October 2013 Bus Graduates - A gummy grin and all is forgiven

[roxvox]

Stats here

[Post edited by MNHQ]

I've just installed the Mumsnet app on my phone in the hope that it helps me keep up with the thread. We shall see. I've got so used to everyone's real. Ames over on fb I'm now struggling to remember what nickname belongs to who

Eliana is doing great moonblues We're back at the cardiology clinic in 4 weeks and they're going to start discussing her open heart surgery then.

Hi all, I'm a bit new to all this but my sister recommended joining a group as she's had good experiences herself with the March 2013 group.

DD is 16 weeks now, has been mostly a very easy child but lately refusing dreamfeed at 10-11pm or only having an ounce or two, and so waking up very early. For weeks before this she was bathed, fed and in bed for 8pm, dream feed of 4oz then sleep through until 7-8am. Not a happy bunny at 5am!

DW has been suffering badly with PND, back to doctors today, she's hoping for medication, fingers crossed that'll help. It's been tough on both of us, especially with me working so much.

Does anyone have any recommendations on slings? Have done a bit of reading but not really sure which to go for.

Hi DBarr I've no real advice but I'm sure you'll get some advice over on our facebook group. I can add you if you like. Just PM me your real name and a brief description of your profile photo.

Welcome DBarr, sorry to hear your DW is suffering with PND. I hope she can get some help soon.

With regards to slings, I've been using the moby wrap and have found it to be very good once I got used to the tying method. However I haven't really got much to compare it to (except for a baby bjorn which is great when you're out and about and baby is wide awake). Have you had a look at te mumsnet reviews - link here?

Oh, and as for your DD suddenly waking up throughout the night - have you heard of the 4 month sleep regression? There are a few of us who's babies are suddenly waking up in the night when they'd previously been sleeping much better. It's frustrating, but good to know that it is 'normal' and that it will pass!

Welcome DBarr sorry your DW has been having a tough time. Hope the medication helps. Haven't got much advice on slings - my DH likes the baby Bjorn. If you google sling meets in your area you can go along are try some on and see which one suits you and your DD.

MoN glad to hear Eliana is doing so well.

Hi tucking hope your DD is sleeping better.

Roxvox I'm also trying to get DS out of my bed and into his Moses basket or cot, but co-sleeping is soooo much easier. But think my DH is feeling a bit neglected, so making more of an effort. There's no contraception quite like having a baby sleeping between you!

Hi Jelly Why doesn't your HV do a routine referral now, rather than wait til he's 6 months and then refer him urgently? (If you don't mind me asking?) Were your other 2 just the same? I kept having to tell my HV that I have slim babies - I don't think she believed me until she saw my slim, but tall and obviously healthy other DCs... And then decided she didn't need to keep weighing him every week.

Welcome DBarr, sorry to hear your dw is suffering from PND. It's tough having a baby and so life changing that many struggle just like me to adapt to a complete lifestyle change.

We have a private Facebook group that maybe you or your wife could join. It's a lot quicker moving that the thread here these days. It's completely private and none of yours or your wives RL friends would see anything what we post.

Maybe it would be good for you to suggest your dw joins us. There's quite a few of us who are and have struggled and we offer one another lots of support, advice or just a hand holding reassurance. If she can't talk to RL friends or family she can chat to us, and we've all become good friends now and have meet ups too.

I would have gone insane without the Facebook group as my relationship broke down wen my dd was 10 weeks old and the girls offered me lots of support advice and kind words. there is a whole bunch of us with none sleeping babies too.

Mention it to her, it's just nice to hear and see people going through the same thing and makes you realise you are 'normal'

Re slings, my dd hated hers, but lots of our ladies on the fb group love theirs.

Welcome DBarr
I would also recommend a sling library, I'm hoping to go to one near me next week to see if I can find something that suits me better than the Moby, which I'm struggling with at the moment. Lots of ladies in the group have the nct caboo and really like it. Connectas are also popular but not sure what age they are suitable from.
Sorry to hear dw is struggling, but it is something quite a few of us have gone/are going through. Do you have family near by who can help out while you're at work? Is she having any counselling? In my experience, talking therapies are fantastic for mental health problems.
As others have said sleep problems are quite common at this age. The mumsnet mantra is "this too shall pass"! We have regular night time discussions on the fb group as we try to stay awake during feeds!
If you don't want to join the fb group then do keep posting here, conversation doesn't move that quickly but people do check in regularly.

Ladies, I wondered could I join you all? I know I'm verrry late to the party but I have been reading back through your old threads and am inspired by the support you have given one another. I had DS at the beginning of October (1 DD already, just turned 2) and although things are settling down now struggled in the early days with the demands of 2 little ones. I wish I had found you sooner! I would love to chat and share experiences with you all. I hope you will have me!

Hi MamaTW! We always welcome newbies to the bus. Most of our chat is over on Facebook nowadays though (and we chat on there a lot!) We've got a private group (so none of your FB friends will see what you're chatting to us all about). If you'd like to join us then we'd be happy to have you, just PM me your real name and a description of your FB profile picture and I'll try to add you to the group.

Mama - welcome! And well done on leaving the fog of two little ones at once.

We're a lovely bunch and we're glad to have you, both here and on fb if you'd like to join us there.

Thanks so much for the welcome, I will attempt to PM you....

Hi ladies, may I please join too? :) I've posted a couple of times in the early days but not for ages. I had DS1 mid-October, and I'd love a bit of new-mum Facebook chat....

Hi Bree, PM me your real name and description of your profile and ill add you :)

Hi all. Haven't been on here for yonks so thought I'd showy face.
DBarr I have an ergo sling and love it - would totally recommend it and when the babies are a little older, you can wear them on your back too. A sling library is a great idea if there's one close to you as you get to try before you buy. Some slings are pretty expensive.
I second what the others have said up thread - if your DW or you would like to join the fb group, you would be welcomed with open arms. 4 month sleep regression is a killer. My ds is waking every 2 hours at the mo. speaking of which, I should really be going to sleep rather than on mn.
Welcome all the new ladies - hope you come to join us on the dark side (fb).
Will try to come on here a bit more as I know not everyone has a fb account. Sad to see that legally isn't on here. Was hoping to catch up with how the twins are doing.

Hi all! Feeding lo and thought I'd check in! Hi Bree and MamaTW!

Hi to all the oldies too :)

We've had loads of pooey nappies and a red bum now too :(. I don't know what it is, teething? Dietary intolerance! I'm bf and the only thing unusual I've been having is peanut butter on toast

Re slings DBarr we've been using the karime stretchy wrap and now moving over to the ergo. My lo really likes them and sleeps a lot on me! Means I can get bits and pieces done though.

Moonblues, mnippy, slippy hope all is well.

Legally if you're lurking hope you are ok xxx

Hello All,

May I join please? I had my first baby, a girl, early October. Like many of you, I have forgotten what a full nights sleep is! Good job she's amazing.

Haven't ventured to any baby groups as yet, so would love to share experiences etc.

Flyer - my relationship has also recently broken down and have been suffering from PND, so I can totally relate to yout situation.

You all seem a really friendly bunch, so I'm hoping there's room for a little one!

Loboco, hi! If you PM your real name and description of your profile pic ill try add you to the group? x

Loboco

Welcome aboard.

So sorry to hear your relationship has broken down, it's us a testing time for even the most strong of relationships.

Would you like to join our fb group? It's private so none of your RL friends will know.

The girls on the fb group are fab and have gotten me through some recent crap times.

With you on the lack of sleep it's a bloody killer.

Vent here whenever you want and one of us will be along to listen

Thanks Emmo, I will PM from laptop later.

Flyer
Thank you. So sorry that you have been having hard times too. For me it's the sadness and disappointment that we couldn't work it out for our DD that's hard to come to terms with.

Looking forward to meeting you all on FB.

Hi ladies, another late returner here! I posted lots whilst pregnant but since giving birth to DD early October just got out of the loop. I wonder if I might be able to join in too? You all seem to share such wonderful words of wisdom and to have more mum friends (cyber or otherwise!) to share experiences with is always lovely!

Today is one of those days when I seriously wonder how we get through them in one piece!

Hi DBarr I too would recommend going to a sling library where you can try all sorts and find one that suits you! I have a moby sling which has been great until recently for 2 main reasons. DD is now really nosey and wants to look around more which she can't do in the moby and she's now pretty heavy (18 wks and 17lb 11oz) which seems to be putting more pressure on my back. We borrowed an ergo from the library and really like it so will be investing in one soon. They last until approx 3 years too and can carry front, hip or back so very versatile. I have heard connecta and Becco are good too and very similar!

Lovely to hear from people on the bus! Welcome new ones.

So sorry to hear about the DPs Flyer and Loboco. I'm not on FB so haven't been abreast with the news. Take courage!

Tonight we are trying MnippyJnr without his swaddle for the first time since he was a tiny baby. Am trying to relax but dreading it.

Do you have Facebook mnippy? I hope your evening is going better than expected and that mnippyjnr is comfortable unswaddled!