December 2013 - sleepless nights & lots of cooing

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Our very first Thread :)

From this day forward my dp us now known as fap
Loosely translated fucking arsehole partner

Oh no Alyssa, what's he done? (Or not done?!)

I escaped for a couple of hours this afternoon to the shops to get a few things and left DS with DH, so he had a bottle of ebm while I was out. Fast forward to this evening, ds is fussy and obviously hungry but won't feed from the breast, so we tried another bottle of ebm and he took it straight away and fell asleep. We gave him ebm via bottle last night too, he's got a cold and on top of his tongue tie he was struggling to feed a little bit so we thought it would be easier for him as I worried he was hungry. Now I'm worried he's starting to prefer bottle to boob as its easier!

pistachio baring in mind everything I've done tonight and his first 2 shifts I'm alone with kids from 7am to 7pm and his two night shifts he sleeps all day and works all night, so I am alone with kids all day/night on his first day off (yesterday) he went swimming and to the gym while I struggled with a twisty baby, a sick ds2 and a loud ds1 lol.

Tonight all I wanted to do was 20 minutes of my Zumba disc, so when fap went to bed he wouldn't take Lleyton with him as he'd gotten him to sleep in his car seat/push chair and said it would wake him up to take Lleyton with him and in his own selfish twisted universe fap thought doing a loud Zumba routine and stomping around a wood floor would somehow NOT wake Lleyton up the fucking idiot so he left him downstairs and of corse he woke up 5 minutes later and now I've fed him he's not settling down.

So here I am, stuck downstairs, freezing, no Zumba done and very very pissed off after everything I've done over the last few days he didnt think I deserved 20 minutes on my own
I just think its very nasty and selfish if him and he can royally kiss my arse but I would bite his face off if he actually comes anywhere near me.
I dong think I've been this angry in ages

Sorry for the long babble ladies xx

Ach Alyssa I hope you've got some rest and the little one settled eventually. Try and have a chat with the fap in the morning, maybe lay on the guilt a bit thick and hint at some expensive way he could make it up to you.
Genevieve ended up in our bed again at about midnight as she projectile vomited over her Moses basket, blankets, herself and the wall! I thought we'd managed to stop the hurling, hopefully it was a one off, if she does it again though it'll be back to square one and more chats with the HV and GP.
She also seems to have developed a drooping eyelid on the left side, not sure how to help her exercise the right muscles to see if it gets better and a bit scared about what it will mean for her developing sight as it is quite pronounced and often covers quite a bit of her pupil. Dr Google has worried me with talk of surgery so I'm going to stop looking now, damn internet!

Lol mogz I would but I don't think feeling guilty ever crosses his tiny little mind and he just pissed me off annoyed me again this morning.
I'm feeding Lleyton and ds2 monitor is kicking off but all I see are lights as idiot fap has turned the bloody volume down WTF then he decides to play at being asleep when I know fine well he's awake so I have to go deal with it myself and ds2 ends up waking everyone up.
So I have a go at fap to be told to stop twisting

I told him hes bone idol unless it comes to himself and what he wants to do and I'm sorry but it's true so now HE is in a mood.

OMG I think my head will actually explode with this shit, we would all love loads of sleep but with 3 kids that will never happen until they're teenagers lol and to be honest if he isn't happy not sleeping, then he can hit the bricks as I'm getting fed up very fast

mogz dr google is the worst, I've convinced myself I've got tons over the years
Aww I hope your dd stops vomiting soon Hun, it's very sad watching them do it isn't it? Bless her.
Hopefully your doc can help with her eyelid Hun. Xx

Alyssa can I join in with useless, selfish bastard men bashing please? Mine is on the shitlist again. Spent most of yesterday in tears. Don't know why I keep crying over stuff that is actually filling me with rage.

Usb got up yesterday morning. Woke seb up after it had taken me an hour to get him down. Got himself ready and fucked off out to see his dad and do some bits in town. He said he was helping me by doing some banking as once again he is taking my car for work.

Then dd who has been told all week to sort her room out ready for new furniture starts whispering in his ear to get him to help her. When I had waited 2 hours for him to take seb so I could do some much needed house work that takes 10 times as long with seb in his sling.

So when I snapped at them both that I needed some help I get from him the old I have been at work all week. So I lost the plot. Snot bubbles and everything.

Sigh. It's every weekend. I find that the stress levels go through the roof.

Seb crying again.

Welcome aboard frouby I have vodka lol.
My fap is exactly the same regarding work, like running a house and looking after 3 kids isn't work? He must think the fairies help me.
He's sat in his grumpy arse all morning while run around getting kids ready, jumping in the shower, putting 2 loads of washing away, setting another off in washer and drying another load, I'm knackered and its only 10am

Can anyone recommend a cream/lotion/potion for my 8 week old daughter? Mainly for her face as she has little baby acne and a bit dry with some cradle cap appearin slightly...

Hot I think you're just mean to cleanse with water, maybe a little baby soap as their skin is so delicate.

Thanks mogz but she seems a bit dry and HV said u gotta use Vaseline as if spots get crusty they turn I cradle cap like skin.. ???

hot we use aveno cream on Lleyton and it cleared his skin up lovely and we use cradle cap shampoo from asda for his head.

It's good to hear there is actually something you can use! My HV just said water, but it'd be good to try something else as the spots can look a bit angry and nasty.

mogz it's great stuff, we got it for ds2 when he was Lleytons age as his skin was horrible so when Lleytons looked the same we tried it on him and now he has lovely soft clear baby skin

We also got some stuff from the doctor that you put in his bath just a capful it turns the water milky but also really good got his skin it's called dermol 600 bath emollient I think it's only available on prescription but don't quote me on that but my future mil bought the aveno at boots once over the counter I think it was xx

Thanks alyssa I'm gonna go and get some Aveeno from chemist and see if that helps

No problem, I also use it in my hands as they are really dry and sore at the moment and I have really sensitive skin.....works a treat xx

Hi hot sounds like you've got some good advice - I've only been using a tiny cap full of the Johnson's nighttime bath stuff in the baby bath (no extra soap) and just a tiny, tiny blob of L'Occitane mum & baby lotion on dry patches. I heard a good tip for cradle cap was to use baby oil - put it on the scalp about 1 hr before bath time and then wash it off in the bath.

Sorry some of you are having man troubles! I think men as a species are generally clueless when it comes to newborns & housework! Luckily I've had my mom here for 2 weeks & before that DH was off work so was able to boss him around... we'll see how things go starting tomorrow! Might I also mention that my DH is training for a marathon... so after work he is going for 1-2 hour runs. Iamagoodwife.Iamapatientwife.Iamagoodwife.Iamapatientwife. (

crispy I think we all have those moments! If your Thomas is anything like mine (I have a Thomas too) then he has just started fighting sleep and overtired is the new enemy. I now spend all my time worrying that he has had too much or too little sleep, I don't know yet what the balance is! And big gatherings are hard as no one ever thinks how overwhelming it is for the baby to be passed around. Having said that ds is currently sleeping soundly through a room full of people singin karaoke at mil's!

Tip if the day - ds never cries when hair dryer is on and needed to do make up earlier so put him in crib and turned on hair dryer and left on bed (cold setting) and not only did he stop crying, he fell asleep all by himself straight away! Think I need to invest in a white noise machine..

hotcross my Thomas loves the hair dryer but he is not fooled by the 'hair dryer' setting on my white noise app!

Our trick is to put a load in the washing machine at bed time and if she has problems settling one of us stands with her in the utility room. Works like a charm. Also the vacuum makes her super sleepy. I wonder what it is about that sort of noise.

Ooh tell me about this white noise you speak of? Xx

I have a dehumidifier in our room and so far that helps her stay asleep as usually she wakes at all sounds so if that's on as a gentle humming noise then she is ok and sleeps soundly (for about 20 mins anyway! Lol)

White noise is basically background noise like all the above sounds

My DD loves to sleep on me during day mostly, am I bad for letting her? Is this bad habits??

Hotmad my DS basically only sleeps on me! I posted a thread about this asking for advice a few weeks ago & MNers suggested just going with it. I try to put him down when he's already asleep but I'd say I'm only successful about 30% of the time. The other 70% of the time he wakes up as soon as I put him down. Day or night. Moses basket or bouncy chair (or anywhere else!)

But I can't answer your question about bad habits. I'm telling myself he's too young to learn bad habits (hopefully)!

It's difficult to judge isn't it crispy but at the same time I enjoy cuddles with her in evening and realise this time will go quick as all people tell me. She's already almost 2 months old on 2nd feb!!