sunday before, we went out for dinner with friends, I was secretly worried I'd go into labour and we were quite a long way from home" "Monday morning, my friend came round and bought me cake". Funny how it's all so vivid as I was only 37 weeks, maybe my body knew and was keeping tight hold of those memories.

Waters- no one knows when mine went. It's down on my notes as 5 mins before, but it was all such a rush (and I was in the pool) that we just made up the time.

I think I spent the week leading up to ds's birth waddling up the hill, taking photos in the park, watching Seinfeld and scrubbing floors in the vain attempt that maybe id get lost in the park/scrub furiously enough to induce labour.

It's a lovely day here and I'm watching the mornings fog evaporate off the neighbours fence. It's either that or they're stockpiling dry ice in the garden. We've had a fifth tough night in a row and together at five am decided to start sleep training again. So we're in for a tough few nights but should worth it to have a DS that isn't permanently shattered. My job is to take him out in the fresh air for a bloody long walk, and hope there are no boggy patches for getting stuck this time.

Worse, I forgot to ask, how's the conjunctivitis? I agree, selfish! But I think by the time it's gunky and runny the damage is done and other people may already be contaminated? I could be wrong. I'd struggle to keep DS off nursery for that too, but it really does depend on the nursery a policy. Either way, I hope dd is better soon.

Yummy - may I offer hugs? DS broke me yesterday too :(

Stormy, hope the SS assessment goes as ok as possible.

SS due at 11. Mum's not having one of her better days; I just had to catch her to stop her falling into the TV. Hope the rest of you have good days to balance out the crappy one I'm looking at.

Who cares if its not over familiar friday but im giving hugs to those who need it and thankfully receiving hugs myself. Thanks plonky.

I had to clean ds after a horrendous nappy at 3.30am. My neighbours must have thought i was weird for having all the windows open at that time of the mornining/night. Maybe this is the start of the ww for us then or the dreaded molars. I have had to do my dinner this morning because i am fed up of cooking quick and not so healthy dinner with a baby pulling at my clothes trying to climb up. Good luck with the sleep training.

stormy you are doing the right thing. You need help from ss. I hope they do a thorough assessment and offer the support your mum need. Im not sure how much the funding cuts have affected adult services but don't give in if they are only offering bare minimum.

Keeping ill children off nursery is a difficult one. Its hard when you have no family/friends to help out or a boss who is not understanding. I suppose with the amount of times babies get ill you will end using most of your annual leave looking after sick baby and no time for an actual holiday. However, i know if i am ill i would rather be in bed at home. I guess it depends on how ill the baby is. I think some nurseries have strict policies. I remember my friend getting a call from nursery regularly to collect her dd when she had a snuffly nose. Its a dilemma.

This time last year my nesting went crazy. I bleached my bathroom pull light. You know just in case the baby got germs from using the bathroom.

Stormy I hope today goes well. Perhaps it is a good thing that DM is not at her best for the assessment as SS will be able to see the extent of the help required.

Plonky the conjunctivitis is in a word yuck. Poor dd. I rang the nursery to enquire (nicely) what their policy is. I was right, it's like D&V, and they should have sent the other boy home. I guess it is yet another circumstance where rules only apply to SAHMs because those who work have carte blanche to pi55 all over us.

In a bad mood today. Can you tell!!!

worse I think every nursery has a different policy with eye infections. Our local one is happy to have children stay at nursery with them. It's an on site nursery and caters mainly for the employees' children so focuses on the working parents' needs as many have no option for alternate childcare and no option but to work. It's really difficult situation though - I feel for the staff who get it as I understand from my friend who works in a nursery that they don't get paid when off sick and the same rules for staying off apply to them. Conjunctivitis is horrible though - DD had a very mild case a few months back which she caught from a playgroup leader who didn't tell anyone she had it till the end of the session when it was too late! Needless to say that we didn't go back there!

stormy hope meeting with social services went well and your family get the respite and care they need.

We are starting to seriously talk about properly looking into adoption now which is pretty exciting. Still not totally sure as having another of our own is also an option but somehow we are feeling drawn to adopting a child to give them a better life. Would be sad to miss you on the newborn stage though despite it being tough! Tbh can't believe we are even considering another given how hard having children is!

Temporary care home sorted. Millions of phone calls made. SW under the impression that carers popping in at home would help. Nope, 24/7 supervision needed. It's been a long day...

Ready to drop, Stormy? So glad that your mum is getting some help though. I hope it works nicely to alleviate some of the stress you must all be under.

Worse my DS caught conjunctivitis at nursery and passed it on to me. It's not pleasant but my nursery doesn't have a 48 hour rule for it. They try to keep all the kids at nursery for minor grumbles, which I really appreciated at the time as a working mum. I can see why it's shit for you, sorry! I don't mean to piss all over SAHMs :(

Rainbow you clearly want another. It's fine. It's normal. The method of getting that child is your choice and I guess it'll take awhile. We want another too, and I think I'd quite like to be pregnant this time next year.

Sister's scan went well, all normal, so I now have a lovely picture of a lime-sized baby on my phone. I might have stared at it a few times already...

Wors I'm soon to be a working mum that will be over an hour away from the nursery & in a job that it's really bloody difficult to leave with no family nearby but I completely agree with you. Conjunctivitis is really shit, hurts, spreads like wildfire, can be difficult to get rid of and it's unnecessary to knowingly expose little ones to it. DH and I both have the 48hr rule at work for it so I think nurseries should too.

Stormy I'm so glad you got something sorted even if you did have to go into battle. You've earned a large tonight.

Yummy I hope today was better! I can't cope with the clinging either, sometimes I just want to be able to turn my back without the world ending, that's surely not asking too much!

Ah I was a bit cross wasn't I. Oops. I wasn't having a dig at anyone on here, just Ms Posh Suit who benefits from nice people like me not sending our kids in when they have something horrible and contagious, but is far too important and busy to extend the same courtesy in return. I may accidentally sneeze on her next time I see her

This time last year I was in full on labour. Fun times. It was actually in a weird way kind of fun. I enjoyed it. The post birth high is like every drug under the sun x a million and then some. But then you all know that.

Nightmare settle this evening. It's been hours... literally. DH is doing a shift. She's having a miserable week. Nose so bunged she can't breathe, and eyes full of pus. Seems a bit unfair for her birthday

Stormy I'm glad you have everything sorted out now. Time to relax maybe.

Rainbow good luck, you're a lovely person to be thinking of adoption.

Well DS birthday was great. We went to rhyme time this morning and they all sang to him. A few of his friends came over for a birthday lunch then we went to build a bear when DS1 finished school. Perfect day

Lovely sunny day here too and this time last year it was snowing!

Worsester conjunctivitis is horrible

My friends are in the adoption process at the moment intherainbow -very exciting

Glad your mum is getting help stormy

Lovely news plonky

Happy birthday minialdan!

Maybe you were a bit cross Worse, and maybe I was a bit defensive.

I'm so frigging tired again. Sleep training didn't happen last night as he has a sniffle. DP's leaving the house at 6.30 tomorrow to go to Cumbria. I'm not getting much work done today and have committed myself to a full day in the office tomorrow. Wedding is getting to me.

Where is everyone?

hello plonk. you tempted me out of hibernation. What's bugging you about the wedding? feeling pressure of stuff that needs organising?

It's finding time to dedicate to organising it, I suppose. My mum's getting a bit difficult, although of course she means well. She wants me to start making decisions about cakes and colours and all these things I'm really not that bothered about.

AIBU to want to elope?

oh plonk yanbu!
despite loving planning our wedding I had a massive wobble at one point and phoned my sister crying and wanting to be cancel it! Nothing to do with wanting to get married, just the wedding part. Maybe it's a right of passage for brides to be. Unless your parents are paying for whole thing I'd suggest a polite reminder that it's your day, your rules, your timescales.

eco we paid for our wedding ourselves for exactly that reason - to make sure it was our day. As it happened we were pretty relaxed about everything. Didn't both with a colour scheme, favours or things like that, picked our favourite non-traditional mousse cake and focused our funds on stuff that matters most to us like the swing band! Apart from the dress didn't do anything until about 3 months in advance and it saved a lot of stress and bother. The only stressful part was seating plans but as we had just two long tables and no head table we could seat people far away from each other! plonky totally agree with eco about being firm with your mum - it's your day in the end.

They're paying for an awful lot of it and the receptions at their house.

How awful am I! I will keep my lips sealed. But. My dads trying to insist we have a dj. Urgh.

plonky you can't be a bride without throwing a wobbly and having a relative interfering in your wedding plans. You will get through this. It will all come together in the end and will have your perfect wedding.

Plonky if it helps I didn't give a rats ar5e about any of the things one is supposed to for my wedding, didn't bother with seating plans, picking flowers, tasting food and all that rubbish that brides are supposed to care about. It possibly upset my mum the oldies who like protocol, but everyone under the age of 60 said it was the best wedding that they'd ever been to because it was completely random and without rules. My advice is do things your way, because whatever you do you will upset someone, so you might as well work on the basis that it is best not to upset yourself.

Can't believe today is the day the worselet turned 1! Although I probably ought to stop calling her that now. At 6 weeks she looked positively worselet-y. Now, what with being a proper toddler and all she looks kind of, well normal really. Well as normal as anyone could be when sharing my gene pool, which is not very .

Everyone will be relieved to know I am no longer cross, about anything, which is progress. Finally got my x-ray results, and have been declared fit and healthy with nothing worse than a bit of mechanical back ache wrong with me. Mechanical backache is the spinal equivalent of a virus. It basically means they have no clue, but there is obviously a problem, of a type that will get better, so you can go home and not worry. Yay!

Any other birthdays today? If so am I the only parent not to have made a cake...? I feel slightly bad about this. Not bad enough to remedy the situation though!

Hope all's well with everyone, especially those having tough times at the moment.

Happy birthday worselet!