June 2013 Commando crawlers vs Baby slugs

[SunnyL]

Hi all - the old thread was about to run out so I started a new one.

Little Miss was up to mischief last night. Thankfully it's DHs day off today so he took her into bed with him while I slept in the spare room. She is just so excitable when she wakes up at night. It can can 90 minutes to scrape her off the ceiling.

We've had a lovely day, though it's ended with DD suffering with teething pain and not being able to sleep. :-(

On the up side, we've just seen baby's kicks move my belly for the first time and felt baby shoving me really hard, so we could feel his / her body clearly! I love this part of pregnancy.

(S)he must be strong as I've got an anterior placenta, so wasn't expecting such firm movements just yet!

Perfect end to the day. :-)

Hope you all had a lovely mother's day. Especially you pinkbear, I hope you were able to enjoy it with your daughter despite the difficult time you're having right now.

Sorry you're having such a nightmare with work Mary. Hope you manage to resolve it, and that having dd take her first step helped you forget about it for a while!

Feeling a bit knackered this morning. Dd woke up earlyish and despite my best efforts for her to snuggle in bed with me, shed rather just bounce around, elbowing me in the face and pinging my bra straps.

Mary a walking baby! I definitely think it counts!

Mary - it counts!

Back to work on 6 May - two shifts a week at the moment and see how it goes. I'm lucky they are happy to be flexible.

It looks as tho it's just me and dd are just us now. He picked yesterday to tell me this. I thanked him for making my first Mother's Day one I'll never forget although about an hour after he told me by fucking txt he was saying it wasn't what he wanted and what time I'd be home today
I can't deal with the messing around. I think I have to plan for just me and her and take it from there.

On the plus side I'll probably end up closer to mum and dad and work! And with everything over the last month I've started to shift the weight that wasn't budging. Silver linings and all that!!

Sorry to hear your P has behaved so badly and thoughtlessly, pink. It sounds like you've put up with enough, and are now looking ahead to your future with your lovely girl. Glad to hear your work are being good and flexible, and you can perhaps move closer to your parents. How are they ?

Thanks sunbeam. Mum is grand, tired but looking after dad and now worrying about me is a lot! Dad is healing well, he's had issues with getting the level of warfarin right, but that seems to be settling now. And having dd there at the moment us getting out more than he was which us good.

How are things for you atm?

I just want things sorted so I can feel settled and things aren't too disrupted for dd. Ho hum, these things are sent to try us!

Sounds like you have a great attitude. Things are much improved here at the moment - think our issue is that we are still getting accustomed to living together in addition to life with a baby. Also, DP works at home and I am now no longer going back to work due to redundancy so we are both at home all the time with DS. It's lovely a lot of the time but a melting pot of grievances and lack of space, time and sleep at others!

Ah that's good to hear sunbeam, sometimes it takes a while to settle into a new rhythm. And with our little ones changing so much sometimes it's a lot harder.

How are you today Pinkbear? I hope things aren't getting too muddled...

All ticking along fairly well here atm. Broccolli and cheese muffins & polenta chips have made ds a food monster again Now in the process of replacing boob feed elevenses with other-food elevenses...

Has anyone found that friendships have changed a bit since you had dc? (not necessarily in a bad way...) I've been noticing changes. Some positive, some less so.

Many of my friendships have sadly ended Mrs, I think because I no longer socialise etc I have being forgotten!! Also I had quite a few "friends" in the horsey world before having the girls and these people also seem to have disappeared. I now know who my true friends are which in my opinion is a good thing x

That's sad madame

I've found that my child-less friends are much harder to stay in touch with and they don't necessarily 'get' the full-on-ness of having a baby (to be fair, I didn't fully get it before ds was born).
The people who have been most supportive to us have been those with children and some of those friendships have become very special.

When I had dc1, I found friendships changed, the difference in my life to my non-parent friends became too great in many cases, sadly including drifting away from my bridesmaid.

Other friendships have struggled as several friends had dcs at a similar time, and the "we all live within an hours commute of Central London, so let's meet up after work for drinks" couldn't happen anymore, the distances for us to meet up at someone's house became noticeable, and then over the last few years people have slowly moved further out for space/schools, rarely in the same direction.

However, 4.5 years on, some of those woman I'd first met in baby classes with dc1 have turned out to be great friends! I was thinking it was sad we hadn't really coordinated dc2's, but then I realised 2 have dc2's who will be in the same school year as dd, just they will be amongst the eldest in the year and dd will be amongst the youngest, I think that while now that feels like a massive age gap, by the time they are 3/4, it will have closed again!

Ups and downs here. Tears are rather common at the moment. Trying to hold it together for dd, and looking at the plus points that will come from the breakdown. Not easy. Housing is proving difficult too, although being with mum and dad is nice while it's hard, I need space too. As of course do they. There gave been some tense moments already.

Friendships are funny things aren't they. Very hard to keep some going, have to say if they are hard work to keep going, they probably aren't totally worth it.

Oh and re my hideous work situation, DH and I have had a couple more chats, and lady night he finally got off the fence and said I should quit if they can't offer anything better. His argument was that it's a long commute, for very little money (even less than I realised innitially as I'd forgotten that as DH currently buys childcare vouchers, we'd have more money coming in from him if I stopped work as he'd stop buying them), it will involve a lot of rushing around, leaving both dcs in childcare- and if there's not keeping my career going or going to be "mentally/intellectually stimulating", what's the point?

Hard to argue with really.

I've concluded I need to buy a joules gilet and large designer sunnies if I'm joining the "yummy mummies" round here!

I have struggled with friendships too. I didn't really click with my NCT group. I met a couple of girls locally and they've become great friends. They would be friends in the real world. The test is now will we stay in touch now I'm going back to work. I hope so! Pre Polly friends; it's hard. So many of them were friends from a hiking group, all lovely single folk in their late thirties or early forties who have given up on ever having children themselves. They all have loads of disposable income and lavish holidays etc, as we used to! Some have made a real effort. Others none. It has been interesting to see who has made the effort; not the people I expected! But our lives are so very different.

I'm back to work next week. DH is on paternity leave for two months. I've got to go, I need to work, for the money and the career. But I feel very weird about it. I don't want to leave My Big Girl:-(((

Just back from spending a few days at my parents.

So sorry for the tough time you're having pinkbear. I really hope you find a solution you're happy with and that will be the best outcome for your family.

Good luck for those going back to work, and those making big decisions (Mary !). It's a tough call, once you've got kids, neither option is easy. I went back to work when DS was 12 weeks old and it was a constant juggling act balancing child care, especially when DH or I did work travel. And I have to admit, my heart was never quite in the job in the same way it had been bef0re though that may have been partly due to the overworked underpaid poorly managed work situation. This time, being a SAHM has been fun, and it's been nice to spend more time with DS as well as DD. But saying that I am starting to think aobut if/when to return to work. Logisically it's always going to be complicated but the longer I stay out of my profession the harder it will be to get back in. But there are some attractions of not starting work for a few more years.

E is spending lots of time trying to stand up now. Very wobbly so no cruising yet, but it's fun to see this next stage.

Mrs81 could I have the recipe for the brocolli and cheese muffins please? Just about to make some sqaush ones, though they do have sugar in so not super-healthy.

All this talk of cruising babies terrifies me (and the cat). We have rolling from back to front and some ineffective attempts at crawling thus far.

Muffin recipe is here: babyledweaninginspiration.blogspot.co.uk/2013/05/cheesy-broccoli-muffins.html (hope my link worked!)

Bought DS a sun hat for when the sun makes a reappearance. He looks ever so cute. Mind you, he's still a lollipop so the hat is 12-24m and only slightly too big; he's comfortably in 6-9m clothes still. I'm guessing he evens out eventually?? ;)

A lollipop! That made me

DS2 likes to pull himself up to standing if you offer him your hands. And he can now move to a sitting position from lying down. Although he often forgets he can do this and starts crying if he's gone from a sitting position to lying on the floor and thinks he can't get up again. I'm very happy for him to remain immobile for a while yet... is that bad of me? I don't remember exactly but I think DS1 started crawling around 10 months (DS2 is 10 months in 5 days)

I hope you can get sorted soon, Pink. I hope you're managing to stay strong for DD. But your ex is a fool. :-(

DD preferred our spinach and cheese muffins to the banana ones. I did too, actually!

She pulls to standing from sitting too, and I think she can get to sitting from lying too, but she's sneaky and does tricks when I'm out of the room!

DH texted me at work to say she had deliberately gone from sitting on the sofa, turned round and slid off to a stand, keeping her balance. She is trying desperately to pull herself up to standing using the sofa too.

I was happy with her being mostly immobile what with me quickly turning into an elephant, but never mind!

Thanks for the recipe Mrs81. Let's hope E doens't get bored of muffins as I've just made a batch of butternut squash this, after she refused to eat the squash i'd just roasted for her, despite her loving it last week . Chicken rissoles went down well too, also proved to be a good way to get some courgette into DS without him knowing.

So cute to hear of all these babies standing/attempting to stand. I love the wobblyness of them at this age. Although said wobblyness has resulted in E having matching bruises one on each temple, so maybe it's not that cute after all.

Thanks HH, he's a massive fool. Just need to sort living arrangements now. But being with mum and dad has been nice.

Dd is getting far too good at furniture surfing, and pulling herself up on things. But it's amazing to see, and even more amazing now I can enjoy her fully without the stresses everything was bringing.

Morning all

Thank goodness it's Friday is all I can say! For one reason and another, it's been a knackering week.

I think DS might be finally associating food with hunger. Our bf are suddenly much much shorter and I'm nearly able to drop another daytime feed. Ironically, despite some of my earlier woes of bf-ing, I'm feeling a bit about it all. Daft, eh?

It's not daft Mrs, breastfeeding is a very emotional thing. You will probably find there are certain feeds he will still want for a long time (if thats what you want?) Xa

Thanks Madame. I suppose all the hormones don't help do they?
Yes, some feeds are still reliable and consistent. I'm not ready to stop altogether yet (and we're a way off that yet) but will make a point of enjoying the snuggly feeds whilst they remain so.

Totally know what you mean, Madame. I feel very attached to breast feeding and the connection with DS and don't look forward to that stage ending sob