Feb 2014 - the babies are arriving and were shattered and milky!

[misskatamari]

Babies are popping out and were turning into a group of mummies not preggos .

I thought I'd start a new thread over here where we can hold hands through sore nips, milky sick, explosive poo and lack of sleep. Along with super cute newborn snuggles of course!

Baby Teaaddict235 is also a keen hourly breastfeeder libee, but I think that I have to adjust to his routine rather than vice versa right now.

I'm interested in expressing shropshire, how is it? Are all the benefits for mum still present? I assume that baby gets all the same goodies as with bf.

Sorry to hear that laura, keep your head up. Little Leo will love you all the more in the future when he knows how hard you worked to raise him.

Thanks bugsy and tea

Laura you're doing a fab job, it must be tough on your own. I hope your parents are giving you lots of tlc.

tea, I've taken to expressing one feed in the morning as dd has dropped a feed in the night. All the goodness is still there. Apparently it's best to give milk at the same time of day as you expressed it, but as my milk supply slows in the evening I don't stick to this. The milk keeps for 6 months so I'm freezing some and then using some when I need a break.

I hear you on that laura it's bloody hard on your own and I've been in tears a lot lately - don't understand how anyone could choose to miss out on experiencing something so wonderful. And it's that amazingness that makes it all worthwhile despite the fathers being dickheads - can't believe Leo's dad would send such a callous text!

I cannot begin to think how id cope as a single parent, you all do a fab job and are superheroes in my opinion!

DD started today by projectile vomming over me, our bedding, and her lovely dress which I put her in to meet today's stream of visitors. Ho hum!

Hi again, all.

Baby is doing well with feeding - between 90 and 110mls every 3/4 hours during the day and the last 2 nights she's slept in a 4 and 6 hour stretch.

She's still a little windy/grunty and suffers with hiccups quite a bit, so winding up to half hour after feeds.

It's me who's not doing so well :( 18 days post EMCS and I'm feeling wretched. Headaches, nausea, backache, blood loss, cramping; totally exhausting and getting me down.

I'm housebound and DC2, 13 months, is missing out on playgroups and fun as I'm not up to going out. The place is a mess and we have both DP's brothers (with families) descending upon us next weekend. I'm trying not to think about it, tbh.

Sorry for self-indulgent moan. Had a bit of a cry and feel slightly better for it.

Hope you're all keeping well and happy.

Winter and Laura you are bloody amazing doing this single handedly - definitely not for the faint hearted. I had my first day flying solo today with DH back at work (Rosie is 2 weeks old today) and admittedly the biggest challenges of my day came from DS (2yo) and trying to juggle the needs of them both, but I so clearly remember the early weeks with DS and how exhausted I was and how reliant I was on DH for a break every now and again. Winter - have you had contact with her father since the birth? Laura - can't believe Leo's father sent that text, he is definitely missing out but sounds like you and Leo are way better off without his involvement.

Really hoping I get some more sleep tonight - reckon I had less than 5hrs (in 4 chunks) last night as Rosie was only doing really short sleeps and I've been on the go from the moment DH left for work at 7:45am to when I got DS to bed at 7pm so I'm shattered!

Well done loves on your first day solo with the two.

After saying I didn't want to be one of those parents that lives by a routine, we've had a really disrupted day just as dd was settling into a routine. It's really thrown us and her. It was lovely to see family though.

I think I'm coming down with a cold :( my aunt visited with a stinking cold last week (just why?!) and I've a sore throat, headache and even more tiredness than normal. I'll be so upset if dd gets it. My dsis is supposed to be visiting with my nephew tomorrow and I'd have to put them off if it's a cold

Oh laura, I'm sorry. I'm living on a dream world where I assumed he would have a complete change of heart once Leo arrived. What a fuckpig. I want to send DH round to his house to tell him what he's missing out on. Then chop his willy off. winter, I have enormous respect for you and laura .

tea when I fell very ill at day 4 I was simply too weak to do anything else but express. Since then she can't be arsed to breast feed as bottles are instant gratification. I only express 3 x a day and get 4oz each time, at night formula is a god send because it fills her up so much more. I'm not finding expressing that annoying yet but can't see me doing it past 6 weeks.

Thanks everyone I'm trying my best but it's bloody hard sometimes and just wish I had someone to pass him to at 3am!
I'm glad in a way shrops that he hasn't appeared. He proved what a twat he was while I was prego and to be honest I don't want him in Leo's life. I'm just glad I got something so perfect out of all of the heartache he caused me.
Winter I hope you're ok, if we lived closer together it would have been nice to meet up with you

Some men just never get it, do they?

Thoughts are with you, laura. DC1's father dropped us when he was 4 - cant imagine being a single parent with a baby!

Hope you're both having a decent day. One day at a time.

Thanks eeyoreish and Shropshire, I just don't really understand how and when to phase expressing in, plus i'm a bit scared that i'll get mastitis or something as my breasts fill up so quickly. I'm just a bit confused; they didn't really go into expressing at the antenatals.

Thanks ladies - it's been said many times over but having the support of this group makes such a difference! I sent DDs dad some.pics and he made appropriate isn't she lovely noises and nothing has changed, he has no plans to see us or do anything. But ad laura says in some ways it's better like that and we know where we stand. And DD is so very wonderful.

I personally think that all you mummies with older children are superwomen, I seriously don't know how you manage to look after more than one little person!

laura I will be up your way when DD is bigger (if I remember right where abouts you are) as my grandparents are near there. Will let you know :) I do think it would be super interesting to have a thread meet up when all the LOs are bigger x

I still meet up 2-3 times year with some of the March 2011 mums

ive got both dcs asleep in the car right now. It's my first proper solo day and dh won't be back til late so tea time/bed time will be interesting . on the plus side, dh is going to be late as he was awarded his PhD today - Im married to a Dr!!!

Congrats to your DH Petty! Best of luck with tea/bedtime later. I was utterly frazzled by the time DH returned at 6:45pm last night - was so grateful he had raced home which meant I was able to pass the books/bed baton to him for DS as soon as he walked in the door. Rosie fell asleep around 5:30pm so I whizzed DS up for his bath - not going to complicate things by trying to bath her daily yet. She's 2 weeks old and only had one bath, is that gross? The ILs are coming up tomorrow for 2 days so I might give her a leisurely daytime bath while they're entertaining DS. Next week will be the real test for me with no family support drafted in and DH won't be able to make it home for DS' bedtime on a typical day. Still, one day at a time! DS is in nursery today and I've had the most blissful day chilling with Rosie. We met a friend and her baby for a walk into town and coffee earlier, then back home as another friend was popping over to meet her and I'm off to collect DS shortly. I've also managed to cook supper, get on top of laundry and tidy some bits around the house.

Betty is 12 days and has only had one bath so far! At this point, ds hand't had any baths....
Today went quite well - DS managed not to have a tantrum until 9.30am (his hot chocolate was in the wrong cup) and was fine again until about 3pm when he basically tantrumed until bed time. He did manage to tantrum, have a short nap and remember as soon as he woke to carry on the same tantrum . He is very angry with me and leaving me feel utterly frazzled. Thankfully he is at the CM for the next 2 days and then my mum will come down Sunday/Monday and will shower him with love an attention. I am going to try and take him to toddler dance class without Betty on Saturday morning to give him some one on one time.

Nothing like a toddler to make a baby seem so easy!

Petty I could have written your post - do we have the same DS?! I got him home from nursery this afternoon and he asked for some banana and grapes then had a tantrum because I put it in a little bowl instead of a small plastic pot. Yesterday he basically had one big tantrum/meltdown from 3:30pm when he woke from his nap until bedtime. Frazzled was my word of the day too! Thankfully today he was at nursery and Thurs/Fri the ILs are up then Sat/Sun DH around and Mon is another nursery day so I'm safe until next Tuesday!

In terms of baths, dd is 3wks 2 days old and has had 3 baths in her life! Am washing face and neck/underarms with cotton wool and water every morning though.

I had an emotional day yesterday. DH had a flex day from work so was home (nice). But dd was having a meltdown day and my mummy hormones couldn't cope with DH jiggling and bouncing her about which just seemed to make it worse. I kept asking him to pass her to me and then he got upset as he wanted to spend as much of his day off with her as possible. It actually made me anxious after 3hrs if not holding her, so much so that I felt like a totally different person. Only when he gave her to me at 9pm did her crying subside and my personality turn to normal. DH thinks I was being unfair but I honestly couldn't control my mummy urge to cuddle my baby! I was like a woman posessed! I am meant to be going to a girls night in on Friday for a few hrs but not sure I can leave her that long!

i hadnt bathed Evelyn for ages... felt scared doing it on my own. but we have to go get wighed this morning so i maned up and did it. dont want the health visitor moaning at me!! (she told me to bath her daily)

aw jazzcat... Dd is the same with my DH.. she cries more with him. i try and let her be with him in the evening but its so hard when they're sad

Congrats to your DH petty!

jazz I hate giving DD away for any length of time as well. Just explain how it makes you feel to your DH abd try and find the best way to make sure he feels involved and you're happy too.

I've only bathed DD three times in her three weeks...all the dirty bits get cleaned more often anyway

I'm very lazy about washing ds3. I wash his face when he's sick and his bum gets cleaned at every nappy change so I think two baths a week is fine. How dirty can they possibly get? It's not as if they are rolling around in mud yet.
With my first two I bathed them/asked them to have a shower daily from birth to 8 and 11 years until someone suggested it was a bit OTT.

We had first bath at 17 days yesterday... Were to exhausted / scared to do it whilst DH off and then I kept putting it off, as I wanted him to be there for first bath and didn't want to try by myself... E loved it and was really chilled after, so needless to say, we will be having plenty more!

ds started getting a daily bath when he started weaning - oh my god the mess! at almost 3 we have just started easing up on the daily bath/shower, but he loves it and its part of his bedtime routine and it gets him up the stairs and out of my hair a bit quicker!

Its just me and Betty today. We are waiting in for the mw, who will be signing us off today and then Betty has her hearing test up at the hospital (grr - they did this at home for ds). So should be a fairly easy day!

What do you ladies do when baby is sleeping and you need to do a nappy change or a bath was scheduled? I feel really bad when baby Tea falls asleep during feeding and then does a big nappy job to top it off mid doze. I end up waking him as I change him, but Mil was saying to leave him, except that he has nappy rash and we are trying to get rid of it.
Any thoughts?

tough one... depends if i know she'll be asleep long... at night i def change poos.