December 2011 - me do it mine self

[TheOnlySeven]

Offers round and

Boo, that sounds rubbish PTP. I'm being thick here but my brain is mush today, are you originally n/c from BJR? Sorry, dude! In practical terms it's way more hassle for you to move out, surely? Or is it "d"P's place? Really hope you can work out what to do. Vent here if it helps xx

Yep correct name change. Thank you for the kind words ladies. I can see that splitting up is most likely a good idea. I keep hoping that he will turn back into the person I thought he was pre DS, the likelihood of that happening seems minimal at this point.

(((((Big un-MNetty hug)))))

It's never simple, is it. Keep yourself safe whatever happens, if you are safe, don't rush to leave if you have nowhere to go, maybe worth asking DP to sit down properly and talk about logistics/how you can work out what to do to minimise the effect on DS....

I'm totally jealous PTP. I wish my DH would leave.
But I offer sympathies if it's not what you want.
Bum bum bees, lovely.

Anyway, what do you know?!? There we were, in our private dining room at maze, next to the kitchen when mr fucking Ramsey walked in!!! Ha ha! He was a bit of an arse to be truthful. But we couldn't help be a bit, ooooh! 'Sleb struck.
The party was amazing.
The ladies present were from the BBC, channel 4, Xbox, Lloyd's, TSB, Expedia, other big names, ... And me, with my obscure manufacturing brand. Great night. Nice food. Not as good as Claridges.
(Spoilt.)

Oi that meal sounds fantastic what was it for? The shaved cheese pic on fb was impressive.

Ptp you've given it a good go these problems have been going for a long time now and you've prob held in their longer than some other people would. Maybe u should make the decision to go so you can control it?

I weighed myself this morning I'm fatter than I've ever been I feel it too in my thighs and tummy what am I going to do?!?!?????

Oh and DS clearly had a nightmare last night as he was wailing hysterically at 1.30 and took a good half hour to get him back to sleep. It's scary mummy it's scary god knows what was going on.

Really sorry to hear that ptp Hope you can talk it through and not just have to up and leave without a good plan in place for where you'll go/how your partner will support DS etc.

figgy me too feeling really despondent and low today ... Also had bad migraine yesterday and feeling worried this is the start of a horrible spate of them. And had horrible dream where I miscarried with loads of blood.

PTP would it be worth posting a thread on the relationships section as there's a lot of good advice over there? IMHO I think if he can speak to you with that little respect and compassion then sod him! It's not as though it is a one off, you have tried repeatedly. I think you deserve someone that treats you as a fellow human being!

If I'm completely on the wrong tracks please tell me!

Figster I've decided after baby no. 2 is born I'm going to take radical action and go on a proper diet! Exercise alone is not curing my 'mummy tummy'!

I am 9 weeks pregnant now, just counting down until the magical 12 weeks when I insist the morning sickness has to stop! I can't eat anything tomato based which is annoying, 75% of my normal meals are tomato sauce pasta type things!

Really sorry to hear that PTP, have you started making moves to seperate? Any family/real life support you can lean on? Hope it's as stressfree and mess-less as possible, also hope DS comes out of it happy. x

DS1 & 2 are taking it in turns to be shit demons today. Awful day. Having terrible lower back cramps and all I can think atm is 'god a mc would be so much easier than having three'. DH should be home from work soon.
DS1 hasn't napped for almost a year (aside from a few really long ones a few times a month) and DS2 has an hour in the morning, surely a bloody month old needs more than that during the day!?

bumbum bees Northen, make sure you look after his snail (at least it's easy to replace if it wanders off.

Going to see two houses this weekend; one is a 4/5 bed in a half shitty council road (spoken to police, it used to be bad, but is improving) the other is a 2 bed in a nice area about 10 streets away (easy to extend, everyone else has), only £15k in it so hmmm!

Dear Christ I am shattered after today, one of those days where it just piled on, lots of emergency meetings with my boss... Did shopping, have eaten dinner and am going to beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeed.

How's it going PTP, thinking of you....

So at the moment we are sleeping in separate rooms and barely talking. He works so much anyway that he is hardly here anyway. We've looked at some financial stuff of how we start to separate stuff. At the moment I'm just trying to think about whether I want to stay in this area or move to stay with my parents for a while, so not making any big decisions till I've had a few days to think.

Ptp how would he feel about you moving away with DS? How far away is "home"?

Dh is away until Tuesday seeing an old UNi chum just been shopping for easy meals over next few days for DS and I, bottle of wine to enjoy whilst studying after DS gone to bed.

So far to break up my weekend I've got ante natal girls round at 3, tomorrow taking DS to softplay and meeting a friend there with her 4yo, Sunday church then either shopping or taking DS to the aquarium he's free until 3 and if I get a year pass only have to take him another 2 times to have paid it off. He's so obsessed with octonauts and sharks it seems a good idea for those rainy Friday afternoons when on own.

DS has taken to only eating sandwich fillings and no bread it's a waste and then I eat it......why am I putting on weight again?

figgy Minimopsy is the same. Eats the fillings only. Has also started saying 'don't like it' about everything, mainly stuff she hasn't even tasted

Yep, DS is getting very fussy these days! I'm trying to ignore and still dish up normal food and he can pick out the vegetables if he's that picky! Yesterday was a success though, he ate half a plate of spaghetti bolognese, melon, strawberries and grapes and some yoghurt for dinner.

Funny how they all like chips, mashed potatoes and biscuits

Yep, increased fussiness with food here, anything beige or chocolate is fine though . Cannot get him to eat fruit at all (barring the pureed fruit pots I do for him, and dried fruit) - am planning to cook a vegetable curry for him this weekend as he loves curry please God he doesn't notice what the content is!

"No, mum, not want DAT! Want Doc-Doc....." (Points at cupboard wherein resides Easter Chocolate stash)....

Bobbins, DS has a croupy cough and some stridor. He's not actuaply ill with it but I think we're coing to have to cancel a few social plans as meant to be seeing friend with a wee baby later....

We've both had mammoth breakfasts this morning was sooooo hungry going to regret it I'm sure. DS still tucking into his melon he has pineapple and strawberries for later, he's pretty good some days then won't eat them the next (except for bananas he would eat them anytime anywhere much to the detriment of his digestive functions).

We have fussy days, but he'll generally always eat fruit and veg. I try and not get stressed about it because missing a couple of meals won't kill him, and I'm of the 'this is dinner, I am not a short order chef' school and of thought.

Will catch up properly later when I can get on the puter.

A good day today DS been on good form an rounding it off with a very calorific after eight dessert and a totally indulgent chick flick called safe haven with my girl crush Juliane hough from same author as the notebook ..... I'm ashamed to say I love the notebook

Minimopsy ate a whole fish finger (big waitrose one... more fish, less crumbs) at lunch with enough ketchup for about ten fish fingers. I figure at least she's getting some fish in along with the ketchup. Yuck though. Then ate two pieces of toast with cheese for tea. So quite a good day. No fruit or veg though She eats fine at nursery so I don't panic too much...

Putting house on market next week (finally! 2 years later). Got loads done today. All my papers sorted and filed and loads of junk paper burned, clothes sorted and four bags to charity shop (!), loads of stuff tidied into loft and (unrelated to house move) I hoovered the car and cleaned the upholstery with shampoo. It was a disgrace! Hadn't cleaned inside in 3 years So I'm feeling rather smug!

But already getting f-ing carpal tunnel in both wrists Only 7+4. So I think I'll have to stop using smart phone so much. Will be good anyway. I'm on it too often.

Mopsy all i can say about the wrists is ouch!! It was my biggest problem when i was pg and they still hurt now, right in the joint its probably arthritis still i wish i was pg.

Good luck PTP.
Boi has been scaring me rather a lot. Yesterday he fell down the stairs. There are 7steps. I just saw the last bit of the landing, he seemed to flip over via his head/neck. I flew towardns him, he jumped to me, screaming. I checked him out all over. Within minutes he was calm and playing and there's not a bruise or bump on him.
Thank bob!
Tonight, 30 mins after DH had put him to bed, I went downstairs to the airing cupboard. After a few seconds, I realised his bedroom door was open. I went in to check on him and close it - he was gone. I called his name, saw DH at the top of the stairs, and we started looking. Couldn't find him. Both calling him, no response.
I ran around starting to panic, even though I knew all the doors were locked. I unlocked to door to look out into the street. We'd checked all the rooms and were starting again.
DH found him. He was in our bed. -where I looked first! The bed was unmade with both sides of the quilt folded back (how we'd got out earlier). So there was a thin triangle bit at the top, with a couple of coathangers strewn across the top. Boi was obscurely hidden under this slither!
Sound asleep.
You can't imagine the relief.
Other than that, we've had a great day. A gardener friend came around, and the four of us ( inc Boi) got busy. New bark chippings (12 x 100l bags), 9 bags of grit/rubble, lawns mown, beds tidied, laurel hedge trimmed, one path jet washed,... More to do tomorrow without the gardener.
Great progress!
I have been drinking too much recently.
Today I've started a period of abstinence. Got to stop this dependence! Alcohol is my "go to" when I've had a tough day/any excuse. Not good. Especially when the Boi is going through a challenging phase!

Blimey oi that does sound scary!! Ds hides in our bedroom cupboard sometimes also with you on the Booze front being on my own all weekend I've kept looking at the wine in fridge really wanting one but thinking of the calories I have resisted.

Sat in car reading the paper while DS naps just back from aquarium he was brilliant for about half hour then got bored, thankfully it's not very big got an annual membership for me DS free until 3 so just have to go twice more between then and it's paid off I expect that'll be very easy in the summer. We spent ages at the marine tank with nemo and dory I told him he could watch it this afternoon so he will be happy.

Mince and tatties for tea tonight yessss!!

Have to admit having always thought I enjoyed my own company have realised I don't I hate it. Im terribly paranoid about getting older and being lonely so despite seeing friends friday and saturday and being out all morning im not comfortable being "on ny own" anymore. DS is a wonderful distraction though!!

With you on the booze-lite and need to lose more than a few pounds girls. The last time I got on the scales it said "one at a time, please"......

Fortunately DS's cough subsided and didn't turn into croup.... So we were able to see our friends, and then today we went to see xiao's two get christened (they had the cutest mini sailor suits! Awww.)

We're still persevering with big boy pants, it alternates between pretty good effort and total disaster..... But he's mostly trying hard and so we will just keep cracking on. Once it's sorted I will never have to change nappies ever (Am ignoring the night time pullups, they Do Not Count. Nor does the occasional pullup on a long car journey. I know it's cheating. So sue me.)

Though tonight he is playing the get-out-of-bed-a-hundred times game. Argh!......hope you all had good weekends, ladies....