November 2012 - What is going on with these babies?

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vq that's awful! I hate secret keeping.

Happy Valentines Day Quiche.

vq that seems a bit excessive and I'm not sure I entirely understand.

I love hearing people's stories about how they told their family. Mine's not very interesting. DP had to work the day of my scan so we agreed he would come to the 20 week one, all being well, and my mum would do the 12 week one. We went round to see my parents the night before and I said to my mum what are you doing tomorrow? do you want to come to my scan with me? Her face was a picture. My dad just said about bloody time! I had been with DP for 9 years at that point and talked about having a baby for several years beforehand so it wasn't a surprise really.

Forgot about Valentine's Day. We don't do it.

I love Valentines day. My DH is not very outward with his emotions so
Valentines Day is his opportunity to state his enduring love for his wonderful wife.

We were not terribly exciting about telling our family about our pregnancies. We just told them. Boring I know.

With DD1 I just called my mum. The one thing I massively regret is not telling my dad. I didn't want to tell him before the 12 wk scan as he was such a worrier and I thought it wouldn't help me. So I booked a lunch for fathers day and was going to tell him then. He died unexpectedly the week before. He was desperate to be a grandad. On a more cheerier note, when I was pregnant with E I tought DD1 to say mummy's pregnant and got her to tell people. It was lovely sitting back and watching peoples faces as they realised what she was saying.

We don't celebrate Valentine's and I told DH not to even get me a card as I'll only have to pack it tomorrow so seems even more pointless than usual!

I don't get DP anything for Valentine's day but he usually gets me a bunch of flowers. We are going out to a Mexican restaurant tomorrow evening and hoping my parents will have C for us. I can't remember the last time we went out to eat without him.

Oh Eliza how sad.

Sophia, sorry I didn't explain it very well. When I just had my eldest, my cousin got pregnant for the third time, and my mother did not want anyone to tell me as she thought it would upset me. My cousin and I are the same age, and she already had two. I had DD1, but was still traumatised from the birth so thought there would be no more. I found out about my cousins third child at a wedding, and felt so embarrassed that nobody had told me, and felt they were really patronising in not telling me, thinking I would crumble, when I would have been delighted for my dear cousin.

I got a bunch of roses and a lovely card. I got DH a smutty card, a single rose that died overnight, and a hot water bottle with Sex Bomb written on it

Thinking of you today Lily. I hope O reminds you just how much her Daddy loved you, and you continue to feel it through her x

Also thinking of Isles, Evil, and Chasing, although I think Chasing will be getting a little something

My worst Valentines ever was when I found out my ex was cheating on me. He left the receipt in the bag he put my card and plastic rose in. It had my poxy card and flower on it, plus some mega expensive things for the OW. We were living together, and I thought she was my friend. It was horrid, but looking back was one of the best days of my life, as I was set free to find real love

eliza that's heartbreaking

I just had a comment at work that I have to have another baby so I can have a girl

My reply was that I'd like another but I'd be happy if I had two boys. My little boy is the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me. I don't need a daughter to feel complete Another colleague backed me up and said you can't choose what you have anyway so as long as it's healthy that's all that matters.

I seem to be getting these kind of comments a lot lately and it pisses me off.

When I was chatting to nursery director a few weeks ago I mentioned DD1 still co-sleeps. But how are you going to give your girls a little brother, she asked. Explained about the snip and, anyway is it anyone's business how we find the time/space to dtd? In France having one of each is seen as the ideal: le choix du roi, the king's choice/preference.

Despite always having wanted a boy I was chuffed when LO was another girl. We knew it was the last but I was kind of relieved at not having to learn new stuff. Not having to buy more clothes was a factor too if I'm honest.

Thanks vq but I hate fucking valentine's day.always did. We had our first shag on the 16th feb and we decided to call that our anniversary. I'm so glad it wasn't on Valentine's day due me going to Paris with my best friend; he realized he wanted to shag but had to wait till I got back vey late on the 16th.

I think I have never told you how I told him I was pregnant. We were trying for 2.5 years, he had his second op and went abroad to stay with his parents till he recovers. I got him chocolates from thortons saying 'well, hello daddy' and gave it to him when I went to visit him at Easter. I made him book an app with a gynecologist and gave it to him 5 min prior the app. Than we saw the heartbeat at 6week 3 days. He told me he never saw me so happy in my life the chocolates were put in his coffin with a scan picture 9 weeks later :(. I'm ok, these are good memories, apart from the last bit.

i was informed today that boys are easier, thanks random mum at the drs

just an upper respiratory tract virus and keep giving Calpol

Glad he is OK pidj

Lily that is a sad story but I am glad you obviously have happy times to remember and share in the future with O.

Eliza and lily huge huge hugs xxx

We don't do valentines except I sent my mum a card from L as she is his first love! Other than mummy of course.

I had a agonising time telling DP. We had been trying for 1.5 years I had had an op over Xmas to remove adhesions and they said wait 3 months then start fertility treatment. So we were in that 3 month window and DP said we should use condoms this month as if we conceive now I may not be here for the birth due to world championship. Me in utter naïveté said as if it would happen. So when I found out it took all my guts to tell him knowing he might not be there for the birth. He made it by 48 hours.

My boy isn't easier.

Lily thank you for sharing x

Hugs all round.

My worst Valentntines day was In house in Kintyre with ex DH and the girls realising we were never going to be happy, I hated being alone with him because he was always complaining and disatsisfied (usually with me) and that it was all finished.

My bestest Valentines Day was in 2012 when we conceived little O!

My rainiest windyist Valentines Day is today.

Of course. J was a Valentine Day shag baby how could I forget?

lily ((hugs))

C was born exactly 9 months after Valentine's day

lily & hugs xx

appleF was born exactly 9 months after valentines day too! 14th nov. however I believe he was actually conceived later in the month when we were on holiday in south africa.
hugs lily

Lily that is heartbreaking

O has been so adorable today. Full of cuddles, which is so rare for him and being a real mummy's boy. He has been crawling to me for cuddles, which is very sweet. He also took his first one-handed steps today Until now he has been holding onto both of my hands, but today he let go of one. Proud mummy.

But I am now on my way to the XILs to drop O off for the weekend. I hope he doesn't cry as I hand him over I've never been apart from him for 2 nights before so I'm dreading it.

ditsy same here. I think C was conceived around the 21st of February.

One and a half hours to go at work, then it's home for dinner and to put C to bed. DP is home at 9 then I'm back again at 9.30 til midnight. I'm on the redbull already to stay awake.