December 2013 - sleepless nights & lots of cooing

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Our very first Thread :)

Ok my DH is joining the FAP club today. Was hectic after dinner- he was bathing the kids, dinner was cooking and I was bf Joshua. I then realise dinners burning so Go salvage it and he shouts angrily down the stairs (when I tell him it's a bit burnt) well what the hell have you been doing? Oh I've been painting my nails and drinking a Cosmo. I've been frigging feeding your child!! Argh! Then he's annoyed about the dinner (also discovering its spicier than realised so kids will either moan or not eat it at all) and takes it out on me with other comments. I'm still fuming and he's acting like nothing happened now. And he wonders why I don't want to cook at the moment- cos it's too bloody difficult doing that and feeding and looking after the kids! I have to do it every day whilst he's at work...

I've got the Relax Melodies app which has had some success at putting LO to sleep, but nothing worked tonight including the 'vacuum' one!

I figure our babies are too little to be forming bad habits just yet, plus I love snuggling with mine on my chest in the sofa under a big blanket, I'm not giving that up.

Uh oh mumofthreeboys that is crap. My DH went on a 20 mile run today in the POURING rain . He is usually in charge of cooking but was too tired today so we ordered Dominos... I tried on some clothes on Saturday and I think it is long enough post baby & post Christmas that I can't keep eating everything and anything.

DH also then tried to get out of soothing DS by saying "he wants milk!" I told him he was being lazy & needed to try harder...his excuse, he was tired. Cue to evil eyes from me as no one forced him to go on a 20 mile run today! He also got out of nighttime helping last night as he left his glasses at his dad's house & wears disposable contacts (so doesn't sleep in them). He is as blind as a bat so wouldn't want him trying to change a nappy without his vision but still - he saw a flash of the rage that I'm sure we've all felt!

I'd like to wish everyone good luck tonight! Fingers crossed all our babies sleep.

Oh no mum and crispy it must be the weekend of faps
we have barely spoke all day oh and get this he said earlier I'm just going in the garage for 20 minutes (has his treadmill in there. WHAT THE FUCK??
But I couldn't have 20 minutes last night
I don't know how I remained calm

I don't know how they have the cheek to behonest. If it wasn't for the fact that seb is bf I would start doing what dp does and sneaking out.

He went to the shop this afternoon. Was gone an hour and had forgotten his phone conveniently. Been in the bloody bookies.

Got dd off school tomorrow as she has the trots. Does mean I can have a lie in though! I am so tired. And seb been all twisty and gripey all day so bet we have a rubbish night.

Would love to just get 4 hours uninterrupted.

Does Anyone know where to find mum and baby groups for young babies? I've looked online but can only seem to find older babies groups.

Hot I know that round here groups advertised as 'mum & toddler' really mean for parents and kids from newborn to preschool. Have you tried giving the groups you have found a ring and asking? Hopefully they'll welcome you with open arms (and a after you've paid your £2)

Yes I should probably ring and see then as they do say mum and toddler or messy play, things that sound not right for 'baby' babies.....
I'm not really a shy person but always find it hard going in to group things for the first few times, any tips?

Please give me hope is there light at the end of the tunnel? In otherwords is anyones LO in night routine yet? I just cant wait until she sleeps through the night. The longest shes been is 5 hours but even then its a bloody nightmare getting her back to sleep i gave in and brung her in the bed last night and even then she carried on screaming!

supermans well my LO has had a great nighttime routine till now!

Been up since 2, he didn't feed well- kept falling asleep, changed him 3 times as he'd pood! And won't settle now, making such lound grunting/snuffling noises I ended up picking him up, now he's asleep on my chest and I'm so tired- sleep deprivation is the worst kind of torture he's been so good up till now. I just want to wake DH and make him take him away, feed him formula, I don't care- whatever works...

mum I've switched over to formula now, Lleyton just wasn't settling after ANY feed and he was constantly on me and the weight gain was non existent until I topped him with formula during the night and even then it was slow and expressing, even doing it every 3 hours I'm lucky to get 3oz at the end if the day, not good with another 2 to look after.

Lleyton had his bottle at 11pm last night and slept for 5 hours until 4am then after bottle he slept 4.5 hours until 8.30am and that was just cos ds1 woke him up
I fed him last night and I've noticed when I do it he sleeps after his bottles and when fap (yes he is still fap lol) feeds him he doesn't settle after
He was still awake a lot and twisty up until 11pm but I can live with that if he's gonna sleep during the night more.

Alyssa I'm jealous!

We had a not so good night last night. Felt like DS was feeding from about midnight until I finally got out of bed around 6! Then today he is being so fussy. I really wanted to tick some things of my to do list (the laundry won't put itself away!) but he just isn't having it. I tried to put him in my ergo carrier & rock him to sleep - didn't work. Tried to breast feed him while in the ergo - he latched on (I'm lucky he has a great latch & is a proper boob monster!) but he didn't feel very secure in the ergo. My moby wrap should be here today so I can't wait to see if he likes it & can BF while in there. I'm hoping this moby is going to be a life saver but who knows! I thought that about my woombie as well & it didn't exactly save the day!!!

Needing a cuppa... Or maybe something stronger.

alyssa it's very tempting for me to switch to formula- ESP as I fed my other 2 on it and they always went for long stretches between feeds and slept really well. But I'm torn- I feel like I've done well getting to one month bf and not sure if I'll regret it if I give up now (despite the sore nips and taking ages for him to feed). I don't care what other bf'ers say, it is so much harder to bf and look after 2 other kids so that may be the reason I give up in the end...

Mum I don't know how you are doing it. I know if dd was a bit younger and needed me more I would struggle to keep bfing. I'm at 6 weeks and although it is getting a little bit easier each day its still tough.

Could you compromise a little and mix feed rather than just give up? So it gives you a break but you are still bfing? It's what I will do if this cluster feeding doesn't settle down a bit.

Downloaded a white noise app yesterday and he seemed to love it. Straight down after feeding with no fussing and went 3 hours between feeds. But I can't get him down at all today. Think it's sling o'clock again. Sigh.

Hi all- although it's crap we are all having various problems it really is so comforting to know its normal and others are going through it too!
I'm finding BFing so tiring at the mo and like mumand frouby say I am considering switching dd to formula. I just need a decent nights sleep as although 6 weeks now she still doesn't go more than 3 hours between feeds.
Mind you- the next issue is that despite trying she won't take a bottle :(
We have avent ones so today I've ordered a breast flow and a mam to see if she will take either of them. I feel like I can't even go out the house for ten mins by myself incase she needs feeding and it's getting me down a bit. DH and I are supposed to be going away for a weekend on 15th feb and if I can't get her to take a bottle we can't go. So frustrating.
Still got my 6 week check today so hopefully all has healed well!

Blondie just leave her for a while if you need a break. As long as you know she has had a good feed before you leave she will be fine for half an hour or so. Seb settles better on dp sometimes as he can't smell milk.

I am going out for half an hour when dp gets in. Onpy to aldi for a few bits.

But I can't fucking wait pmsl.

Think we are all feeling it a bit now because of the sheer exhaustion. And the novelty of a new baby has worn off with family and friends. And the weather is vile which doesn't help either.

In a few weeks I'm sure that babies that won't sleep will. Hungry ones will have full tummies. And those made of velcro will be more independent. Am looking at you seb. Snoring in your sling building your self up for a mahosive cluster feed followed by an up down night. Sigh.

My 8 week old girl only naps well on me or in pram when walking or in car. Luckily she sleeps well in her cot at nite so far. Do you think she will grow out of this or do I need to keep trying to put her down do you think?

hotmad ds is similar but for naps and night time. I have persisted with putting down once asleep and it's getting better but it's heart breaking when it's taken ages to settle them and it wakes them straight up. I try to be strict and my mantra is 'fortune favours the brave'!

Does anyone else have the wonder weeks app? I just downloaded and apparently we are on last day of a wonder week, which means it started last Tuesday. That's the day he cried so much I was taking his temp and has been grumpy since. I hope it's right and I'm getting happy baby back.

This will curse me, but... dh is out tonight. Have done bottle and bath and then ds settled on me in 5 mins and is sleeping, this usually takes at least an hour and last night he cried non stop until 10!

He's still asleep! He's still asleep!

Haha hot cross bun !
I know I can pop out for a short time, it's just I can't meet friends when they go out , and I'm desperate to get down the gym. Just can't until she takes a bottle as she sometimes feeds every hour in the evening. So frustrating so am praying she may take to one of the bottles I've ordered!

-3 and a half pounds tonight, lost 8 and a half pounds in 2 weeks and got my half stone award
AND I won slimmer of the week and got the fruit and veg basket I'm over the moon xx

Well done Alyssa!

Well done Alyssa!! Myfitnesspal is doing well for me been on it 21 days and lost 7lb! Need to start excersizing more but at the moment Lilah wont let me even brush my teeth!

Feels like she will never sleep through the night at this rate and we have more cry time then chill time!

Thank you very much and week done to you super that's brill xx

Well done not week damn autocorrect lol